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igbo culture.

In March 1999, the chairman of the Bayelsa State Family Support Programme (FSP) stated that the FSP "in conjunction with some Non-Governmental Organisations (NGOs), had embarked on a series of campaigns to stem some obnoxious practices against womanhood, such as genital mutilation, widowhood practices and early marriage. … She advised widows in the state, whose relatives were being forced to marry relations of their dead husbands, to use the services of the legal aid council" (Post Express 24 Mar. 1999



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bawomolo:
What's bad about telling a stinking man to take a shower?

Jamon:
Ur man dnt luv u. Cos if he luvs u he wnt lay hands on u no mata wat. Watch closely, he'l comeback 2 apologies wen his blood is hot and wen dat hapens know he lost u not LOVE U.

udezue:
Why should you apologize? Are u stupid or what? Look you have a right to ask him any question and he can choose to answer or not without slapping you. Are u his wife, or his slave? You should have slapped him back or better break a bottle on his head for slapping you. Are u a child or a grown woman carrying his own baby? He should apologize for laying his hand on you.

If he is man enough to slap you then he should be man enough to take the insults then apologize if he really loves you.

The men have arrived

Tayo-D:
@topic,

12 milllon! What's the big deal with that? To be honest, any employer who plans to bring me back to Naija must be willing to pay that much per annum before I can even think to begin thinking of probably considering accepting the job!

exactly!
any employer offering me less than the equivalent of $150 thousand in Nigeria is joking.

davidylan:
this thread is one reason i am eternally grateful to have been born male, is this what i would have had to put up with as a woman?

It's not all men.There are still many like you.
I don't want the ladies to be discouraged
but the number of deranged ones is alarmingly high.
didn't some guy start a thread on rape and how women bring it on themselves and other men agreed.
that's the sick individuals that parade the earth as humans.
make I go cook my goatmeat

didn't even bother with the clip,shows how deranged the poster is.
a cobra and a chld is supposed to be entertaining.
see how random it was

LadyT:
And so?

even if she screamed it at him can he not scream back at her.  And tell her not to be so rude?

Must he dish her TWO slaps? what next a kick to the pregnant belly or will he go in for the choke hold?

Iranu on top of capital oshi

some of these men don't understand it perhaps because they've witnessed abuse growing up.
they've been taught to accept violence as a response to even simple spoken word.

C2H5OH:
Quit preaching to the wrong crowd, biko.  If you respected your father you ought to know better than telling him he stinks.

right now ,you stink!

agabaI23:
Chei okwu na uka atogbuela nwanne m nwanyi!

LOL

~Sauron~:
1 Corinthians 11:3. . . . .
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

so he has a right to slap her?
You and I have been in many family threads and you know well that I preach submission to the ridicule of other ladies on nairaland.
I believe in a woman loving and submitting but the man must love her as the Bible says.
What we have here is abuse.
That is a totally different matter.

did Christ love the Church by slapping her around?

~Sauron~:
She is not.

The Scriptures say she is the neck while the man is the HEAD!!!

The Bible never said so
where is it?

have you read this

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

now ask yourself,How did Christ love the Church?

davidylan:
what is she to her husband? an inferior half? This is unbelievable!  

a facial receptacle for hot slaps

C2H5OH:
That's what happens when you make assumptions.

Guess what happened to her?  It landed her two dirty slaps and a relationship in jeopardy.
People are unique.

I know the man I'm married to
women ought to pick spouses carefully and leave the psychia ones for Yaba

LadyT:
Osisi can you please tell her she doesn't need to listen to the motherfuckers telling her she needs to apologise.

Could he not shout at her? Must he slap her? And while she is in a delicate position.  This is outrageous and disgusting no one should be hitting anybody.  

Respect must be mutual.

she's a smart woman and can tell that there are some deranged folks on the thread.
not her exact words but mine.

C2H5OH:
By all means ebony, go and tell your husband that he stinks.   He will worship, adore, celebrate you, and then some.   I'm finding it hard to drill into your head that words are mighty powerful, but you fail to see the impact that your words might have on others.
Depending on what she said, it might have been condescending, damaging, embarrassing, depressing.  Verbal abuse is just as detrimental as physical abuse.  Be considerate towards other people's feelings.

you can be biased in favor of the woman.  That is your choice.  I will stick to maintaining a level head by looking at both sides of the coin.

I I told my husband he stunk,the first words out of his mouth would be

1. really?

followed by

2. Are you serious?
since he knows I'm a big joker

reacting with 2 quick slaps would be bizarre

luvinhubby:
AMEBO!!!

this is a pregnant woman and a family we're talking about not some random story on a cheap novel

have a great weekend people.

I'm already corresponding with the girl and know more details than you all do.
I wish her well.
No woman deserves to be hit.

luvinhubby:
SERIOUSLY PEOPLE,  slapping your wife is an outrage (never saw my dad to dothat, except to us ), but sadly it`s an everyday  thing in Nigeria and Africa based on our orientation. Their marriage is just new and frictions like that are bound to occur like we all experienced in ours. Psychologically, it takes between 5-8 years for a couple to properly understand themselves. But the man also is dying inside but this thing about men and ego won`t allow him to take the first step towards reconciliation so the lady should be advised to take the first step, she will be surprised at his response. The issue of divorce and killing a foetus should be out the question.

Same here
that's why I condemn it with strong words
every sane person would

~Sauron~:
Osisi, we are all products of our immediate environment.
I have wondered several times why you act the idiotic way you do and the answer is simple. . . . .Your upbringing had flaws!!!
Until u explain to me why DIVORCE is your 'escape', i will continue to see you as a leprechaun.

