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[i][/i]Young girls are full of shiit and got nothing upstairs. I love older women... well, women that are at least older than me with few years.

Older women are responsible and know what they want from a guy. They are precise, talk maturely, and can cook...yes they can cook!. Older women only require two things from a guy; a guy with a job, and a guy that can fuvk well. They don't mess about and don't care if you don't give them everything they ask of you.

Older women make their homes beautiful and do care about their guys outward appearance... and if not up to the standard they want, they'd adjust their men.

Younger girls don't make their homes or bed, they make reservations! Can't cook...Mr Biggs do the cooking for them. Younger girls see guys as their fat9hers ( someone that is responsible for their upkeep). Younger girls lie a lot. .. well, every man is their "uncle"!. They are too materialistic and lack vision. Younger girls brains lie in their hands ( what they can get hold of) rather than their head. Young girls are too troublesome and are like a puppy that rub off its owner every second.

Older women would prolong your life span. They take care of themselves by doing regular checkups. They are sweet and don't pretend. They help you in achieving your goals in life and connect you with the right people.

Lucasbalo: By using the (N) word, you have shown your level of intellect. Am done with this. Bye.

Stop this political correctness bs. The AA uses this word every second as a form of good gesture towards one another. A derogatory word which was used by the white masters... and now appreciated by most AA in the ghetto.

If you want the N word to stop...go speak directly to these bunch and preach education too.

Lucasbalo: And ignorant whites don't kill each other every day too?. Crime is colorless. Being here long enough to know that. Black on Black crime just get magnified while oyhers are not magnified.

Really? What happened to black on black killings in downtown Chicago, in the south, Miami and other niggas infested areas? Truely crime is colorless, the A A makes it colorful!

DEGREE2466: I think this is the weirdest thing i have seen among nigeria civil servants.

There is this lecturer in my school (university of Benin) in the faculty of Social Science precisely that comes to class with a bodyguard. This type of behaviour is uncalled for because to me the guard is a distraction to the students.

All he(the bodyguard) does is to put on suit(which we know something must be inside), cover his eyes with black glasses and be looking up, down, right and left monitoring every movement in the lecture hall.

When the lecturer discovered that the students are not comfortable with the guard, he gave an excuse that he is teaching that hefty dude how to teach. Why has teaching become an apprentice job and what happened to faculty of education and college of education.

I think it is high time we condemned the excesses of this civil servants!!!

Pls and pls always put picture of whoever you talking about. Makes you look silly and uninformed.

Lucasbalo: So, only African Americans shoots and commit crimes in US. That's unbelievable.

Well, this is what they do every 4th of July, and every other day. White people do random shooting, but ignorant asss AA just kill one another for no obvious reason.

Another day of crime for the AA. Ignorant and silly ones among them will start shooting everyone before dawn.

[quote author=eagle,eye]My sentiments exactly. Even if its primary, you hardly see many 8years old, finishing primary at that age. She may just have shot herself in the foot.[/quote]No mind some people. Someone even said she finished secondary at age 15...good for that person. Let assume Omotola was 16 or 15 when she finished secondary school. That means she was 6 or 7 years old when she finished primary school in 1987. Might be possible though... not just sure!

Omotola just showed us she's been lying all along about her age. The certificate indicates 1987. Omotola claims she's 35. That means she left secondary school 27 years ago... at what age, 8?

We all know that 99% of all secondary school leavers were between the age of 17 to 19 then ( if your education is fast there is). Let's assume Omotola was 17 in 1987. Doing the math, we say 27 + 17 = 44. There we go.. Omotola is 44 years old. She still look good tho.

note: Maybe the op is wrong about the certificate. If this is her primary school cert, then she's the 35 years she's claiming to be.

Shame that Mikel is the only Nigerian player nominated for this award... that shows the state of football in 9ja.

Long Distance Relationships are a big challenge, and even though most of times the love that we have for our partner is more than enough to keep us going, sometimes though, we just feel down, demotivated, sad and ready to give up. And that’s when we need a boost, we need to keep believing in a great future… future of the unknown!

