They want to bring 'ebola' back abi? Don't they know we would be welcoming all of africa... Abeg ooo!

pickabeau1:



Peoples sexuality have been decoupled from their character
Thats the world we in now

So bad!...

....

I have never been involved in office romance but it is a thing I would like to experiment..m when I have carried it out, I'll come back and post my observation, recommendation and my thesis! *smiles*

pickabeau1:
Traditionally Flash is not a buffed up xter

Minimal love life

Just a runner


Nothing to see here

True. But I still feel that he should be a 'role model' as young kids would soon see him as one to look up to and are influenced by their 'super heroes' and their characters!

Hmmmm... Depends on the 'familiarity'

Trust me, there’s a million and one things that can go right when you have Don Jazzy doing background vocals or even a solo freestyle on your track. Agreed, he’s not vocally skilled like Banky W, Praiz or Oritse Femi even but there’s a special something about his baritone tenor heavily dotted with cultural influences over it. Don Jazzy has a way of shaking things up and spicing ‘em with his voice. It is special, for him at least. To some others (me), there’s this awkwardly mesmerizing effect that it comes with. The sound of his voice on a track is hitherto like the song’s reawakening. It is magical. And not forgetting that it is always accompanied by the midas touch of his only boastful technical know how – the music production.

I can recall Don Jazzy’s singing as far back as the a-days of the Mo’hits crew. Not only was he guy man D’Banj’s confam producer, he also doubled as background vocalist. On Tongolo, which officially announced D’Banj’s star sign, Don Jazzy got a series of backlashes from music sweethearts and comedians especially who relished opportunities to take him down over his cry baby vocals on the hook of that song. Personally, when I heard that voice I thought to myself “who is this phonie? Could he try out an art other than singing?” But no, Don baba J didn’t back down. Instead, he upped his game which necessarily didn’t include intense vocal coaching and exercising. May be he drank sparking water a lot more before lacing his ‘voice of life’ on records in the studio; perhaps he chewed bitter kola or avoided greasy meals, cold liquids, rough textured snacks like roasted corn, biscuits and snickers chocolate; might be that he cleared his throat 70 times 7 (lol!) we’ll never know for sure.

So here’s what I think. Don Jazzy took all that criticism and “hate” (like some of y’all are too quick to term it) and he fired back with better boldness, confidence and a zeal to do better in his own way little way and he’s become darn good at it. Look at Mrs Billz who clearly enjoys an enviable vocal chemistry with the doroboss; in my review of her debut album I had to cry out that there was already too much Don Jazzy on the work. Yet, those songs have remained a favourite selection off Once Upon a Time. Or is it Dr Sid’s Siduction whose voice I suddenly couldn’t tell apart Don Jazzy’s at some point? More people dismiss the effort but never overlook the Don Jazzy collabos. Now, there’s the infamous Dorobucci and Adaobi. They’re both songs that caught us off guard with the former still pulling in a breaking record of mp3 downloads and Youtube views. So you see? Not like his “sing sing” (like a friend of mine actually termed it) deserves all the credit but you gotta agree that it is paying off and wonderfully well even.


Undoubtedly, most of the songs with IDJA’s voice on it are a music collector’s item. Ikechukwu’s Now Is The Time, Wande Coal’s The Kick, Dr Sid’s smash hit single Surulere, Tiwa Savage’s Without My Heart and Eminado, including the unofficial features on Mrs Billz most recent single My Darlin, Di’Ja’s Yaro, Reekado Banks’ Chop Am and Korede Bello’s Cold Outside where he spices things with mild vocal embellishments in the form of adlibs. The best part would be that he’s not even all about the Mavin folk alone. Need I remind you about Kcee’s Pull Over Remix, DJ Xclusive’s Gal Bad, Ayo Vincent’s Serve The Lord (which I looooove by the way) and P-Square’s Collabo? Oh, there’s an Olamide offering too in the nearest future. Regardless, the smart man knows well not to launch an official music career ‘cos that just might be the beginning of the end. I think his outstanding nature lies in the fact that he has the wherewithal to being whoever he wants to but he’s chosen to be who he’s supposed to… and that right there people, defines the mind of a Mavin!

Written by Jim Donnett
@jimancipation

Actor Ezra Miller has been cast as the Flash in Warner Brothers’ eponymous movie, which is slated to premiere in 2018. That's big news even for those who aren't diehard DC Comics fans, because Ezra Miller is also openly queer, making it the first time a non-heterosexual has played the lead in a superhero movie.

