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Big SCAMMER spotted

Onyi22:
So many Wailers on this post..
Am also ready Naira Marley

Ok. But please try and av a clean bath. He is not ready for any STD

Islie:
https://dailypost.ng/2021/05/15/how-bandits-wife-secretly-untied-11-abducted-katsina-muslim-worshipers/?amp

Foolish police. Don't they think dat woman life is in danger. If they eventually finds out? Some tins are made to b secret

family6644:
I need serious advise from experienced nairalanders, please forgive my lengthy message because it requires detailed explanations.

I lost my wife exactly 3 months ago, 4 years of relationship and 13 years of marriage with her before she passed on, she left behind 3kids, 13yr old girl 7yr and 3yr old boys. I understand marriages are full of their challenges but we have been through the journey and we came out victorious having a loving and happy home, a union other partners appreciates.

My late wife was so organized and we trainned my kids to be independent while she travels on local business trips. So I just needed to continue our family habit of buying and stocking everything at home while they manage themselves with the help of an older maid who has been part of the family for many years, in short, we are faring quite well as I continue to mourn my wife and carry on with life.

Here is the problem, from a lot of condolence messages coming in on my Facebook, I had the chance to reply some of them 2weeks ago, I met this single mother of two who invited my kids to her daughter's birthday party, i was reluctant but she said it is time to start taking the kids out since they are yet to resume school, exactly what they needed at that point was the usual outing which has been missing for a while since their mother's sickness and after her demise, approx 6months in total. She said it's not a loud party that she needed only my kids for the small sitting room party.

I decided, went to the party with the kids, it was fun for the kids, I have not seen them happy like that in a long while, it made me happy too, they fell in love with the two sisters and their mother all like a miracle, my little 3year old boy started calling her mommy, others follow and it all seem like a family reunion. We left late at night with her girls asking that they meet again the next day which was a Sunday. To cut it short, my kids and hers agreed to meet the next day except for me. To be honest, the lady is a nice and lovely person to be with, she's a realtor who can work from home, she's real and beautiful, she has been a single mother for 4yrs after her husband travelled out and abandoned them to marry another woman, that's according to her.

She called me that her kids could not allow her rest, they said if we can't come, she should bring them to our house, I mildly rejected but i was persuaded by my daughter and my first son to have them around, I could see that they have bonded quite well, I want my kids to be happy too, that's what I have always wanted for them so I agreed and gave them our address. To cut the story short, I find it impossible to separate the two families that has come together to become one, when they were leaving back to their house my kids pleaded with me to allow them go with mommy to her house, I understand that is real because she's lovely with kids. I had the confidence to trust my kids with someone for the first time in my life. They didn't want to come back, I had to go and pick them up the next day, all of them made sure they came back home with me, we started living together as a family and everyone was enjoying it.

It became an automatic affair with her, I was worried about it been too early, I had to involve few of my friends to seek opinions, some were happy that i could get a good mother for my kids this soon, others asked me to stop the family union and give it a little time to study her character. I suggested some space but she felt very bad, she thinks I am sending them away. I had to allow them stay while I use the opportunity to observe the new found love and family.

12days after, I realize that in a bid to reorganize me and help me to move ahead in life, she totally disregards anything that concerns my late wife whom I still hold dear to my heart, same as my daughter and my adopted daughter, I don't like to address her as a maid. We loved and cherished my late wife, everything she introduced seems to be strange to the norms of the family. If I try to raise my concerns for her to adjust, she will simply tell me that the dead is dead and I should just forget everything about her including whatever she stood for as a mother and wife.

If I try to talk some senses into her to make her understand that brooding over the dead is different from honouring and respecting the deseased, she gets really angry claiming I am comparing her with a dead person. Whatever she discovers as our way of doing things in the family she disregards it and replaces it with her own way without minding how we feel as a family or how easy or difficult it is for us to adjust.

It looks like we are the only ones tolerating and accommodating them here, I have tried with no avail to stop her from insulting the memory of my late wife. I discussed with each and everyone at home, they all wish I could perform a miracle to have them leave because no one can tolerate the mother and kids anymore, I am equally fed up myself and willing to take a break.

I have a friend who is aware of my problems with her, he told me that I am the problem here, he said it will be hard for any woman to fit into our family way of doing things and it will be difficult for us to cope with a different way of life introduced by another woman.

