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I don't mean to sound paranoid, and if I did, so be it. its just so annoying how experience (either personal or distant) and exposure have bedeviled the mentality of an average Nigerian girl and her disposition toward relationship.
with a few of my experiences I have identify some of their misinformed perception of how relationship works.
1) she thinks the guy should be everything for her while she can go ahead and be herself.
the average Nigerian girls have expectation of the prospective boyfriend, doing nothing on their part to to fit into the guys life.
in a discussion with a friend years back, she was telling me about how she wants a guy that is rich, handsome, intelligent, knows how to cook, very caring and good in bed, for a boyfriend. when she was done fantasying, I ask her "what are you bringing to the relationship?" and she went silent.
we had, had sex twice and I don't look forward to a next time cos she was the sexually passive type, who lie there and expect the guy to work her to climax. her cooking is not that good too.
2.) she thinks its OK,to be in one relationship while you explore other options.
many of these girls claim to be in one relationship when approached, yet they will ask that you stay friends with them. very soon, when she is convinced you are better than her present, she start making an open show of affection for you.
when I met Adesua, she said we should just be friends, that she was dating someone, very soon she started calling and complaining about her boyfriend. I knew where all these complaining was heading so I played along.
one day she came visiting and changed into my boxer and cooked for me, after eating we proceeded to sexing. the day she tried to indicate we were now dating, I reminded her of her boyfriend and she started complaining about him, sha, I told her that "a lady start complaining about her present when she has her eye on the next. and that am not about to begin the cycle for her all over again"
once I ask my ex (while we were still together) why she was keeping some boys as her close friends, and she told me they are for insurance. "my substitutes" I said. when I broke up with her, she didn't see it coming. she later sent me a text saying she was sorry for all her lies and infidelity.
3.) she is careful about how much she gives and careless about how much she takes.
girls act so protective of themselves in relationships like the guys have nothing to loose. very often you hear them say "I can't cook for a guy am not married to" or "I can't wash or clean up for a boyfriend, he has to marry me first" well all these is acceptable, so long as you don't make such demand yourself.
these days the girls will make endless and stupid demands just as soon as you indicate interest in them. and if you demand from them of such little things as to visit your house, a kiss at the movies or a goodbye hug, then you suddenly have hideous intentions.
there was this course mate of mine back in school, who always come around to eat at my place. one day we had group assignment and our group agreed to meet at my place. when they arrived I decided to make indomie for them. two of the girls volunteered to do the cooking but Elohor did not even blink. one of the guys asked her to join the other girls and she said she cant cook for any man but her husband. so I said "all the food you have been eating from me nko? please if you can't cook for a guy don't eat his food too".
in summary, there are no rules that applies to all men collectively. for every individual providence place on our path we must first understand them and draw up the appropriate rules to best relate with them.
we should simply not do to others what we will not have them do to us and equally not take from others what we will not do to them.
do have a lovely weekend.

mad woman sentenced you to death.....and to think you are normal.... Rip!

please where is the mat o,??

please let no one come here screaming, propaganda, witch hunt and what have you. there should be no due process for those who are messing up with the very process. plus please let every of these accuse bear their surname, stop drinking panado on another's headache. enough of poor people coming out to shield rich thieves.

Hello everyone, please my sister misplaced her waec print out and she cannot recall her waec exam number. Hopefully there would be someone on the forum, who can help with retrieval procedures.
Thank you all, in advance.

izospindle:
i am taking road because from the airport to the camp is more than 3hours and its a 8 to 9 hours journey from abj

Sounds like you are very familiar with the state, what park are you going with?

Am still considering whether to go by road or flight sha, wah abt you?

Let get to know each other before we eventually meet in camp.
Oyinkel
A16 cross-river stream1
Federal university of Petroleum Resources delta state
Geology.
Going from abuja

And as for those who did not pay online, will they be collecting both green card and CUL in school?

eaglevision:
bros tomorrow is here nw,dis ur anxiety ehn,well i relate sha.by 2am tomorrow ur CUL will b ready,come sleep for my cafe this night hehe.

Bros you suppose understand na, if shit dey catch person, na as you dey near toilet nai the thing dey para pass o.

Once the law is against the high and mighty, it must by all means be amended. #NGRSenate. Please my friend stay away from poverty, for only the poor commit crime.

The motivation is of no consequence, but do they have a valid case?

