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Adegbenro7643:
Dear Nairalanders,
I don't even know where exactly to start from, as the issue is so pressing.
I have a brother who is 38 years old now but his behaviours seem to be too inferior to that of a normal under 18 guy. Almost everyone in our family (nuclear) seems to have had enough of his foolish & childish attitudes. As Yoruba adage would say, “Ọmọ ẹni kì í burú títí, ká fi fún ẹkùn pajẹ ” – “One’s child cannot be bad to the extent of throwing him/her to the Leopard to devour”. They now let him be; only praying to God for divine & better transformation. Listed below are some things about him:

1. He is still living with our mother in a house which was built by our elder brother. Although the owner does not live there. He was living at his rented place before the completion of the building & he turned a deaf ear to every advice given to stop him from moving into the house. We all know he'd become more lazy if he does not have to pay for rent any longer.

2. He does not take his job (panel beating) so serious at all. This brother could be so funny; as he would prefer staying home & watching TV shows whenever there's light. On his way to shop, he would sometimes return home if he hears "Up Nepa". He gives customers different excuses on phone.

3. People regret helping him to secure any job as his attitude towards the job would look as if you are only forcing the job on him. I think one's commitment to the work helps to keep the job. How do people help you to keep your job?

4. He has no plan for marriage at all. Well, I have started pitying his future wife because he's not disciplined at all. None of my sisters prays to have his like as a husband. I strongly pray he changes for better before getting married.

5. His eating habit is so disgusting. He lacks table manner too much. Imagine a person of that age licking a leaf after unwrapping moimoi. Does being an artisan take manners away? No

6. He loves attending parties. He's the only one, among the siblings, who loves social life beyond normal. He has no savings. Some of his friends are also sick of his unruly attitudes to work. I know many of his friends (co-artisans) who have made it from same work.

Just to mention few,,,,
They have seated him down & talked sense into his ears but he would not heed.
And to himself, he's so wise. What grieves me so much is that he does not seem regretful at all. Apart from people who do not really know him, I think he only has my respect as my elder brother. Please,,,, how do we save him from self-destructive habits?

Maybe PMB is referring to this brother of mine

GrammarNazi1, I hope you do your work here too,,,,

. Many people suffer such in Nigeria. He needs rehab. It is brain something. Your brother is a victim of mental health. Unfortunately, we are yet to get to that level here

fallout87:
Why is he brought to a court in Lokoja when his case is in Abuja?

This kind of destruction of democracy being witnessed under Buhari... the levels of power abuse and corruption haven't been seen since Abacha smh.

You are lazy. You just commented on what you don't know just to get plenty likes

NOC1:
For what crime? You people just open your mouth like a running tap and speak rubbish.
If Obasanjo who tactically supervised the Udi massacre did not face your ICC on what grounds are you charging Buhari?
In a sane word he Dino will first visit the rehab and then face the consequences of his juvenile actions.

Please don't bother to explain anything to these people again.
Let them get all the likes they want to get on nairaland.
There is different between reality and getting likes on nairaland

midolian:
Thought as much

Even if the lady, the pastor and the camera man are mad, the entire congregation shouldnt be that mad to watch all these happen..

But even its a movie, why would a mature lady, probably mother allow another man remove her pant to entertain people?

That is not her original pant. There was original pant and a short or tight on it and the pant you are seeing is just a mere deceit

Chascop:
I leave you to face your Buhari and your Naija the way you want.

I just dash you like sha. Please manage it

Omololu2121:
Bayelsa state has no business with poverty with the sort of revenue they earn and few population.
I don't think they are up to 2.5m,the ijaws in bayelsa would have been living like kings and queens if they start voting in the right people

Who are the right people? Even almost all of them the electorates are bad. So right people can't get there unless he does the wrong thing first.

They are enemies of themselves

soberdrunk:
I cannot be a SA to a 'governor' of a full state in the Federal republic of Nigeria and a couple of bullets from some small boys will cut short my enjoyment just like that, KO JO!!! It cannot happen!!!

lol

fergie001:
You pass for me like someone who think highly of himself,
Read your previous messages,
Then when you want to be reasonable,you can beckon
As long as you on this merry go-around,you know those to advise

Like I said before......next thread

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fergie001:
olaolaking,

Spitting fire.......I will not get down to your level,play away

lol. Which fire? I am not targeting you. I am only saying what I observed about our youth. Not just you but most of you.

The earlier we begin to think on our own, the better.

Just ask yourself if what I have said before was true. Be sincere. Don't just join the wagon. Because everyone is saying it.

Once again, it calls for self examination.
Please tell others.

If we are not able to think on our own and balance things, we are lazy

fergie001:
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Didn't read
You know nothing

You won't read because you are are lazy.
I am sure you also didn't read the speech. But the people that read it told you the part they want you to say and Alas. You did as they want. Are you not lazy?

fergie001:
So,it's the northern youths?

Ok oooo

You didn't know because most of you are lazy in thinking. The politicians do the thinking for you and you are brainwashed to accept just like that.
It is a pity that we are here and our problem is far from over.

