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I almost couldn't finish your post because I feel so bad for your kids. Imagine seeing them twice in four years (from 2020 to 2024) because of the wicked, hateful woman you married. Are you a father at all? Are you even a man? As if they haven't suffered enough, one of them is now staying with you and the woman is abusing her and you're allowing it. You cannot put your foot down? Children should come first no matter what and you shouldn't allow anybody abuse them under any circumstances, not even the person you call your wife. In a sane country, she/both of you would be charged with child abuse. Don't be a useless father. Stand up for your kids.

Many Nigerian Pastors are no good. However, you yourself thought you don find maga when it's likely audio help he had promised you. I wonder if he told you he was going to help you by getting you a new apartment and paying for it while the person who took you to him was there or if other people were around and he just wanted them to think he really was going to help you knowing he had no intention to. It wasn't a good idea to rely solely on the Pastor - waiting for him to get you the new apartment he said he would get you and pay for, lol. You could've reached out to others around you, another church, come on Nairaland and people could've given you ideas on what to do next, or better yet, get your money back immediately from your ex-roommate and try to get another place with that money.

As for the broken promise claim, there's nothing you can do about it. If you were to sue him, for example, you wouldn't win because it doesn't constitute a binding legal contract. The latter involves an agreement pertaining to an exchange of some sort (e.g. a service), such as one person offering a service and then the other accepting that offer and giving them something in return (e.g. money or payment). Now if one party doesn't fulfill their own end of the agreement by the set date and the other loses money or resources involving money, then it could be a court case. In this situation, the only person offering to do anything here is the Pastor and the offer is help and to do so freely without you giving him anything (e.g. money) in return. Moreover, unless he told you he would get you the apartment by a particular date, he could claim he intended to get it for you or was working on it, and he did tell you, "There are many people I have promised. I am settling them little by little". Thus, this isn't a binding verbal contract.

As for you blaming him for not getting all your money back, that doesn't hold any water either. Whatever agreement you had pertaining to that money was between you and your roommate and perhaps her sister who threw your things out, not you and the Pastor, so if they didn't give you your full money back, you're supposed to blame them, not him. It was your responsibility to contact the Police right away when your things were thrown out to sort that out with those people. You cannot turn around now and blame him for them not returning all the money because it had nothing to do with him, somebody you didn't have a binding verbal legal agreement to begin with. You thought the Pastor was going to find you that new apartment, pay for it, and probably give you money as well, and wasn't concerned about getting your money back from those people initially, but because the so-called promise didn't work out and you failed to get your money back from those people at the right time and as a result, they didn't give you all the money back, you're blaming the Pastor when this wasn't his fault.

I'm not taking the Pastor's side at all and like I said above, many Nigerian Pastors are no good, but it's obvious you're just looking for someone to blame in this situation and refuse to take accountability for yourself. You're also rather entitled because the Pastor didn't/doesn't owe you anything. If someone promises to help you and don't, you face front and find other alternatives to help yourself, not blame that person for this or that.

The only thing I would blame the Pastor for are the threats. You should go to the Police. He shouldn't be threatening you and he's obviously not a good Pastor (I wouldn't even call him a Pastor at this point) if he's doing that. However, you yourself took things too far by reporting him to the church's headquarters. If you think he wronged you by failing to help or not keeping to this so-called promise, you should've left him to God and not attend his church (and you didn't say you were an attendee). Reporting him to the church or church's headquarters wasn't necessary. It's only an entitled person that would take things that far.

There's one Nairalander that people on here have sent lots of money to over the years because this person was always opening threads talking about being stranded, staying in an uncompleted building, her sister throwing her out, staying at a church...Idk if you're the same person but sound like them.

Awwww, sad day. Rest in peace and power, Rev Jackson. Thanks for all you've done. Your legacy lives on. You will never be forgotten.

Hmm. So sad. Just like that. May God rest her soul. Amen.

Too many to name

Why doesn't he have joint custody? He should be able to see his child. Imade is his child and first child at that, and he adores her. Sophia will probably be able to get more money out of him this route and that's obviously the motivation. To those mentioning Ifeanyi, him and Chioma weren't even around when it happened. Those whose care they left him in are the ones responsible for his untimely passing. #ripIfeanyi

Your ex-wife didn't invite you. I think her invitation is the only invitation that matters and if she didn't invite you, then I'm not sure you should attend.

Transformation?

Rest in heavenly peace, Dawson/James. 🙏

You fought the good fight.
Your legacy lives on.
RIP.