Let's get one distinction out of the way: The 22-year-old Miller identifies as queer, not gay. Though the word can mean different things to different people, it’s often used as an umbrella term to mean “somewhere on the spectrum of sexuality that's not 100 percent straight.” In a 2012 interview, Miller told The Advocate “I’m queer... I have a lot of really wonderful friends who are of very different sexes and genders. I am very much in love with no one in particular." 
It may seem ridiculous that we’re talking about this in 2014, when it feels like there is no shortage of openly non-heterosexual actors in Hollywood. But the casting choice of a queer man as the lead in a big-budget superhero, the embodiment of traditional American masculinity, is inarguably a huge deal. Queer actors are still up against the surprisingly pervasive idea that a non-straight actor can’t play a straight character. This has historically been true not just of superhero roles, but of all types of straight roles in mainstream American films.

That’s probably because acceptance of open queerness in Hollywood is still a relatively recent development. In the early days of the film industry, people who would today be considered queer actors simply remained in the closet for the most part. A notable exception was William Haines, who is often cited as Hollywood’s first openly gay actor. Haines rose to fame in the 1926 silent film Tell It to the Marines, in which he played a Marine nicknamed “Skeet.” (Despite—or maybe because of—its modern association with semen, Skeet is the manliest old-timey nickname other than Butch.) So the character of Skeet was smitten with a beautiful Navy nurse, while off-screen, Haines was living with his longtime partner Jimmie Shields. Haines was not in the habit of denying his orientation, which rubbed his bosses at MGM the wrong way, and eventually, faced with the decision to enter into a sham marriage or quit acting, Haines chose to quit.


Over the next few decades, gay actors remained largely closeted—though under increasing scrutiny from the press and the public—and continued to play the manly men of the silver screen. You’re probably familiar with the cartoonishly macho Rock Hudson, whose square-jawed masculinity won the heart of every woman alive. Hudson was out to some of his close friends, but publicly maintained a carefully curated image of heterosexuality, even entering into a “lavender marriage” with Phyllis Gates, who was also secretly gay.

Today being an openly gay (or queer) actor is no longer the incomprehensible scandal it once was. It won’t ruin your reputation. However, there’s still a chance it could ruin your acting career, due to the ever-persistent perception that gay men can’t play straight characters.

You may remember when Bret Easton Ellis tweeted that openly gay actor Matt Bomer wasn’t fit for the role of Christian Grey in the movie version of Fifty Shades of Grey. Ellis opined that “Fifty Shades of Grey demands an actor that is genuinely into women." That's a stubbornly persistent attitude: We love and applaud straight male actors for portraying gay characters, but we apparently don’t trust queer actors to be able to do the reverse. 

“In these days of Neil Patrick Harris and Matt Bomer, among others, we are seeing that the fallacy of ‘audiences won’t believe an out actor playing straight’ is just that—a fallacy,” said Marc Andreyko, an openly gay comic writer and screenwriter who told me that geek culture—the milieu out of which superheroes come—has been accepting of queerness for a long time.  

“Geek culture has always been way ahead of the curve on acceptance,” Andreyko said. “The fans and my publishers have been actively supportive of gay themes and characters for as long as I can remember.

“So much of nerd-ism (for lack of a better term) has been about finding a safe place to be yourself and celebrate the things you love,” Andreyko added. “And the rest of the world is gradually catching up.” 

By Allegra Ringo

Thanks for all the comments so far...

@ keyke : thanks a lot!

@mods: pls front page material.

I have written a lot of love letters (not to woo my date, but just as a way of expressing feelings when not opportuned to do it face to face, either because of distance, tight schedule or the fun of it) and I have also received a lot of love letters.
As archaic as it may seem, love letters are still very much 'ever green' it may come in form of 'love notes' attached to a card, gift or evern electronically via sms, txt, I'm...
I'm a huge fan of love letters because sometimes you find it easy scribbling down words that may not be able to be said face to face. And yes! I am good with words... I hold my dates in awe with my love notes. Even the ones that claim its childish end up asking for more and even reciprocating.
I think sending and receiving love letters is a way of spicing up a relationship and letting the other person know that you care and don't mind going 'childish' to prove it.
#teamLoveLetter!