Buhari mentioned that some youth refuse to go to school Unfortunately, all of you who even further beyond secondary school still said he is talking to us. You people are not able to think further to know that he was referring to the youth who refuse to go to school.

Many of you have different certificates. But the thinking faculty is so slow in processing that the politicians have to do the twist and thinking for you.

So unfortunate

Chascop:
Okon@OP,
Pharaoh never knew Israelites will one day leave Egypt.
They never knew there'd be a Miracle at the Red Sea..

Anything wey never spoil for Baba God hand will definitely not get spoilt in the hand of man.


Just make sure there's a Red Carpet that'd lead Buhari back to daura by 2019 because the Egyptian you see today, you shall see them no more..

Is this your response? You are indeed lazy. I want to hear reasonable arguments based on the fact on ground and you are talking of miracle.

Brainwashed type will believe dead sperm will germinate if they water it and pray for miracle.

Mshew

A young woman when I was in the school was one of the invigilators. At a point, she sat on a desk very close to me and was calling answers from the other guy to me in an undertone.

At a point, other invigilators have to call her codedly.

I was not so comfortable about this, and I was shy. I had a crush on her too though I think she was single then. Her figure was like that of Mercy Johnson but she was heavier.

I thought of meeting her after the paper just to thank her and probably watch her reaction to know if she wanted something extra.

But I didn't have that boldness to do that even though I tried to.

Omooba77:
That means you live in at least 3 bedroom and you spend less thank 5k with prepaid on constant electricity and yet 2 bedroom without constant light you get like 21k bill.

That is what I am saying. With the current tariff and normal charges, there are some face me and face you that will not consume more than 700 naira in a month

NotBeenPaid:
I did that already months ago. They even endorsed the letter with stamp and signature

Good. Your case is solved if you have proofs

Bloggz74:
These DISCOS are the greatest problems in this country especially EKOEDC.

Good one let's do this I have been waiting for it and I urge other communities under them to follow suit.

I pay 20k every month even when there's no light.

it is very unfortunate. I live in a place where electricity is very constant. As I am typing this, our light has been on for more than 72 hours and no interruption.

I spent less than 3k in a month because we use prepaid meter in my 3 bedroom. Though I manage because we off everything if not in use. Even our fridge only works 14 hours a day. We also make sure that we empty 2 other fridges and merge all items in one fridge the moment we have less things to put.

If we are careless, we may use up to 4k in a month that means we use washing machine a couple of times.

Electricity is really cheap in Nigeria and if they produce prepaid meter, they must increase the tarrif to makenpro.

The good side is that you will know that you are paying for what you use

NotBeenPaid:
I sent NERC an email yesterday concerning Abuja Electricity Distribution Company refusal to issue me a prepaid meter and outrageous light bills(estimated bills) and they're yet to respond.

The idea of estimated bills should scrapped out. We the citizens really have a major role to play in this because it affects mostly the poor.

The first step is to write the disco first. Nerc will still send you back to disco and you have no case if you have not contacted the disco first. It is only when disco fails to do something that you can escalate it to nerc

In less than 2 hours they enter Benin Republic. From there to Togo to Ghana everything less than 50k

Who dey snap am sef?

youngmajor:
Read!!!

Read!!!

You won't read!!!

fvck off

I have read again and I can't see why you changed your monica. You did that because your other monica (importexpert) is tarnished. Stvpid fellow.
Why do you keep persuading people when you can concentrate on making the money through your system.
Again you are so Stvpid for the telling me to Bleep off. Ediot

youngmajor:
That is why I said "what I know best"

Or you have something else bothering you?

You keep deceiving people.

Firstly, why do you change your monica? You are obviously importexpert.
Secondly, you are a cunning person. You said one can start without money. Now the hosting and domain are free abi?
The inventory will come free abi?
If you are really making money as you claim, people will be begging you to reveal the secrets even for a big chunk. Not you appealing to people to come and benefit for a meager.

deebsman1:
Is he the club owner or how's building a stadium going to benefit him? Which top club doesn't have it's own stadium?[b][/b] No hating just facts

There clubs like that. There home grounds don't belong to them.

Wenger was the one that thought of a new stadium. He also work in the design. He also advised them on the location. He also make the fans paid higher gate fee than any club. Yet the fans must watch because he plays good football

deebsman1:
He did 22 years at a top club and has only 10 major trophies for the 22 years, what a mediocre record!

You only know what you know. You think it is only about trophies? Wenger does more than winning trophies for Arsenal

Reference:
This shows you only recently started watching football. Because if you know your game well you will know how many years a soccer coach needs to stay at a club before his presence and personality begins to damage the club even if continues to win trophies. For example if Sir Alex had retired five years earlier, United wilĺl be better settled by now. United will need several more years to unravel the past and recondition the club to a new post Ferguson philisophy. Just like the social disasters that await countries under long running dictatorships e.g, Libya, Congo, Iraq, Cote D'Ivorie.

