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Bro wedding is just an event...plan for your marriage...hw you want it to be and all.....invest that money forget ceremony....if u must marry... do am lowkey....no waste that money....

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

Age doesn't matter in a relationship.....that's not what you should consider...

1. Fear of the lord
2. Intelligence
3. Character
4. Appearance
Then Compatibility

Forget age difference but wait patiently... let her learn skills so as to be supportive... might affect you in the future.

Well the bitter truth is that..u should surrender your entire life to Jesus... he's a saviour, redeemer and deliverer... he's the only one that can help you...psychiatric hospital can't do nothing...it's the battle of the mind and it's beyond psychologist power because you're influenced by demonic spirit that are very keen on destroying lifes. It's only people that are enlightened and matured spiritually that can understand....it's a spiritual thing.

They're sham believer, and she's not the only one... many people are Satan's minion pretending like angel of light.

Tell them pls. Its a very sweet experience

galadima77:
Spiritual Awakening

I'm a living testimony. My life is a prove. Also evidence is everywhere. Accept christ and surrender your life to him... you'll be a living testimony too.
Note: u can't serve two masters... u can't be a demonized person hunting for demons and say you're serving God. It won't work.

ChybuzzDD:
These are stuffs you learnt; you have nothing to prove they're real.

Louder please.

Maysdevices:
Read Proverbs with an open mind and you will understand the difference between Wisdom and the friendship of God

It is Wisdom people try to look for when they’re seeking God and not His presence or friendship, Wisdom that is present in every man but is rejected until they fall into a ditch. When you look for her, she will disappear and even mock you

You will never see wisdom when you search for wisdom if you rejected her young, not God almighty. He is always with every man evil or good, watching your steps carefully to judge you at the end of your life

God’s presence and friendship is another matter. He is a King sprit and comes when He wants to come, even when He loves you. Fast for 200days and He might come on day 1 or Day 200

Most do not desire it because it is impossible for the majority of human beings to keep God’s laws and are not His Children in the spirit, they just want guidance to succeed in this world at all cost

True my brother.
Nothing else. If u know you know

salvation77177:
Salvation and deliverance in the name of Jesus.

Na you they spew rubbish....na wetin he talk b true. U no knw cos u be captive

ChybuzzDD:
They don come
Una go always find excuses and reasons to defend things that don't exist.

Well said...let them come if they like... if you're covered with blood of the lamb... they can't do nothing.

Allthingswork:
The answer to the emboldened texts lies in the premise of the dark forces only being used to persecute, afflicte and go after the seeds of Jacob (the ones who the dragon came down to earth to, with great anger in his heart )
It's a mystery, for those who understand mysteries. Satan doesn't waste his arsenal on those who God doesn't view as redeemable, as His heirs, and as a threat to exposing his (Satan's kingdom's) lies.

I know they'll come for my head after this comment. LoL

Lol... God is a living God... he's even more than it's written... if you dnt see him when you need him.. he's talking to you.. u're not just hearing. Brother no response is also a response. Check yourself before posting something like this next time. Proverbs 28:9 says God detests the prayers of a person who ignores the law..
If you're not obedient to his law and command. You'll think there's no God. He created you for a purpose...so u have no choice than to obey or face the consequences because you don't create yourself.
Isaiah 1:15 _When you lift up your hands in prayer, I will not look. Though you offer many prayers, I will not listen, for your hands are covered with the blood.
So brother think deeply and evaluate yourself or ask saved people to help you do that.. find out where and how you're disobeying God

Brother i am a living testimony also evidences dey everywhere

ChybuzzDD:
You'll never see him when you look for him.

Humans are just pretending that he exists and are afraid to say he doesn't exist.

If u believe it's true...ask Jesus directly. The bible says knock and d door will b open. Dont agree it's true so u can beg for money

Spursy:
Its true.
I have no hope of survival today.
Can u help pls?

If you obey God's law and command in choosing life partner... you'll have peace of mind because she'll be loyal and trustworthy no matter how pretty she is. Not because of you but because she fears the lord

Salvation.....no matter how you show or tell them about freedom... they will be spewing nonsense because they're captive in spiritual bondage.
Nobody can understand till you have experiential knowledge. No matter how old or educated are you.