I hope I can get one or two advices that could help. I am quite confused

Oga if I were you, I would run for my life. If u truly love ur kids don't. Ask urself dis question? If she is loving and caring as u claim. Wud her husband abandon her? ND remarry, even if he travels to planet Jupiter. He wud look for ways to bring her ND his kids over there. Don't b fooled she is using mind game with you. Wen she eventually enters u wud d other side of her. Dats their way pretence. Drops mic

wirinet:
And in your medical school, they taught you that schizophrenia is not hereditary or that it runs in families. Abeg which school did you go?

I DNT say it doesn't. Check my previous mention. I said sometimes it can be temporary. Not lasting. Like chronic madness

Kobojunkiee:
You no explain anything at all... all you have done is deepen my fears where the mental and medical Healthcare system in Nigeria is concerned. A doctor, in the year 2021, who doesn't even realize how mental illness can occur in persons... leave me running the opposite direction.

U DNT get me oh. U mean mental illness is transferable from one person to other?. Dats madness can b transfer from parents to kids,!, Pls try Google

Kobojunkiee:
Even the questions you ask come off as an insult to mental illness sufferers.

If these are the sort of things that the mind of a one who claims to be a doctor in 2021 produces, then are you any better than a native doctor for Pete's sake?

Stop! Please go back to school if you need to. Doctors are expected to treat the mental even as they treat the physical these days. If you are the average in Nigeria, then I believe my fears of mental healthcare in Nigeria are well founded.

Av I not try to explain everything to you.before? Ok I am so sorry

Kobojunkiee:
A doctor , in the year 2021, who does not understand mental illness is no doctor I care to talk to or have any dealings with.

If you can't treat the mental as well as the physical, you are no better than a native doctor to me, and this isn't about you.

U truly need medical examination. Sorry to say. Ok pls what are d causes of mental health illness. Or they taught u dat a mad woman must give birth to mad babies? Why those mad women in d street dnt giving birth to mad babies. Pls ur assignment go to motherless babies home ask of their parental backgrounds of d babies. U wud find out that half are product of mad mum. So why are d kids not mad? Wait oh wat class are u self? I guess pry 3 or 4?

Kobojunkiee:
Are you sure you are a doctor? Which school you go so..

Pls I wud like talk to you. Come to university of Benin teaching hospital (UBTH) in Benin city. Nigeria. Go to emergency and truama ward. Ask for Dr. Iguma. U wud get me. Shalom

Kobojunkiee:
You, a doctor?
You know with the comment above, you give doctors a bad name.

How? Dey didn't inherite madness, they only inherited lost of memories for short time later regains. Read her post again u find out she said her elder brother was first insane. But now he is helping her take care of their younger brother. So hw can a mad man do that? Or if their mum was truly mad wud their dad marry her? Or even think of giving birth to 3 kids? So pls read

Stedygrowth:
You have never heard of schizophrenia before?

Yes I av. It always lead to Short time lose of memories then later regains. Not totally madness. Ask urself. Assuming her mum was totally mad. Wud her dad marry her?

My few years as a doctor. I never read that madness is transmitted. Check well maybe they are on hard drugs. Due to mother death. Shalom!!

the most part is, when her parents gave birth to her. dey where happy. even during baby dedication it was a joyous moment. not knowing dey gave birth to a foolish mad OLOSHO

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Buhari we all know is one pussy ass mode fuckkking niggarrrr

ha, as buhari stop paying ur monthly stipend??

Zzor:
A toaster bought me bone straight hair and some expensive wrist watch but I don't receive gifts from men

abi he bought you. bread ND egg. for one night stand??����

wats ur problem dis kid

blacknp:
Rubbish statement from a Hypocrite, there are three tiers of Government pursuant to the Constitution of 1999 as Amended, Federal, State, & Local Government, Which President Buhari has no jurisdiction whatsoever over? Pastor are you blaming President Buhari for the incompetence of the States, & Local Government, or don’t you understand the Democrazy we practice in Nigeria?

Security is everyone’s business, which begins from the 36 Chief security officers of each individual state (The Governors), not 1 man in Abuja, 36 is stronger than 1, different states have different security challenges, the President can’t solve it from Abuja, one hat can’t fit all? until you hypocrites stop deceiving yourself with this rubbish Democrazy things will only get worse.

u lack sense infact u lack comprehension. did he mention any level of govt? he just said govt

wunmi590:
To join my family celebrating Christmas, I decided to also buy two chicken to celebrate both Christmas and new year.

Though I have two that I rear from scratch, but they are not big enough for me.


So I proceeded to the market, and the size I used to buy for 4k before I was told is 7k each.

I had to beg to pay 10k, for both, but at the end I paid 10,500, for both.


One is already in the pot

While the other one is still playing in the compound with my other two I have before.


