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queeneve:
*looking at my original post*

I said IF I don't want to have intimacy, I don't have to.  I did not say that what I am doing at this moment, saying whatever I decides I don't want none, THEN I DON'T HAVE TO, if he decides he don't want to give me none, THEN THAT ON HIM, men can't live without sex for no more than five days, WOMEN can tolerate the lack of sex longer than men,

Marriage has nothing to do with sex and sex is part of human function naturally.  It has nothing to do with marriage, and Marriage is a union between two people in the sanction of God that it.  Nothing more nothing less. People add stipulations on what marriage should be about, the FIRST UNION were about companionship and committing with one another in partnership, SEX IS CREATED FOR PURPOSE OF CHILD BEARING, NOTHING MORE NOTHING LESS,

People need to stop enforcing their views and opinions on others, EVERY MARRIAGE IS DIFFERENT AND THERE ARE MARRIAGES THAT ARE SEXLESS, HAVE YOU BEEN READING THE NEWS PEOPLE?!!!

I doubt uou are married or know much about marriage. Since you wrote about God sanctions, I think you need to read this portion of the Bible to know the mind of God concerning sex in marriage.

2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

1Cor.7:2-5

And there are 3 main reasons people get married 1. Companionship, 2. Sexual satisfaction and 3. Procreation

[quote author=African_queen link=topic=464439.msg6238854#msg6238854 date=1276869496]Its possible dear. . . I know of someone who have stayed for 13yrs now without sex.[/quote]Now, that is a case study! Is this person married? or is he/she a nun/priest or what?

queeneve:
If I want to deny my husband sex, I will do so.  There is no law said I must give him some when he want sme,

What can I say? But I doubt you understand the terms of marriage. Now imagine your husband not touching you for a year, what will you think?

I have seen seen this topic so many times on NL.

Anyway I love my gender. Will not change it for anything in the world. Sometimes I pity some women.

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=463198.msg6243388#msg6243388 date=1276938227] Unless the woman is pulling his legs or lying to hurt him back, how could she meet someone and three weeks later decide to marry him, shuo [/quote]exactly my thought.

Too bad.

And I really like Akure city, very peaceful place. I schooled there for some years.

hahahhaha, very funny.

Very funny! Na today?

After few weeks all this heat will die down, in the meantime the minister has just given Abuja police opportunity to make more money and these prostitutes to increase their bargaining price. Nothing is gonna change.

Dream on

I doubt this, especially the part of him not being consulted before his nomination, cant be true, source pls

[quote author=kind.way link=topic=464771.msg6242610#msg6242610 date=1276920952]@Nlander,
The worst she that she has done is that she took my picture away in the house I paid for.While I am still alive, bringing in somebody else picture into your home. As somebody responded she is a fiery type, even telling me to do my worse, and did u know what I did.
@1.00am that very night, I packed her stuff out of the house that she should go and meet that guy. she refused and packed her things inside. I forced her outside, locked my door and went to bed to sleep. She went to a family friend of ours and she stayed there overnite, After all the meetings with friends and co, she got back to the house around 1.00pm the next day.

NB: This happened real life and by this time We are having a little boy. We are not resident in 9ija. Series of "things" has happened in my home and I am to make some decisions this year 'cause I can't continue this way.

Its easier for me to express myself here.[/quote]My Guy, I think there are lot more involve than you are telling us.

You mean you sent your wife out (possibly with your baby) because of this matter? Because of a stranger? This is not the best.

This matter shouldn't get to this if you've handle it maturely. And I think you are overreacting on the picture removal incident. She was only trying to get back at you.

Now you want to end your marriage because of a stranger? or are there more to this other lady than you are telling us?

[quote author=kind.way link=topic=464771.msg6242610#msg6242610 date=1276920952]@OAM4J,
What else did she want/need again when I told her initially that this is just one of the things that do happen and I assured her I was going to take care of the situation. She never listen, she always want things to be done in her way even going extra mile by calling the other lady bringing all of us into disrepute.[/quote]She made a mistake calling the other lady. But you should overlook that for now and forgive that, because it is understandable, she is only protecting her territory from an invader.

Like I said, the last thing she expects of you is to take up a fight with her because of the other lady.

By the way, whose side are you? your family or the other lady?, Who is more important to you? Your wife or the other lady?

Nigeria - house of wonders!

Jarus:
Politics: Many e-civil wars have happened there.

Hey Jarus, dont mistake intellectual discourse for e-civil war.

Politics is the most peaceful Section.

[quote author=kind.way link=topic=464771.msg6240306#msg6240306 date=1276882108]@Chaircover and Big_Man,
May be i should have delete the text but the question is why should I be hiding things from my wife. I don't lock my phones, I don't have affairs but I got a lot of friends (male, female, known and unknown to her). We were on the bed about to sleep when the text came in. i wanted to delete it immediately and she insisted that she want to read it. Knowing the kind of person she is, it would have been worse if i delete the text right away. Men Hell will let loose.

I warned her not to, she refused , she even promised not to react. Sincerely I don't think I can trust her words again since the incident.

@Chaircover, I  have tried to give myself some distant from both of them, The wahala is just getting tooo messyyy before U know it, Pastor, Friends has started calling me for private meetings.[/quote]@ Kind.way.

The issue is not about her not trusting you, no woman will feel comfortable knowing there is another woman out there interested in her husband.

I agree she shouldn't have called the other lady, but having done so, what she need now is your support and not your rebuke.

Your wife expects you to take a stand with her against any outsider, please do that, you can correct her later, not now.

As chaircover said, You need to handle this with lots of maturity before it gets out of hand.

Thank you Wip4.