Lols. I definitely wouldn’t. I would never trust a Nigerian dentist in Nigeria with my teeth. That dentist should be fired because he's clearly a quack who is doing nonsense with people's teeth, smh.

Dp

You've been complaining about your husband and marriage since 2020. It's nobody's business to tell you whether to stay or leave. Only you know what's best for you and your kids.

Congratulations to them.

At just 34-years old? What is causing his stress?

Is Trump someone you even want recognition from? Mention Obama and then I'll say wow.

Sexual purity is important. I'll be a virgin forever. Amen.

Only the honest minority.

Thazard:
Na that official report even make me click the page sef. No be mister cork again?

Sometimes, I wonder if your kids did inherited your account because when I joined nairaland, I noticed you had been a member under slightly different username.

I'm grown now and you are still the same. I no believe am sha. You must have passed it unto your kids

Right. I read Mr.Cork's post and just giggle and laugh. Idk who takes his posts seriously. They're also rather funny and silly to me.

Which one is "l realized she doesn't like typing much words so she doesn't give out enough information about herself". What sorta excuse of denial is this? If you've been communicating or attempting to communicate with someone you met last year and they're barely responding to your or your questions, then they're not interested or might be in another relationship already, which means you should stop wasting your time and move on.

Which one is "I ate well from my house so as not to order their food.... I also thought that someone coming out for a date at an eatery by 3pm, would have eaten from their house and wouldn't order food but light refreshment like a snack and bottle of soft drink but l was wrong". If you're taking someone out on a date and it's you who asked them out and the person suggested a restaurant, then you should have enough money for both of you to eat! You saying you ate well from your house and thought she would've also eaten from her house is rubbish. If you're broke or cheap, then just say that instead of talking nonsense. Of course, she should also have her own money, but if you're taking someone out, as the man who did the asking, it should be YOU who pays. She didn't even order much; she ordered fried rice with fish and a bottle of coke, which came to N6200. That's just $4.57 USD and 5.47 CAD. So that was too much for you to spend and to the extent that you couldn't order anything for yourself but a bottle of Schweppes for 1K? You seem like a cheapo or a miser. If I were her, I wouldn't pick up your call again either. I'm not saying someone should be on a date with you and be ordering expensive food but what she ordered wasn't costly and if you can't afford that, then you've no business taking anyone out on a date.

BOTH of you are red flags. It's likely that she wasn't interested from the get-go, while you are a cheapo/miser/stingy somebody anyway.

. Official report

Mtchew. Just impeach this useless man. Enough is enough.

You know there's no scientifically proven herb that neutralizes snake venom but you're mentioning herbs. Why not tell loved ones to rush people to the hospital right away? That should be the only thing you should be encouraging, and for Nigerian hospitals to not turn people away during such situations, and to always have anti-venom in their departments. In a country where snakes are prevalent, there's no reason why they shouldn't have any anti-venom ready to be used during these emergencies.

How sweet. As long as she truly loves him and doesn't have ulterior motives for being with him. I wish them all the best.

Impeach him now!!!

For the sake of the child, inform your brother. Since a child/his child is involved, he should know. At least if anything happens to her due to her mother's refusal to take care of her properly, or neglect, the father would know who to hold accountable. It's a good thing you're around them to have witnessed this. If you're able to get more information from your niece about the type of care she's receiving from her mother, do that, then tell the father. If not, just tell the father about this incident.

radautoworks:
FIRST OF ALL.... I like your cabinets

Second, I just can't get with your shrimp in the morning things. I can't even stand shrimp and grits! Everything else I'm here for 😆

Thank you!!

Why don't you like shrimp in the morning? I'll eat shrimp irrespective of the time of day, lol. They go well with eggs in the morning.

Does your husband like shrimp? My loctician is a Jamaican lady who doesn't like shrimp, nor seafood in general. She's also a vegetarian and doesn't eat meat. I love Jamaican food and can drive hours to get good jerk chicken with rice and peas if they've good reviews, so I know Jamaicans eat meat and seafood, but was shocked when she told me she doesn't. She's a seventh-day Adventist, however; I'm not sure if these are a part of their diet restrictions. It's rather interesting to find a Jamaican who doesn't eat seafood and meat.

Such a young, promising girl. May she rest in peace.

This story is so weird and tragic. Where did the snake come from? And with all the snakes parading Nigeria, why do they not have anti-venom or means to save someone with a snake bite? Terrible.

May her soul rest in peace.

Featuring lightly toasted blueberry bagel, milk, and avocado.

Breakfast

Eggs avec mushrooms, shrimps, omega-3 canned fish, red onions

Just imagine. I hope she sees his comment and dumps him.