Years back, a beautiful friend of mine, Wunmi to be precise (hope she's reading this) was in love with this good looking guy. They shared things together and could finish each others' sentences. Wunmi's mom was resident in the UK and provided everything for her, except that she couldn't secure a visa for her daughter to join her in the UK. Wunmi found solace with her man and everything seems perfect for her. Not long after, Wunmi's boyfriend was able to obtain a studying visa to the UK and left. Before leaving he promised her that all will be well. He said he was going to work and gather some money so as to arrange for Wunmi to join him in the UK, and that alternatively he was going to travel back home and take her to the UK himself. Wunmi was naive, in love and trust her man.

Fast forward to 5 years later, the guy was still struggling in the UK and lost contact with Wunmi. Wunmi got married. Mr UK reconnect with Wunmi but it was too late. Wunmi was emotionally affected by the whole ordeal and couldn't give her new husband the love he expected. She's currently living a life with no fulfillment. She couldn't let go of Mr UK and still thinks about him. Divorce is no option for her too. So, should we say Wunmi is mad?

Oxford dictionary defines 'Madness' as the state of having a serious mental illness... and an extremely foolish behaviour.

Wunmi is not the only woman in this psychological state. There are thousands if not millions of women going through what Wunmi had gone through right now. It is wrong to fall in love? Should women stop their lovers from travelling abroad for greener pastures? The solution seems far-fetched.

What's your take on this guys?

bukatyne: You mean men of old catered for their divorced wives?

Do you know what divorce means?

Since a man has the responsibility of catering for his ex-wife, does a divorced woman have responsibilities towards her ec-husband?

I never said men of old provide for their divorced wives... that was just invitational. I said they are more responsible.

ileobatojo: Yeah, I think you need to quit talking now. Thanks.

So your body abhor the truth now abi?

Just because women are now achievers and bread winners doesn't make the man less a man. A man, well, a real man should handle his business. And just because your wife works does not exclude you from providing for the family. Men are now becoming lazy and expecting their working wives to provide for the house. Same logic applies to marriage and divorce. What happens to the men of old who would do anything to protect their women?

The mentality that women should take care of themselves and work to provide for their wants is plausible.... that leaves us with the men.. what would these bunch be doing then?

sensaraj: In my own case, im the bread winners, my husband has little or nothing to offer and he has other children from ex wife too, so is he going to share in my property (like landed property)in case of divorce

Your husband would have the right to claim compensation from you and share in your assets if you were found to have initiated the divorce.

Men are getting scared like their world is about to get " better" (don't want to use the negative aspect).

I see a lot of vexations. Pls calm down, this is just a suggestion. Maybe a public consultation should be held and personal opinion taken out. Answers have to be objective.

And to those criticising me about the promiscuity stuff, maybe if you remain faithful, your wives won't cheat.

It's not the fall that matters but the landing. Experience they say is the best teacher. You have to feel the pain to know the worth of a gain. Not that I personally have experience in the area of women getting maltreated, no. But let me tell you this... I know statistics (first hand observer ), only those who go through abuse knows where it hurt.

[quote author=fresh_dude]I don't know if you've ever been to Paris, I haven't, but from the little I hear of it, it was built by persons of logic and common sense which I seriously doubt you possess.
And when you say Nigerian men, please clarify. Are you talking about me who you have yet to meet, or people like your father who is most likely the example you have of an abuser and brain-washer of women?
You have an unhealthy combination of naivete, ignorance, pseudo-sense, poor education, low self esteem capped with stewpidity and you want to project your many flaws on the nairaland public.
If you or any of your friends/family is/was in an abusive relationship, go the correct route and seek redress through the appropriate quarters. The dictates of the law concerning such matters are made available to the public, I suggest you expend your energy pursuing that, that would serve you better than inundating the good people of nairaland with your misguided negative energy. Cheers. Hope you find peace.[/quote]Very typical of you. I had a glance at your sex... I hissed!

logica: That your father treated your mother as a slave does not mean we are party to such. Please speak about your family issues and don't extend to others.

I wont trade insult with you.

Sagamite: I don't know what most of you are talking about. The post became moronic from here.

Sagamite.. moronic or not, not a single one of you guys accept that you bunch treat your wives as slaves. You intentionally ignore the fact that some women go through abusive relationship, yet ignorantly ranting your displeasure over facts.

I still stand by my assertion... men cheat and in a huge volume. And if your wife cheat and you file for a divorce, then you're an hypocrite. What is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

[quote author=Arial.bold]Women are suffering in Nigeria. This is not a new story.
Instead of us to face our problems, we pretend as if divorce doesn't exist in naija. we say "oh it's a western problem" yet women are getting thrown out of their matrimonial homes every day. we refuse to acknowledge the issue talkless of show concern for the welfare of these women.

