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FitnessNigeria:
Bro, Refund is a separate issue. If you make payment with your paypal account linked to your naira MasterCard or visa card and gets a refund of the money, it will be automatically credited back to the card linked to the paypal that you used in making the payment, thereby making the funds available in your local bank account within few days.

There is no way you can receive funds from other people using a nigerian paypal account unless the fund you are receiving is a refund of a payment you made using the same paypal account.

Its just like using a naira mastercard to make payment and the order was cancelled, the money will be refunded back the account that the money was taken from via the naira mastercard you used, it doesn't mean anyone can send money to your naira mastercard.

Sorry about the mix up! Was talking about paypal in general, don't know if the rules are different using a Nigerian card. I don't have my Nigerian card linked to my paypal, so maybe that is why I have encountered the situation you are talking about. I do receive money from people using my paypal account. It is not a refund, it comes as a form of payment. Its faster and cheaper than using western union or money gram. All they need is my email address and the money gets sent to my paypal account

BuddhaPalm:
Nope. The funds return straight to your linked card.

You can't receive. Potential sender get's a message telling him that as well.

We are speaking of NG PP accounts.

Sorry my mistake! The post talked about paypal did not realize you are talking about NG PP. Reply was on paypal in general, don't know if the rules are different for Nigeria

SLIDEwaxie:
I must to wonder. will I be funding my acc and withdrawing just for the fun of it?

It is not for you to fund. You can receive payment from people through your paypal account and withdraw it to your bank account or credit card. Any payment made to you through your paypal account stays in the account unless you withdraw. For future purchases, you will be given the option to use the existing money in your paypal account or use another source (either your bank or credit card) that is linked to your paypal

BuddhaPalm:
How can you withdraw money that can't be deposited in the first place?

I've requested a couple of refunds - which went back into my card. But this one you dey talk, do kindly verify your info.

If the payment was made using your paypal account, then the refund will go back to your paypal account and you can transfer to your bank account or credit card using the withdraw. You can also receive payment from other people using your paypal account. All they have to do is pay you via paypal and this money also goes to your paypal account that you can either spend directly suing paypal or withdraw to your bank account or credit card

@ Op
Am sorry to hear about your situation. I have people close to me that went through the same issue even with IVF, the pregnancy did not go pass 8wks.
I will try to itemize my recommendations
1) Draw closer to God as He can work wonders
2) Do not blame your wife or yourself
3) Do not let family and friends give you bad advice and recommendations. It is only you and your wife that knows where the shoe pinches
4) Go and see a perinatalist and fertility doctor for pre-conception counseling
5) Talk to your ob/gyn for HSG test, rhesus factor (The HSG could reveal fibroid, since she gets pregnant easily it cannot be an issue of blocked fallopian tubes. If she has any blockage, the HSG will clear it)
6) Your wife might need to do a D&C (Dilation and curettage is a procedure to remove tissue from inside your uterus. Doctors perform dilation and curettage to diagnose and treat certain uterine conditions — such as heavy bleeding — or to clear the uterine lining after a miscarriage or abortion. This is also used to clear out polyps from the uterine lining.
7) Your wife needs to start taking folic acid tablets even if she is not yet pregnant. This has helped a lot of people
Take things easy. Do not get yourselves worked up. Have it in mind that you married your wife because you love her and children are added blessing. You did not marry your wife to make babies.
Above all the love an unity between yourself and wife should not diminish, she feels the pains more than you do.

Wish you all the best.

@ Op
Am sorry to hear about your situation. I have people close to me that went through the same issue even with IVF, the pregnancy did not go pass 8wks.
I will try to itemize my recommendations
1) Draw closer to God as He can work wonders
2) Do not blame your wife or yourself
3) Do not let family and friends give you bad advice and recommendations. It is only you and your wife that knows where the shoe pinches
4) Go and see a perinatalist and fertility doctor for pre-conception counseling
5) Talk to your ob/gyn for HSG test, rhesus factor (The HSG could reveal fibroid, since she gets pregnant easily it cannot be an issue of blocked fallopian tubes. If she has any blockage, the HSG will clear it)
6) Your wife might need to do a D&C (Dilation and curettage is a procedure to remove tissue from inside your uterus. Doctors perform dilation and curettage to diagnose and treat certain uterine conditions — such as heavy bleeding — or to clear the uterine lining after a miscarriage or abortion. This is also used to clear out polyps from the uterine lining.
7) Your wife needs to start taking folic acid tablets even if she is not yet pregnant. This has helped a lot of people
Take things easy. Do not get yourselves worked up. Have it in mind that you married your wife because you love her and children are added blessing. You did not marry your wife to make babies.
Above all the love an unity between yourself and wife should not diminish, she feels the pains more than you do.