The big, big difference with Arsenal is that Wengers philisophy has unraveled as far back as ten years ago. It has gotten so bad at this point that the once rigid proponent of the 442 system cannot stick with a formation and pattern of play from game to game. The once highly rated player developer cannot sign half decent potential players and the once envied stalwart of youth soccer is buying established 29 year olds for club record fees. This looks like a drowning man struggling to survive. The confusion of ĺong term philisophies at cross roads IS NOT SOMETHING A CLUB WILL TAKE TIME TO RECOVER FROM.

In short, Wenger is leaving the club exactly where he met it 22 years ago, out of Europe, languishing in upper mid table, out of Europe and with a a footballing department in a mini crises. Even a half decent donkey will make instant impact.

Now don't get me wrong. I am not saying next season they will beat all comers and win the champions league but they stand a chancr of competing with the right coach and at least 2013 version of 'how to play the modern game'. Haba. Wenger has nothing on Arsenal. He failed to read the signs and overestimated his competencies towards the end. As sad as seeing the over-the-hill 'General ' Alessandro Nesta of the famed Milan side crawling at the ankles of a young, fleet footed Lionel Messi.

Your managerial and administrative skill is second to known. Ferguson should have left earlier than he left? Please who taught you such skill that a performing person should be changed as soon as possible no matter his success?

Again. It had shown that all you can see about arsenal and Wenger is on pitch. Don't tell me you can analyze business more than the board. What the board gives priority is different from what you want.

Again, the board will have to work harder this time because the next coach will only focus on winning games and trophy. Wenger involves himself in other financial, administrative, branding etc. Of the club. though that is not important to you. But the board understands what that means.

Please let me tell you from a mature mind that no matter what you do, power will shift. If you like assemble all the best around the world. They will perform but when it is time for power to shift, it is beyond human. Haven't you seen a perfoing coach loosing the team despite having all the best on ground? That is because power shifted away from him. That is why they hardly spend 5 years in a club. The moment they are not winning, they are sacked. But Wenger's case is different. He was not sacked because he involves himself in other club activities off the pitch. The board recognizes that part, the effort, the commitment..

The board knows what it means. You don't know anything. Yes! You don't anything apart from what you read in complete sport, online, and probably watch on DSTV. What again do you know that you think you can manage a whole Arsenal.

For the new coach to maintain current arsenal position. He will spend millions. For the new coach to finish top 4, it will be excess of millions of pounds. To now contest for the trophy, the board should brace up to spend x 10 of what Wenger had spent since he moved them to emirates stadium.

emmabest2000:
Arsenal fans right now!

I am an arsenal fans. The only arsenal fans that will be happy are the ones that don't know arsenal. They are the ones that joined arsenal probably 10 years ago.

Arsene Wenger is a genius. He does everything for the club. People only see the performance on the field. He does many this underground. From the branding to the packaging to the finance to the marketing and so on. No coach in the world does that.

Arsenal board constitutes high profile people with good education, good exposure, good management skills. But they refuse to fire the man. Why? Because they see more than everyone.

In reality Arsenal will struggle after Wenger's departure.

W3xy1:
He try. He has done his best. I just think Tottenham will dominate them for years to come

Likely to be true. Arsenal will feel it and for the fist time in more than 1oo years will struggle and fight hard not to relegate

Adebowale89:
his deputy would protect any leak of financial loopholes. efcc would still look for means to gather information in his 4yrs administration to indict him but he will come victorious with the aid of political manipulation. I can't talk deep though


all these politicians aren't saint but fayose political sense is second to none

Says who? He is only enjoying immunity and nothing more. All the evidences had been gathered already. But nobody can do anything for now no matter the evidences.

Just watch out if Fayose will not run away. Unless you know him more than me

Adebowale89:
and what happen when 4yrs lapsed. fayose is politically intelligent, u might call him agbero but that guy na don in Nigeria style politics


he knows when to be rugged, he knows when to be radical, he knows when to seek for attention, he knows when to draw sympathy to himself


nothing will happen to him after 4years provided that his deputy would succeed him.....lemme stop here for now

You mean his deputy will give him immunity?

Esejojo:
Number 1.

I will enforce the ban on Agberos in Lagos. Most people don’t know that there is an existing law in Lagos state that bans the activities of the agberos (NURTW, RTEAN, etc.) from roads in Lagos state.

Agberos activities are one of the main causes of hike in transport fares. And they also cause traffic hold-ups at most bus stops.

Since that law was instituted, there has been an absolute lack of will power by successive administrations to enforce this law.

If I were to be in Ambode’s shoes, I will enforce this law, and remove Agberos from the roads.
The elimination of Agberos will bring about freer flow of traffic.

Number 2.

After the removing Agberos from the roads, I will take over the responsibility of levying the commercial motorists. This will be in a more refined and humane way. An agency for that purpose will be set up.

I will then use the billions that hitherto goes into the private pockets of the Agberos to repair and maintain roads and eliminate potholes.

You don't have any idea sir

Daviddson:
A single flyover, snapped from different directions. Probably the only one in the whole of a so-called capital city.

Abi the only one in the whole state

nifemi25:
I only see the iroko tree.

lol. And you think you will make heaven?

The couple are not bad. The pictures quality are