I advise you don't and just leave things the way they are.... Once while I was 18 I dated a 21 year old girl and she never knew my age because she could not look up into my eyes and ask me... (because age is just a number)... So leave age out of your relationship.... as long as you give her the right due... you will always look 20 and over to her

Yes you may be right, but the right way to do things is to reach out to people's diversity...

foolinlove:


I'm not going to tell you my name.

I just don't think everyone rates sex as their main agenda in life, nor do I think anyone should be judged or judge themselves based on sexual encounters.

Virginity is not important. Love is. If you truly love someone, you can commit to exclusivity in sexual relationships. But virginity? What if you have been previously married? What if you were raped? Born again? If virginity could be tested and only virgins could get married, there would be about three married couples worldwide.

This is what I said at first

Now those ladies who still use this words..
I want to keep it (that is sex) for my husband.... in the days before this would show you are responsible and have dignity, but nowadays it just shows that you have a weak spirit which one thing men are ready to take advantage of..

Rather than saying this, it would be more better if you say you want to have your first experience on your wedding night.

Now am not saying that non-virgins cannot get married or whosever was in a bad situation and lost her virginity should not be considered dignified.... I am talking to all the virgins out there who still keep themselves and those who are about to have a rethink... I am saying they should hold on and am giving them more ammunition....

I tell them their virginity is very important.... I did not want this to affect non-virgins in any way... but like you said you are not from Nigeria, which makes it a little more difficult to make you understand the way things work here...

Your name is very important to me.... although it may not be worth a dime to the worth.. its more precious than gold to me... calling you foolinlove makes it seem as if you life is based on a past mistake and ignorance but not understanding

foolinlove:


I don't know how to change my moniker.

Yes you can feel pleasure, relief, but when that's over... you realise you can do without. How can you crave sex if you've never done it before?

I don't crave sex. Especially with a person I don't know or love. Love drives me to sex, not the actual act of "getting off".

Some people don't find sex that big of a deal. I know I don't. I'd prefer a good meal honestly. So I should starve myself until marriage? Sex is overrated imo.

It just doesn't make sense.

Just stop that... So using yourself to compare more to the feelings of more than 2 billion females all over the earth... Sexual urges are a characteristic of puberty..... so when I said crave I mean feel sexual urges.... millions of ladies (eg. you) choose to act on this impulses.......

Secondly.... sex is not overrated.... some people get a girl and Bleep the day lights out of her expecting to feel some very powerful orgasm that would take them to the land beyond.... But sex is meant to be more than orgasms... and it is.... After sex, before sex and during sex feelings constitute something (which i will not state) which lead to a form of fulfillment for both partners... which makes sex feel glorious.. its not just about oral simulations, its more than that.....

I believe you need to start thinking of what the word good sex means.... rather than placing judgment on it based on some certain encounters...

You haven't still told me your name

LuveU2:
Only virgin men deserve virgins. If you are male non-virgin and ur opinion is not different from the Op's you deserve to be jailed.

I once had this friend who told me that guys are never virgin... because they were born from a woman's vagina so it automatically makes them non virgins.....

am not going to say anything more!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

chigoizie7:
What is all these virgin this, virgin that and that shít about?


To me, I don't see virginity as any form of dignity.

I have had encounter with 2 different virgins and I don't wish for that ever again.


The fact that u have many body counts doesn't matter to me.

Just like me,(b4 now) I don't go into relationships to waste anyone's time neither did I go in just to have sex,deceive u and leave. 80% of my relationships was on good intentions, I went it hoping that it will last but things didn't actually work out as planned and the fact that I have had sex with her during this time never made any of us cheap of some sort of bad people.

This^ is exactly how many girls end up having many sex escapades with different men. It doesn't make them whores or cheap.


Except lately when whoever I want to fúck, I make my intentions known, u will be surprised to know that so many ladies just want to have sex without any string attached too, I don't see them as cheap girls, I see them as girls doing what makes them happy.



We should not always do what the society wants us to do @ our detriments.


What am I saying? It doesn't mean that all virgins are good or the best, the same way it doesn't make non virgins bad or worst.

