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merging to maul Nigeria and makes things mega worse for the masses. if this 'merger' eventually topples PDP, I bet Nigerians will wish for a comeback of PDP because they'll be worse than the devil we know.

bukatyne: And the man didnot do those things while he was living alone abi?


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he comes home with pretty damsels who GLADLY do the chores & warm his bed. If you are too busy to take up responsibilities, they sure can't wait to take yur place.

salam001: I dont care about how many mw you are going to generate by 2020,just give me light now to Iron my shirt,
i have a date 2nite

...and charge yur phone

rexana: 500k for this car

I won't accept! so don't bother calling please!

please is anyone in Uyo here on the forum to assist with taking an application pack down. I cant risk it being missing in Nipost transit o!

no matter how good you want to try paint it in that deceptive fountain, Benin cant hold a candle to any city up there. not even the dull looking Abuja.

slimyem: Okay..
Maybe that was a bit over the top but your definitions of traditional still need to steer me here.I'm waiting for them.
...and No,i don't have a long way to go.i'm almost home!

why ask questions when you already know the answers? didn't she live as a spinster? she ofcourse cooked and did her laundries! or does she expect mi to breastfeed the baby? the only diference here is that I personally wouldn't advocate a strenuous job for a lady, such as, bank jobs where she has to leave 4am and be back 11pm. A job that gets her back before 4-5pm would be okay, or better still, support your lady to have a business of her own. that will afford her some degree of flexibility and time for her home.

slimyem: I don't think i have a problem with this argument.
If she's a working wife/career woman,you cannot expect anything traditional from her!
While she's managing to cook your food after a long day's work, you should be changing the baby's diaper and rocking him to sleep too!
...and all will be well!!

this sounds so nebulous.I want to believe that you didn't mean to type this. Perhaps you were just kidding. if you mean what you just typed, them I'm afraid to let you know that you've got a long way to go dear. So, because she works, no traditional duty should be performed by her?

[quote author=Okija_juju]What this thread has succeeeded in doing is revealing why there are so many single over-aged women in Nigeria.. They want to be like Oyinbo women, but yet they want to marry Nigerian Men.. FA-FA-FA-FOWLLLLLLLLLLLLLL[/quote]Them go old. Them never see anything yet.

Freiburger: So you will prefere going back to the 1920s when Just to avoid your so-called JABBERS marriage.

It's not a thing of age. values are ageless mate!

slimyem: @Pato405,could you please describe what your traditional woman should look like and what you expect from her as a to-be wife and wife eventually?
I'm curious to know..

If the tenor of your argument here is anything to go by, I bet you don't strike me as one.

slimyem: This is all jabber!
Mordern women are getting married everyday to equally mordern men.
Keep living in 1925!!

YES! it is jabber!

and that is why their marriages are also JABBERS!

They soon head to the courts to annul it and denounce the luv they claim. Divorce rates are sky-rocketing.

some even re-marry as much as 3 tyms without it working. think mate! ask yourself what could be wrong - it's way beyond irreconcilable differences.

[quote author=BABE!]That one na culture abi courtesy?



You're thinking too much. That's most people's problem these days. You're carrying the world s problems on your head.

Why not just find your perfect wife and forget about the other girls, and if you can't, join the modern craze. I you can't beat them, join them.[/quote]Hey, whether courtesy or culture, it simply shows they have regard for others, particularly 'others' whom they feel deserve some respect. It shows good upbringing, which couldnt have been achieved without some cultural undertones.

You watch too many movies. that is your problem. wake up lest you come here whining and snivelling when you are 36 that no man is considering you for marriage. contrary to your thinking, 9ja men are not dumb. they can spot a lady who is well domesticated and differentiate her from some lazy dimwit hiding under the cover of 'modern lady' to evade responsibilities. It's a shame! I really don't know how we lost it ! one cannot blame mothers, they are trying to instil values but you ladies of today are just pig headed.

if this context of 'modern' women are what we have left, then I'm afraid this union called marriage isn't worth it. only a nitwit will delve into it.

slimyem: The traditional men on this thread especially Okija-juju...stop being jokers..!
Move to your village and pick your wrapper-tying and suku-rocking traditional women.
Stop expecting traditionals from 2013 women!

you 'modern' women are only suitable as girlfriends and mistresses. When a wife is needed, a traditional, well bred, culture imbued lady rocks! so, get it STRAIGHT - there's a yawning difference between a girlfriend/mistress and a wife!

