It depends.

If the man is a muslim he can marry 4 wives, so under the law you can marry him. but note that the day of the marriage my be your last happy day for along time. No need to walk into trouble. Leave the man alone.

Young serious men a scarce but you can still find one.
Think with your head and not with your heart and do something reasonable.
Leave the man alone if you want to enjoy a married life.

If you must marry the man, Then get the first wife to propose to you. That reduces the troubles.

You want the God fearing people of Nairaland to advise you on adultery

abeg no vex but you be big FOOL!

@ Siena

totally agree. but then nairaland had a dry spell for a bit, then i discovered that Facebook can be somewhat more addictive when i didn't visit nairaland for a couple of days and didn't even notice

but welkwom back ije gi o gara nke oma?

SHAME ON ALL OF YOU.

The poster asked for advice, and not insults.

There are question you need to ask him and yourself.

What are his intention with you and his current wive? His he planning to leave her for you? does he what to be in a polygamous religion? Can you be in a polygamous relationship? Does his wife know of you? does he have children? His he sincere with you? can you trust him? why is he discontent with his first wife? what makes you and this relationship difference? will there be a third, fourth, fifth, etc?
what will your family and friends think, or say? is this the right man for you.? can you get better? do you love him?


I put love last because i think it should be the last thing you think of. all the other question will be your tool to know whether this will be a succesful relationship. people can fall in and out of love so easily, so dont be fooled by it. Love is like a drug, it has its highs and its lows. You have to make sure you still wanna be him this person even when you feel the love you have for him is at its low, that will guarantee a successful relationship.

@poster
follow your heart to the grave .goodluck

nanayisha:

SHAME ON ALL OF YOU.

The poster asked for advice, and not insults.

There are question you need to ask him and yourself.

What are his intention with you and his current wive? His he planning to leave her for you? does he what to be in a polygamous religion? Can you be in a polygamous relationship? Does his wife know of you? does he have children? His he sincere with you? can you trust him? why is he discontent with his first wife? what makes you and this relationship difference? will there be a third, fourth, fifth, etc?
what will your family and friends think, or say? is this the right man for you.? can you get better? do you love him?


I put love last because i think it should be the last thing you think of. all the other question will be your tool to know whether this will be a succesful relationship. people can fall in and out of love so easily, so don't be fooled by it. Love is like a drug, it has its highs and its lows. You have to make sure you still want to be him this person even when you feel the love you have for him is at its low, that will guarantee a successful relationship.

e no dey hard to know another fool when u see one, see advice wey u dey give person, at this age and time no be only 4th wife na 500th wife.
anu mpam

@ poster, so what do you want us to do? say yes for you?

Who is nanayisha?

Girl, you playing youself. Anyway,Wetin concern agboro with over-load.

@Poster!
Where should I start wt u sef? U make me wonder, U wan go into polygamy as young(dts even better cause u will soon age wt ds ur adventure) or as old as u are(well guess u ar tired of life and u ar diggin ur own grave very fast).
What is wrong with you?o fe lo wo bata wahala abi? !Ride on ooo,and why must u come and introduce yourself with this as ur first post.
Attention pLS[b][/b]!
ALLYOU MARRIED WOMEN WATCH OUT OOO, UR HUSBAND DON PROPOSE TO ANOTHER LADY OOOOOO!Husband snatcher!
In short you make wannna throw up!

@poster- two things are off limits for me, drugs and married men. take a cue

THIEF HABA. MY ADVICE IS THAT YOU SHOULD JUST TELL THAT USELESS MARRIED MAN OFF, COS THEY ARE NOT WORTH THE STRESS AND ITS ONLY FOR A WHILE. HE WILL ONLY WASTE YOUR TIME. WELL YOU SEF BE THIEF TO DATE A MARRIED MAN.