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AreaFada2:
Even clearer why the lady is bossy. After all na my mother open the shop for me.

Look, what is wrong with a woman bringing something into a marriage? When person nor go hear word?

99% of women marry up. Only very few rich girls will marry poor guys. In fact oyindidi and crew here don't expect poor men to even have an erection.

The answer is simple. Let her divorce the man and move on. No difference if moved on from one man or two men

SpyAC:
may good God guide u as u overcome it

SpyAC:
an open problem could be half solved u know?

janvier27:
Don't ever be provoked to use harsh words on your husband. You should apologize please. Yes he failed you by not meeting up on your agreements, but he has good intentions. I'm just concerned about the boy because i have seen many of this kind of situation. I hope this will teach single fathers and single mothers to be more circumspect in taking marriage decisions, especially when kids are still young. Do all you can to keep your marriage. There are other lives involved here. I was going to suggest you involve a respected elder in the family to talk to your husband, but it appears he won't agree willingly or happily and that may also affect the boy's integration in the house. How i wish he would see it as an opportunity to do something great which not many people would do. He's already on it. Encourage him. Don't get carried away by the fact that you are financially independent. Sorry if you answered this somewhere in the thread, have you met his father's family to discuss the challenges with them and appeal for help? I was reluctant to suggest this earlier because you are in the best position to reform that child and he may not fare better with the father's family or even with a step mother. If however they can give him a home, you will then increase your presence around him and in his life. Someone made a suggestion about adoption. As strange as it sounds, i can assure you there are decent, successful families around that will be willing to take the boy in, and foster him. I wish you and your husband well in your decisions.

Vyvyanvyvy:
Husband and I had a heated arguments only because he had seen a conversation I had earlier with my sister she was telling me not to neglect my son because of him and she is in support of me to go and pick him up this Sunday and I told her not to worry my son will come and stay in the house the same way as his siblings so he got angry that I went against him and still want to bring him over he was saying a lot of bad things about my son which made me raged and I told him my son is important than him If he doesn’t want him he is free to leave me I will manage okay with my children have said a lot of harsh things because he made me angry so he took his car key and left the house since 11 something pm and is still not yet back and I regret the harsh things that have said to him but he also deserved it for talking bad about my son a innocent 11 years old and I decided not to check on him or apologise. I’m tired of everything I don’t want to die of bp why can’t we just live in peace with all the children instead of him causing problems for me without thinking about my condition

unimagin:
@Op
I'm very very mad at you. I don't know a befitting negative adjective to qualify you. Infact if I can see u now in person I must really really deal with you. Id.iot you want the innocent man to accept a thief that even your siblings rejected. God punish you

Jonathan:
You dey mind that mumu evening news paper?
Oyindindinrin

obontami:
Hello boo boo lol

cezarman:
WITCH!

Psoul:
Let me shock u a bit young man.

I am 22yrs in marriage. I have 3kids
1st child will graduate dis yr. 2nd is 3rd yr Architecture Student
3rd is just gained admission to study Law.

Then my wife have a younger sister.
Unfortunately she got pregnant. Everyone from the family was angry with her cos the parents are staunch members of Assemblies of God Church.
The girl ran away from the house.

I mandated my wife that they must trace where the girl is before anything bad happens to her.
The parents(my Inlaws) were not interested and even preferred her not bn around.
I insisted that they must trace where she was. With my help, my was was able to locate her in another town living with the young boy that impregnated her.
The boy was struggling to live.
I and my wife was providing for them till the girl delivered her child.
The boy abandoned them and ran away.
When I noticed this I told my wife that we must bring her sister back.
She told me that her parents will never allow her to come near the house.
I told her that I will take then to my house.
We brought them back to my house.

We got job for the young mother.
The baby is now 9years.
So many ppl don't know she is not my biological child.
She calls my daddy, my wife mommy and her mom, Aunty.

I have long reconciled her with her parents and all is happy now.

So when we all come here to exchange ideas or to while away time, don't think that all you see here are idle and useless youth. Most of us are responsible fathers. So park very well.

ejanla077:
Na dis type go dey beg man for recharge card like dis.

dayorich:
You're mad

BoboKush:
See mumu talk..... E suppose park ha whole family dey feed n take care of..... because e love the woman na..... The man no suppose get life he's meant to live for her n ha all

BoboKush:
What abt feeding..... What abt him corrupting other children

Ivebeenbanned:
As they should. That's how we feed. Cheers

Ivebeenbanned:
Lmfao.
The comment section surprised me a lot today sha. They were more smart people giving advice than useless Nigerian men with their toxic masculinity. I was thinking to myself "is this the nairaland I know?".

revolt:
good job. No contact for a man you had 2 kids with? Interesting ...

Ivebeenbanned:
I like you a lot already

M00N:
Your father, mother,brothers, sisters, grandparents, every body wet dey ur family are slowpokes

M00N:
The boy father reject am, uncle reject am, auntie reject am, you now want a innocent man to accept him

M00N:
Idiot
You are nothing more than a baby mama

M00N:
You be ashewo

Psoul:
Have u seen that you have no answer to this.

We always find it very easy to blame, castigate and crucify others and when in that same situation, we do worst that the person we were judging and sentencing to death.

Be properly guided my dear.

shekauvsbuhari:
Girl, dt woman is not independent. She is still livin with a man and depending on him to an extent. She is hardworking though. If she were my sister I would hav adviced her to wait for her kids to grow before remarrying since she had kids from an audio man.

Psoul:
Yes she told him and he accepted. That was when he had not heard about the negative thing about the boy.
Stop making it seem as if the man is just heartless.
You will still do the same if u are in the man's shoes.

If u used to have a very close friend that was very nice to u when u were in school, let's say a roommate.
Then you guys left school and u have moved to another city. You start to hear that your former roommate has joined bad gang and she was even arrested and beaten publicly.
If she calls you one day that she is within the same town you are and wants to squat with you for few weeks.
Onyindidi, what will be ur reaction?