Now I understand clearly why Turkey requires a transit visa to TRNC.

I have used Turkish Airline before to Sao Paulo, transited through Istanbul and I didnt apply for any Turkish transit visa.

But It is understandable why Turkey should request for transit visa going to TRNC, since TRNC has no embassy in Nigeria.

Thanks.

Vicjustice, as much as I agree with you that they are like mosquitoes that keep coming back, we cannot afford to give up.

If we have the space and time lets keep warning people when we read a fraudulent post, even if it is just with a comment.

[quote author=Big-Man link=topic=464691.msg6239112#msg6239112 date=1276871395]@OAM4J - We are all here with different opinions and the essence is for us to learn sometimes disagree to agree. We use our homes as examples for the posters to make his own choice. There is no standard way of making a good home. What works for me may not work for you but if we have different opinions the posters will be advantaged enough to make his own choice.

Most People in NL are experience family people. When a thread is being put up be sure to have more than 10 different opinions sometimes tested opinions. It is left for the Poster to pick the ones that will suit his home since he/she understand his/her spouse. I do make my opinion and not being foolish enough to make it a standard like you said. I can only say what i know. But to have a swipe at someone that make his opinion different from yours is a little bit disrespectful.[/quote]Far be it from me to disrespect you or your opinion. Pls dont misunderstand me, am only making the same point you are making, that one standard does not fit every home.

If I sound disrespectful or make you feel insulted by my comments in any way, pls accept my apology.

Wip4, thank you.

Now I get it, correct me if am wrong. It is not because they are staying at the airport more than 24hrs, it is because they are going to Cyprus i.e if you are going to Cyprus through Turkey you must get Turkish transit visa.

But it is not same if you are transiting through Turkey to other destinations in as much you are connect within 24hrs. Right?


Another question pls. Is there Cyprus embassy in Nigeria? if yes I assume they issue visa to anyone going to Cyprus.

Also, is it only through Turkey someone can travel to Cyprus?

N100B for what project? in how many months?

jmoore:
we know who the liars are? stop getting news from newspaper

Dora Akunyili said that 10 billion was never budgeted by Goodluck Jonathan

But she didnt deny it was presented by Jonathan less than 3 weeks ago as part of the supplementary budget.

Yes, Yardua set up the committee that drew the budget, but Jonathan presented it to the National assembly because he agreed with the budget.

wip4:
ziyaun,

pls help me to tell him again and again ooo so that he should stop confusing people.

Pls Wip4, going to North Cyprus, do you have to wait for more than 24hrs at the airport to connect your flight to North Cyprus?

justwise:
I'm good my brother, thanks for asking.

Some Nigerians are ready to send anybody to hell as long as they will make money out of it.

It nothing but pure wickedness

and they will be the 1st to condemn/blame the government for any/every wrongdoing

@Big Man

I have no problem with the way you conduct the affairs of your home and your family priorities, especially when it is cool with your wife, but don't make it the standard that every family must follow.

If the reason the OP's wife did not cook is not because she was tired or has to do with her brother inlaw's presence, then the OP needs to communicate with his wife and resolve whatever the issue is.

But we must not criminalize a wife for not cooking. For me I would fix dinner for everyone 1st, then find out and resolve whatever it was that caused the kitchen' strike. And am being realistic.


@OP
Does your wife has problem with your brother or any of your relations staying with you?

[quote author=wazobia-ng link=topic=464409.msg6237058#msg6237058 date=1276850743]please check your facts well. if you know how govt works you will know that such budgets could hardly have bee approved recently. it most likely was approved by yar'dua administration. but i am sure the man never knew about it or was fooled into aproving it. That is if it stands fully approved and the funds have been released for disbursement.

govt doesn't work like your pocket. there are processes. i believe the time jonathan came is was too short for that approval.

haba! are you saying that we started preparing for our 50th anniversary just a few months to the even? comon, that budget was approved by yar'dua administration. period.[/quote]You are the one that need to get the facts

The N10b, is part of the supplementary budget that has just been sent to National assembly less than a month ago.

Ten billion naira will be spent by the Federal Government to celebrate the 50th Anniversary of Nigeria’s independence in October. This was the highlight of the N639 billion naira Supplementary Appropriation Bill that President Goodluck Jonathan sent to the National Assembly for approval yesterday. (June 1st, 2010)

http://www.news.dailytrust.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=19850:n10bn-voted-for-50th-year-party&catid=46:lead-stories&Itemid=140

Advantage

* You've got varieties - the spice of life

Disadvantage.

* You will die before your time.

@OP

It is a silly/childish way to get at you, and if you buy it, then she has achieved her aim.

For me, I will just laugh over it - tell her that her friend in the pic is cute (even if ugly),

then get back at her by telling her how nicer and inspiring I think her female best friend is.

She will get my message. Two can play the game 

chaircover:
ha ha ha They have given OAM4J a s.ex change

lol May be in another life, but for now I love me


@ topic

Some African men just need to grow up. If wives now assist their husbands with their financial responsibilities,

nothing stops husbands assisting their wives with some of their domestic responsibilities.

[quote author=kind.way link=topic=464691.msg6236001#msg6236001 date=1276824338]Another example of typical 9ija woman. because of a baby now, there should be no ,ore food gradually it will be no more sex. Women should know what they are in to in marriage. A man can help but not in the kind of insultive way the woman and you are putting it.[/quote]What makes you think am a woman?

lol  Very good.

Good one Justwise.

Orisirisi!

but nothing's wrong if you fix yourself and the entire house a dinner once in a while.

Nursing a little baby can be tasking. Show some understanding.

An old wine in a new wineskin makes no difference.

What is needed is a new wine in a new wineskin.