You said
u will be surprised to know that so many ladies just want to have sex without any string attached too, I don't see them as cheap girls, I see them as girls doing what makes them happy.

Culture is the way of life of a people, it is what binds a people, its the rules that lead the people that promote peace self respect and dignity.... You see in the pride of a lion... According to their culture only the Alpha male gets to mate with the females and lead the pack... this is their of life...

Now humans have their own way of life... the culture that binds them. the real truth is that western culture is filtering into African culture (its not so bad when cultures try to mix, but when an unholy way of life wants to mix with a clean one (although African culture is not all that clean), its pure purgatory..............

Ladies are now more open to men, and are ready to work on their emotions... (that is have sex when they feel like having sex) and I know this has made chigoizie7 very happy as he would not be entitled to sex unlike before....

You say
To me, I don't see virginity as any form of dignity.

am not sure you even know what dignifies women.

You say
exactly how many girls end up having many sex escapades with different men. It doesn't make them whores or cheap.

Can you please define what we can call a cheap girl?

You say
We should not always do what the society wants us to do @ our detriments.

The society is not telling to see this as a form of dignity, but culture is... the society is telling women to walk around half naked and call it fashion... its telling women to snap nude pics and post on social media and call it self expression.....
Culture teaches you respect, humility and sanity

foolinlove:


How can you be depriving yourself if you don't even know what it's like?

Virgins have no idea how good sex is because they never did it.

people like you would tell virigins how good sex is.... what they hear and the importance culture has attribute to sex and what is on the net would educate this woman of the pleasure that lie in sex.

Secondly, we all have sexual urges, and do you remember that feeling of when you are so pressed and when you finally ease yourself you feel some great ease... Thats how sexual urges feel when you hold them in, so you know that when you act on that urge the feeling that awaits would be highly pleasurable... so in other sense you dont have to have sex first before you know what it holds....

I hate quoting you as foolinlove...

Change this moniker... or drop your real name in your reply

mizzbouqui:
Abeg who viginity epp? Viginity can be categorized as one of women's pride but as for me it doesn't guarantee a good and a respectful spouse, some men doesnt care about the V status, there are so many things other than viginity that earns respect from ones man, for ladies who still have thier virginity intact good luck to you but dont count on it to fetch you roses in marriage.

There are so many things and being a virgin is just one of them.... it cant not guarantee a good and respectful spouse alone..... But when you add it with other qualities it makes the responsible spouse

foolinlove:
My dignity and pride lies in my self esteem and sticking to my values, not in my virginity.

How ridiculous.

Men want to fuk everything that walks and then demand a virgin for marriage. So where are all these virgins coming from?

Maybe if men want a virgin, they should be a virgin as well. Stupid post imo.

Being a virgin means abstinence, abstinence means depriving yourself of the greatest pleasure in the world (sexual pleasure).... It takes a strong lady to stand up for what its right no matter how much pleasure it gives.......

This is just one thing a keeping her virginity tells about a lady

The dignity and pride of a lady lies in her virginity, although ladies of this century have seem to put aside the importance of remaining pure, which has been part of the African culture for years.

But am not here to blabber about how undignified and shameless our ladies are becoming nowadays am here to offer a word of advise to those who still tie a cloth around their legs and wait for the right man to untie that cloth.

Men want sex (though not all) they crave for it and ladies are now ever ready to give if he is ready to work for it. What ladies don't know is that they have an emotional attachment to sex, while men don't, which increases the chance of him cheating on you, if you let him sleep with you before marriage.

Now those ladies who still use this words..
I want to keep it (that is sex) for my husband.... in the days before this would show you are responsible and have dignity, but nowadays it just shows that you have a weak spirit which one thing men are ready to take advantage of..

Rather than saying this, it would be more better if you say you want to have your first experience on your wedding night. This makes it sound like you have a mind of your own and you are going after a great experience rather than sounding as if you are trying to lock the man away from his treasure because of a thousand year old culture.....

Men respect women's decisions when it comes from what they believe in and strongly want... but when it sounds like you are following what your mother taught you, they will see a way to manipulate you.....


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