A lot of people shy away from long distance relationships because they feel it just won’t work out no matter how much effort they put in, but contrary to that belief, long distance relationships can actually be successful if the parties involved in it are aware of the pitfalls, and can strike an understanding to avoid them.

In my younger years, I had a few long distance affairs, and the reason they eventually crashed was because I wasn’t aware of the things I had to do or avoid at the time. Of course, after a couple of tries, I gave up on it too, but I also took out time to reflect on what could have gone wrong for me in those relationships, and here’s what I found…

 

INSUFFICIENT OR LACK OF COMMUNICATION

Long distance relationships like any other relationship require adequate communication to stay alive; when you don’t do this, it begins to die. It’s like planting a garden without watering it, what do you think will happen? Your partner needs to be constantly reassured that they mean something to you, and the only way to do that is by communicating with them as often as possible. Thank God, technology has made it possible for us to have different avenues of communication; social media and phone calls are all ways to stay in touch with one’s partner.

INSUFFICIENT OR NO VISITATIONS AT ALL

They say, “out of sight, out of mind”, so no matter how strongly you and your partner feel for each other, if you do not take out time to visit yourselves and share some together time, there’s every tendency for your relationship to crash. Calling and chatting are good, but seeing each other and being together adds something extra to your love. A lot of people do not get this, and that is why you see couples who see each other less than twice a year, and claim to be in a relationship; no sex, no kiss…nothing. That’s no relationship; I call it an acquaintance.

LACK OF TRUST

This has to be the biggest reason why all relationships fail…including long distance affairs. When you’re in a relationship with a person you do not trust, no matter what they do, you’ll have doubts, and these doubts are what cause the relationship to crash. My first real relationship was a long distance affair; we were deeply in love, but because we were both apart and saw only during semester breaks, trust issues began to creep in. She felt I wasn’t being true enough to her, and that I was cheating, and eventually, everything ended. So your love can be stronger than Romeo and Juliet’s, but if you do not build that trust, it will never work out.

MENTAL IMMATURITY

Mental immaturity makes people gullible; it is the reason a lot of people would rather follow their friends’ advice than their own hearts; this contributes to the failure of long distance relationships. Some people do not yet understand the way relationships work, they don’t realize how much sacrifices and efforts they’re required to put in to have a successful relationship; when these sort of people get involved with someone, they find it difficult to handle the relationship.

And those are the factors I consider responsible for the failure of most long distance relationships; if you feel I missed anything, please, feel free to mention it (them) in the comments’ area.

Don't just pull the triger... aim for her head; in between the eyes!

Massive Lies!!!
Very bad move by PDP if ever true.
GEJ is their best chance to retain power...

Im Onome. A deltan based in Ph.
Bbm: 28c9e3df
Whatsapp: 08183883965
I'm cute, jovial and fun to be with...

chiharriet:
Hi ppl,jst passn

Hello... Where are u based?
Got attracted by the 'enigmatic' on ur profile... 'D enigma' is sort of my alias.

So, Op what do u want?

Hi Tolulope95
I think you are cute, no doubt... I like...

Onome. Based in PH
Bbm: 28c9e3df
Whatsapp: 08183883965

My ex chic travelled and said she was going to abuja to stay with her cousins... while supposedly in abj, she sent me pics of herself and even her cousin...
fast forward 11 days later, she got back, even bought me a bible on her way back. out of curiosity i went through her pics and noticed some places in 'Warri, Delta State' and i even saw a bus ticket to Warri.

Spidermon:
Mehn!! You lost your job over AC?? I don't even know how to advice u. I won't mind if I am asked to remove my pants and be slow roasting my ballz on a kerosene stove while at work. That's how jobless I am. Lol

the feeling is mutual... lol

hahaha... i couldnt help laughing out loud... well, i do hope he strays into ur street or better still u stray into his path one of this days or best still to save ur 'impending' wedding, go and swallow pride and apologise... not beg. apologise!
as a job seeker i dont mind sitting my ass with the kind of chill found in the north pole over my head as far as i have an 8-5 and a good salary to get my woman the beautiful wedding hall she deserves.
do the needful! but oboi... u try ooo. come take one bottle of beer... lol
*still laffing*

lol. i cant believe i actually copied and pasted this on my draft... not like im expecting to be rejected in any of my recent job applications but this could come in handy in some funny real life situation. u might just get a call saying 'u are to resume immediately' lol.