My own is, women need to reject the idea of "submissiveness"
if you become submissive, you refuse to work hard to gain your independence, if your king husband throws you out of his house, what then will become of you? you do not have a career, no business just a housewife turn destitute.
I reject the notion of women being depedent on men. that is the worst thing you can do to womanhood.[/quote]Some sensible post we got here. Wish people could open their minds, think and look around them. And as per the promiscuity stuff... men cheat and its ok by many, women do the same, divorce creeps in. Bunch of hypocrites!

logica: LMAO @ the backlash.

Backlash indeed!. That shows you how men are opposed to change.

I see a lot of opinions spiralling about without the need for an in depth findings on the suffering of Nigerian women in the hands of their supposedly husbands.

Do not misconstrue my write-up and base it on an opinionated ideology. What percentage of women do you know who are being treated harshly by their husbands? Or which research have you conducted on domestic violence?

Nigerian men are egocentric and self-centred...controlling their women like a robot and brainwashing them to accept abuse as a norm. Now that this issue of compensation has been raised, men are going defensive and voicing out their frustration on this idea. Maybe if you treat your women right you wont have the fear of divorce with benefit!

If the two suggested becomes president and vice president respectively, then we are in for a Biafran state. It simple... the vice president would just send some hire assassins to kill the president.. vice president then becomes president = Biafran state. Amother scenerio would be GEJ getting himself impeached so the Igbo man becomes president.

If I was the vice president, I'd do the same too. So there we go, there'll never be a GEJ + an Igbo vice president. The Yorubas would mess up everything. They"d rather see their fellow Hausa man in Aso Rock than an okoro man.

davidylan: And they have this "responsibility" after divorce because? Or is it your point that men are somehow immune from post-divorce syndrome?

Why not respond to the rest of my post. Why is it that you only have issue with the responsibility part?

Nigerian men have a responsibility; emotionally, financially and psychologically to make sure their women dont go on to have post-divorce syndrome with the symptoms of self-pity, complex and confidence.

You think 9ja wont be a better place if men are cautioned? Would they have 2 wives if knowing what repercussions would follow if the other woman file for divorce?

Would women be treated better and respected if the men knew what cheating could cost them?

It is the wife beaters who would lose out when or if law is passed in regards to property sharing. Women who are bread winners and own properties should also be able to reimburse and share the spoils with the men.

davidylan: why is it the man's responsibility to make sure the woman is well-off after divorce? Doesnt she know how to work?

You married her promising you would take care of her. Who cares if she earns more! Some women work and some are full house wives (some men want their woman to be full house wife), so not their fault if they dont work.

Ewuro707: Preach.

He was preaching jebushit

bigx: By throwing out a promiscuous woman and making sure she "shares from the spoils" as the other poster pointed out? In that case who was irresponsible?

PS. This is the 21st century, women are educated, work and at times earn more than the men.

Promiscuity shouldnt form basis of your argument. You should consider other possibilities and senseless reasons why men divorce women.

The macho man and the " I am the owner of this house" syndrome is the only reason why Nigerian men behave this callously. If Nigerian men start parting with half of their property maybe they will think twice before filing for a divorce.

Trottle: Op, I thought you were making sense until you reached the above part. Are you that pained? I am not against renumerating your ex spouse but not a LovePeddler and if you insist maybe you should offer you brother(s), uncle(s) etc your opinion and watch their reaction. It seems you are one of those die-hard feminist that lacks objectivity.

Maybe you've forgotten that it is for better or worse. Regardless of religion, our women deserve respect. And since Nigerian men are always quick to throw women out, they should also be able to pay for their irresponsible act.

As in the norms in Nigeria, women who get divorced or are been thrown out of their matrimonial homes by their husbands tend to lose out alot.

Even in domestic violence cases, women who couldnt take the violence any longer divorce the husband without sharing in the property.

Though Nigeria is not UK, US or other western countries where women share in the estate or property of the husband after divorce, Nigerian men should atleast take responsibility in making sure the woman they divorce would be well-off after letting her go.

Laws should also be put in place to reward any woman whose husband left her for someone else. Even in cases where the woman is found to be promiscuous and the husband want out, adequate measure should be put in place to make sure she share from the spoils.

Married women deserve better and should be treated better.