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WHEN YOU SEE WOMEN FOR WHO THEY ARE.

The more you know women, the harder it gets to love them, not because you hate them but the illusion fades. You no longer see the angel, you see the beast hidden behind the facade of a pretty face and a nice body, you see the manipulation, the performance, the self preservation and survival tactics driven by hypergamy and the lies.
You see that they love nobody but themselves, that they will abandon a man who loves them for a man who provides for them even though he treats them like trash.
Their words mean nothing, their loyalty is conditional, their god is money, their fealty is to whosoever can pay their bills and solve their financial problems.
This is not hate. It's clarity. Once you see it, you cannot unsee it.

it's not easy especially if you come from poor background when there's no help,am facing my own now,it's not easy I repeat🤔

During my first year in the UK, I lived in a large shared apartment with six other people. It was one of those international flats where you learn more about life than you ever expected.

There was a Spanish guy, a Latvian, an Indian-British guy, a Canadian, myself, and two Polish flatmates a young man and a young woman. Everyone had their own room, and we mostly minded our business.

A few months after I moved in, the two Polish flatmates started dating.

They were only 19 years old.

What struck me wasn't the romance. It was the way they approached life together.

Neither of them came from wealthy families. They both worked part-time jobs and were trying to survive on modest incomes. Because they were under 21, they earned less than older workers due to age-based minimum wage rates at the time.

Money was tight.

But every challenge they faced, they faced as a team.

Whenever there was an issue with bills, they didn't come separately. They came together.

"We are a bit short this month."

"We are trying to sort things out."

"We are looking for extra shifts."

It was always "we."

Not "he should."
Not "she should."
Not "that's your responsibility."

Just "we."

I remember hearing conversations like:

"We are saving to get our own place."

"We are trying to manage our finances better."

"We are both looking for additional work."

"I'll pick this up on my way home. Can you handle that?"

Simple things. Normal things. But they revealed something deeper.

These two teenagers understood partnership better than many adults twice their age.

There was no constant battle over who should do what. No endless debates about who owed whom. No scorekeeping.

They simply saw themselves as a team trying to build a life together.

That experience taught me something important:

A successful relationship is not built on age. It is built on mindset.

You can meet people in their thirties who are still looking for someone to carry them through life. And you can meet teenagers who already understand sacrifice, cooperation, and shared responsibility.

A few years later, I noticed something similar with another flatmate.

The Spanish guy was 23 and dating an Indian lady. She owned a car; he didn't.

Every morning she would pick him up for work.

They travelled together to India, Spain, and Italy. From what I could see, they planned and funded their trips as a couple. Nobody was trying to prove a point. Nobody was obsessed with keeping score.

If one person had more at a particular moment, they contributed more. If the other person needed support, they got it.

Again, it was the same mentality:

"We."

Not "me."

Watching people from different cultures taught me that many relationship problems are not really about money. They're about values.

When two people genuinely see themselves as partners, they stop asking, "What can I get from this relationship?"

Instead, they start asking, "How do we make this work?"

That's one reason some Nigerians who date abroad often talk about how different the experience feels. For some, it's the first time they've been in a relationship where commitment, teamwork, and shared responsibility are genuinely practised every day.

But the truth is, you don't need to leave Nigeria to find that.

Good relationships are not a foreign concept.

They exist anywhere two people have the right values, respect each other, and are willing to build together instead of constantly competing with each other.

At the end of the day, love is less about finding the perfect person and more about finding someone who believes that life is something both of you should carry together.

sacajawea:
Need link to that Thread some years ago, where the guy slept with a Older woman cleaner from his Office. A much older woman.
Bank office I think.
Randomly.
His mind just randomly jsut went to that and he did her several times.
An Unlikely chuku chuki. Very d. sociopathic guy.

If you remember what I'm talking about, reply me.

