budaatum: My laptop broke a few weeks ago and I've found myself emersed in Law & Order: Special Victims Unit on 5USA. The sex crimes on there are mind boggling, and makes me wish it was shown in Nigeria to help educate some though I fear some might learn to do the crimes instead.
An episode had a couple buying babies just to abuse them on webcam, and another was stealing girls to prostitute. And then there's Andrew and Tristan Tate, detained in Romania as part of an investigation into allegations of human trafficking and sex with minors. Some here call him their G-man, and they don't mean agent of the United States Government, but something to do with redpill.
There's sick people on this earth.
I can understand where they are coming from because he is outspoken but the jury is still out on him, so I keep my fingers crossed because it coukd have been easy to nail him with sufficient evidence, if there was Let's see how it goes. I like him because he has the guts to call out the hypocrisy of the West for what it is ,in a time where men are made to be feminine or afraid of their masculinity. He is bold enough to admit some of his mistakes in the past, in a world where everyone wants you to beSaints and they aren t.
Like any other person, take the message over the messenger. Otherwise, If young people lookes up to him and want to be him, I blame their parents or guardians.
If Tate is an influencer in today's world and we don't like it, the question then is, WHERE ARE THE REAL MEN OUT THERE
Have you read the book in the picture? Read it to understand why Tate is a chosen to the young folks today.
Regarding the original post, that guy is disgusting. Utterly disgusting. A ma who can't honor his wife is not a man. He is an embarrassment to the marriage institution and he destroyed his generation with the action. I guess his wife making the case public is also sending a strong message to history.
aswani: I want you to tell me which of the losing presidential candidates do we hear from the most regarding things that happen in Nigeria.
Who met retake us with his opinion every single time? It certainly isn't any of those you mention.
What is the role of opposition
Didn't Buhari talk about the state of the nation under OBJ, Yar Adua and Jonathan He lost to each one of them. Tell me another thing.
Tinubu talked about the state of the nation before he became President. ACN and AC won/lost some elections and he talked. I want to really understand your point.
Story 2 At my breaking point with stay-at-home husband
Seeking Advice
I’m not sure what to do, but my marriage is deteriorating and I need advice. I think the perspective of folks here with stay-at-home spouses might be particularly helpful.
When my daughter was born in June 2020, my husband made the choice to quit his job and stay at home with her. He was not really enjoying his job anymore and at a career crossroads, and this was something he felt excited about. We had lots of conversations prior to that, and I was supportive of this arrangement and excited. But it has been really tough to navigate and I’m not sure how to move forward.
The dynamic right now is that I can’t ask him to do anything around the house or for our daughter without him feeling like I’m micromanaging. I can totally see that perspective- he doesn’t tell ME what to do at my job, and I know he doesn’t want to feel like I’m his boss. A couple of examples: I’ve asked several times over the past couple weeks for him to start putting our tax stuff together for accountant (looming deadline) when our daughter is napping, and he hasn’t touched it. Or I asked him to contact a tree trimmer because it’s the right season and we have a tree that’s been scraping the roof for a bit, but I had to ask him multiple times and then just ended up doing it myself. It will end up this way with the tax stuff, with most household management stuff that isn’t direct chores.
He snapped at me this morning when I suggested he might take our daughter outside today because I also suggested it yesterday and he feels like he’s being micromanaged (she hasn’t been outside all week).
I’ve suggested maybe we could come up with some sort of system (a list? A notebook? A whiteboard?) so it’s not just me listing things aloud. He didn’t seem too excited about that idea.
The power dynamic feels so bleeped up. I see his perspective, and I don’t want to micromanage him. But I do want some agency and control over parenting our daughter and getting things done during the week so I don’t have to find time to do everything during work or on the weekends.
Anyone been through something similar? Any advice or things that worked for you? In some ways this is a prison of our own design- he could go back to work, we could find childcare, and we could be on a much more even playing field. I just feel powerless, and he feels like I need to have things be my way, and here we are. I don’t feel like I can keep going like this, feel so tired and beat down
The following stories are from women who worked and provided while the husband was at home. You see women complain about men not doing anything, not supporting, didididadada, let's reverse the roles. These are oyinbo women who have the 'freedom' our women are looking for:
Story 1: I make the money, and my husband handles the kids and housework. I've wondered if I'm just a paycheck — it's tough being the 'second choice' parent.