In the words of an american rapper: 'i love bad bitches... thats my f*ck'n problem'
Sort of the reason i still 'shy' away from alot of good girls... i'm waiting till im ready for soo much goodness, but with this i hope 'she' reads it and gives a dose of a good girl who knows bad things and does it with just me... or like i told my ex... i want an 'ada' who knows what 'caro' knows...

very true

been invited twice. I didn't go. no malice though...

You will agree with me that 'shoki' the newest dance step to hit the nigerian music scene has gotten lots of acceptance and guys! Don't u jst love a girl who can do the shoki dance?

Well, I heard the shoki song first from orezi and then heard that of lil kesh weeks after.
I have also seen the video of Orezi's version and I loved it.

I guess we've all heard both 'shoki' version and then u just have a liking for one. Which is it?
Orezi's own or Lil Kesh's own (including d remix ft davido & olamide)

Personally, I prefer Orezi's shoki!
What's yours?

I think he wants her back!

The best reply should be 'I LOVE YOU' I don't add the 'too' I find it sort of cliché

By Sheila Blagg
A divorce mediator with over 10 years experience dealing with separation, divorce& dating after divorce. Creator of Divorce2dating.com


The kids-or-no-kids debate is an issue for many couples. But, bring a child into a new dating relationship and the issue becomes even more complex. As people move from one relationship into the dating realm, they often wonder, "Does he want kids?," Will she still want to date me?"

When both parties are on the same page in regard to the kids question (either in favor of kids or not), the new relationship experiences fewer bumps. But if one wants kids and the other doesn't, the debate may result in a huge rift that not many couples survive.

When to Talk About Kids
It is my opinion that the do-you-want-(more)-children question should be tackled within the first couple of dates. Why continue to date someone who doesn't have the same goals and desires as you do? Sure, there are some cases where, along the way, someone changes his or her mind, and they all live happily ever after, but there are more cases that end in heartbreak and anger.
Are you willing to take that chance? Does it make sense to invest so much time in a relationship that may never work?

Most people know whether or not they want children by the time they reach adulthood. Personally, I have five children, and two of them already know that they definitely want to have kids of their own. Two of my kids say "No WAY", and one is still on the fence (which is fine since he's only 15!). My point is that, even though my kids are still relatively young, they already have a picture of what they want their family lives to look like.

I Can Change His/Her Mind
I've heard so many stories of heartbreak resulting from one person trying to change a potential partner's mind about having or not having children. The bottom line is, if someone you're dating does not want children (and vice versa), don't try to talk him/her into it. It's important to respect the vision of what that individual has in mind for his/her future.

Stop trying to change the other person and accept that you may need to change how you deal with the situation.

When I began dating after my divorce, I decided that I wanted to date only men who wanted children. I felt that the desire for kids was one common ground on which we could relate to one another.

But, one of my very best friends approached the kid debate in a completely different way, She decided that she had no interest in dating a man with kids. She didn't feel that she was cut out to manage someone else's kids and the ex-wife that would inevitably come as part of the package.

Know What You Want
What it boils down to is that you must first decide what your goals are for the future. Do you want (more) kids? Do you want to date someone who already has kids? Know your limits, set boundaries, and stick to them. It has been my experience -- and the research will back me up -- that it's never a good idea to try to "change his/her mind" on something as important as having a family.

Although there are always exceptions to every rule, dating someone who is like minded -- especially when it comes to children -- makes for a less complicated relationship.


NB: I posted this on the Family section but I felt it would also be good for discussion here.

Personally, I love kids and would love to have as much as my 'future wife' can give me or we agree to and as God grants. For me, I want at least 4kids.

Do you want kids? How many? What if your date/spouse doesn't want kids? What if you both want kids but can't get any?

Tallesty1: Blind to their faults? Maybe I'm different because I knew all the bad sides (faults) of my gf when we were dating but I ignored them because the good side of her outshined the bad side.

Bros you see eehhh

no matter how much you love somebody.

Your sex life will be very boring if you don't lust after 'em

1. Let's say ur love (for her good side) blinded u to the faults (her bad side) I'm sure there are people who may not cope with one of such 'bad sides'

2. I thought se.x was 'making love' and not 'lust'? Lust doesn't last, love is for all time!

Someone asked this questions. Maybe they will help in answering!
Is Love Blind? by AdeniyiA 9:59pm On Jul 22

Oftentimes you hear people say love is blind. i ask, is love blind? what constitute a blind love? should love be blind? what if i truly love but am not blinded by it?