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nkemdi89:
Cooking made easy by mummy amabel.

Is it on IG?

nkemdi89:
The guy can cook for Africa, I do follow his post on cooking made easy , as a young lady if you are not on that page , you are not ready to improve on your cooking skill.

What's the page?

Congratulations

tobechi74:
1) thinking that marriage is compulsory for everyone
If marriage were compulsory, Jesus would have done so.I am not against the idea of getting married. I am only saying marriage is not for everyone. The assumption that one can only be fulfilled while married is false . Many propeller of this fallacy quote the Bible to back up their claim.


It is not good for man to be alone

It is not good for anyone to be alone . Eve was to be a companion and not a marriage partner . One can feel alone while being married . The verse only validates the fact that no one is an Ireland. We need someone to lean on . Marriage is a concept created by man to bring order in the society. No one has been arrested for choosing to remain single.


Many of us get married because we need kids. There are many orphans down there craving to get married. Go adopt them . Except off course you are searching for your own child to shower selfish love .

Everyone is meant to have children. Eli the priest was not meant to have children as that would disturb his mission on Earth so his wife womb was shut for years. Having a wife would not affect his goal. After persistent prayer, he finally had a child. He had to choose between disciplining his children or spending time in the church. He chose the later. His children became wayward.

Zaccharia was another priest who had difficulty in having a son.It was not until he was very old that he was permitted too. This tells us that those who are called to work in God institution are not meant to have children as that could affect their work .They are permitted to have a helper, a partner, a wife ,a maid etc.

This brings me to the only reason to get married .We should get married when getting married enables us to achieve our life purpose.

Jesus knew his mission on Earth .He knew it involves wandering from one place to another spreading the message. The stress of travelling with his family all the Tim would slow down his movement. He could not afford to take them to the mountain and through the sea. He knew his message would invoke the wrath of the pharasees who would happily transfer their aggression to his wife and children . Peter who was already married had to leave his wife behind to follow Jesus. His wife must have felt sad as a result. His children must have been angry with their father for being unavailable. It is better not to get married than to abandon your partner midway. one had to pace way for another.


Marriage is settling down . Those whose purpose involve moving around have no business settling down.A Catholic priest could be posted to three different countries in a year as part of missionary work. Relocating their family all the time would prove cumbersome. This is why Catholic priest do not get married. I am not condemning clergy who get married. I only ask that each should examine the nature of his calling. One who is fixed at a particular place to grow an already planted church can marry. Missionaries who go about converting people and planting churches can abstain.

2) raising a child without a father figure

If the father is dead or divorced, there should be a man he should look up to to play the role of a father
Infant living with just their dad found out that they are 2-6 month ahead of schedule in personal and social skills

Amount of time father spends with child is one of strongest predictor of empathy in adulthood

The more the father is involved,the more easily the child makes open ,receptive and trusting contact with new people in his life.

Children of divorced parent who lived with their mother are 37.5% more likely to need professional treatment for emotional and behavioral problem.

When fathers are not involved, girls show sign of being antisocial,headstrong, hyperactive.Both boys and girls showed sign of over dependency on the mother.

Boys who live with their father after divorce tend to be warmer,have a higher degree of self esteem,more mature and more independent than boys who do not.

The most important factor by far in preventing drug use is a close relationship with dad.

Living in homes without dad is correlated with suicide among children and teenager than any other for both sexes.

Girls raised in father absent times tend to go to extreme in their relationship with male.

Primary school children without father are less likely to be popular with peers and more hostile to adult.

Daughters who lived with their mother are 92% more likely to divorce than daughter or 2- parent family

3) Obeying Elders blindly.
We know what elders ask of us is wrong but we do them anyway.
Two ears ago, My uncle summoned his children on his sick bed and instructed the first son to take over his law firm. This was the same son who resented studying law and only studied the course to please the dad. The same dad has asked him to forfeit his personal ambition.

The young man was literally unhappy as he managed the firm. He obeyed bitterly. He poured out his aggression on the entire staff.  

Obedience should be done out of love rather than duty. When an act is carried out of duty, the relationship with those around is diminished. 

I had to tell him that he was not bound to his late father wish. He could simply employ a trusted fellow to manage the firm while he supervises periodically.



Children should be made to do things out of duty in the beginning.As they grow up, duty should be gradually replaced by love. Love is a better teacher than obligation.  Duty is mechanical and externally motivated by a sence of obligation . Love makes it easier. Love transform responsibility to joy. A sence of  duty warmed by a love for humanity creates the best result.

I have seen a girl  reject suitor so they can take care their aging parents. While the act is commendable,It should be done out of love and not out of society expectation so she doesn’t regret it taking care of aged parent should be done from the bottom of her heart and not as a debt she owes you.  

The factory worker who constantly looks at the clock for it to be five o click to drop his tools work out of duty and not out of love .  Such a man will have lots of regret when he finally retires. Christianity is one religion built out of love rather than a sence of duty. God love the world that he gave his son……He did not owe the world. No one would punnish him for non compliance.To  be a great teacher, begin by loving children. To be a great auto-mechanic, begin by loving automobile.