My husband handles 90% of our home life while I earn 100% of our family's income: I'm the family's breadwinner. While this is the right dynamic for us, my doubts creep in when things get imbalanced and the parent-provider pendulum swings too far to either side.
For the past seven years, my husband has been a stay-at-home dad for our four children — ages 19, 14, 7, and 5. He used to have a full-time job as an electrical project engineer but left it when our third child was born and my maternity leave was ending. Since then, I've been able to build a business that made just under $550,000 last year.
We're both incredibly hardworking and committed to providing for our family's needs. But we both feel the effects of our individual focuses. Even though I work full time, I still feel it's important for me to take on some parenting and household responsibilities.
When it comes to "chore wars" between male and female spouses, I believe strongly in domestic equity — both partners should be contributors to a household with shared decision-making and an equitable division of responsibilities. Here's how my husband and I split the chores.
Our family might be considered unique when it comes to work and household labor
My husband is responsible for most childcare-related responsibilities, household tasks and curveballs, medical issues, school communications, homework help, lunches, carpooling, and sports coaching.
He also handles the following:
Morning routines and getting everyone up and out the door.
Cooking three meals a day for our entire family.
Folding and putting away our laundry.
All outdoor and home maintenance, including repairs, lawn and garden work, and any major projects.
All auto needs.
All bill paying, account management, renewals, and service inquiries.
Taking the lead on tidying up.
Arranging babysitters.
Some other things he's 100% responsible for that might be atypical for men but not for a stay-at-home mom include:
Scheduling playdates.
Purchasing gifts for holidays and children's birthday parties.
Scheduling medical and dental visits and taking kids to doctor appointments.
Volunteering in the classroom.
Registering the kids for all sports, camps, and extracurricular and religious programs (he just signed up to be a summer-camp leader for the kids).
Scheduling and attending weekend events and family outings.
I also help with daily tasks
Our approach has primarily been shaped by ongoing, open communication about our family's needs and our individual capacities. This continuous dialogue helped us gradually find a balance that works for us. Our division of chores has evolved over time, but my usual housework includes the following:
Meal planning and grocery shopping.
Taking the lead on deep cleaning and organizing.
Doing the laundry.
Planning vacations.
The 10% of household chores I consistently handle also include daily tasks like loading the dishwasher, clearing the dinner table, and assisting with bedtime routines when I'm home. With four kids and their varying schedules, I also step in whenever we face overlapping commitments and need to be in two places at once.
When my job is busier, it amplifies the trade-offs in our family dynamics
I traveled to 13 states in October. I worked 13- to 15-hour days and sacrificed weekends and sleep. It was one of the most demanding seasons of my career, and my entire family felt the demands of my relentless third-quarter and fourth-quarter travel schedule.
This grueling period tested my resilience and our family dynamics, particularly as my husband stepped up to manage our home life. For days and weeks at a time, my husband was effectively a single parent. It wasn't easy when I finally returned home.
My presence disrupted the "new norm" created in my absence. It showed up in moments like when I was joining the walk to school with our second grader, who sometimes has separation anxiety. She would refuse to go into the school building on the days that I came along — especially the first day after I returned home. It was a stressful start to the day, and the other kids would then be late to their schools. It changed their routine and created an unintended interruption.
My reentry can be either a smooth addition or a brief disruption. It usually takes a few days for us all to adjust and find our rhythm again. Essentially, I'm adapting to the family's steady pace each time I come back. This new dynamic brought up a lot of internal insecurities for me, causing me to evaluate my intrinsic value to this family.
I wondered, 'Am I just a paycheck?'
While being a provider is critical to everyone's needs, I have to sacrifice parenting aspects and have the added pressure to succeed on the provider front. I started to wonder if I was just a paycheck.
It can be tough to be the "second choice" parent — whether it's when one of my older kids confides in my husband with a problem or my little kids want my husband to do the bedtime routine.
When things like this happen, I have to step back and evaluate whether our family dynamics are working. But I believe we're doing what is 100% right for our family at this time and for the past eight years. I've never considered changing our situation — rather, I find myself wondering how I can "do more" or prioritize more balance in my days and weeks.