Wish you all the best.

Assuming you receive this text from your bank?
$1,000 has been deducted from your account for president Goodluck Jonathan campaign, thank you for banking with us..... What will u do??

Pls share your view

jennykadry:
How can a human being be this wicked? What if she killed that child? I would be pretty upset if all the parents of that girl did was call the police...before I ring the police, I would make sure I practice the exact same move on the maid like she did on the child. Then ask for another 5 minutes to send her into a coma she would never return from

D baby died ooo

golor:
Oh my dear,nah dis thing u want me to read?u want mk my eye bring out water?abeg the sub heading do.all this plenty thing nah he talk?bt obama u lyk talk ooo,sha u b woman ni. U self op y u no summaries?

Sorry, I had to put it the way he said it. In summary: The 3 main points are

First, we'll build on our progress at the border with additional resources for our law enforcement personnel so that they can stem the flow of illegal crossings, and speed the return of those who do cross over. (More border protection and control)

Second, I will make it easier and faster for high-skilled immigrants, graduates, and entrepreneurs to stay and contribute to our economy, as so many business leaders have proposed. (International student graduates who studied courses in Sciences, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics (STEM) from America university now have hope of work permit after graduation )

Third, we'll take steps to deal responsibly with the millions of undocumented immigrants who already live in our country. (Undocumented immigrants that have lived in the US for at least 5yrs will be given work permit and path to permanent residents)

Washington (CNN) -- My fellow Americans, tonight, I'd like to talk with you about immigration.
For more than 200 years, our tradition of welcoming immigrants from around the world has given us a tremendous advantage over other nations. It's kept us youthful, dynamic, and entrepreneurial. It has shaped our character as a people with limitless possibilities -- people not trapped by our past, but able to remake ourselves as we choose.

But today, our immigration system is broken, and everybody knows it.
Families who enter our country the right way and play by the rules watch others flout the rules. Business owners who offer their workers good wages and benefits see the competition exploit undocumented immigrants by paying them far less. All of us take offense to anyone who reaps the rewards of living in America without taking on the responsibilities of living in America. And undocumented immigrants who desperately want to embrace those responsibilities see little option but to remain in the shadows, or risk their families being torn apart.
It's been this way for decades. And for decades, we haven't done much about it.
When I took office, I committed to fixing this broken immigration system. And I began by doing what I could to secure our borders. Today, we have more agents and technology deployed to secure our southern border than at any time in our history. And over the past six years, illegal border crossings have been cut by more than half. Although this summer, there was a brief spike in unaccompanied children being apprehended at our border, the number of such children is now actually lower than it's been in nearly two years. Overall, the number of people trying to cross our border illegally is at its lowest level since the 1970s. Those are the facts.
Meanwhile, I worked with Congress on a comprehensive fix, and last year, 68 Democrats, Republicans, and Independents came together to pass a bipartisan bill in the Senate. It wasn't perfect. It was a compromise, but it reflected common sense. It would have doubled the number of border patrol agents, while giving undocumented immigrants a pathway to citizenship if they paid a fine, started paying their taxes, and went to the back of the line. And independent experts said that it would help grow our economy and shrink our deficits.

Meanwhile, I worked with Congress on a comprehensive fix, and last year, 68 Democrats, Republicans, and Independents came together to pass a bipartisan bill in the Senate. It wasn't perfect. It was a compromise, but it reflected common sense. It would have doubled the number of border patrol agents, while giving undocumented immigrants a pathway to citizenship if they paid a fine, started paying their taxes, and went to the back of the line. And independent experts said that it would help grow our economy and shrink our deficits.
Had the House of Representatives allowed that kind of a bill a simple yes-or-no vote, it would have passed with support from both parties, and today it would be the law. But for a year and a half now, Republican leaders in the House have refused to allow that simple vote.