4) punnishing Rebels
The society teaches us certain norm, rule and tradition to maintain order and expects us to obey then. Society tells us how we should eat, dress,think and behave in general. Those who obey are praised and rewarded for good behavior.Those who do not are called rebels. Are rebels really terrible people?   Are rebels black sheep?

Rebels are individual who refuse to do what others are doing . They are non robot.His life is dictated by his own reasoning. He does not like been told what to do. They question the status quo and deviate from it when necessary. Rebels crave independence. They create their path.Rebels try to be themselves and find freedom in an overly oppressive rule structure.

Some rebels are not interested in the society aggreing with their they have no intention of changing the society.He simply renounces the wrong act in himself and leave society to change when she feels like. Such rebels believe in the saying :  LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT TO AND LET ME LEAVE MY LIFE MY OWN WAY.

Such rebel change the life for himself and is ready to face whatever trouble it may bring on his way .When the female journalist drove a car fully aware of the law against driving for women, she was an individual rebel. She was arrested and sentenced to prison. Today, women are allowed to drive vehicles in Saudi Arabia . When Mubarak Bala refused to believe in Islam, he was taken to the psychiatric hospital, a place where deviant are kept .

Another group of rebels are interested in making sure the society moves in their direction. They spread their ideal to people, convert them ,  raise a group , engage in mass protest, strike,to change the status quo..These rebels encounter strong opposition from the society. These rebels are willing to face torture,and death to push their ideology. Many a time,they end up dead before their ideal is realised.They would rather die than withdraw their teaching. They live with the  saying : WE WILL ALL DIE ONE DAY. I CHOOSE TO DIE WHILE SPREADING THIS IDEAL.

Jesus is an example of such rebel.He recruited disciples, taught them new teachings, instructed them to spread the teaching, challenged the money makers in the temple . He was subsequently arrested and crucified. Today, Christianity is world largest religion.

Reverend Father Martin Luther is another Catholic rebel who was expelled from the Catholic Church for non conformity. His rebellion led to the protestantism.

The northern part of Nigeria is trying so hard to curtail its rebel. First, Mubarak Bala has been arrested for propagating anti – Islamic teaching and insulting Prophet Mohammed on social media.   A musician has been sentenced to death for mocking the prophet in his song.   While courtesy demand we respect other people belief, This has raised lots of question. Is Nigeria a secular or Islamic country,?  Does blasphemy law has a place in this civilised period?

These rebels were aware of the  likely consequences of their actions. Their moral courage to choose to undergo these  ordeal plants a seed in the mind of others. The death of one rebel leads to the growth of more rebel. The death of Stephen led to the birth of Paul. History shows that the death of a rebel does not really shut down their idea. I forsee a lot of nonconformist springing up from the northern part of the country.

https://tobechispeaks./2020/09/08/the-rise-of-religious-rebels-in-the-north/

God bless you

Money sweet

So she's now a celebrity?

Congratulations

Family over everything

Congratulations

KingAzubuike:
Annie is not doubt a shameless woman and just there because of 2babas money. How can you be comfortable seeing your hubby's baby mama Sunbo adeoye organize his birthday? It shows Annie has failed her obligation as a wife.

Se brother way mumu

Wailers will start wailing

I prefer BBN

To the ladies, pls marry Money

darediamond:
Far Worse Bro.

That guy settle for less. A lady having 2 boyfriends at a time He settled for?

He will sure regret it later on.

Did your father regret ever getting married to your mum?
Very simple question

We can't find such guys on Nairaland ooo..
The ones on this forum are bittered, frustrated and depressed.
All they know is to blame the president for their current predicament..
They don't want to do anything meaningful with their remaining days on earth.
May God continue to punish them.
To the couples, your new home is blessed

For what purpose?

MrOjay1:
No amount donated to Erica can take away the taint of being a disqualified candidate.

She had so much promise in the early days until she got entangled with Kiddwaya and succeeded in making herself an object of lustful stares and a symbol of sexual objectification.

Anytime she made headlines,it was always sex related.

It's not bad to have sex as a woman but the manner in which you go about it matters.

Khafi last year had more sex than Erica but yet she still maintains her respect and grace amongst her fans and viewing audience alike.

Why?


Because she exhibited more sides to her personality than just the sex she was having.She exhibited eloquence,brilliance,dedication,love and care for fellow housemates and that's why she's still adored till today.


Erica on the other hand just projected herself as an uncouth,irresponsible woman.

She never takes responsibilities for her misdemeanour.She must look for who to blame.If she doesn't blame Laycon,she'll blame her parents or the alcohol she drank.

Talking to someone that is far better than ur entire family

Laycon for the money

backtalkG:
They say there are two sides to every dispute, now who will go to the other side to hear the deceased story

You of course

Because careful what u wish/say because u may have it

Congratulations to the winner

I don't even get it

When I thought I've seen it all

How true is this?