letskeeptalking:


You foot 70% of bills in your house and yet you allow your husband to dictate to you what to do with your own son.

Madam, I don't think you are a serious person.

Personally I will rather be single than be with a man who will stand between me and my children. Even if I have to live in poverty. But you are financially capable, you just want to answer 'Mrs' at the expense of your child.

After bouncing him off relatives for years, you are now using your husband as an excuse to run from your duty.

Shame!

Oyindidi:
R is missing in your moniker add R inbetween the 2 O. That's what you are

Davash222:
Your siblings that are your relatives doesn't want the boy but you want your husband that is not your relative to accept the boy
You should learn to attend to your responsibilities and mistakes. Don't drag your mistakes to that innocent man. He has done more than enough for you.

Marrying a Nigerian girl with two children(not even one) is not what every man can do. That man deserves peace and respect from you.

Vyvyanvyvy:

He is not in Nigeria

James289:
Take him to the orphanage

Blyzz:
crystal clear, hearing from a woman alone is dangerous. Some women are devil by themselves. On the first page of this thread, scroll down, the second to the last person who commented, you'd hear her own reasons of marrying again. If she takes care of 70% of her current home, what stop her for renting her own house? How can a woman with two kids don't know her former husband relatives or siblings. She doesn't also know the grandmother of her former husband? Even if his grandmother is dead, Facebook is available. Why can't her search for his former husband's siblings only. Yeye dey smell from her story, she doesn't want to tell us she had bad attitude that's why her previous husband's family didn't accept the kids

Belafonte:


This is really difficult to believe. Even his family refused to have anything to do with you with two children/grandchildren? Wonderful.

Ivebeenbanned:

You're a kid in a grown man's body. Therefore you're a disgrace to manhood. Your weakness, toxic masculinity, and hate for women will drag you to the grave. SARS should be looking for you type to kill. I'm sure nobody would be sad. Ewu.

M00N:

Your father, mother,brothers, sisters, grandparents, every body wet dey ur family are slowpokes

Ivebeenbanned:

You're a kid in a grown man's body. Therefore you're a disgrace to manhood. Your weakness, toxic masculinity, and hate for women will drag you to the grave. SARS should be looking for you type to kill. I'm sure nobody would be sad. Ewu.

deavicky:
the truth can pain some people!!! Why? Why can the boy stay with his father.

Oyindidi:
I like your tears

Oyindidi:
I like your tears

M00N:


Have been eating bitter kola?

Have been drinking and bathing with bitter leaf water?

You are a bitter person

Belafonte:


If theft is passed down in your lineage and seen as normal, I would like you to understand that not everyone has such values.

Vyvyanvyvy:

Thanks I will rather be alone with my children . I’m thinking of going there on Sunday to pick him up from my brother and I will let him do his worst. If he denied him access to the house then I’m ready to quit

Vyvyanvyvy:
He wants me to come and collect him.

TabletMan:
You created this thread not to seek advice but to validate your actions because I knew you have already made plans for your son before opening this thread.
Some of these people advising you to divorce your husband are product of broken and warring homes.
That your son needs a fatherly figure in his life and just from your many comments I can only deduce that you're not capable of being both the man and woman in his life.
Go on with your plan but please don't quarrel or trouble your husband because he doesn't support it rather convince him with valid reasons why your son needs to be with you. He may not like the idea of your son living with you people but with time, he will get use to the boy. Make peace with your man because I can see taking 70% of the bills is raising up your pride and ego. You're healthy and alive and non of your relatives is capable of taking care of your only son what if something happens tomorrow? who is going to take care of your 3/4 children? .
I believe your husband is acting due to bad advise and influence of people, family members or friends that's why he is rejecting your son but accepted your daughter like his own, even after promising of taking care of both of them in the past.
Be wise in your dealings because you have made the first mistake, don't let pride and ego be your second mistake .
Make your husband to love your son and you will never regret it.

Vyvyanvyvy:

He will be 12 years in August , my daughter is 6 years, I have one daughter for my husband she is 2 years and I’m pregnant with another one. Their father is not in Nigeria and I don’t have his contact or his siblings. Yes I have a grocery shop I foot 70% bills in my house

armadeo:


Let me summarise this post.

Beg him to agree or tell him to Bleep off.

Deepthoughts:
Please how do you make all that money?,n why can't you take the children bact to their biological father?,how are you sure that your present husband wouldn't maltreat the boy?,these are some of the reasons why it's very important to think deeply n to consider different scenarios before acting in every situation less we move from frying pan to fire.

Richy4:


When I was growing up in Nigeria wayback, I used to hear about Abuja Marriage.. as I began to mature in my teens those days in Abuja , It started making perfect sense. Yes, a couple can stay in a relationship with kids without caring where or who their relatives where. I saw that in Abuja in the late '90s. I did not say someone told me.I saw it..

Though this might be extreme but OP has the right to divorce him on a bridge of contract. this is because he promised to accept her for who she was with her kids and all what not after marrying her, he refused to honour his agreement... I don't know if you are good with Law sha... You may agree or disagree with me but I stand by the side of truth.

Bro, Assuming that reverse was the case, and the man had 2 children and OP refused to have anything to do with them or even allow them to set foot in that house, Do u think all these young men dishing out advice would have spared the lady? I have stayed long on Nairaland to know that advise here are based on genda. Noone wants to call a spade a spade.

Oyindidi:
Watin dey pain you this afternoon? She is doing well for herself, oya start crying

Oyindidi:
I like your tears

MadeMan01:


I am 42 years and have never had sex with a a virgin. I have had sex with over 200 women and have never met a virgin