Now, I continue to believe that the best way to solve this problem is by working together to pass that kind of common sense law. But until that happens, there are actions I have the legal authority to take as President -- the same kinds of actions taken by Democratic and Republican Presidents before me -- that will help make our immigration system more fair and more just.
Tonight, I am announcing those actions.
First, we'll build on our progress at the border with additional resources for our law enforcement personnel so that they can stem the flow of illegal crossings, and speed the return of those who do cross over.


Second, I will make it easier and faster for high-skilled immigrants, graduates, and entrepreneurs to stay and contribute to our economy, as so many business leaders have proposed.
Third, we'll take steps to deal responsibly with the millions of undocumented immigrants who already live in our country.

to say more about this third issue, because it generates the most passion and controversy. Even as we are a nation of immigrants, we are also a nation of laws. Undocumented workers broke our immigration laws, and I believe that they must be held accountable -- especially those who may be dangerous. That's why, over the past six years, deportations of criminals are up 80 percent. And that's why we're going to keep focusing enforcement resources on actual threats to our security. Felons, not families. Criminals, not children. Gang members, not a mother who's working hard to provide for her kids. We'll prioritize, just like law enforcement does every day.
But even as we focus on deporting criminals, the fact is, millions of immigrants -- in every state, of every race and nationality -- will still live here illegally. And let's be honest -- tracking down, rounding up, and deporting millions of people isn't realistic. Anyone who suggests otherwise isn't being straight with you. It's also not who we are as Americans. After all, most of these immigrants have been here a long time. They work hard, often in tough, low-paying jobs. They support their families. They worship at our churches. Many of their kids are American-born or spent most of their lives here, and their hopes, dreams, and patriotism are just like ours.


As my predecessor, President Bush, once put it: "They are a part of American life."
Now here's the thing: we expect people who live in this country to play by the rules. We expect that those who cut the line will not be unfairly rewarded. So we're going to offer the following deal: If you've been in America for more than five years; if you have children who are American citizens or legal residents; if you register, pass a criminal background check, and you're willing to pay your fair share of taxes -- you'll be able to apply to stay in this country temporarily, without fear of deportation. You can come out of the shadows and get right with the law.
That's what this deal is. Now let's be clear about what it isn't. This deal does not apply to anyone who has come to this country recently. It does not apply to anyone who might come to America illegally in the future. It does not grant citizenship, or the right to stay here permanently, or offer the same benefits that citizens receive -- only Congress can do that. All we're saying is we're not going to deport you.
I know some of the critics of this action call it amnesty. Well, it's not. Amnesty is the immigration system we have today -- millions of people who live here without paying their taxes or playing by the rules, while politicians use the issue to scare people and whip up votes at election time.
That's the real amnesty -- leaving this broken system the way it is. Mass amnesty would be unfair. Mass deportation would be both impossible and contrary to our character. What I'm describing is accountability -- a commonsense, middle ground approach: If you meet the criteria, you can come out of the shadows and get right with the law. If you're a criminal, you'll be deported. If you plan to enter the U.S. illegally, your chances of getting caught and sent back just went up.
The actions I'm taking are not only lawful, they're the kinds of actions taken by every single Republican President and every single Democratic President for the past half century. And to those Members of Congress who question my authority to make our immigration system work better, or question the wisdom of me acting where Congress has failed, I have one answer: Pass a bill. I want to work with both parties to pass a more permanent legislative solution. And the day I sign that bill into law, the actions I take will no longer be necessary. Meanwhile, don't let a disagreement over a single issue be a dealbreaker on every issue. That's not how our democracy works, and Congress certainly shouldn't shut down our government again just because we disagree on this. Americans are tired of gridlock. What our country needs from us right now is a common purpose -- a higher purpose.
Most Americans support the types of reforms I've talked about tonight. But I understand the disagreements held by many of you at home. Millions of us, myself included, go back generations in this country, with ancestors who put in the painstaking work to become citizens. So we don't like the notion that anyone might get a free pass to American citizenship. I know that some worry immigration will change the very fabric of who we are, or take our jobs, or stick it to middle-class families at a time when they already feel like they've gotten the raw end of the deal for over a decade. I hear these concerns. But that's not what these steps would do. Our history and the facts show that immigrants are a net plus for our economy and our society. And I believe it's important that all of us have this debate without impugning each other's character.
Because for all the back-and-forth of Washington, we have to remember that this debate is about something bigger. It's about who we are as a country, and who we want to be for future generations.
Are we a nation that tolerates the hypocrisy of a system where workers who pick our fruit and make our beds never have a chance to get right with the law? Or are we a nation that gives them a chance to make amends, take responsibility, and give their kids a better future?
GOP governors hedge on immigration reform
Are we a nation that accepts the cruelty of ripping children from their parents' arms? Or are we a nation that values families, and works to keep them together?

