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Orlandoo:
Nothing last forever. Same fate awaits the satanic APC in future.

Orlandoo:
Nothing last forever. Same fate awaits the satanic APC in future.

ImpeccableDust:
Go to Aguda
I saw two bedroom for 3.5M

Omo, things dey happen

MasterTeeUSA:
Supply just cannot meet the Demand and people are still giving birth anyhow. Materials are expensive, Land is expensive...so its not a bad advice.

Still one must exercise caution. You can also rent 3br or 2br and share..Say for example, 2br is N1.5m...both will pay N750k or just over N60k per month...You can even have 2 couples sharing 2br flats...nothing wrong there ...both will save and build land and build their own from the savings.

If you want advice on life and living, shout me an email.

There are solutions ..they may not be conventional or typical but they can work.

Lamanii22:
I have accepted reality this is my fifth year in my father-in-law's house

Malagans:
How about some of us that have no parents?
Our parents died early and couldn't even build a house before they died.
And we are still struggling.

What are we going to do now?

PeterObash:
At
At least common sense should have suggested to have taken permission before making such records.

CanadaOrBust:
Then he disappears as many husbands/fathers have. Then one day he'd be watching and one of his kids will appear on TV as a now-famous celebrity!

Kobojunkie:
He can definitely tell her it is over, but that won't change the fact that the blame here is on OP ans not on the woman he wishes into paint in bad light based on his OP. 🥱🥱

My hope is she is wise enough to leave him with the children or at least leave them with his parents then. This is so she can finally go work on herself,band send him child support money until she is able to get herself on her feet to maybe share custody with him. 🥱🥱🥱

Roseey0:
You didnt look well before you married. Considering the fact that some men do not want their wife to work, you cant actually blame her if that was the type of spouse she was looking for. You should have settled with a woman that have the same mentality as you.


The only thing you can do now is to avoid making more babies because you already have 3(yes, including your wife) that you are taking care of. Now cut family expenses to suit your income such that you will have savings every month. If shes is ok with playing at the level of one income, I dont think you can change her.

kenben:
The truth about such women is that the day she has to work and sweat for her own money she would be convinced that she married the wrong man. Disrespect and disregard will increase tremendously and cheating may likely follow.

Also, if you leave her and she is pretty ,she will immediately slide into the hands of another man. The failure here is one of upbringing. Her parents never impacted in her the need to take personal responsibility for her own growth. She therefore sees marriage as responsibility outsourcing.

Generally, to have a woman who does nothing in this day and age is the most irritating burden that any serious minded man would have to bear.

I can also predict that except changes are made and character is adjusted to meet expectations, that marriage is in its final days.

sweerychick:
words of a lazy fella. That's the problem with Naija folks always thinking that it's the sole responsibility of a man to provide. Let me tell you something, in this harsh economic environment it requires two to make it, I don't leave the whole responsibility for my husband alone, I work too, provide for my own basic needs, if my husband wishes to give me fine by me, but I'm there to support him because if I don't work hard too, anything can happen, what if my husband falls sick tomorrow or worse case dies would I still wait for him to provide from the grave. Enough of these nonsense it's a man's duty to provide that's the words of Lazy women.

At Op focus on your kids and rent and bills, start a side hustle stop giving her money let her make her own, if she decides to cheat outside let her suffer the consequences. Man up and don't listen to any fool saying that as a man you must provide everything.

Wotowotoman:
Ogbeni, the sooner you accept say na peace of mind and a loyal partner be all you need from a marriage, the better for you if you want to live long.

What many of these broke men no dey think when they ask their wives to go out and hustle is that financial Independence for the woman dey bring its own set of problems.

Once the woman goes out and starts making her own money plus caring for the kids wey she born, ogbeni your blood pressure will never be the same again. The woman go realize say that broke man at home is useless and deserves no respect. Trust me when this happens, you may as well pack your bag comot from that house cos even your children go follow their mama to dey insult you as a broke lazy man.

JoeEeL:
You may one day lose that job. Or lose ur health in it.

Then u will come back to read your foolish post

BodyCount:
What other values do you want from someone who gave you two children in three years? Is it not too early?
Don't be a wicked man...

