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Ezedon:
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Bahamas95:
It's not as if we don't wanna help him, you can only help someone who's ready to change. He seems to be enjoying it.

This issue made them clash alot in school because they were roommates. He will call his parents and lie that he needs money to do something urgently in school. His parents would call my bro to confirm if it's true and my bro would be forced to lie because he don't wanna offend him. It got to a point my bro couldn't take it anymore and they clashed.

That guy's lies is just something else, he's also heartless as well. Someone that can lie to place his parents on excess billing is capable of doing anything.......He doesn't have conscience.

The problem is in his brain..... Pathological lying, is also known as mythomania and pseudologia fantastica. Please he can't deal with it alone. Please take him to a Psychiatrist or Psychologist.

Bahamas95:
My younger brother's friend is like that, that guy lie about everything. The only truth in his mouth is when he greets you. Any other thing that comes next after exchanging pleasantries are lies.

My bro don't communicate with him anymore, very annoying human being.

Help him please... A symptom of BPD(Borderline Personality Disorder)

citywal:
I just don't get it at all, I swear I don't. How can a girl know that you love her, like she knows legit.

I told her times without numbers reduce the way she goes out with friends, she lives in the mainland n I live at Ajah (lekki axis) her mum recently opened a restaurant and she should be helping the woman... Like I advice her alot.

I came across pastor Kingsley Okonkwo preaching that says "you saw her the way she was before you married her and it you didn't change her then why change her now"
Heaven knows I tried but if she can't stop we can't get married and I can't date her.

I can't keep getting worried anytime she goes out considering the dangerous times that we are now.

I am not a simp but fact is sooner or later y'all calling yourself redpillers will want to settle down.

I mean if this is how looking for a partner is hard I'll just get myself a baby mama n focus on my life n kid. I'm legit tired of all this...so pissed this night.

Well, going out with friends isn't a big deal unless she's rolling with the bad ones or you probably smell a rat (think she's cheating). Do a reverse of the scenario, do you think you'll will be cool with it, if she is the one telling you the same. Except you're naturally not cool with the outgoing type and I think that's one of the things you should look out for before jumping into another relationship.

mario22:
My fianceé anger issue is worrisome to me. ones she has a bad day, I will get my own share at home. I have begged her all i need in this marriage is togetherness, peace (she jokingly calling me Mr. peace of mind).

She just graduated and we are staying together for 2months now. She can be very sweet and hardworking, caring, can clean, arrange the house. I don't expect her to be this all good cos NOBODY is perfect, but her anger issue a big turn off.

When her Project supervisor was purposely frustrating her, and told her he will not accept her work and she will not defend (it was sorted out later) . I tried to talk and advise her she angrily walked out of my car in the middle of the road.

That night she wasn't talking to me and i started a call n went to the parlor, she came and was asking whom i was talking to and i said my guy, she queried but why did i go to the parlor, she flung our engagement ring away without knowing whom i was talking to (not cheating or calling any girl) she makes rash decisions when angry. like She can scatter our 2weeks plans cos of a small provocation.

I Love her but the anger issues is killing.

"I Love her but the anger issues is killing"
Love is one of the important things required if you desire a peaceful marriage but as important as it is, it's just an attraction. Marriage is an extension of purpose and anger is one of those things that can destroy your purpose if not managed.
Just one question for you OP. Would you still go ahead and date her if you knew about her anger issue before you started the relationship?
And now that you know, you need to put in more efforts than yours, one of which is taking her to a psychologist/psychiatrist. If she's willing (heaven help those who help themselves) but if not please move ahead with your life, get closer to God and let God guide you through your choice making process.

Founder Of The Marriage Institute Has Something To Say
Proverbs 24:3-4 – By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches. She failed the entrance examination, that's why she couldn't make it into the Institute in the first place. OP please learn from your mistakes. You ignored a lot of red flags over the time.
Three things I discovered from this story
1. You guys have different love languages that you both refused to learn. Don't forget, without language, no communication in the first place
2. She isn't really ready for marriage.
3. You just dodged a bomb in human skin going somewhere to explode.

No relationship can survive without efficient and effective communication, and for communication to happen in the first place, you both need to understand each other's love language(s).
The Five Love Languages are:
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Physical Touch
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts.
Since he doesn't speak your language, try and learn his own love language and I believe from there, you should be able to teach him yours.

Contrary to how God made sex to be enjoyed, people now engage in premarital and extramarital affairs.
1. Premarital sex✖️
2. Marital sex✔️
3. Extramarital sex✖️
Now to answer your question brother, for you to have a girlfriend who feels guilty after having sex with her means you are both doing something wrong. Guilt only comes after something bad has been done (Gen 2:25 "now the man and his wife were both naked , but they felt no shame" Jesus loves you and he is sending a message to you through your girlfriend even though what you both practice is sinful. She still has a bit of her conscience functional and also shows she is from a good background. All she is trying to do is please you, so please be a real man, accept the message Jesus Christ is sending across to you through this lady and surrender to the Lord both, delay is dangerous and tomorrow may be too late. From your own side of the story, she loves you but Jesus loves you more, just do the needful, become certified to have sex with her and the guilt will vanish.