As my predecessor, President Bush, once put it: "They are a part of American life."
Now here's the thing: we expect people who live in this country to play by the rules. We expect that those who cut the line will not be unfairly rewarded. So we're going to offer the following deal: If you've been in America for more than five years; if you have children who are American citizens or legal residents; if you register, pass a criminal background check, and you're willing to pay your fair share of taxes -- you'll be able to apply to stay in this country temporarily, without fear of deportation. You can come out of the shadows and get right with the law.
That's what this deal is. Now let's be clear about what it isn't. This deal does not apply to anyone who has come to this country recently. It does not apply to anyone who might come to America illegally in the future. It does not grant citizenship, or the right to stay here permanently, or offer the same benefits that citizens receive -- only Congress can do that. All we're saying is we're not going to deport you.
I know some of the critics of this action call it amnesty. Well, it's not. Amnesty is the immigration system we have today -- millions of people who live here without paying their taxes or playing by the rules, while politicians use the issue to scare people and whip up votes at election time.
That's the real amnesty -- leaving this broken system the way it is. Mass amnesty would be unfair. Mass deportation would be both impossible and contrary to our character. What I'm describing is accountability -- a commonsense, middle ground approach: If you meet the criteria, you can come out of the shadows and get right with the law. If you're a criminal, you'll be deported. If you plan to enter the U.S. illegally, your chances of getting caught and sent back just went up.
The actions I'm taking are not only lawful, they're the kinds of actions taken by every single Republican President and every single Democratic President for the past half century. And to those Members of Congress who question my authority to make our immigration system work better, or question the wisdom of me acting where Congress has failed, I have one answer: Pass a bill. I want to work with both parties to pass a more permanent legislative solution. And the day I sign that bill into law, the actions I take will no longer be necessary. Meanwhile, don't let a disagreement over a single issue be a dealbreaker on every issue. That's not how our democracy works, and Congress certainly shouldn't shut down our government again just because we disagree on this. Americans are tired of gridlock. What our country needs from us right now is a common purpose -- a higher purpose.
Most Americans support the types of reforms I've talked about tonight. But I understand the disagreements held by many of you at home. Millions of us, myself included, go back generations in this country, with ancestors who put in the painstaking work to become citizens. So we don't like the notion that anyone might get a free pass to American citizenship. I know that some worry immigration will change the very fabric of who we are, or take our jobs, or stick it to middle-class families at a time when they already feel like they've gotten the raw end of the deal for over a decade. I hear these concerns. But that's not what these steps would do. Our history and the facts show that immigrants are a net plus for our economy and our society. And I believe it's important that all of us have this debate without impugning each other's character.
Because for all the back-and-forth of Washington, we have to remember that this debate is about something bigger. It's about who we are as a country, and who we want to be for future generations.
Are we a nation that tolerates the hypocrisy of a system where workers who pick our fruit and make our beds never have a chance to get right with the law? Or are we a nation that gives them a chance to make amends, take responsibility, and give their kids a better future?
GOP governors hedge on immigration reform
Are we a nation that accepts the cruelty of ripping children from their parents' arms? Or are we a nation that values families, and works to keep them together?