“ When a woman is broke , 99% of men will do everything to change her status . When a man is broke , 99% of women will walk out on him , dear young kings , be safe out there . Don’t go broke “ 50cent.“There are women who will be with you even if you are broke , have no dollars or a home . That woman is your mother or sister . Most women these days walk out of your life the moment you got nothing . “
50 Cent.
Men provide, women nurture. Change this nature and find out.
Kojochyke: Sorry my child, before handsets came to Nigeria, every home knew MJ. Without social media, every kid tried dancing like him. We had his cassettes, even when there was no CDs. Social media helped the likes of Ronaldo, thats why they brag with the followers. Mark you, one person can even have up to 5 social media accounts, and all of them can be following the same celebrity. But they will all count as 5 different followers.
For example, fewer people knew abt football icons like Platini, Haaland's dad, etc, until this current age of internet where they can easily be checked out and followed.
MJ was on virtually every lip and home without internet.
I even think Pele was more popular than CR7 without the help of social media. I am a CR7 fan because of his work ethics but we can all learn from Teju babyface about Ronaldo. Ronaldo 1 and CR7
The point is that all of us will be forgotten, all of us I who is speaking to you will be forgotten, you who are watching will be forgotten
richmond500: first, from the 48 laws of power. If u appear everytime, u will just be average to people, social media and weekly football has made CR7 normal. To see MJ, u have to fly to where he is performing. And he could only do this like once in a month or two, this has given him a godlike aura. CR7 could play three games in a week and u could see him, take pictures with him, ask him to sign ur jersey etc. If social media didn't give u opportunity to see CR7 daily, u will probably fly to Saudi Arabia just to see that legend once before u die. If MJ is always on YouTube, ticktock, Fbk, twitter and performs weekly, do u think people won't get tired of him?
That's not true. It's all about the money, times and appeal. If MJ were alive, he would be on social media. Don't underestimate the currency of tech. Why did Trump setup his own platform? Social media is not intimate, if it was, Taylor Swift won't need to perform at shows anymore. Social.media is just another income stream. Is it not the same talk Radio hosts are talking that Joe Rogan is DOING? Why are artistes hosting podcasts and streams? It's money and I can bet that if MJ were alive today, he will be on social media. Has nothing to do with 48 laws of power. Oga 48 laws sef de social media too
Shadomaan7: This news is not needed. It might be true but it's not needed
I am not sure you follow the news because this is already news in the public
Recalling how on August 13, 2024, the National Council of State had met and passed a vote of confidence on President Bola Tinubu, Lukman said the absence of Obasanjo and Babangida may not have been a coincidence and wondered whether Sunday’s meeting in Minna suggests registering any form of disagreement with the confidence vote passed on Tinubu on August 13.
He said although Obasanjo and Babangida’s interventions in the polity may have in one way or the other contributed to getting Nigeria to its current messy situation, they owe it a duty to Nigerians to bring back the country from the ICU.
“For instance, the political practices that are responsible for the erosion of political competition in political parties in Nigeria could be traceable to the tenure of former President Obasanjo. The policy of Structural Adjustment Programme (SAP) under former Military President Babangida could have been the source of inspiration for President Asiwaju Tinubu’s impulsive and unplanned policies. Although, to be fair to former Military President Babangida, to use Chidi Amuta’s words he ‘balanced compassion and hard policy choices.’
“To the extent of contributing to get Nigeria to the current messy situation, these leaders owe a responsibility to the nation to take it out of the ICU. Getting Nigerian democracy out of ICU is a function of ability to revive, restore and strengthen democratic structures in the country, which is dependent on ability to create at least a functional political party that would allow for political competition within its structures and by extension in the country. This should not just be about identifying and promoting a candidate who will emerge as a candidate in any of the registered parties. Once the approach is limited to producing a candidate, the potential of falling in a legal booby trap imposed by the manipulative activities of President Asiwaju Tinubu and APC is high. Part of the legal booby trap is that the potential candidate may be produced by a leadership faction of political party, which will throw the party and the candidate in court cases that will undermine electoral viability.