"........The curse, causeless shall not come"

I got your text, and honestly if I had cash I won't have hesitated to send you the money, and when I have I will.
Fego I am not in anyway subdued by my mom or life troubles as you suggested.
Truth is, when I left warri I discover how much I didn't trust you. Am sorry because, even within me, I know all my suspicion maybe baseless but I feel awesomely useless to think so low of you. And then should I be justified to think so, then I still feel awesomely useless to have a replacement.
Either way, I gave up on the relationship for good but would not tell because I can't bring myself to say it, so I respond spiritlessly to your call or chat, and I am damn sorry.
What's even more is that am just hurt or jealous because you Femi boy friend had once slept with you, and stand the chance to do it again now that you are most vulnerable, plus you keep him so close like you guys didn't share a sexy past. Well I leave that to you and your conscience again this call about wanting to have a deliberate extension because of workload only served to strengthen my fear and the journey from church to church further prove your inconsistency.
I know you will have all the excuse, defence and explanation, what I am even more sure of is that you will tell me of how you are now ready to end every association with this and that. But again what do I know, you might just not care anymore.....which for me would be a preferred option....please don't bother, because we can never rebuild the broken wall of trust between us, so your outburst would only be an attempt to recover spill milk.
I wanted to just let everything die a natural death, but you won't just lemme be, with your calling continously. Worst is that all I hear in your voice is the sound of betrayal.
I like to judge you innocent so I walk the rest of my journey through this world feeling guilty that I throw your love and fidelity away.
Since my keeping to myself won't help you concentrate on your next promising relationship, I want you to know my stand so you can very well open up for something better.
GOD bless you.

May all the forces of good descend on the budget, so that it maybe executed to the edification of the nation. #i_stand_with_a_better_nigeria.

I just saw a post on front page of twin girls married to twin boys.....what could be more......you guys ain't family o.

90% of the girls commenting want him to keep quite about the scandal.....girls and their life of secret betrayals......if you are his friend, tell him. Because on the day it would burst by some other means, there's gonna be two people he is disappointed in. Besides there is the power of secret bro, very soon you will find yourself being tempted to use the information to your advantage

Is funny right? A few month back amechi and APC were crying of being raped "federal might" today Wike and PDP are crying of rape by thesame federal might......be humble.....power is never permanent, is often change hands. do as you would be done by.

It's GEJ that choose the team...

Happy birthday Daddy.......may your natural and spiritual strength never abate, GOD bless you eternally

CROBBOY:
Niger Stream I

Thanks

Fraih:
EDO

please help me check, someone said I got niger state but am now
concern about the stream. Kellylasisi@gmail.com pw- daddygo1987 ...thanks

Please some one check for me too, kellylasisi@gamil.com pw-daddygo1987

Please did anyone notice that the latest on NYSC Web page,.....that the time table is not yet ready

How to become the people's hero in Nigeria....
Get yourself arrested by BUHARI's government.

Hi PCM(s), please what do you think of these combination of preferred states
Abuja
Kaduna
Niger
In the order of most preferred choice.
PS: state of origin is OYO and school is Federal University of Petroleum Resources Effurun, Delta.
Thanks

GOD's word always bring peace to the hearer, the devil on the other loves to make people loose hope and tremble with fear.
GOD bless you sir.

So at the beginning of 300l first semester, I decided to have a girlfriend like others, I recorded the lowest Gp that semester with my first F......well, I broke up with the chick after seeing my result, and stayed single till graduation to avoid story that touch......we are back to dating now.

It hurts that our reaction to all these is to, being to politicise it all. Have you stop to consider the many lives that would be in danger tonight, the children that would fold up somewhere in this freezing harmattan cold in that region, what about the Army that would be killed in the attack.
Our differences both political and religious has completely empty us of all human sympathy.
Dear LORD be on our side in this battle against the insurgents, have mercy upon the many innocent endangered children in tonight's attack, and their helpless parent. Bring an end to wickedness in our land, please LORD enough of the bloodshed already. Visit all who derive pleasure in affilicting the innocent citizen of our dear nation with your almighty wrath, and as many who have lost touch with compassion for others due to political and religious difference, rekindle in them the virtue of Love. In JESUS name......amen

Kellylasisi@yahoo.com

Who is he that sayeth a thing and it cometh to pass when the LORD has not spoken it? Fayose, your negative declaration over this nation for 2016, shall not stand, you and all who desires to see Nigeria fail because of your political difference with PMB and APC shall be put to shame come 2016.
For the masses sake, who will be greatly affected by all these negative declarations of yours, GOD ALMIGHTY will have mercy and make 2016, a new beginning of great things for Nigeria.....Amen.