Are we a nation that educates the world's best and brightest in our universities, only to send them home to create businesses in countries that compete against us? Or are we a nation that encourages them to stay and create jobs, businesses, and industries right here in America?
That's what this debate is all about. We need more than politics as usual when it comes to immigration; we need reasoned, thoughtful, compassionate debate that focuses on our hopes, not our fears.
I know the politics of this issue are tough. But let me tell you why I have come to feel so strongly about it. Over the past few years, I have seen the determination of immigrant fathers who worked two or three jobs, without taking a dime from the government, and at risk at any moment of losing it all, just to build a better life for their kids. I've seen the heartbreak and anxiety of children whose mothers might be taken away from them just because they didn't have the right papers. I've seen the courage of students who, except for the circumstances of their birth, are as American as Malia or Sasha; students who bravely come out as undocumented in hopes they could make a difference in a country they love. These people -- our neighbors, our classmates, our friends -- they did not come here in search of a free ride or an easy life. They came to work, and study, and serve in our military, and above all, contribute to America's success.
Tomorrow, I'll travel to Las Vegas and meet with some of these students, including a young woman named Astrid Silva. Astrid was brought to America when she was four years old. Her only possessions were a cross, her doll, and the frilly dress she had on. When she started school, she didn't speak any English. She caught up to the other kids by reading newspapers and watching PBS, and became a good student. Her father worked in landscaping. Her mother cleaned other people's homes. They wouldn't let Astrid apply to a technology magnet school for fear the paperwork would out her as an undocumented immigrant -- so she applied behind their back and got in. Still, she mostly lived in the shadows -- until her grandmother, who visited every year from Mexico, passed away, and she couldn't travel to the funeral without risk of being found out and deported. It was around that time she decided to begin advocating for herself and others like her, and today, Astrid Silva is a college student working on her third degree.
Are we a nation that kicks out a striving, hopeful immigrant like Astrid -- or are we a nation that finds a way to welcome her in?
Scripture tells us that we shall not oppress a stranger, for we know the heart of a stranger -- we were strangers once, too.
My fellow Americans, we are and always will be a nation of immigrants. We were strangers once, too. And whether our forebears were strangers who crossed the Atlantic, or the Pacific, or the Rio Grande, we are here only because this country welcomed them in, and taught them that to be an American is about something more than what we look like, or what our last names are, or how we worship. What makes us Americans is our shared commitment to an ideal -- that all of us are created equal, and all of us have the chance to make of our lives what we will.
That's the country our parents and grandparents and generations before them built for us. That's the tradition we must uphold. That's the legacy we must leave for those who are yet to come.
Thank you, God bless you, and God bless this country we love.
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tpia6:
so you're saying someone ( side chick/mistress wannabes who would like a piece of him) should still be hoping he'll do all these for her (ie the whole wedding shebang) . . . . . . . . .

It's possible. There is no harm in hoping after all the man is still alive

hope2007:
@Boss13 please don't be too sure of things you say. I just got my tourist visa and I filled the visa form at about 20 minutes before I went to the embassy for my interview. So when do you suppose secuirity checks were carried out at my bank and office? My mom also filled hers the morning of her interview and she got hers too and she is a pensioner. So pls dont mislead people.

Why do pple lie without doing proper research? If you have really ever applied for the US visa, you will know that it is your application confirmation page info that you book the interview with. So what's with the lie that you filled the visa form 20mins before your interview or your mum filled hers the morning of the interview, so how did you book for the interview in the first place

And this goes to those that allow touts at the embassy entrance to cajole you into refilling your forms at the premises before entering the embassy is waste of money and time. The reason your name is on the check-in list is because all previous applications and interviewees for that date has been processed with your application information and list printed. So you refilling your application prior to entering the embassy does not alter or update the previous information you had submitted

@op
Point of correction, KSA is not married. He never did and yet to. All the women are his baby mamas, he never legally or traditionally married anyone

I believe what one should be more worried about is why the person is snoring. It could be as a result of sleep apnea and forget whether it fat people that snore. Sleep apnea is not a condition one should take lightly. I was opportuned to take someone for a sleep study and found that the person has mild sleep apnea. The result was that he stops breathing 40 times in an hour and each time last for around 28secs. Dey recommended a cpap machine to help reduce the snoring and maintain continuous breath. The machine cost like N480,000. Its is very portable and FAA approved to carry in flight but its not so comfortable.

korebobo: Is this written in the car's handbook?

Thank u my guy, d only person dt has sole right it seat in front of any car is d person dt is driving or wants to drive. Every other person gets to seat in d available space. If d car is full, u can fold in d booth.

kofsy: Even if he was married? Are you kidding me? So you don't think courtesy demands that the sis make and attempt to move to the back seat while the wife can then say she shouldn't worry? *deep sigh* There are only few mature men ready for marriage in Nigeria. Na wa o. If the Op's sister where married too, can Op's wife go and drag the front seat of her husband' s car with her?

What if he is married? What am saying is whoeva seats dere 1st shud remain dere. Its not like he was picking dem up together, someone was already seated dere. Whether wife, mother, father or dog, it is wrong to ask d person to come down for u to seat. If doesnt speak well. If u dont seat in front, ll u die before u get to ur destination? Lets stop saying Nigeria in our actions and face d truth. D sister ll nt b happy neither ll d gf if askd by d other 2 come down from d seat. D man cannot support his sister and b in disaccord wit d gf neither can he support d gf and b in disaccord wit d sister.
Its his car, only him have d right to say someone shud stand up for him.

