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Heart2Heart Post about women.

1. If she flinches when you try to put your arm
around her…someone else’s hands once wasn’t too
sweet.

2. If she's full of questions, someone else lied to
her in the past. Be patient with her.

3. If she's secretive and doesn’t tell you things
outright, someone else once betrayed her trust.
Prove to her you wont do the same.

4. If she suspects every move you make, someone
else wasn't transparent with her. Be different. Be
transparent with her

5. If she's cold, distant and hostile with people
she's just meeting and even sometimes with you,
chances are someone ABUSED her in the past.
She's a victim of abuse like RAPE. She's still
hurting.

6. If she’s clingy and possessive, someone once
hurt and dumped her. She's scared of being
abandoned again. Assure her of your love.

7. If she's playing hard to get, someone in her
past once treated her like a doormat. She just
want to be sure you are real.

8. If she's sneaks and wants to know all about
you, someone wasn't straight with her. Assure her
you are different. Talk to her.

LESSON GUYS: Behind every difficult and
complicated girl who Is scared to love freely is a
girl is tired of being hurt and broken. Be patient
with her.

PS, it is a two way street, same goes for guys plus there are exceptions

Dis olodo shud go n rest, mtcheew
GMB n his love 4 power shaa *smh*

Over the years, I've discovered that the thought of marriage scares the hell out of some folks. I realised, it's not like they don't fantasize about it like many other people but perhaps that's the problem. I don't blame them, personally I haven't quite wrapped my head around the idea of marriage and its purpose. Being a perfectionist I am, I always believe in all or nothing. I mean, if you are gonna do it, do it well! Until recently, I never imagined someone being scared of LOVE till I met Jared whose conceptions about love are beginning to threaten my own believes. Two girlfriends ago, I used to believe that I can love anybody once love smiled on me. so far, that has worked out just fine but now, a lot of things are beginning to shake that belief and that scares the hell outta me.
I'm in a close relationship with somebody but something keeps causing me to withhold myself. I've searched thoroughly and the only thing I could figure was the idea of giving someone power over my feelings...and that sends chills down my spine.

Please, dont just read but also share what makes you scared of love

4give me Op, I tot it was d oda way round

demisig:
can d gods do questions and answer ni?

Anoda question 4 d gods! Omo all d gods 4 una villa don travel 4 xmas?

AdeniyiA:
do the gods get married?

Question 4 d gods

Seriously, I'm gonna drop dis comment at d risk of soundin like an 'ITK', but ah dnt give a damn!
I don believe in d teaching of a geh tellin a guy u love him buh I alwez say, dia r a million ways a geh can warm up 2 a guy n if he's interested, believ me, he wil notice u n corner u

kristina1:
Btw,what if they dnt return the feelings??

Is dat ur fear?

Tem! 4 u Op
Na type u sidon type all dis tin? I comot cap 4 u jare...nice Voice though *thumbs up*

Lol @

chimerase2:
Op ur mumu is in small letters

Omo, u wicked o!

Don't sweat it bro, any lady dat doesn't get d normal gist dat flows naturally from u its probably not ur type ...keep calm n also keep an open eye...I'm sure ladies who'd b happy 2 hang wit u r somwia in d neighbourhood

kristina1:
Hmm

Wat! Beta say it or 4eva remain silent. Or r u shy?

story 4 d gods

*spreads mat*
When u have a temptation, share wit us n we'll b glad 2 help

Wateva u do, dnt date all of dem...u hav 2 make a choice, unless sey u b OLIVER TWIST like D'banj

Being shy isn't a crime, dont hate yourself 4 it rather embrace it and ppl wil luv u 4 it.
Buh in d meantime, u can manage Godmother's advice

kozaic:
U knw na...(Hugging on duty)

Hehehe, lol @hugging on duty, dat 1 na crime again? Shey u b police ni wey dey get suspect

maclatunji:
Stop hugging women all over the place.

Lmfao, omo no b my fault sey d ladies dey gbadu my style nah...hahaha. Buh since wey u don talk like dis, anyone wey wan hug me, I go direct am 2 u deal?

kozaic:
Am suspecting u already.

4 wat nah?

alutacontinua:
He's a doctor. He has to use his white coat.
But then again, op, you should have removed your coat when you were about to leave work, abi this na one of dem stories

Hehehe, tank u my guy, regardin d ward coat matter, I don learn dat lesson 2day -

zeb04:
my ex will ask why you are smelling differently

Babes, tank God u said 'ex' cos dat 1 na real detective...lols

Chillisauce:
Nothing new to that. I still drop some sef for peoples clothe and skin.
Not only lipstick, my foundation, loose powder sometimes dey join follow.
e remain make my lash fall leave themselves on my huggers.
since there is always hugs and peck, expect to catch some ingredients .

