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Jewessgratitud3:
Right now she needs advice on what to do and I'm also going to be sharing what I have advised her so far.

This man has used his foolishness to implicate my sister and their lovely kids. Before I go into details of what happened recently, I'll like to give a quick backstory of how all these came to be and how she even got herself into this mess

Backtrack to 2014 when she broke the news that someone was coming to see the family for her hand, I asked her who the person was but she refused to tell me saying I'll meet him when he comes. I was now like ha... This one you're hiding it. I never knew it was one useless guy that was living in our former area in the early 2000s that all he does then was stand at junctions disturbing girls. He also disturbed me one period like that and I so much dislike him because of his behavior plus he's fair and I dont fancy fair guys.

The day came and we started cooking. Already I had gotten a hint from my eldest sister that it's the guy and I said was that why she was hiding it? What's my own there. We move. As the day was approaching, my idowus husband called and told me to warn my sister that that guy she's pulling with is not it. That if she's trying to have something serious with him she'll be making a big mistake. I said, she's an adult and can make choices for herself.


He came with his people and we did everything and she moved in with him. Now, this guy doesn't do anything. He claims he's a lawyer but never goes to work. Most times he'll go for early morning training by 6am and after everyone has gone to work, he'll come home and be sleeping. initially my sister was covering him up that he's doing something but anytime I visit after school, I'll always meet him at home sleeping. I knew my sis was just covering him.

Before they married my sister owned a school that was doing well. After her first child the school was still doing well but they started having issues because she was the one bearing most of the financial burden in the house. Sometimes she would come to school with bruises on her face. Since she refused to talk, me I didn't bother asking because if I do she'll bark at me.it continue like that until she could no longer bear it and started opening up to me that the guy doesn't do anything. Just goes about from one junction to the other.

She took in for her second child and fell sick. The school suffered mismanagement and folded up. That was when the guy showed her his true color. They fought to the extent she left her kids and went to my sister's house. My elder sisters husband settled them and she went back.

She had her third child and the guy started his madness again. This time he would leave them and go for hours without food. When he's coming at night he'll buy food and call his children to come eat and leave my sister hungry. So anytime I go there I'll just find her something to eat. Sometimes not always.
The day I said enough is enough and decided to pull her out of that nonsense was the day she called me, I was in a bus and she said for two days now she has not eaten anything and she's having headache. That the guy said he'll deal with her. I told her to hold on and sent her the little I could that I'll come and see her.

I got there and told her she can't continue like this . I told her to start following me to school to learn how to do what I'm doing and I'll be giving her small small daily pay any day she goes with me and later she can start sourcing for her own schools and be making her own money. I put her through and took her to a school immediately and assigned her to some classes after watching me for a few mins.

We did that for a few weeks and I was giving her the small thing I could after each day. She started going out to look for schools and two schools called her. She now said she can't be following me again , I said no problem. God helped her, She now got more schools and started selling books too and making money.
When this guy saw it, he left feeding and only buys food for the children once in a while. Meanwhile their fighting continued.

Fast-forward to last year, the landlord called my sister that he has given the husband quit notice, not because he was owing but because he was always disrespecting the landlord. My sister tried to plead but he said it's not because of my sister but the husband. Now this guy's is so troublesome and brags a lot. He quarrels with the landlord a lot and always goes against the rules of the compound. I on the other hand have been telling my twin now that she has the money to get her own apartment and leave the lazy thing but she remained there.


Last two weeks Tuesday. during that heavy downpour, the landlord came with some police men and threw their things out in the rain as she was preparing her children for school. It was one of the police men that now had pity on her and said they should leave the things in the compound instead of throwing outside in the rain and helped my sister to bring then inside the gate. The husband ran away. After everything he called my sister to bring the children somewhere. When she got there it was a friend's house. He begged them to let his family stay the night and till now he's still there. I told my sister, shey I've been warning you about this guy. Bett look for a place and move in before this one's change their mind. Could you believe this man continued his laziness there? When everyone has gone out he'll go there and start sleeping till they come back from work and meet him. My sister said he has started quarrelling the man's wife . Someone who's squatting you you're challenging them.

he's talking about moving them to Mowe but my sister is not buying the idea and says she wants to get an apartment here on the mainland because of her job and move with only her children but I'm of the opinion that she should leave the children with him because if she goes with the children he'll run from his responsibility and never pay their school fees again.

What should she do because the guy travelled for his brothers burial now and the owner of the house was heard asking the wife why the guy and my sister are still in their house and said let him come back first . Meaning they are tired.