[quote author=BABE!]Which context be wife material then? British?[/quote]Even the British have their culture they strive to preserve. I was shocked when I once saw a lad get up his seat in a bus and beckoned on an old man who was standing to have his seat. the same thing applies even in their marital relationships. they know when to submit to the man. the problem is that most of our peeps back home have gross misconception about this western tradition.. we want to copy but often we copy wrongly. our ladies are often quick to copy the unpleasant aspects. take fashion for example. stage fashion they see on music videos are almost being taken as formal wears now. they want to have all the carteblanche to wear such skimpy clothings even on formal occasions and harp about westernisation and men being too traditional for their liking.

Today's lady, Na wa o!

WE've lost it completely. Cultural values and tradition which ought to be a treasured heritage is unfortunately, hurled indiscriminately to the wind.

they talk about equal rights which translate into:

Not greeting you at all. you should be the one to run to them, hug and peck them every morning. serve them breakfast on bed, run their bath water and wait for them to spend eternity painting their faces before dropping them off for work. (don't forget to open the car door before boarding for them o!, and get down before they alight to open it). On your way home, get fast food else, there won't be dinner for you because she works 9-5 just as you do and should be probably too knackered to make dinner for you. Household chores should be strictly left for the maid. search for lundary services to take care of your laundry while she goes for pedicure, manicure and body massage every weekend. she determines when to have kids, number of kids (emphasising not more than 1), and spacing and often refuses to breastfeed the baby for fear of her bo*obs sagging. baby milk should just do. s*x is when she feels like. she calls the shot in that regard, because she's often too stressed after work and needs all the sleep she can possibly get.

freedom of choice, rights and association translates to hanging out anytime with who-so-ever she chooses to- even her ex's are not left out. she could still do some night clubbing with them, afterall what are old friends for? If you are complaining about having traditional dishes, then you should start thinking of taking a hike to African kitchen (a Fastfood outlet for african dishes or better still, visit mama put). if you are lucky, you'll get one who will be soft enough to have some modicum of sympathy on your flat hungry stomach and make a few sandwiches for you, say; 2wice a week. you can make the coffee yourself. You must meet up with all her needs and demands which are often frivolous material acquisitions such as, changing Spanish & Peruvian hairs as often as she deems fit and getting all the colours of stiletos she desires.

Yet they complain of men not getting married in resent years. We ask @ where are the wive materials'? God stopped creating them light years ago. the 'modern' woman (9ja context) NO B wife material. PERIOD!

this must be one of the reasons they admonish customers to ''SHAKE WELL BEFORE SERVING''.

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Men are by nature inclined to do all these, but if the system on ground is strong enough, it'll nip all such attempts to perpetuate such vices in the bud. the fact is that our system lacks such checks and balances. in western world, many people wouldn't even try/attempt such (although some will dare) because existing checks will either frustrate them or fish them out faster than you'll expect.

our 'padi padi' & 'IMM' govt mainly fosters corruption.

[quote author=Okija_juju]This has got to be my favorite line of the day...


[b]So she doesnt consider herself ordinary ...


And she thinks that security beating up her driver is the worst thing that can happen to her?!

She should go on youtube and watch what Naval men did to that woman in Lagos.. [/b][/quote]NO NO No NO NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!

She is super-woman, extra-ordinary, aristocratic, overweening & supercilious lout ! one of thoe who extol themselves as being in high places while looking down on others. apparently, they are not there to serve you. they are there for you to worship them. hope you get that right now?

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