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While I appreciate the concept of courtesy ... i think in this degenerate world of ours, it carries some interpretations that are covertly or overtly[b] taqwacidal[/b]. These will be regarded as welcoming by some of our muslim brothers who think some sisters are rather too cold to behold.

Like going for lunch in a nice eatery or inviting her over for lunch even at your private residence.

Tbaba may have to give specific examples of the traits you don't see in most muslim sisters.

I also know , and may Allah forgive me, that an overwhelming number of our muslim brothers are not really comfortable with the fact that you cannot roll on amorously with your fiancee like holding hands, kissing, smooching, heavy petting and even intimacy ....and all these still constitute courtesy to such pervert minds..........

May ALLAH BLESS SUCH DISCOURTEOUS SISTERS and reward them with decent and like minds .........

bada al islaamu gareeban wasa ya'uudu kama bada a ... fa tooba lil gurabaai

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@ mac....iwo lomo, sha wa kan she...still waiting for deols response as regards the questions asked....

but dyt you look rather over ripe or something ....are you sure you are not hooked yet?

i do not think the term 'recluse' fits you giving the fact you interact so much and as you have said have earlier people contact you for different issues. If i meet you one day and you happen to be one of my former students or a student of any of my friends , then i will flog you six strokes before goin ahead to discuss with you. Anyway Allah is our pillar.

@mac,forgive my usage of hot-headed. I think hyperactive will be ok. Is your being phlegmatic the enciumberance to tying the nuptials. @bah, how is polygamy practised over there. I may have to link you to get a second wife if there are sisters who are ok with a nigerian brother. Ma salam

Strol ko bulldozer ni....but sincerely you need to hasten your pace without losing your clarity of focus. Life without a sweet wife could be simply brutish and tortous emotionally. Except for your hot-headedness,deols will be a perfect match for you in my humble opinion.

@mac, i am not uaware of a negligible subset under 'all and sundry' that such endemic bias has not afflicted. Malo mari ko ma form admin nibi..... Panti lopoju online toba mo Am still eagerly awaiting deols response ....

@deols, for your well-informed posts and strong naseeha in the islam section, i will respond to your enquiry. Married now for 4 yrs, wife gives her best and am grateful to Allah, reason is to produce more kids who will be juicy and not toxic assets to islam. Earnings...... Am comfortable and thank Allah copiously for this. My own request enquiry..... Are u married? What age bracket are u and can you ever be a mathna .Kindly delete my cell from your copied post above @mac... May i ask what you consider tendetious in my post as to pass the fatwa of unfairness above

May Allah forgive us all. Lagosshia is so filled with vim and he eventually renders his message dim. He beams with so much vigour but eventually falls into the abyss of rancour. Wallahul mustaan. @mac, the truth is there are many people in similar situations who have ...may Allah reward them... decided to face the economic challenges confronting them with unflagging resilience. I will sincerely advise that the brother take a job, however menial or soiling,save gradually and later proceed to further his education. This will, insha Allah, by virtue of his pursuing halaal means, open the door for greater heights. Yahoo is no option to consider.....wal aakhiratu khairun laka minal uula...

Am also conscious of the bias against polygamy even if such is only lampooned verbally but practised unofficially by all and sundry.

@deols, since this is a public form issues raised in your enquiry above are better discussed privately and you will not find me hesitant if the channel for discussion is made available. May Allah guide our thoughts and actions and save us from misguidance.

This is quite disturbing.oau did same to someone i know when the admission to study medicine was withdrawn, this was before registration anyway. Another who wanted english was given law as the latter carried a lower cut-off. Let us hope the senate member can help prevail.if your sister is not the strong-willed type, court will not be an option to embrace, it is rather distracting. I advise she settle for kwasu if this is still possible or 'gboju' and seek admission elsewhere for accounting. We are still at a rather crude level when it comes to issues as this. Imagine waec too cancelled someone's result after 4 years of its issuance on the ground that malpractice was later later discovered.

That is the etho we need to embrace and am forever a champion of simplicity in all affairs if it derives from humility to allah and sincere avoidance of sheer ostentation. My nikaah gulped less than a month salary and i thank allah for that. Looking forward to a second wife and sisters who are ideologically convinced can reach me.

What alternatives do you advise?

A muslim brother answered a quiz on the family show and will likely be invited. Should he go and pick up the prize.
Thanks while i await your informed naseeha!

.hmm

Dyt, an naas ajnaasun, wa aktharuhum anjaas. People differ but majority are scum.

I think dyt is a quasi prankster.

Go and hang yourself,dyt? This seems an expression from the gutter. I hope am not dealing with some debased individuals,mac ?

@maclatunji &Dyt,
do you sincerely think e-flirting is allowed in islam.
Remember the Hadeeth of the Prophet (saw) : thalaathun jadduhunna Jaddun wa azluhunna jaddun?

I love to share an hadeeth from fathul baari sharhu saheeh il bukhaari under the book of sales:The prophet directed that the slave girl should be flogged after being found guilty of fornication and should not be blamed thereafter. After three instances of such case, she should be sold off even if it is for a rope equal in length to a strand of hair. The point here is that your worth as a human being is so adversely reduced, your value is so abysmally traduced if you are entrapped in zina. My dear brothers and sisters, we all are life witnesses to the celebration of this vice today as it has turned the hing thing in all spheres of our human endeavour. Blesssed are those who stay firm and uprigth even when moral corruption becomes endemic. Islam recommends that one should seek legitimate means to satisfy one's desire through marriage even if it warrants a start from humble beginnings. By Allah, far better in the sight of Allah is the who is indigent but chaste that the debased degree holder or degenerate professional. No sister should consider herself any special when her priceless chastity has been severally compromised in the pursuit of the mundane.

@maclatunji, what am about to say should not in anyway be misconstrued. For your age, i sincerely do not think you are in any way precociously mature as there are guys who handle far more challenging tasks and responsibilities and are still far younger than you. I sincerely think with humility and level-headedness, it should not be difficult to get a modest practising muslima . The more alluring her credentials are, the more compromise you might be tempted to make. The prophet also warned us of those greenries on the dustbin. And my dear brother, in this era of moral bankruptcy, explosion in all evils and vices, one should consider it a big jihaad to settle down as fast as possible. May allah be our guide. You may need to speak to someone older who is married and a practising muslim, may be with clout also.

There is a dire need for muslim organisations to urgently face the challenge of securing land for the purpose of burying our dead. One will be easily shocked to observe the way the dead are treated in our public cemetries. The safety of the dead is not in any way guaranteed as there have been several reported cases of sales of human parts. The practise of also travelling several miles to bury our dead ones in our places of origin is far from islam. Minimal cost should be incurred in burial arrangements. The burial grounds should be such that will be well protected and if need be a modest sum could be charged to cater to the running costs. I have also noticed that our brothers from the north have cemetries dedicated to thier dead here in lagos. Our muslim organisations should wake up to this challenge as death is inevitable and should be properly planned for. Wal 'aaqibatu lil muttaqeen.

Atammallahu bina a u

Thanks.

This should not be seen as as if am embarking on a mockery exercise.
@deols,are your nuptials knotted already?

Thanks.

tbaba, if only you know the humble brother who is posting this.

i will elucidate further today as am just settling down for work.....

do not see it as a call for additional responsibility for the womanfolk ,mind you.

Thanks.

Thanks.