I've told her to get an apartment now o.

UncleKoboko:
DNA TEST SHOULD BE A MUST IN THIS COUNTRY. I WANT NATIONAL ASSEMBLY TO PASS THE LAW ASAP.

One can no longer trust all these generational coded SLÚTS and OLOSHŌS.

They said 1 out of every 4 DNA TEST in Nigeria is usually negative...

You can't marry a girl that's:

Not a virgin

You don't know her sexual history

You don't know her true bodycount

You don't know if she's done abortions etc and still be trusting her!
ARE SOME MEN CHRONICALLY AND GENETICALLY DAFT?

As long as a girl is not a virgin, NEVER EVER TRUST HER OR ANYTHING SHE SAYS ABOUT ARE SEXUALITY. IT'S USUALLY 99.9% LIES.

The earlier men wise up, the better.

The thing we need to start doing to make all these lose hōes accountable for their promiscuity is to START BEING TRADITIONAL.

A girl that's not a virgin does not deserve bride price! What are you paying bride price for?
Her father raised a hõe and does not deserve any respect as bride price.
At worst, FIND OUT HER TRUST BODYCOUNT ) VERY DIFFICULT), and divide her bride price by the number of her bodycount.
If her bride price is 100k and her bodycount is 10, WHAT SHE DESERVE AS BRIDE PRICE IS 100K/10 = 10K.

2, If you didn't marry her as a virgin, YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE REST OF MIND UNTIL YOU DO DNA TEST ON ALL THE CHILDREN SHE MAKES FOR YOU.
Even if you marry her as a virgin and you suspect or see signs that she might be misbehaving, PLEASE DO DNA TEST!
DNA TEST IS NOT AS EXPENSIVE AS IT USED TO BE BEFORE, WITH BELOW 200K, IT CAN BE DONE AND YOU'LL HAVE REST OF MIND FOR LIFE.
A man who comes to this difficult and struggling world to raise another man's child because he was deceived is a complete failure and disaster to existence.

3, Cheating has never and can never be a mistake. Cheating is also different for both genders. When it becomes normal and legal for woman to have multiple surnames, then you can start forgiving them when they cheat.
One of the worst thing a man can do on this earth is to forgive a cheating wife. It's a suicidal and no man should do it. The moment she cheats, everything you ever have with her should completely end, even if you have children with her. You can take your children and take care of them or get another wife... BUT NEVER TAKE HER BACK.


A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE....

GOFRONT:
So Non of Manna the Griller's meat is being showcased here?

othermen:
I feel terrible that the mob mentality in Nigeria has obfuscated the true underlying issues that demand attention. In a related incident involving Burna boy where he sought a romantic interest, only to find out she was already with someone else at the venue. When she rebuffed Burna's advances, he flew into a rage and had her boyfriend shot in the club. Shockingly, there was no substantial public outcry, no legal action taken, and no one even hinted at pulling Burna's music from the airwaves. We continued to embrace Burna without reservation.

When Burna's aggressive behavior went largely unaddressed, it sent a message that such actions were tolerable within the industry. This lack of accountability set a dangerous precedent, allowing for a culture of unchecked aggression and intimidation to persist. If the industry had taken a firmer stance against violence and intimidation, it might have discouraged such behavior, potentially altering the course of events that led to Mohbad's untimely death and so here I equally argue that we hold individuals accountable for their actions, regardless of their status or influence within the music industry, but holding them accountable is not the same as having a mob mentality.

Shifting gears, Naira Marley operates a record label, and the artists under his umbrella are bound by contracts. Even the most illustrious stars have encountered conflicts with their record labels, as exemplified by Michael Jackson's scathing remarks about Tony Montana or Sony Music, the entity he was associated with, which he likened to a 'devil'.