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* When choosing a woman who works outside the home, you have to accept that she can't handle the house.🏡

*If you have chosen a housewife who can take care of you and fully manage your household, you have to accept that she is not earning money.💰

* If you choose an #obedient woman, you must accept that she depends on you and you must ensure her life.✊🏾

* If you decide to be with a #strong woman, you have to accept that she is tough and she has her own opinion.🗣️

* If you choose a beautiful #woman , then you will sometimes have to accept big expenses and have to battle jealousy 😁

* If you decide to be with a #successful woman, you must understand that she has character and has her own goals and ambitions.👏

There are no such things as perfect. Everyone has their own riddle, which makes us unique.✅

Think about it.

As a young person, make sure the money you earn comes from creating value to a person, organisation or society.

Getting money for nothing is a set up for long term problems. Don't fall for it.

So when you are writing your cover letter for the next job application, study the company and let them know value you bring to the table.

When you are talking to your future spouse, remind him/her the value you are bringing to the table.

I am rooting for you. God bless you🙏

Lol, I knew he is insecure but dont wanna type much. Tell your insecure friend that cheating is not about living alone.

But is one of the attributes to cheat

The more spreading of Islam in Nigeria the more sorrow, panicked,& tears in the Nation,you never see anything yet

kpankpangolo:
This is why I knack them without mercy. The ones I want in my life always disappoint me.

Others decisions shouldn't be your problems now, respect others decisions as you want your own to be respected

There are two lessons you must never forget in life.
#1. Never marry a single mother.
#2. Never forget lesson #1.

Everything a woman does is intentional.
Yes, even when she's ignoring you.

Men confuse silence with confusion.
Women use silence as communication.
If she didn't mean it, she wouldn't do it.

Ignoring you is not accidental.
Forgetting to reply is not accidental.
Pulling back is not accidental.
Attention doesn't disappear.
It's reallocated.

When a woman wants a man, she finds reasons.
When she doesn't, she finds excuses.
Both are deliberate.

A woman who's interested moves toward you.
A woman who's unsure moves inconsistently.
A woman who's done moves away, quietly.

Men ask,
"Did I do something wrong?"
The real question is,
"Did her interest drop?"
Because behavior follows interest, not explanations.

Silence is not confusion.
Distance is not mystery.
Coldness is not shyness.
They are decisions made without words.

Women don't ignore men they desire.
They ignore men they've deprioritized.
No emotion required.
Just hierarchy.

That's why chasing never works.
You can't negotiate desire.
You can't argue someone into interest.
You can only observe behavior.

If she wanted to talk to you, she would.
If she wanted to see you, she'd make it easy.
Confusion is the answer.

Stop asking women to explain.
Start watching what they do.
Because everything a woman does is intentional.
Especially the silence.

All what am teaching you i learned it in hard way.

If you beg people for help, 4 things will happen.

1. They will start avoiding you like a plague.
2. When people start avoiding you, you become a liability,
3. When people see you as a liability, they will never give you opportunity or open doors for you.
4. When people don't give you opportunity, you will not be able to exchange value for money and you will be broke.

Stop begging people.

A WOMAN WHO CANNOT BE TRUSTED.

A woman who has not conquered greed cannot be trusted.
A woman who does not make her own money cannot be trusted.
A woman who has no direction for her life cannot be trusted.
An angry and bitter woman is dangerous and cannot be trusted.
A woman who is not loyal to your you or committed to your cause cannot be trusted.
A woman who leans on a man for financial support and assistance cannot be trusted.
A woman who is surrounded by many men cannot be trusted.
A woman who is always travelling cannot be trusted.
A woman who doesn't invest in her man and the relationship cannot be trusted.
A broke woman cannot be trusted.
A woman who is always complaining about what you do for her and is never satisfied cannot be trusted.
A woman who compares her man to other men cannot be trusted.
A woman who does not receive your instructions, correction and direction cannot be trusted.
A woman who disrespects you cannot be trusted and should not be with you.
A woman who is arrogant and condescending, who thinks she's doing you a favour, will betray you and she cannot be trusted.
A woman with a high body count belongs in the streets and cannot be trusted.
A woman who leaves you for another man and wants to return to you is a treacherous b@st@rd and should not be allowed ro return. She cannot be trusted.
#relationships

THE WOLF NEVER WANTED THE ARGUMENT

A Wolf And A Lamb Meet At A Stream. Not As Enemies. As Neighbors Sharing Water. The Wolf Is Higher Up The Brook. The Water Runs From Him To Her. Still, He Accuses. “You Muddy My Water.”

