₦airaland Forum

slyfox35:
Best friends or closest friends as some people term it is quite normal in the life of 80% of world population, I had one too.

We grew up as teens together, matured as adults together, he came to our house always and ate all his meals with us. My mom was really nice to him when she was alive. He wore my clothes and never returned them. I did not ask because my parents always provided for me although they were average citizens.

Then the worst thing in my life happened. I lost both my parents within the space of four years.
Things turned downhill for me (orphans do suffer a lot.. Too much suffering for you to believe there is even God in heaven who takes care of the fatherless and motherless).

My friend travelled to an African country. He kept telling me to come over there to work that things are better there. I kept declining but after a year of constant pressure, I decided to man up, packed my bags and travelled to meet him.

Guess what? I did not stay up to 5 days with him!!!

His attitude changed by the second day, he yells at me at every given opportunity, from his best friend, I turned to his boy, the heat he was given me was so bad that when he leaves the house and he comes back, I get scared just by hearing his footsteps. I virtually turned to a nonentity to him. I had no money on me because the little I had left, he collected it when I arrived. I knew no one, I felt so miserable and alone and I started regretting why I left Nigeria.

On the fifth day ,I woke up early in the morning and shook him up. I don’t know what got into me (but I am glad it did), I told him I can’t stay with him anymore and I want to leave. He did not even feel bad about this, he did not think of the fact that I know nothing and nowhere in this country. He let me go.

I packed my bag amid tears and went into the street. Mind you, I had no one to call back in Nigeria... It was tough on me but as a naija guy and as God will have it, I did not spend even a night on the streets. I was shocked that a total stranger took me in, clothed and fed me. He taught me everything he knows. I worked for 6 months and was able to make 2 million Naira. This was like a dream to me (If you get money ehn, to praise God Dey sweet o)

I came back to Nigeria, rented an apartment, furnished it and continued working from here.

This so called best friend of mine saw my posts and pictures on Facebook and video called me to check on me (I guess his eyes did not believe what he was seeing) he asked me if I am in a hotel, I said no, I am in my apartment. He was shocked (me I nor keep any grudge against you) he told me he was coming to Nigeria and that I should please forgive him and forget everything that happened. I told him I can forgive but can’t forget.

What surprised me most are this exact words he said “my guy, if I come, na your house I go relax first abeg”

Now my fellow Nairalanders, I am asking, how should I go about this?

I have forgiven him but should I allow him into my home?

Tee1246:
Kill him with kindness,that's just the secret of prosperity.God stepped in for you and you met your helper now the so called friend wants your help,just do it,it shows you are still bigger and always will be. Meanwhile don't get all relaxed be smart about it,friends like that would wanna take food out of your mouth.

Humanoid01:
Please don't let that guy into your home. If you want to help him, do that from afar, don't let him get close to you. The fact that someone seeks forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean that they have changed. It's clear from the way he made that request that he's only putting up a façade.

He will destroy your home at any given opportunity. In case you don't know yet, the reason you had to go through those rough times in his home was for you to know who he truly is, you should have learnt your lesson by now. I'm not saying you shouldn't help him, my point is don't get close to him anymore to the point of cohabiting with him.

luluman:
Is army general above the law?

phoenix911:
Perhaps you should stop copy and paste, if you want to put out something next time you have to verify it.

phoenix911:
Robert Mugabe's house, you are passing as Babangida, why are you trying to deceive Nigerians.

DaInferno:
this is Robert Mugabe s house , don't be a fck up!

GamalNasser:
Sharap you hopeless liar , this house is is Bel Air California so stop lying ...this how you seat in that your cubicle with mattress on the floor and be spreading lies against people .. Gerrout!!

https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/mugabe-mansion/

GamalNasser:
Sharap you hopeless liar , this house is is Bel Air California so stop lying ...this how you seat in that your cubicle with mattress on the floor and be spreading lies against people .. Gerrout!!

https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/mugabe-mansion/

GamalNasser:
Sharap this house is in America not Nigeria

GamalNasser:
If you really live in minna you will know this is not IBBs house ..