Admittedly, Naira Marley and his associates likely had vested interests in Mohbad, whom they had invested in. Undoubtedly, they may have exerted some form of pressure on Mohbad to ensure compliance. Nigerians contend that these tactics may have contributed to Mohbad's untimely demise, and it's on the contention that Naira Marley has been sentenced already. No one is taking a step back to do possible re-assessments, or having the imperative not to subordinate an approach to the situation that uses a fair and impartial perspective. Nigerians forget that jumping to conclusions without comprehensive investigation risks perpetuating a cycle of vengeance and violence, that will potentially lead to even more tragic outcomes. They forget that when you take drugs away from someone having substance issues, their allegations then should be re-examined before using it as a basis for constituting guilt as substance abuse could impact a person's perception and memory, potentially leading to exaggeration or distortion of events. In the case of Mohbad, there is also a recording where what he alleged of Marlian music, he alleged of his wife. Of coz, he is dead and to suggest of his compromised state of mind having led him to misinterpret situations, inadvertently assigning greater significance or intent to actions that may have been far less malevolent might seem impossible to you, but did you not think so when he was alive, that changes in his weight, slurred speeches, slurred movements, allegations that he had withdrawal issues and possibly neglected his important obligations and commitment, had a sense of hopelessness in some of the videos evidencing his state of torment, had worsening mental health conditions, and possible health issues were all related to his substance usage? These were physical signs, psychological signs, behavioural signs, physical health issues, and withdrawal symptoms that are also associated with those now alleging maltreatment from Marlian Music.

Mohbad's passing doesn't preclude us from examining his state of mind especially if done with empathy and a commitment to seeking the truth and avoiding a re-occurrence. and such assessment does not diminish his experiences which is evident in the videos, but how about we admit that to understand the context of such videos is important to making judgments that could have significant consequences. Due process is a cornerstone of any just society and in ours, it appears justice is served in unfairly vilifying individuals.

If you disagree, so why is it not important to consider whether Mohbad's struggle with substance abuse played a significant role in his tragic trajectory, impairing his ability to fulfil his obligations to the Marlian record label? And that this, in turn, compelled Naira Marley's' camp to resort to increasingly forceful tactics. It's worth noting that Sam Larry, who may have one time been the source of Mohbad's drugs, likely exerted similar pressures on Mohbad, to recover the pay for the supply he made to him. This is purely speculative and not an assertion of fact, however, such speculation may be relevant in the context of understanding the video evidence depicting altercations between them. Why would you not think of possible motivations behind the conflicts captured in those videos? and yet make judgments while denying yourself any insight into the power dynamics, dependencies, and tensions that may have been at play. How ridiculous, but you believe instead that NDLEA at the behest of Naira-Marley administered a harmful substance to Mohbad and yet it is propagated without any slight scrutiny. Not a scrutiny at the timeline, which defies all logic because of coz, Mohbad's apprehension occurred during a period when he was known to maintain a cordial and seemingly unproblematic relationship with other members of the music label. Yet we go on, hinging on the notion that his drinks were tampered with as he was made to gulp a liquid substance that looks like water and we buy into it willingly suspending all rational thought and replacing it with an unfounded narrative that serves only to vilify Naira Marley caring not that it is not only implausible, but it defies all reason. Why would anyone resort to such an elaborate and risky scheme, and for what purpose would such an extraordinary lengths serve using an institution designed to combat drug-related issues, as the backdrop for such a clandestine act of poisoning Mohbad? If there were nefarious intentions, there are countless other, far more inconspicuous locations where such an act could have taken place, and easily done, because at the time, Mohbad was good with Marlian associates.

How ridiculous, it's more difficult to think it was Mohbad's lifestyle choices that led to his downfall and much easier to join the mob in thier fervor to lay the blame squarely on Naira Marley, and they do so insufficiently justifiably on his questionable history. That this is the case is a lamentable indictment of an entertainment industry and country that appears to be using Naira Marley as a convenient scapegoat.

The issue demanding attention is the complex web of factors contributing to Mohbad's tragic demise. This includes not only the intimidating tactics from both Naira Marley and Sam Larry, but also Mohbad's own struggles with substance abuse. The larger concern is how these elements intersected and ultimately led to the unfortunate outcome. It's important to recognize the broader systemic problems within the entertainment industry, such as the power dynamics between artists and record labels, and the potential for exploitation or coercion, but it's more important to address the issue of substance abuse, objectification of the female bodies which is glorified in their music.

Additionally, there's a need to address the public's response to such incidents, which has an history of overlooking or downplaying serious misconducts, until there is a fatal outcome.

The tactics of intimidation have taken a concerning turn, now directed towards Naira Marley and Sam Larry. Influential figures like Bella Shmurda, and others that stand to benefit from violence, have gone so far as to call for the lynching of Naira Marley and Sam Larry, perpetuating a culture of violence that threatens to claim even more lives. It's imperative to recognize that in our mourning for Mohbad's tragic passing, our grief may blind us to the fact that allowing such a situation to persist will not lead to a better society free from exploitation, intimidation or harassment. Instead, it is likely to breed further weaponry and violence within our communities.