The Lamb Answers Gently. She Is Correct. Physics Is On Her Side. The Water Cannot Flow Upward.

The Accusation Collapses Instantly.

So The Wolf Replaces It. “I Heard You Spoke Ill Of Me Last Year.”

The Lamb Explains Again. She Is Six Months Old. She Did Not Exist Last Year.

Another Charge Fails.

So The Wolf Stops Pretending To Care About Truth. “If It Was Not You, It Was Your Father.”

And With That, The Argument Ends. The Teeth Appear. The Lamb Is Eaten.

This Story Is Not About Cruelty. It Is About Power.

The Wolf Never Wanted An Explanation. He Wanted A Justification. Each Accusation Was Not A Question But A Stepping Stone Toward An Outcome Already Decided.

This Is The Pattern Predators Follow:
They Accuse First.
Then Adjust The Accusation Until Resistance Looks Like Guilt.

Facts Do Not Matter When The Other Side Controls Consequences.

The Lamb’s Mistake Was Not Weak Speech. It Was Misreading The Situation. She Thought She Was In A Dispute. She Was In A Selection Process.

When Someone Benefits From Your Destruction, Your Innocence Becomes Irrelevant. Your Logic Becomes Decorative.

Predatory Power Uses Morality As Camouflage. It Frames Hunger As Justice. Violence As Principle.

Notice The Escalation:
When Evidence Fails, History Is Invented.
When History Fails, Bloodline Is Blamed.
When Language Fails, Force Is Applied.

This Is Why Reason Does Not Save You From Someone Who Has Already Chosen To Harm You.

The Wolf Did Not Win Because He Was Right. He Won Because He Was Strong In A System Where Strength Writes The Verdict.

The Lesson Is Uncomfortable And Therefore Ignored: Never Argue With Someone Who Does Not Need To Be Right To Hurt You.

Do Not Try To Be Understood By Those Who Are Looking For Permission To Consume You.

In A World Of Wolves, Correctness Is Not Protection.

Power Is.
Courtesy: Modern Machiavelli.

Single Lady,

1. First and most importantly, you must understand that unless you are married to him, he is NOT yet your man. He is in 'the public domain.' Any woman can take him away from you at any time.
2.Your goal is to get him committed to YOU alone.
3. Employ your gifts, beauty, intelligence and spirituality to make him yours.
4. It isn't complex, this man likes you for a reason. Discover it and build on it.
5. You don't want money, sex, or a good time. You want marriage.
6. When you get married to him, you will have money, sex and a good time. Stay focused.
7. The sooner you 'wrap things up', the better for you.
8. The wise woman-like Ruth-knows what she wants and makes it happen.

1.33+ vvomen who’ve hit the wall but still think they deserve the world.


2.Feminists who believe submission is slavery but still want your money.


3.Singo modas looking for an innocent man to clean up another man’s mess.


4.Ashawo hoocupists who have been passed around like a football but still call themselves “queens.”


5.Non-virgins who have given everything away and now want you to pay full price for a used product.


6.vvomen with long relationship CVs — three, four, five exes deep — and they still claim “men are the problem.”


7.Rude, unsubmissive fine girls who mistake disrespect for strength and arrogance for confidence, follow Greatihe and Nwakpataraku.

Sermons over!

He asked her to sign a prenuptial agreement, she said: "if you loved me you would trust me with all you have." He said: "I trust you with my heart, but I want to protect the wealth I built before I met you." Never trust a broke woman with your wealth.

HOW WOMEN THINK: Older woman wants younger man= preference. Older man wants younger woman = predator.
Woman wants to be dominant= empowerment.
Man wants submission= misogyny

Men, do you think a woman tells you everything that happens to her, the men she meets, who flirt with her, who want her? But you tell her everything that happens to you because of 'transparency.' You are an idi@t.

