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i don't agree it is love you feel with the other woman, you are just being selfish. if you fall in love with every woman you see on the street, there will be plenty trouble o. marriage is saying, "out of all the beautiful women/men i have ever seen and will ever meet, i choose to love you and stay with you for life". that is marriage. you cannot change boats midway and "suddenly" fall in love with someone else, that is just sheer wickedness. think about how betrayed you will feel if your wife were doing what you are doing presently. please stop before you ruin your wife and child.

Drinking can cause a variety of physical and behavioral problems that are not curable and will not go away. Children born with the most serious problems caused by alcohol have fetal alcohol syndrome (FAS). Children with FAS may:

Be born premature, small, and underweight
Have problems eating and sleeping
Have problems seeing and hearing
Have problems paying attention, following directions, and learning in school
Need special teachers and schools
Have trouble getting along with others and controlling their behaviors
Need expensive and serious medical care all their lives

You should not drink alcohol while you are pregnant. If you plan to get pregnant, do not drink. If you drank alcohol before you knew you were pregnant, stop now. When you drink alcohol, so does your baby. Drinking any type of alcohol during pregnancy can hurt your baby. This includes beer, wine, wine coolers, liquor and mixed drinks. Although not all babies are affected, there is no established safe amount that can be taken in pregnancy. Alcohol can hurt a baby even if you are only 1 or 2 months pregnant.

nice IAH, i would add one of you should be naked preferably the female

i should say that if you have any of the symptoms it doesn't automatically mean you have the disorder, you should still go ahead and get an appoinment with your doctor who would be able to confirm with one or two tests. and also not all women with pcos gain weight.

i have actually written a book on the topic of pcos and i am willing to share information from the book and otherwise with anyone willing to know, so please ask.

Various treatment options are available. The treatment will be chosen based on the woman's symptoms and fertility status. The options include; weight loss (Improved diet and exercise may decrease insulin levels, which may cause menses to return), use of progestins, anti-androgens, gonadotropin- releasing hormones, fertility drugs, and surgical therapy. A good specialist will be able to determine which is right for you and when.

Symptoms of PCOS could include:
 Irregular or lack of ovulation
 recurrent miscarriages
 numerous small cysts on the ovaries in many, but not all,
cases
 being overweight, rapid weight gain (particularly around
the waist or lower abdomen); difficulty in losing weight
 High blood pressure
 Acne
 Elevated insulin levels, Insulin Resistance, or Diabetes
 Infertility
 Excess hair on the face and body (hirsutism)
 Thinning of the scalp hair (alopecia)
 acanthosis nigrans (darkening of the skin under the arms and
breasts and at the nape of the neck).

Amongst the several factors however, the focus of this book is on polycystic ovarian syndrome. very many people suffer from pcos. it is a disorder found in around one in five women and most don’t even know they have it.
PCOS is the most common hormonal disturbance among premenopausal women. It is the leading cause of infertility due to lack of ovulation. However, it affects far more than just reproduction. Women with PCOS have an increased risk of developing a number of other health conditions.

Many reasons abound for the inability of couples to have children. And although primary fertility problems get most of the attention, a lot of people have secondary fertility problems. These are people who already have a child but are unable to get pregnant or carry a pregnancy to term for the second time. The same factors responsible for primary fertility problems are to blame: pelvic scarring, blocked Fallopian tubes, endometriosis, defective ovulation, or poor sperm quality or quantity, to name a few. Whatever the cause, the condition either developed or worsened since the first birth.

While women are busy maturing a single egg at the leisurely pace of about one a month, men are almost constantly at work producing millions of microscopic sperm, whose sole purpose in life is to swim for their lives and penetrate an egg. While women come complete with all the eggs they'll ever need, men aren't born with ready-made sperm. They have to make them on a regular basis -- from start to finish it takes about 64 to 72 days to create a new sperm cell. Since the average sperm live only a few weeks in a man's body and around 200 to 350 million are set free with each ejaculation, this fertilization factory is working 24/7.

Sometime during the middle of your menstrual cycle (most likely between the 11th and 16th days), an egg reaches maturity in one of the two ovaries, which releases it into the abdomen, where it's quickly sucked up by the tulip-shaped opening of the nearest Fallopian tube; these are two 4-inch canals leading from the ovaries to the uterus. This release, known as ovulation, starts the conception clock ticking. The average egg lives only 24 hours, so it has to be fertilized soon if a baby is to be conceived. If your egg meets up with a healthy sperm on its way to the uterus, the two can join and begin the process of creating a new life. If not, it ends its journey at the uterus, where it disintegrates and is expelled a couple of weeks later during your period.

For women the possibility of pregnancy begins in the ovaries, those two balls attached to either side of your uterus. The ovaries are like your permanent egg cartons, and they come fully stocked. Every infant girl is born with more than 500,000 eggs (more than a lifetime's supply) in her ovaries. You will never produce any more eggs; in fact, many of them begin dying off almost immediately. But not to worry, you have plenty left for your reproductive years. Altogether you'll probably release about 400 eggs, beginning with your first period and ending when menopause arrives, usually between ages 45 and 55.

