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4everGod1: Thats the typical mind of a Nigerian. sigh!

Lucy001: what makes u think Egbon is not safe?

ifyalways: oga Fhemmmy, any update?

pjogutum1: @Ournaija: Hello house when will 2013AF000149xx be current. I learnt that most 2013AF00014xxx have got there 2NL. My brother is really worried. When do you think it will be be current and most likely get his 2NL?

The visa bulletin is at 14,500. If you are a Nigerian, I suppose the next visa bulletin by March and 2NL two to three weeks after. Hope this helps

junkerhill: Your brother wuld be current nxt month being March, his 2NL april and interview May. He ought to hav calculated it by now. If his case number wher to be 19### what then wuld he do. Tell him to calm down and relax

Ujujoan: LMAO . . .
The guy's living in delusion jor.
My best friend loves me, my gf loves me more . . . bla bla bla!
Dreaming things!

dvonne: Go with the one you love !

Anyone advising you to go for someone who loves you has never been married. You will wake up beside that person for the next 70 years. Loving some one comes from the soul not their achievements rather your soul recognizes them as the right fit for you and this does not mean they are perfect but they are perfect for you.

A woman who tries to woo a man by calling him all the time is setting herself up for disappointment anyway.
This is such an important decision for you please do not marry out of pity , politely tell the other lady that you have found love and pray she does too.

Do not rely on the other lady's love which can change in future rather rely on the love you feel in your heart

Introduce her to your single friends.

amtheone: Poster. This is what usually happens when u fall in love for selfish reasons.

There is no point asking people to give u advice on how to tell her off without hurting her. There is no such word.

Why did u give her hope when u didn't mean it?

Why are u dating two grown ladies at d same time?
Why are u comparing them?
There is no need for ceremony abt the whole thing, just tell her. She will feel really bad considering all dat she has done to make the relation works.

But don't tomorow wake up and do d same with d one u seem to love at d moment.

maclatunji: Is she ugly? If na me, I go give her a chance. My personal belief: It is better to marry someone that loves you more than someone you love more especially as a man. We are perceived to be more rational.

No cheating on the nice lady O.

If you say she is not the one for you, cut her off completely but before you do that think long and hard.

pheyikemi: . @Op, since u can't tel her is the koko, why not stay unmarried til u both grow old, then u won't hurt her okay

Ujujoan: @ Poster . .

I don't understand how a 'friend' will start thinking of settling down with you if you've not given her any green light.

Have you EVER slept with her . . . even if it was just a one night stand

pheyikemi: *rolls eyes*, it myt jez be her nature to b caring. If she z dat into u, sit her down, tel her my earlier points and if she feels hurt, let her knw u lykd her nd dnt wanna hurt her by makin her life miserable in d nearest future if u both marry or beta still u seek a real pastor's advice 1st

babysnogls: U should av put d distance btw u two long ago instead of d 'Canopy ministry' u were doin. Anyways.. If u av neva askd her out verbally, Invite her for a date and tell her to gist u about d man in her life then advice her to get a gd man as u wil also introduce ur own girl to her soon.
Note: Canopy ministry is when u neva ask her out, yet u are all over her and ur presence chases away intending suitors.

pheyikemi: She z ur frnd, u aint dating her, so wt ur mouf tel her abt ds nyc lady u met nd really want to be wiv and dt u'll like her(ur frnd) to meet ur lady shikena. She'll get d picture

peaceheartt: Thank u so much wonderful peeps for all d useful opinions, I've gathered a lot dt would hlp me take d nxt step.

The first reaction I n my oda siblings had was to pounce on her at dia hme on saturday and lash her wt our mouth, bt wt all dis advice I want to xcuse her for dis cos truly as some of u pointed out it may b frustration abt d whole ish.
No, I'm nt single and I have kids, I kn hw d pregnancy hormones run wild at times.
Thx once again, now I'm looking at it frm a different angle, instead of going dia on to create a scene, we'll hve a matured meeting wt my bro and plan d way forward.
Love u all