@op,
I believe it was rude of ur girlfriend to ask ur sister to come down. D same will go if it was ur gf seated already in d front seat and ur sister asks her to come down for her. None of dem ve any right to claim seat unleas dey contributed money to buy d car wit u. Whoeva seats dere 1st shud remain there and the other person shud take d next available seat.
Note: even if u re married to d lady, between ur sister and wife, whoever seats in front 1st shud seat down and d other shud take d next available seat. No 4low dem drag d seat oooo cos u ll be torn in between who to support.

Waspy: Cars ke Which kain pple dey make decisions for this country sef

Thank you my brother, Thank u very much, dt is d 1st question for my mind too. These re d kind of pple those stupid boko haram suppose go dey kidnap and bomb.
Nigeria lack adequate medical resources to provide quality health for its citizens, Doctors re on strike cos of non payment of salary and dt man fit open him mouth say d money na 4 procurement of cars!!!!! Chai!!! I no blame him. Na because we don allow corruption as normal tin 4 dis country.

Houses like this are creative

I don't believe they should be celebrated. Use ur time on productive things.

I think hourly would work. A place like naija where pple use every excuse not to come to work and still get paid. It would be good compensation for the hard working ones. You would be able to make more money especially with the overtime. You get 1.5 X (hourly) rate if you do overtime. This kind of job would pay you weekly or biweekly, so that way you are never broke.
One the other hand, all these naija employers that would pay monthly salary on the 15- 20 of the next month dey suffer pple after services have been rendered.

Radiant: I never said you were a house husband. I was only asking you questions in case you found yourself in such a situation.

Since you don't mind staying home to look after your new baby while your wife works then we might as well introduce Scott Brown. What's the difference? It's all part of being "practical". Or you think he's weird?

Even if your wife earned more than you I really don't see how you'll bring up this issue with her to be honest. Like, really are you that "practical"? I know we all now live in a 50/50 world but come on man! If you can't work that's a different issue but as long as you're able to work don't send the woman on the streets and sit at home. If you plan ahead you won't need to think of this option.

Seriously, which man will tell his wife to go and work while he stays home? Siena I want to take it that you're just talking. When will she work? A week after giving birth or 2 months later or when the kids are old enough to go to a child minder or when 

The way you and sienna are going back and forth on this issue, one would think he is asking you to be working and he would be staying at home. There is nothing bad with being a house husband as long as both couples are in agreement. If it works for the couple, it is fine with them. The most important thing is having one of the parents looking after the kids whether it is the husband or the wife. Bills need to be paid and someone getta do it. It disheartening when parents run after money and leave their kids to strangers to look after or even leave the kids by themselves.

Thank you all for your responses. I went ahead to google "life after mega millions". A lot of them wasted their earnings and back to penury within few years, some even with two years have wasted everything. The sister and her husband should leave her alone, everything would soon finish. She was already looking broke when they came to court sef.

I believe women are better managers than men. Though it is the men that provide the money, it is the woman that goes about paying the bills. The rent, electricity, food stuff, children's school fees and school needs. The women keep a tab on things while the men are busy just making money and expecting every other thing to fall in place.

I was watching this program on tv where people come to small claims court to settle their dispute. A woman and her husband were suing her sister for breach of contract. The contract goes thus: the woman and her husband has been playing the mega million lottery for years but won nothing. One day, as the woman's husband was going to play the lottery as usual for $1, his wife's sister who was visiting in their house made a comment that they should stopped playing since they have never won. The man tried to convince her that one day they would win. He also told his sister inlaw to give it a try. The sister inlaw said she was not interested and she did not have the money. The man said he would use his money all she needed was to give him six numbers then he would play for her. Jokingly she gave him six numbers and said if she wins, they would share the money 50/50. As luck would have it, she won $1.2million. Cash option is $800k if she wanted the money in bulk but if she wants to be collecting the money annually, she would eventually get the $1.2million over a number of years. She took the cash option and was given $600k after tax. Now, the trouble was giving her sister and brother inlaw half as she promised. She took the whole family plus her other siblings to Las Vegas for the weekend and spent $18k. She said she can't give her sister and brother inlaw any money again after the Las Vegas trip as she felt she has adequately compensated them. So the sister and her husband brought her to court. The judge said since there was never a written agreement, the court cannot enforce her to give them anything.
Please what is your opinion?