Lmfao, I must have met ur type 2day
Hw do u guys secretly plant doz stains witout our knowledge? Pls I nid 2 knw

Now, I am a full believer of the popular maxim "experience is the best teacher". I'm about to share what just happened to me this morning, this isn't one of the conventional stories you read on NL...but don't just read, get the moral to the gist.
Okay, this morning I woke up, totally unaware of what laid ahead. As a single man, it didn't take me long to freshen up and jump into my car for work. In the hospital, I quickly did my rounds as there were no much patients in the wards. I must have hugged a few of my colleagues at work and played with some even, totally oblivious to the fact that I've picked something. It wasn't until I got home, just a few minutes before writing this piece that I met another friend and colleague of mine who shared my apartment. Being a typical me, always jovial and friendly, we hugged and started exchanging pleasantries. Only halfway into the gist, she looked sternly to my shoulder and was like "hmmm, my friend! Where did you pick up this?" With utter confusion and surprise, I looked and there it was - the lipstick stain! It was like the classical ones you see in sensual movies, red, shimmering and well etched to my white clinical suit. By now, you could see pure agitation all over me, I wasn't sure where it came from. In my defence, I looked straight into my friends eyes and quickly put the blame on her 'cause frankly, she was wearing a similar make up. (Witty of me, right? *winks*)
We continued our discussion but it was then that it dawned on me, my mind had strayed from that place, I was lost in my thoughts. What if I was married? What if she was my wife? Where did I get this stain? How the hell did a lady plant that on me? ...these were questions that ravaged my curious mind.
After I've had time to think, I realised that this same thing had broken marriages in the past, it had even caused some to commit murder and/or suicide. The truth is, as much as possible, we should try not to take things at face value, there might be an explanation to queer things. This might be hard particularly when all evidence points accusing fingers, but we can at least try to be reasonable, especially ladies.
Mostly, on my part, I've learnt a lot from this experience and will be more careful in the future

RELEVANCE...such a big word!
Relevance as we know it can be likened to a cup of water taken from sea...it's not even qualified to be given a percentage let alone be tagged part of the main deal. I'm no good with words, let alone embellishment but hopefully I'm better at analogies. Say in the jungle, take out the grass and you might have wrought great imbalance or in the marine world, tamper with the planktons, well, the rest is story for the marine biologist. Don't get it twisted, our world, yes, the human world is more or less similar to any other population on earth...even the 'least' of us have such great relevance that can never be suffocated even though most of us are oblivious to it. The truth is that, we confuse relevance with value, this shouldn't be. Though both may intersect at some point, it doesn't mean they are the same. A number of stuff in our lives are very relevant but ignorance and its cohorts have so much formed scales(crusts even) over our eyes that we are nothing short of blind. Let's discuss the consensus relevant things in life; air, water, food. These are not argued because they are percieved by many as crucial to life thus adjudged as relevant. Okay, what about the man who mends your shoes or fixes your home? What about the lady who dresses your kids up for school, makes your meal, etc? In my experience, these people are as relevant as the man who hired you, though they are not in the same league. Okay, enough of that, like I said earlier, I'm not good at this stuff. Still, I'd like to discuss value, the one we are so much familiar with. Let me start with the most popular material all over the world - money! Yes, money! We all know the major characteristic of money is that it has value. Infact, the value of money can't be over-emphasised but it might surprise you to know that its relevance doesn't match that premium value.
The word relevance simply put just means 'what matters' and what matter in this world are conditional, only one is constant - God.
Food is relevant to a hungry man but not to a drowning person(and so is water at this point)
Air is very important but not when fire is ravaging your certificates.
You may crave fire when you are a farmer looking to burn a vast plain that has been fallowed but not when you are a posh lady with a singed Brazilian hair.
Your father might be Dangote but you won't expect him to mend your shoes or drive your to school.
Your mum might be Dora(RIP) but she can't mop your Dorm room in school.
I believe I have made my point, which is...EVERYBODY IS RELEVANT...to what degree I may not be able to tell...so when next you are about to treat the next person like trash, remember this!
Cause without them, you'd be doing doing exactly what they did/do for you

NaNaYaaah:
Yea..im a student

in dat case, na only u waka come o

Op, omo tell ur abo.ki make im port sharp sharp...dia r lots of girls out dat wey dey ready 2 die on top im matter

Op, r u a LEARNER!!!!

Question 4 d gods

Question 4 d gods