GeniusWeb:
Is this not the house Genevieve shot Loins heart

drajjay:
Who the hell builds fireplace in a Nigerian home

finalboss:
Hmm, you dy minna

loveyou123:
where is this mansion located

White007:
I tell you bro. The ignorance and stupidity of some Nigerian youths cannot be quantify. How they celebrate criminals that have kept them in perpetual poverty and misery remains a mystery. Is it that they don’t know their history or have they been bewitched?

omowolewa:
Was he preparing to host Olympic there or he wanted to replicate the Asorock he missed so much.

Chi! he bedroom is just the size of my estate.

olisaEze:
I think I recognize a part of my community’s moni in one of those rooms there...

Powerintoxicate:
This isn't Babaginda's mansion. This is held by Babagindas on behalf of the Nigerian people. He is simply a constructive trustee. He will have to account how been on a salary for eight years as Head of state could give you this sort of opulence. Rubbish. Nigerian youths should stop celebrating nonsense

evansjeff:
Recently I've been very bothered about myself. I'm a guy of around 30 but some things that still worry my heart is really disturbing. I will start like this.

1. Something embarrassing happened some time last year when I travelled home for visit. They bought a goat and was looking for who to kill it, me knowing I'm the most senior man at home jejely went into ghost mode, everyone started looking for me, in the end I had to come out but shamelessly told them I can't kill it. They had to call a 16 year old opposite neighbour to do it while my younger ones helped him hold the goat. I couldn't even stand the sight of seeing the goat struggling for life while receiving knife in the throat. I left there immediately.

2. You might think it's normal for goat until I tell you that I can't kill a chicken or rat, last Christmas, I badly wanted to buy a life chicken because I beleive it's more healthy, but who will kill it? Bae was around, I don't want any embarrassment so I jejely bought frozen chicken . There is a wall gecko strolling around my room for weeks now, but I can't kill it, it becomes embarrassing any time I have a visitor

3. The most recent is, there are two birds trying to build a house in my lobby, I kept destroying the house but they didn't give up, it got to a point, I felt bad for the poor birds, what if they don't have a house? what if I'm the one building a house with all my strength and government keeps destroying it? I had to leave them to build. My neighbour said he killed the birds that tried doing that in his house but me can i do that? No. i just tire.

4. Lastly, When travelling and there's an accident, people rush out to watch but I dare not else the trauma will remain for months, I can't stand the sight of blood and body cuts.

Any time I think about killing an animal, I ask myself, what if I'm the one being held by boko haram or killer herdsmen and about to be slaughtered? How excruciating the pain can be.

Any time I think about crushing a cockroach, I ask myself, what if I'm the one trying to cross the high way and dangote trailer crushes me?

So guys, am I normal? Do I need to see a doctor or a psychologist?

Oluromantic:
I cherish your maturity sir. Even in the core of the challenge, you were still very sane!

It's a pity your wife did not meet up to the cost of marital covenant. I don't pray to have such a wife o

But I salute your courage.

Igbosmoker:
these fulanis are terrorising everywhere in South, tell me your indigenous state and I'll show you a new article about fulani crimes there.

Edo caliphate? Lmao Edo is older than the fulani and caliphate combined only British have successfully break through it but we fought back.

The reason our youth aren't invested in it it's because we still follow the law, if the oba gives us go ahead, both hausa and fulani good or bad will disappear from Edo state.

Who born them

Supan:
The only problem of Nigeria is Fulani

Martinez39s:
You seriously need to read these




Women see men as disposable utilities. A disposable utility serves and is never served. A disposable utility is only associated with for its usefulness. Once a disposable utility can no longer serve, it is discarded and no longer welcomed regardless of how much it has done in the past.

jantofubu:
Domestic violence perpetrated by a barbaric animal

crackkhaus:
So you didn't figure it out all this while?

I've just be watching you entertain yourself...

Graxie:
I am surprise you are asking that confused man for his opinion, such men will use religion to destroy you. Look at everything he is claiming you are doing wrong in asking your husband to do for you, it's the same he is doing in his house. It's nairaland, I know how they roll. You can never be right as long as you are a woman. He is taking bullshit from his own wife and he is here claiming otherwise. Stop giving this people your attention.

Graxie:
I have just quoted you. You are a slave simple. You are washing your own clothes, cooking and maybe providing money for family upkeep. Oga, you are a slave, you said it yourself. Any husband that does that is a slave of which you are Chief of them. Abi you be boyfriend?