The chicken no even won lay egg make I chop before new year come choi

u mean d two for 10k.5. hmm amazing. I bought my own one oh for 8.5k. location Benin city. Edo state

Maxitomxane:
Here is my Girl...

new meme found. I no someone we use it

Danny50:
Old testament you said bro give yourself brain.

old testament u said. do u pay ur tithe? is tithing not in old testament? ur reasoning is beyond me

dalass:
It is plainly written in Exodus 20:4. You shall not make any graven images or bow to them.....

Those in authority and alive we may bow, prostrate for to respect their leadership positions but not to pray to them as we do God!

Even when the leaders now pass away, you don't make images of them and bow or pray to them, or do we?

E.g... I can kneel or bow to the Pope while alive as a sign of respect but when he dies, it is a sin to be bowing or prostrating to be praying to him for answering prayers when he clearly has no power to do so

so who gave Moses his rod? who comanded Moses to make a stutue of a snake. when d isrealites was in d wilderness? av u ever heard of d ark of God in d Bible. pls b rational, or better still read ur Bible slowly
wait oh is Jesus Christ not dead why are u still praying through him to the father. pls answer

Ozmar:
Oga, don't try to sugar-coat anything. The bible says "Do not make an image of anything in heaven and do not now down before them" . Meaning, I can bow before an oba cause he's not an image of anything in heaven, rather, bowing down to an image of Jesus is a sin.

Read your bible with understanding. I'm equally Catholic but my spirit doesn't agree with such things.

u sounds very stupid. d Jesus u bow to or worship. is an actor oh. or where u dere wen he was born?. or pls Mrs. P.A to God. educated me on the tins of God since u av been there

Ever8090:
Very beautiful ..but will definitely be filled with images,..that is my problem.

I am a born Catholic but stop attending when I got tired of battling with my conscience wether prostrating Infront of those images is right or wrong, and praying to Mary was one other doctrine I could not understand...but I am still in love with Catholic hymns so much..in fact I listen to hymns almost every night while I sleep off...

God bless the Pope and give him the wisdom to reduce those images and also abolish the prayer to Mary and other saints so that I can return back to my Catholic..

is ur Bible u used in praying not an image or ur handset not one pls b reasonable for once

pozehnani:
Jeez

What is it with men and sex though? Hm!
Can't they control themselves any longer? Mtchew!

Get well soon, Ma.

I'm ashamed of all the men talking trash here. See what sex has reduced the men folk to? SMH.

just thinking how ur borehole smells

SilverNorGold:
They are jealous because detective Fashola unraveled a comic mystery none of them could unravel for days.. They have spent days searching for a clue, but took Fashola just a moment to spot the needle in the haystack..

Lazy bunch! Instead of them to focus on their work, they were busy studying the poorly photoshopped pictures designed by some of these Nairaland 2k graphic designers who want to see Nigeria burn... Now they are jealous that it took Fashola few minutes to win the Gulder Ultimate Search.. Nonsense!

May God heal and bless Nigeria.

oh, I no pray similar accident happens to u Amen

PharmaGirl:
Your opinion Reno.
If that's what you believe, then its fine.

But remember, they didn't impregnate themselves.

So while you're giving reasons on why you won't help 'deliberate single moms', don't you think it'd be nice if you also preached to the men who impregnated them?

Tell them to carry their cross honorably. Tell them to provide for their kids so their kids' moms will stop running to your TL, begging for money.

so u telling me madam dat I meet u first time for a date. jst because of long neck u agreed and I got u pregnant. which I don't want. which fault is dat. funny enough out of 96% of ladies dnt trully no who is responsible. I am a doctor from experience

no comment. is aboki na

longetivity:
if you scatter their home, hope you go marry ur sister�

nor mind d fool. they tell am say he sister nor no

[quote author= post=94314327]THANKING GOD FOR LIFE.


To God be the Glory,
We are gradually getting back to our world.
Our whole lives we have been watching like a movie for several months : the movie is about to come to an end!

You reading this should thank God for your life,
Because, Worldwide (as at the very minute of typing this) 26.4 million human beings like you were infected with the deadly virus and
899, 532 people have died!!!
But you are still here standing on your feet.
Eating, drinking, having fun with friends and families and eating Pepper soup and Barbecue
No be God?

But it is too soon to stop MASKING UP guys.
Keep up with that![/quote]wait oh is dis truly you? u av changed oh. now reasonable. congrats

IamPatriotic:
Was he arrested?

u talk like a brainwashed kid, what's d deferent between ARREST ND DETAIN?