If your reason is because of the situation of the country like u said....it's a sin because that's lack of faith.... God will punish u for doubting his promises... he promise to provide our needs divinely....
Your reason is external needs...Remember the bible says we should seek the kingdom of God and it's righteousness and everything else (external needs like shelter food clothing etc) will be added to us...the lord knows we need those things..and he's faithful to provide....so why worry...
But if it's because of internal need which is getting acquainted with God intimately...fulfilling his purposes...and obeying completely

That's a reasonable excuse that glorifies the lord

Well the truth is if u're confused about this and needs people opinion before deciding or choose your partner.. u're a sham believer (canal christian) Sorry if this hurt you but it's a bitter truth.... A believer is someone that have great faith in God... u believe he is a living God because you understand and knows him.. You're aware that he's a merciful God, full of glory that loves you unconditionally. So as a believer you love him and depend on him for everything whatsoever... But the only way to confirm you love and believe him is to be obedient to his word (his commands, laws & everything). ...Now remember his word says in

2 Corinthians 6:14 -Do not be yoked together with those who do not believe. For what partnership is there between righteousness and lawlessness? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?

Again in Proverbs 27:17
As iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens and influences another.
(This highlights the important truth that people affect one another, remember the person you're confused about is a bad influence)

Furthermore in Amos 3:3
Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?
(This offers a powerful reminder that unity is not something that should be taken for granted in relationships. It requires effort, understanding, and a genuine desire to walk together in harmony with the logos & rhema word of God.

Now consider what God says in Proverbs 28:9-
God detests the prayers of a person who ignores the law. (Proverbs 28:4 -Those who forsake instruction praise the wicked, but those who heed it resist them.

If you marry that kind of person God says he'll detest your prayer if anything happens to you along the way which will surely happen.... so Obey God completely not partially...believers are not allowed to marry unbeliever....
Unbeliever is unbeliever... the one you define as uncalled are simple and slow fools, they're dangerously immature, extremely gullible, and intensely curious & open and receptive to good or bad influences. while the ones you called direct satanic minion are scornful and steadfast fool... so a fool is a fool...
Dont marry a fool.

That's what happens when you're blind spiritually....you will believe all devil's lie.

That's the only solutions to the current situation of the country....people are soulish believers...pretending as if they are serving God...but secretly they belongs to satanic kingdom. . We can identify from Isaiah 59:1–2 that when we sin, we separate ourselves from God. We read in Isaiah 59:3–4, 7 that the people had committed sins such as lying, having evil thoughts, idolatry, and shedding innocent blood. Isaiah likens being separated from God to the loss of light and to blindness.....

It's very hard to find people that are truly hungry and thirsty for righteousness in this cruel world...very rare

If you see one....people prefer to be persecuting him/her instead of imitate his lifestyle...

There's no hidden place for anyone at all......it's either you win or perish.....it's a matter of choice....and u only have the opportunity to decide now that you're alive
.. confess and forsake ur sin and win or remain obstinate, disobey your creator and perish

The only way is to stay away from unbelievers....the bible warns that as a believer u shouldn't yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common, or what fellowship can light have with darkness.....so d only possible way is obey God's commandment and avoid sham believers by all means

Yes.....bt it depend on ur partner.....partner can make or Mar your life..so u have to be careful whom you associate with....the bible says in proverb 27:17 that iron sharpen iron...so one persons sharpen another.

Read romams 7 frm verse 15.....many pple are sham believers....just faking perfection....bt unfortunately they can't control their mind because they re captive.....they hv no choice than to please satan
.

He might call himself a pastor.....but who is his God before we can call him a Christian...life is freaking full of fake people.
....he's a sham believer...it's not surprising though....many people nowadays belongs to satanic kingdom secretly but faking perfection

U're demonic possessed........reborn ur spirit and renew ur mind with d word of God....Then becareful
Say d truth.....u're serving another God secretly.
..d reason u're lying for no reason even when u dnt want to is in romans 7

It's idolatry.....Those people are sham believers.....just faking it

It's idolatry.......Those people are sham believers.......just faking it.....u can't serve two God....it's impossible

Seek knowledge......bn intelligent academically doesn't make someone intelligent financially......u hv to learn hw to increase ur financial IQ.....Financial education is d only solution to ur problem

There are so many lucrative businesses u can start with that amount.....if u wait till u save up to a million naira....u might not start anything forever because of procrastination and ignorance...
Start with what u have where u are......d first thing to consider is your location....do your market survey yourself before starting anything....make a move...do not wait for pple to give u ideas..
..our locations and demand are different

God liveth and will forever be....most people have forgotten God unconsciously because of their rebellious act.

We are spirit that owns a computer(soul/mind) living in your body....
So after u Reborn your spirit u still need to renew ur soul and keep your body under subjection.

Soul can be most dangerous enemy if we allow it to stay unrenew......
U don't renew it that's why u sin unconsciously again

They're plenty.....u jst hv to wait patiently because life is full of fake people..u can contact me if u need one ....am a marriage counselor.

If the person isn't qualify.,... there's nothing like relatives at work....educate them