@ op
There is nothing wrong in getting married to your age mate. Age ain't nothing but a number. It becomes whatever you make of it. Love, understanding and the grace of God is all you need in a marriage. I know of a couple that are close to my family, the wife is older than the husband by 3months but unless they tell you, one will never suspect. The wife is slim and looks way younger than the husband. The husband is taller and abit on the fleshy side. They both love each other and respect one another.
Pray to God for direction and follow your heart. No matter how much advise people give to you, you are the only one going into the union with the woman, nairalanders no go follow go there oooo! Lay your foundation with love and mutual respect and leave the rest in God's hand. All the best.

[quote author=Lucky-G-]@noperson......I

kinder have it that PRE-ECLAMPSIA is often asymptomatic and cud knwn
clinical by the physicals of signs and symptoms.That's why you dont have
to blame dem because it is also consuming and b4 u c it,it has turn up to
the ECLAMPTIC CONDITION.No knonw way of apprehension before conception
and this is evenmore disturbing.But then the little we can do can help
breaks many blocks.What r the best of our few steps? They are: 1)She
should stay with one PATERNITY to her pregnancy 2)check for
POST-DELIVERY PRE-ECLAMPSIA after DELIVERY(<6WEEKS) 3)Early n regular
pregnancy care during conception 4)check for VASOCONSTRICTION
FACTORS(clinic) 5)IMMUNOLOGIST to check n diagnosed for POOR GESTATIONAL
IMMUNE TOLERANCE by mother(clinic) 6)IMMUNOLOGIST check and diagnosed on ANTI-PHOSPHOLIPID ANTIGEN SYNDROME and ANTINUCLEAR ANTIBODIES(clinic) 7)General check for T.O.P(clinic) check for THYROID FUNCTION for cases with SUB-CLINICAL HYPOTHYROIDISM in her preg(clinic) 10)Do a very expensive test for PODOCYTES in a woman with PRE-ECLAMPSIA[/quote]Thank u very much for your advise, will surely pass the message on. God bless u

@Lucky-G
Thanks a lot for your respond, she was a size 2, AA genotype, B+ and in good health. Though both of her parents have cases of high blood pressure but she did not it and there has never been a case of pre-eclampsia in her family. When she had the quad marker screen, she was referred to a perinatal specialist as the doctor said the protein reading was high and could not be explained. It was supposed to be lower than 0.9 but her result was 7.2 which was why she was referred to a specialist. The perinatal doctor did extensive ultrasound and could not find anything wrong with the fetus. He suggested amniocentesis with caution that there is a chance of miscarriage, so she refused the amniocentesis. It is just scary how they could have missed the pre-eclampsia to the extent of having eclampsia with seizure and all organ failure, her blood pressure went as high as 180/240. Between her oby-gn and the perinatal specialist, she was always in the hospital every two weeks and none of them caught the pre-eclampsia. She lives in the United States and was using one of the top hospitals, so one would expect them to provide the best care.
To God be the glory, She made swift recovery as opposed to the doctor's report that she might end up with stroke or other complications because of the total organ shut down. She regain consciousness in ICU on the fourth day and said she was able to go home on the sixth day. The doctors said it was a simply a matter of God's work as everything begin to function normal as if nothing had happen. They still insisted on ct-scan, heart echo, MRI, X-ray, blood work and all manner of test but found nothing wrong. It was as if she never had eclampsia.
Please any suggestions as to how to prevent another episode with her next pregnancy and since the baby would have to be delivered at 37weeks, would the baby be ready and not be pre-term upon delivery.

Hi,
Please I would like to know if it is possible to miss the diagnosis of pre-eclampsia to the extent of having eclampsia. I know of someone that had suffered eclampsia at exactly 24weeks and had classical c-section as d walls of the uterus was not well formed to have a normal c section. The baby died on the 6th day due to extreme premature. She kept all her doctor's appointment but there was never a time the doctor said she was at risk. She was 33years old. Pls I would like to know if age is a contributing factor and what to do to prevent future occurrence. She has also been informed that future pregnancy can only go to 37weeks and the baby has to be delivered.

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