Furthermore, Mohbad's peers and individuals seeking to establish their presence on social media platforms have inadvertently fostered unrealistic expectations of law enforcement. The police investigation, when conducted impartially, will likely exonerate Naira Marley while uncovering the role that substance abuse played in Mohbad's demise. This truth may be a difficult pill for many to swallow, as there is a strong desire for a scapegoat in Naira Marley. Succumbing to this desire, however, will only perpetuate a cycle of violence that will claim even more lives. It is crucial to approach this situation with a clear and rational perspective, seeking justice without resorting to further harm.

aQUINandmore:
I am in love with helinues.
I know helinues has connections with big APC politicians.
Helinues, I love you
Helinues please love me back before I do something drastic

Beverlyjean:
What you are saying doesn't make sense... if a rich guy becomes broke because he was paying the bills of a woman and spending on her , I will 100% blame him cos its his money and his account, he had the choice to say no cos going broke will most likely mean he is on his own... if a woman gets pregnant, she should be blamed for allowing that to happen... she should protect her womb ,just like a man should protect his account... so because the man likes it raw, u should allow him to do it with u... so because a woman has needs , it means the man should spend all his money on her ....

Matix222:
Na die day call you so

Gerrout joor

Matix222:
Na die day call you so

Gerrout joor

yarimo:
you are a criminal if you see anything wrong in checking expired date

yarimo:
The camp should watch out for expired date , including NAFDAC reg number. Obidients are criminals .

TemplarLandry:
Get well soon Hoe B.

Drinking recklessly has consequences.
😁

Matix222:
I day lag where you day?

No be to day cap oo hope you can match your words with action? I hope so

datjohn:
July 2000, France.
Funny Plane. Expensive.
Fly fast. But this one overweight.
Match one stupid metal for runway.
Tire bust, debris fly, fuel Fire!!!
Dodge hitting French President.
Kill all 109 people+ 4 on ground.
No more fast plane fly.

Matix222:
You day very stupid oo bro no make me talk Abeg is your father that is a kid

Mumu

Matix222:
Back to sender you useless entity

Matix222:
Your dad is the disgrace to manhood

lascos912:
some nairalanders get problem i swear.how can you be asking a girl to prepare you a traveling documents only to come and taste pussy juice

Matix222:
Hello are you the one on your profile?

Obasempiree:
Of recent many Top football stars have made shocking transfers to Saudi Arabia, from the likes to Ronaldo, benzema and many more. Aside the huge financial benefits attached to contracts given to players by Saudi clubs, what could be other reasons players might be going to Saudi Arabia. ?

maleekberry:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sq0gEthXQ0Q

Lere Paimo, Mr Latin, Kolawole Ajeyemi, Femi Adebayo, others, have all slept with me – Lizzy Anjorin



https://www.reubenabati.com.ng/feature/lere-paimo-mr-latin-kolawole-ajeyemi-femi-adebayo-others-have-all-slept-with-me-lizzy-anjorin-video

TheDemola:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2023/08/video-tell-god-to-kill-me-before-sunrise-if-i-consult-demons-pastor-adeboye/amp/

001Lagos:
DSS have been reduced to doing the work of the Nigerian police

citygarden:
The recycling continues. All our security agencies are all politicians in disguise when they are in service. They do what suits the politicians instead of what benefits the masses.

klimkid:
Former IGP of Police Usman Baba Alkali is running for senate, under the APC for Yobe Senatorial District.

The current senator is resigning to become a Minister, so Alkali is running for Senate.




https://twitter.com/BishopPOEvang/status/1690377619261341696?s=20[/quote]Jesus 🙄🙄🙄🙄, buhari is a saint oh, u see d well managed script they played here. Men who ever support dis administration, God wyd never forgive him or her

Lukepeter:
Why is snake farming business considered lucrative?

TemplarLandry:
😎
I trust the discretion of ECOWAS.
Containment is the right strategy as this must not lead to further escalation.

I dedicate “Dues” by Wande Coal to the ECOWAS troops. Great jam!

Omoawoke:


God bless the president of Nigeria
God bless Ecowas chairman
God bless Nigeria

God bless Piti Obi the president of twitter
God bless piti obi the minister of Congratulations
Aka Stolen manhood

Acekidc4:
Tinubu is the Best President in the Whole World. Take it or leave it 🤗🤗

Kukutente23:
Bubu and shock
Where is that Zombie that used to dedicate songs? He should come and dedicate a song on shock to Buhari