WOMAN, YOUR BEAUTY WILL FAIL YOU.
I shall explain.
You see, because you are physically attractive you use your beauty to get things from men. Instead of developing skillsets you can use to create value in the marketplace and make money, you depend on your pretty face, boobs and yansh.

But there are three problems with this.
1. Not every man will want you for sex because you are nit their type.
2. Those men want value and not sex.
3. Your beauty will fade. More beautiful women will replace you.

If you want to create value until your 60's-70's, you should develop high value skillsets that you can use to deliver value and make money.

“Charm is deceptive, beauty does not last, but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.”
Proverbs 31:30

The New Tiktok SCAM against MEN, BEWARE!

STEP ONE (1)

The host will put vvomen they have connection with, those vvomen will pretend to be single and searching, the host will then announce that if there is any man on the live broadcast who is single and he is interested in any of the ladies should send request to be matched with the lady wants. This is where the trap begins!

STEP TWO (2)

One of them men on the live stream will send in a request, the host will bring the man up to be in the box, the host will ask him his occupation, location and the rest of KYC questions, the man will answer, the host will then ask him if he is single and searching, ofcourse he would say yes and the host will ask him which of the ladies he is interested in,

The man will indicate, host will ask him to check her out and ask the lady picked to check the man out, after checking each other out, the host will ask the lady if she is feeling him. Behold, if the guy is broke she will say no she is not feeling him, if he looks rich she'll say she is feeling him, then the host will ask them to talk to each other, after few seconds of chat, the host will tell the man before he will allow him go with his new found babe, he should send money to support the live stream, in some cases the host will ask the two of them to send something to support the livestream.

Here is where the man will fall victim!

STEP THREE (3) the masterstroke and closure!

The lady will ask the host to drop account in comment section with confidence, the host will do so, then the girl will pretend she doesn't have much but she will support with the little she can, on the process she will claim her bank app is not opening requesting to do it in the morning or afternoon but the host will disagree, he will say "unless your new man" will pay for you.

That's a set up!

The fuulish man will go ahead to blow away his money, the host will then ask viewers to congratulate them in comments, after that the host will remove their two but mind you, the girl in question will never get serious with the man, it's a game, it's an organised crime.

If you return to that livestream in the next one hour or next day ir next week you will see that same girl in the box claiming to be single and searching, this will go on and on, that is how they use it to make money off unsuspecting men now, vvomen are doing this mostly, some men have joined them to exploit rich simps that lacks what to do with their money, be very careful out there, don't be a victim.

Remember, the younger the better the older the damage, Follow Indiscov on 𝕏 @iamindiscov.

Sermons over!

Men, giving a woman more money will not make her happy. It will make her dependent on you financially. It is not your duty nor responsibility to make a woman happy. She's not a child you have to give treats to please. She's an adult, responsible for her own happiness.

Men, do not tell a woman your secrets.
It doesn't matter how much you love her, don't tell her your secrets.

Samson told Delilah his secrets. She used those secrets to betray him to his enemies and they destroyed him.

Before you trust her with your secrets, test her and make sure she has strong character and can keep her mouth shut where and when it matters most.

When a woman does not have her way she gets angry, she wants to destroy and burn everything down. As long as she's in charge she's happy but if she's not, she's sad. You see, for many women it was never about love. It was about control. They want to find a senseless donkey who will do as they please. Don't be that donkey.

If a woman has ten enemies, nine of them will be women.
Women who envy her beauty, her brilliance, her relationship, her marriage, her career and her success.
Women who feel inferior to her and have made it their life purpose to pull her down.

Some of you are Christians but in practice you are superstitious and fatalistic pagans. You believe whatever happens, 'is god's will.'
Don't be an idiot.
You have agency. You have the power to determine your own destiny.
You set causes and outcomes in motion by your choices.

When you ought to speak up for yourself, you wait on god.
When you ought to take action to protect yourself, you wait on god.
When you ought to choose the right leaders in your nation, you wait on god.
Take responsibility.
God won't do what you have power to do for yourself.

