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Confusedwomsn:
Do me a favor and give the advice to your daughters,
Tell them its their duty to pay the rent, build the house, pay the school fees, furnish the houses, feed the children, buy the cars, satisfy their husband's sexual needs, train their kids, work, clean the house and do everything possible to be married and remain married.
Also, women are breadwinners and they can never complain because a man is always right.

You know why, because this is Africa and your bible tells you seven men will beg a man just to best his name.

Graxie:
This is public forum, I have every right to quote you. Maybe you need to go back and see what you wrote about washing, slavery and boyfriend. You claim your wife is perfect, you wish. Isn't obvious you are the slave trying to please your perfect wife. Hypocrites like you go about bragging about how you don't take shit from your wives meanwhile you are pure slave. For you to see op husband washing his own clothes as slavery meanwhile you are happily answering slave in your house shows how wonderful you are. It's too early for you to know if your wife imposed pregnancy on you, don't be in a hurry. Oh, as per getting a life, worry not, I don't need your kind of life.

Confusedwomsn:
I see you don't have s problem with s woman being the breadwinner of s home.
I an not desperate for marriage to be the breadwinner of s man that works and earn s living.
Its been n nice talking with you, take care.

Confusedwomsn:
Thank you and your opinion has been noted.

Just a simple question, would you wish your daughter to be the breadwinner of s home were the man is not jobless and earns better thsn her and also be burden with all the responsibilities of the home.

How can s grown man in this century be trapped into marriage with pregnancy, there are thousands of baby msms out there.

I'm a terrible woman and human being, what is stopping him from leaving.

Confusedwomsn:
Thank you so much.

freecocoahubby:
Which worth? I don't think you are worth much tbh and that's why you found yourself in a toxic situation.

You're already damaged goods and no man will marry you after you divorce this your "friend".. you know why? because:
1. Your attitude stinks.
2. You are so dumb and insecure that you brought an innocent soul into this world with a man you were not in a relationship with, just to prove something to yourself
3. You come with extra baggage (yes this kid you bore for your "friend" is extra baggage for any quality bachelor out there).

So, instead of disturbing us on Nairaland, why not get up and leave the marriage since you don't "need" him. You rude, uncouth thing! Now that you've proven to your pathetic self that you can have a child, take your child and leave!

Graxie:
You are already shouting because your hypocrisy is oozing. I don't need to descend low like you in your assumptions. You jumped into this thread, crucifying the op, claiming it's boyfriend that washes his clothes yet in your house, you are that slave you are claiming the op wants to turn her husband to. You do it happily because according to you, you love your wife. I truly pity those who go to you for counsel. I am very sure your wife is also perfect.

Ebullience:
https://www.thecable.ng/catholic-church-donates-all-its-425-hospitals-in-nigeria-as-covid-19-isolation-centres/

MizJaY:
Sorry for the long message but this lockdown period might favour reading long msgs.

I'm the quiet type so I have never opened mouth to insult my husband during any misunderstanding. Just arguments and my voice may go up a bit trying to explain or clear myself but he will start saying im raising my voice and talking back at him and start saying all sorts of things.

Honestly sometimes I wished I could unleash the anger deep down and screammm but I always have self control. If u sit with him, he will give u a million reasons why I'm not a good wife and if u don't know me well, u will fall for it because he tells it so well. I will not say everything he says is false, but 80% is. Only those that really know me, will know he is d one that has problem. He's too difficult at times.

In an office, there's usually that one person that quarrels with everyone am I right? But I end up being d only person that dat person doesn't quarrel with cos I try as much as possible to avoid quarrels that's just d kind of person I am. Calm and quiet.

When I met my husband NYSC days, he was very close to God, organizing programs in church and handling them. That was the main reason I got close to him cos I wasnt so spiritual and needed someone to help me grow spiritually through life. He told me he was called to be a pastor and that excited me but I'm not seeing that now lol. He's spiritual life is almost zero. And back then, he had nothing, we would spend all my money even to reach his sick mother in the village I would buy all the foodstuff to send to her.

The way he talked he sounded promising that things will get better with him, but today, I still suffer, I have no savings, all my salary is on the house. He works too and earns but he's salary covers rent and the children's school fees finished. I do the rest but he doesn't appreciate the fact that I sacrifice everything I earn to feeding the house. We are family of 6. Everything provision, food, children school snack, fuel for car and gen, gas filing etc etc it's me. And that's how my whole salary will just go fiam.

if I ws getting a little appreciation I for no mind but rather I get insults o. It's my fault that
Money is finished, it's my fault that we have no savings, I don't know how to manage money, I'm hoarding my money etc etc those are d words that come out of his mouth o.

I used to be a beautiful woman but no more, I wear one shoe everyday to work, can't buy myself clothes shoes nothing I had to cut my hair to relieve myself from hair money lol. I'm stressed out thinking of where money will come for feeding when my salary gets finished before month end at times I have to beg my sister or my dad a pensioner or hussle one way or d other. I now developed high bp and today I'm living with hypertension taking drugs everyday. It was my parents that gave my husband d job he's doing today. He is not in talking terms with he's dad n siblings. Before he's mother died, things were not too good between them. My husband likes to always form man of d house and want me to apologise whenever there's a misunderstanding saying that I am d one wrong, I'm always wondering how am always the one wrong and he's not � every time.