“The other challenge is that producing a candidate may not guarantee corresponding commitment by elected leaders to honour their campaigns promises and be accountable to Nigerians. For elected leaders to come with corresponding commitment to honour campaign promises and be accountable to Nigerians require the existence of a strong political party whose organs will meet as prescribed by the party’s constitution. Above all, the profile of the leadership of the party should be at the minimum equivalent to the elected leadership of the country. A situation whereby party leadership are below the profile of elected leaders is injurious to Nigerian democracy and will retain it in the ICU.
“Therefore, if former President Obasanjo, former Military President Babangida, former Head of State Abdulsalam and retired General Gusau are truly committed to rescuing Nigerian democracy and get it out of ICU, they should facilitate a deeper engagement of opposition political leaders in the country”, he stated.
Nice write-up, please keep writing and posting even if you think your thoughts are not popular. Many of us need those who speak up so the candlelight does not die.
Kudos to Nigeria Info debate program for schools. A program that also struggled to find sponsors. If the government sets priorities right, money will follow its interests and goals but hey, shey na statistics we go chop
happney65: The only thing Tinubu knows how to play is politics. He doesn't know how to do good Govornace. But when it comes to politics,kindly give it to him so definitely it is going to be a Muslim after christians have done three terms
Finished Ambode's term and done another two terms.
So either Muri Okunola or Femi Hamzat.
May the Universe spare our lives
It is likely Femi Hamzat but we know the spanners that will be thrown in the wheels via HMO. His rapid promotion and the packaging to get him presentable is not by mistake. Don't forget how Hamzat settled to be Deputy for Sanwoolu. Whether that arrangement will still remain is to be seen.
OkCornel: When everyone looks beyond the rubbish tribal distractions and hold the government accountable to their promises, it becomes crystal clear whether the government is performing or failing hopelessly and miserably.
In this case, we can see the government is failing miserably. No iota of progress whatsoever in fulfilling its promises.
I will keep repeating these promises, no propaganda on this platform will ever distract me.
I have pinned that post. I will bring it up in any relevant topic till APC begins to talk about the real issues that affect us, not gossip to pass away time.
It's discussion of the real issues that made PDP, despite their bad performance to sit up a bit. APC wants to destroy opposition voices and they have a very good reason to want to. We shall not fall for their trap.
LordIsaac: Especially in the South-West. It's horrible. I was eating and weeping at Shoprite Ikeja some years back when I attempted to finish up what I paid for.
Maybe you need to travel more.
When you travel, you will learn.
Travel round Nigeria first before complaining. Meanwhile, the spiciest pepper soup I ever took was in Kano.
You guys are limited in your thinking. With all the issues India has with their Hindu vs Muslims and Kerala vs Mumbai, they still had someone as UK PM. You are foolish if you think they care about your divisions. Others are using mjgration to build alliances anroad,you are celebrating downfall.
Some Christian couples believe that it is a sin to moan during s£ex. But none of them has yet given us scriptural proof that moaning during s£ex is a sin.
What a ridiculous take. We are sexual beings and sex should be enjoyed. When people demonise nature just to be puritan, they make life much harder to live which makes it easier for people to listen to the devil. Religion ia a guide but don't put yourself in harm's way using religion as cover. It is like saying if you are in pain, don't shout.
There is moaning, there is wailing. If you become a pro, you will know how to give quiet moans or keep quiet so you don't disturbthr neighbours. You don't want to be a nuisance value because you are enjoying sex.
wickedclown: On the contrary, they are the enemies of Christianity.... How come only their members are having such dreams... All while wearing that green apron.. Has it not occurred to u, that just like jerimiah is trying to sell miracle soap, that's how they are trying to market the apron or do they give it for free??
I'm a Christian and I am ashamed hearing these type of things...
The other day, suleiman came out boldly to say that he prayed for someone and the person entered a toilet in Germany and came out in France... Not everything is an attack all the time.. There are times we should sit down and analyze the situation properly before seeing it as an attack... Some of the videos may have been fabricated yes... But can they show us the original videos and let's confirm which is true or not?
Crime › Re: Dominique Pélicot Admits He's A Rapist by papyjaypaul: 10:48am On Sep 24, 2024