A woman makes poor choices in relationships and ends up damaged. She tells you: "if you love me you will stay with me." No. It is not your responsibility to suffer for the consequences of her stupidity and bad choices.

THE STRANGE NORMALS WE CALL ABNORMALITIES

There are certain things in life that look normal because we have seen them for too long, but when you pause, reflect, and think deeply, you realize they are not normal at all. They are abnormalities that society has dressed up as wisdom, tradition, or “the way things are.” The danger is not in the abnormalities themselves, but in how easily we accept them without questioning. A thinking mind must always ask: Does this truly make sense?

One strange abnormality is our obsession with certificates. In many societies, certificates are presented as the ultimate proof of intelligence and success. Yet, when you look closely, certificates seem to serve the poor more than the wealthy. Hardly can you find a graduate who becomes a billionaire strictly because of his degree. Education is valuable, yes, but when certificates replace thinking, creativity, and courage, they become chains rather than keys. Many people are educated yet helpless, qualified yet dependent, certified yet confused about life.

Another abnormality is the belief that salary earners get wealthy. Most salary earners do not build wealth; they only earn enough to survive. Their income is fixed, their time is sold, and their dreams are postponed till retirement. A salary often pays bills, not visions. This does not mean earning a salary is wrong, but it becomes abnormal when people believe it is the highest financial destination rather than a starting point.

A third abnormality appears strongly in religion. Only in religion will a leader with no formal education or professional experience confidently teach and instruct a PhD holder on how to live life. Wisdom is important, but wisdom without learning, exposure, or accountability can easily turn into control. Knowledge should inspire humility, not unquestioned authority.

Closely related is another religious abnormality: someone who has never been married teaching married people how marriage should work. Advice is valuable, but experience matters. You cannot fully explain a road you have never walked. Theory without lived reality often sounds spiritual but lacks practical depth.

Another abnormality is how society glorifies suffering as a badge of honor. People are taught that pain automatically produces greatness. While challenges can build strength, unnecessary suffering is not a virtue. Struggling endlessly without improvement is not destiny; it is often a sign that something needs to change.

There is also the abnormality of age-based wisdom. We assume older people are wiser simply because they are older. Age gives exposure, but wisdom comes from reflection, learning, and correction. Some people grow old without ever growing wise.

Another strange normal is how noise is mistaken for intelligence. The loudest voice in the room is often assumed to be the smartest. Calm thinkers, deep observers, and quiet innovators are overlooked because they do not shout. Yet history shows that transformation often begins in silence.

We also live in a world where busyness is mistaken for productivity. People are always busy, always tired, yet rarely fulfilled. Activity without direction is exhaustion, not progress. Being busy is not the same as being effective.

Another abnormality is how failure is treated as disgrace instead of feedback. People hide mistakes instead of learning from them. Yet every meaningful success story is built on lessons learned from failure. Fear of failure has destroyed more dreams than failure itself.

There is also the abnormality of outsourcing thinking. People allow culture, religion, family, or social media to think for them. They repeat opinions they have never examined and defend beliefs they do not understand. A life not personally examined is a life easily controlled.

Another strange normal is how morality is preached but not practiced. Society celebrates words more than actions. Integrity is admired in speeches but compromised in daily life. Values become slogans instead of standards.

Finally, there is the abnormality of measuring success by appearance rather than substance. Cars, clothes, titles, and followers are used to judge worth, while character, peace of mind, and impact are ignored. A life that looks successful but lacks meaning is one of the saddest contradictions.

These abnormalities persist because they are familiar. They feel safe. But growth begins when we question what everyone else accepts. A healthy society is not one without abnormalities, but one where people are brave enough to think, reflect, and choose truth over comfort.

Men, there are 4 women you must avoid if you want peace in your life. 1. A woman who disrespects you. 2. A financial vampire and parasite. 3. An angry and bitter woman. 4. A single mother. Avoid them all.

Men, remember this: no man can steal your woman, they can only steal your problems. That woman has been cheating on you. The man who took her from you did you a favour, because he delivered you from a treacherous b@st@rd