Sometimes self I don't know what I did that mks him angry he will just start carrying face. Today makes it a week we are not talking cos he has been carrying face since 7days now, and went to post something on wassap yesterday that a woman that cannot apologise to her husband cannot stay in marriage.

My brothers and sisters if I know of anything I did that I have to apologise for yet I refused to apologise that is making him carry face, may God strike me. If u know I did anything wrong why not come to me and tell me u don't like what I did and tell me what i did rather than carry face up n down. He always does that. At times I do ask him and as usual am always d one at fault. Maybe it's cos I'm a quiet person he's taking me for mumu.

The national anthem now is that because he does not have money that's why I don't respect him the way I'm supposed to. I'm always careful with my word when gisting with him cos make I make mistake say Donald duke is d current governor of rivers state haaa problem don enter and it may spoil d sweet gisting we were having. He go almost insult me and become uninterested in gisting with me again cos i don talk mumu talk.

So how can I handle such man cos if no be say I be quiet person, I for don receive serious beating black and blue from this man cos he has done it earlier on in our marriage not serious beating sha but I had some bruises. If not that my parents are still alive and warned him. Tho he still attempts once in a blue moon I go jus arrange myself. But I'm kind of tired. I have no money cos trust me, if I had, Maybe i for don dey plan my move sef I no dey enjoy marriage life at all

Graxie:
Yet the op is a bad woman for asking for love and help. I thought it's only boy friend that is supposed to wash his clothes according to your comment.

Graxie:
Why are you helping your wife to do house chores even when she is opposing it?

Confusedwomsn:
Thank you so much.

I had s long discussion with him about our issues last night and I must confess that I do agree with most points you said.

He said I made him this way, that I made him lose focus for his life and become lazy and s pastor told him I have negative spirit. That he has checked out and I irritate him. That he is not succeeding but I am succeeding that I should search myself.
I then asked if he wants to separate and he first said he is not sure and when I said he should decide he said yes.
I've accepted that we are no more together and I have to move on, his cousins are currently staying with us, so I want to share the foodstuffs and toiletries St home because Ill only be responsible for my child and ward.
I'm no more going to cook or be responsible for everyone. We are now officially roommates until we sort out our accommodation.
I know it will end in praise

Confusedwomsn:
He is very good with our child, play with him sndvcuddle and laugh, I don't want to deny my snap those loving moments that's why I stay. We don't have sex unless I cry and beg before he will, I'm not even interested in the sex anymore because how can I be crying and begging for sex, I know I'm not ugly because I have admirers so many, it's by Godswill I've not cheated on him because I've been neglected and abused and I have the fear of God. Now Im dead to sex because I can't keep begging for it. So I keep myself very busy to avoid the feeling. It's not been easy but what can I ssy

etokhana:
http://saharareporters.com/2020/05/11/breaking-bandits-currently-attacking-community-niger-state

SeverusSnape:
We have 'high bugdet' Almajiris on Nairaland. Those that are paid by the government to defend all their rubbish online. They are truly being used and abused by politicians.

We call them zombies, because they will lick BUBU the mumu ass for some peanuts.

Modsfav:
U don't know what u are saying. He killed my uncle and his wife (my uncle was a police man). Only if u know how deadly this man was, u won't say that. He won't be able to even recall how many lives he had wasted before his cup got full

Enn214:
Lagos State government just published the list of COVID-19 donors...



https://mobile.twitter.com/followlasg/status/1258428501377667074

MiniMiniPoPoPo:

dipoolowoo:
By Adedapo Adesanya

Nigeria has received the $3.4 billion emergency loan from the International Monetary Fund (IMF).

IMF Managing Director, Ms Kristalina Georgieva, confirmed to CNBC Africa in an interview that the $3.4 billion loan had been credited to the account of the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN).

The funds had been approved under the Rapid Financing Instrument by the Executive Board of the IMF on April 28, ‎to address challenges arising from the economic impact of the COVID -19 pandemic the country.

Ms Georgieva also called on the Federal Government of Nigeria to be transparent and account for every single kobo of the fund.

‎The federal government had assured that it will publicise all disbursements from the funds, adding that there are plans to conduct an independent audit of all emergency expenditure at the end of the pandemic.

The Nigerian government also agreed to allow the IMF to conduct a due diligence exercise on the CBN, these will be done in line with the Fund’s safeguards assessment ‎program.

According to the IMF chief, the money was sent to the CBN’s account in dollars, after which it would be converted to naira.

“We have already disbursed. In emergency assistance, the board approves, we disburse within days to the country and it goes to their central bank in dollars before it gets converted into naira in the case of Nigeria.

“The conditions are quite favourable and repayment period is five years, up to two and half years is grace period and the interest on the loan is one percent,” she said.

Ms Georgieva assured that the IMF will continue to support Nigeria and other member countries.

“We have put in place policy tracking action, and we are seeing progress each country is making.

“The IMF will continue to support countries and shield them from catastrophic implications of the COVID-19 crisis,” she added.

https://businesspost.ng/economy/imf-credits-cbns-account-with-3-4bn-emergency-loan/

Blackfire:
Rubbish, something Nigeria can make after constituting a committee.




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Where are the pictures

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sorry sir,coming right out...

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HMarshal:
Was it "too fast" u couldn't get the picture sir?

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