You may think you know how to make a baby. But do you really understand all the intricate details? Sure, you've got the basics covered -- man meets woman, they have sex, and nine months later, hurray! - but there's a lot more to it than that.
For instance, do you know exactly where sperm and eggs come from, or how these two microscopic miracle-makers ever find each other and combine to create a new life? Or that you have only about a 25 percent chance of getting pregnant during each cycle, even if you time it just right?

In 20% of cases, abnormalities are reported in both partners, and in 15% of cases no diagnosis can be made after complete investigation.
The medical world advices that couples should seek consultation after 12 months of unprotected intercourse if they have not achieved pregnancy. For couples over 35 years of age, it should be after six months.

statistics suggest that 20% of adults in childbearing years have conception problems.
The causes of infertility may be classified into four major categories;
(1) the female factor,
(2) the male factor,
(3) combined factors,
(4) unexplained infertility.

one of the most important things you can do for yourself is find out exactly why it is you have been unable to get pregnant, aa there are varied reasons why conception does not take place when we want it.

A good salary should be one that caters to your housing, transport, feeding, clothing, entertainment, and miscellaneous needs according to your taste

a good salary will be something that you can conveniently live with, without being a spend-thrift, but besides that i think working for yourself is still the ultimate.

its sickening to see what the nothern muslims did, starting with the so called "honourable" members of the Kano house. i think it just goes to reflect the truth of the backwardness of the notherners. i lived in jigawa for a year and just like someone said, you can see that there is little or no infrastructure there, they have nothing, are uneducated (the majority of them), they are dirty to say the least, all in all they are a sorry case.

how can a group of people take to killing other human beings when they have not seen the cartoons in question, and they do not know the religious belief of the originator (most likely an atheist).

why would the moslems continue to try to fight for their god? is he unable to fight for himself? Christians don't fight for all the atrocities commited against Jesus because not only does the bible preach peace, we are fully aware that our God can fight for Himself. So it is high time that moslems allowed peace to reign. i agree that they should not be labelled as animals, even though the tendencies they exhibit are animal-like.

but please please and please, the world over, its time to try and reason like human beongs and not animals!

oops my bad! well said brother

well said sistah!!

Remember when,
buy a box of nice cards, could be the ones sold durring valentine(good to keep them for during the year, especially the ones that don't ahve happy valentine) and on every envelope write, "remember when, " and on every card write a memory that you share with the love of your life.

Loveopoly!
Change the game of Monopoly.
Change boardwalk into back rub, and Tennessee into take your shirt off. Every time you pass go, you get a kiss, etc.

Turn off the T.V. at least 30-45 minutes a day and spend time with each other. No distractions. too many times we allow TV to take up all the time!

Date each other as if you weren't married. Dress up, wear make up, cologne/perfume. Recreate your early years. Meet each other on site and pretend as though you're meeting for the first time–or have your partner pick you up from work or home. The whole idea is to go all out.

thats nice but girl those pictures must be something

What Can You Or What Do You Do To Spice Up Your Marriage

Every marriage needs spicing up from time to time. What can you do to add the extra pizzazz to your marriage? What have you done that has helped?

Please share so the rest of us can learn.

lekan, i think you definitely have done the right thing, you sure must love your wife, kudos. but i also feel for your wife because she really must ahve felt helpless not being able to help her sister out (blood is thicker than water). so rather than boot her out or do all the other horrid stuff some of the guys have said, i think you should actually try to get your wife back. start with taking her out somewhere nice, if possiblemake sure the kids are not anywhere near, after dinner sit her down somewhere and talk to her, explaining to her why you felt you needed to do what you did, then listen to her thouroughly. i am almost sure you will end up rollin gin the hay that night. but be sure not to tell her you mentioned the issue on nairaland!

any child, no matter the sex, is a blessing from God, why do people continually go on and on about this boy child thing? especially in these times when a woman can be anything she wants to be. my mum told me that after i was born she was actually disappointed because she wanted a boy but my dad completely turned around and told her he was delighted with having a baby girl. turns out we would be 3 girls anyway, i have cousins who are all boys and 1 girl and i cant say that my parenst would rather have them for children compared to us based on what we have achieved in our lives.

i think its absolutely irresponsible for any man to ask that a girl get pregnant before he marries her. so what if she doesn't get pregnant, does the love suddenly disappear?

[font=Lucida Sans Unicode]You guys have said it all. Don't know what to say again,
But i agree that there should not pregnancy before marriage, because it is a sin.[/font]
getting pregnant is not he sin, pre marital sex is

I think the topic is a 2 edged sword. But anyway, if u choose to look at it as wrong. What If the lady got pregnant before marriage, and after the wedding has a miscarriage, and after the miscarriage is finding it difficult to get pregnant? What will you think about that? :-

so?

My Mum was pregnant when she married my Dad and I hate to think that he probably married her because she was pregnant. I want someone to marry me because he loves me and wants to be with me for the rest of his life not because I'm pregnant. If you dig deep, most men who marry pregnant women do so just because she is pregnant not because they really want to marry her.

i totally agreee.

there are important issues to understand people, even if the wife gets pregnant and all that whats to say the kid wont die afetr they get married and they wont ever have any other child?! so what happens then? marriage must not ever be about having or not having children. children are a blessing no doubt. but not the focus of marriage.