EDGEof2MORO:
These generation of weak mean are going to be the death of society. This is the first time I am seeing a man complain about providing for his family.

Kobojunkie:
"For better for worse" does not give the man power to throw out the terms of the contract signed with the woman. So, your argument does not hold at all. 🥱

2. If a man is no longer meet up with his side of the obligation,[b] the woman is legit expected to consider the marriage contract no longer valid. [/b]Men have argued this for the longest, too.🥱

CanadaOrBust:
I'm not changing anything. We went into it for better or worse, knowing that things could change. So if husband became sick and could no longer work she should stay at home and starve to death??

Kobojunkie:
You want to be able to change the terms of the contract without changing the contract itself? That is what we call fraud. 🥱🥱🥱

If you want a working woman, then marry only a working woman. No go marry jobless woman wey want do housewife come dey complain say she be problem after your ego has revealed your stewpidity to you. 🥱

Wotowotoman:
No. If Tilumbu economy hit, the man suppose double him hustle. If he needs the woman to help, na beg he go dey beg am. No be to call her lazy.

If you want to marry a helper wey go share bills with you, find a woman wey get job or business or craft and marry her with the agreement say una go dey share bills. No go marry one poor jobless woman with no education and skills and tomorrow you go call her lazy woman when you dey struggle to provide. Like say na she beg you to come marry am from her papa house

Adaumunocha:
Married for 3 years with two kids so its possible that the 2 child still a toddler! You men can be very wicked and selfish plus unreasonable. Did u bring househelp that will bring d kids back from school? U go out in d morning and come back at night and think d woman has it easy with toddlers? Stay away from women if cannot man d fvck Up!!!

Adaumunocha:
You minding the selfish man?

funkmrflexx:
I've been married for 3 years now with 2 kids, I try my best to take care of my family but the economy has become very bad so it's no longer possible to take care of a family of 4 on just 1 income.
When I had money, I setup a business for my wife because I want her to be engaged and also she can support with whatever she has from the business, but after a year the business crumbled with no results to show (she gave many excuses on why she can't continue the business), even after that I've tried engaging her on other endeavors but she's not always serious.

Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long, all the responsibilities are on me, basically everything from school fees, feeding, house rent to buying a cube of Maggi.

I've tried talking to her several times but she will pretend to be serious and goes back to default settings, I'm tired and its really talking a tole on me, sometimes I just get angry at her for no reason and I don't even want to come home.

It's not the fact the she's staying home that's the issue, its the fact the she's not showing any effort to try and do something. I'm tired because all the money I make is being used for feeding and running the house, I can't even save or even think about buying properties

correctguy101:
Beautiful.

Now, what's rdt is what she plans to do with the 1m.

It's easier to do now. Try OPAY target saving. Even in 3 months, you can save over a million. And use it to boost ya other investment plans.

All things are achievable, just discipline yasef and you'll get many things done.

Snipingme:
Walk to a bank and invest in Money Market.StanbicIBTC, GTbank,Fidelity.UBA etc.it will grow and u will pay ur rent and still remain a millionaire

Moveittothem:
She hit it late.

1m now is like 100k of 2015

10m is the new 1m

Phranx1:
Congrats to her but her 250k 3 yrs back is much more valuable than her 1 million of today, APC hudini bulabu.

owobokiri:
Are you in business?
What kind of business can you start with that?

Let's discuss...

Shnew:
You don’t have to beg before someone helps you.

Btruth:
True. But true friend don't desert you no matter what the condition is. It's good if you are in a position to help when people come around and ask you for help. One shouldn't see it like those in needs are a burden. Life is not balance. I've also been in a position that requires me to seek for help from others. It pains me when people ask and I wasn't able to give out. But God genuinely knows my heart.

God love a cheerful giver.

It is well.

Stephen0mozzy:
Na lie. They'll only mock you if you become a chronic beggar; always relying on others for your sustenance but never taking the initiative to become independent.

The truth is, we all ask for help. Just don't ask for personal favours from people you don't have a deep relationship with - it puts unnecessary strain on the friendship especially if you don't have any value to give in return or kind.