I'm done with the fight but you can carry on.
enjoy!

ibkaye:
Not in so many words, apparently she only asked him why he had not taken his bath before sleeping and that's when he went all ninja on her.

kung fu too
stupid man

Ebony-Silk:
Maybe it wasn't his first time stinking up the house.
Maybe she got fed up with it, couldn't take it anymore and said something

Poor woman must have been holdng her breathe until she was about to pass out on her matrimonial bed
\I don't blame her

~Sauron~:
And i still insist you are a retard. . . . .a resident retard if i may add.
Look who's talking about abuse when all you have encountered all your life is your kinsmen kidnapping people and EATing them.
That alone musta been responsible for your screwed moral compass.
What a tyke!!!

you see why I called you a transgendered?
stick to the topic of the thread.
abuse
geddit?

~Sauron~:
I'm a fool forever. . . . .

.

na you talk am

And as educated as you are(I am assuming), you think it is normal for a man to wake up and slap his wife just like that?
There's no smoke without fire. This is not the true story. If the husband comes here and gobs his own side of the story, you would think differently.
I don't support what the husband has done but if apologising will make this woman HAPPY, let her apologise.
Joy betide the woman that ends up with me. . . . .Woe betide your other half. . . .I can see the signs already.

The man is just as "normal" as you are since you are an abuser yourself.
You have witnessed so much abuse in your own lifetme that your idea of hapiness is skewed.
You need help yourself,how on earth could you help a woman abused?

~Sauron~:
And that is a reason for being an idiot on a forum??
Lord of Mercy!!!

It's watery, tasteless and thoughtless.

And as educated as you are(I am assuming), you think it is normal for a man to wake up and slap his wife just like that?
There's no smoke without fire. This is not the true story. If the husband comes here and gobs his own side of the story, you would think differently.
I don't support what the husband has done but if apologising will make this woman HAPPY, let her apologise.
Joy betide the woman that ends up with me. . . . .Woe betide your other half. . . .I can see the signs already.

Need I say more?

Ebony-Silk:
Why do you ppl continue to respond to luvinghubby?
All this retarded ppl sef

Sauron is no 1
I know many of you are friends with him and afraid to tell him off because of his transgendered tongue.
I ain't
What a sorry excuse of a man.
someone's got to tell him to put a tape across those his kpomo lips.
when men are called,that one will carry his okporoko legs comot

davidylan:
I think this thread shld be an eye-opener to all women out there - if you want a fulfilling marriage that will be filled with joy and laughter, take your precious time to select who you marry prayerfully, carefully and with plenty of help from friends and family. they will see the little habits you would ordinarily gloss over. Do not marry a man you havent dated (i dont mean long distance) for at least 1 yr . . .

if he slaps you tomorrow you only have urself to blame. And yeah women can behave much worse than agaba's poor goat.   At least the goat couldnt nag.

Amen

May God bless you and all men like you.
May your lineage live on forever and remain blessed beyond measure.

~Sauron~:
U were raised by a slut of a single woman. . . . .The slut flavour in it makes it a crime.
Look how you turned out?? Your mates are at home tending to their kids and keeping the house clean.
You are online as a mother constituting a nuisance to all and sundry. An act known to teenagers who are still sowing their wild oats.
If you were raised in a proper home rather than moving from pad to pad, you woulda turned out to be an ideal woman.
You are a poor example to all the married women out there. . . . . .SHAME on you.

Typical!!!
When she gets battered, she resorts to her irritating dialect as if i care.
Clean up your acts. . . . .Divorce should be the last option. Stop advising women like you to leave their husbands when you are staying with yours.

agbero.
The kids are at school
did you read my post?
A woman slapped and the husband refuses to give her feeding money while pregnant and asking her to go to her parents is a wrong advise?
Woe betide the woman hat ends up with your lazy,fagotty behind

agabaI23:
A man told his father he was about to marry and the father told him to wait.

Bought a goat and gave to him to look after.

three days after, the goat ate his yam. He beat the goat. The father observed and kept quiet
Few days later the goat drank from a bucket he was about to shower with, he was so incenced that he beat the goat again.

Finally, he was praparing ogbono soup on a stove outside his room, the goat used its tetter to pull the soup down.

The guy reached for his cutlass and cut its neck.

The father then came out to ask what happened.
The bobo narrated everything to the father who listened attentively.

His father's reponse was, if such a little thing will make you kill a goat, you will do the same to somebody's daughter because women can do worse things.

It is manly to endure provocation esp from women. However women should know that verbal dirrhoea is never good for men's heart.

Good analogy.
I hope many of the men read it.

~Sauron~:
The value of marriage is perseverance, endurance, love and happiness.
Only a dolt and a super slut would dump her husband because of a slapping issue. . . . .
The most annoying thing is you as a woman have suffered more abuses. . . . Did u leave your husband because of such??
Did you disown your siblings when you had fisticuffs as teenagers?? How idiotic and foolish can you be??
I expect you to show maturity here as a married woman. . . . .U sound like a 10 year-old.


Keep telling us what you suffered as a kid of a single mother.
Your mother musta had 10 kids from 10 different husbands.
She couldn't persevere, she couldn't endure. Village gutter rat!!

assuming I was raised by a single mother,is that a crime ?
Wouldn't it have been better Iya Sauron had the nerve to leave than subject you to years of psychological and mental torture
see how you turned out ?