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LadySarah:
Don't mind him. Choose to make yourself happy.

Thank you so much!
Imeela!!
I really appreciate you!!

I will not give up.
I told him I will continue to learn and I will make him surprise

Petyr1:
although I don't like football but I believe Kobe is more beautiful than Okinawa based on pictures on internet

Oh! Really?!

What about Hokkaido or Izu Island?
Izu Island is Tokyo.
I had visit 2 Izu Island.
Both 2 Island is Very beautiful beach!

Or Kyoto and Nara.
Very famous!

temitope23:
I guess the link to the website that I included in the message was what made them ban me. It has nothing to do with you. I totally forgot I should not have written the link to the site the way I did.

Yes, husband nags too.
Yes ban is punishment for be raking rules, and nairaland has some rules that one must adhere to. Alright let me know what you think about native camp when you check it.

Oh! I understand now.
I'm also once banned before on culture section.
I didn't even know what is meaning banned.
So I checked it and I was very surprised!
I still don't know why I banned.
Maybe what I wrote in Japanese is bad meaning in Nigeria.
I'm not sure.

But if Japanese and Nigerian language have same word, but different meaning is very interesting!
I know one Igbo word and Japanese word is same but different meaning.
My husband taught me!

I checked about that English application.
Very good!!
Thank you so much!
But I have to ask my husband first.
If I join that application, I have to pay about 7,000yen every month.
If I wanna buy something, I wanna do something etc, I always ask my husband first.
Of course I will use my money.
But I must ask him first.

Before I wanted go to English school.
But when I asked him, he was not happy about that and told me wasting money.
Because I'm married with foreigner man, I can learn English free.
So he said nonsense.

He will not force me to stop it.
But if I will hear or see him like that, I can't ignore it.
I only can ignore him is when I wanna cut my hair

But I will ask him and tell him how much I wanna learn more English well.
Thank you so much!!
I really really appreciate you!!

LadySarah:
You are very smart!
I look forward to hearing from you.
Yes ndewo is a general greeting for everytime
How far is the pidgin

Nnem Ukwu LadySarah!
Ndewo!

I couldn't make him surprise
I asked him why he is not surprised, he said because Nnam Ukwu is everyday language

temitope23:
I replied to this yesterday and I was banned from commenting here for 24 hours.
This was because I was trying to direct you to a website in Japan where people learn English language and get to communicate with a teacher via video/webcam. I attach a screenshot from there so you can check the site out later. I have friends that teach English language on the website, you should check it out to see if it will work for you.

To your question husband nags too and since it is for both gender, then 'nagging husband' exist although some prefer to call it requesting or controlling husband.

Thank you so much!
I really really appreciate you!!

Nagging can use husband too?
My husband made me confusing

I still can't understand well about banned.
You are just helping me.
And I really appreciate you.
Very very helpful.
Why you banned?
Banned is something break rule?

Anyway, I will check it!
Thank you so much!!

Petyr1:
tell me some places to visit in Japan
Probably you can show me places when I travel down there

What kind of place do yo wanna go or see?
I like to go to Okinawa and Kobe!
Do you like watch football?
I really like to see Iniesta before he leave Japan.
That's why I wanna visit Kobe and I wanna watch Iniesta's game!

LadySarah:
You are very smart!
I look forward to hearing from you.
Yes ndewo is a general greeting for everytime
How far is the pidgin

Thank you sooooo much!!
I really really appreciate you!!
I really hope I'm smart person

I will tell you!!
I maybe can't pronounce well.
But I hope he can understand my Igbo language.

Now sometimes I call him Oga when we talk on the phone.
But his reaction is boring now to me
Like nothing happened.
No laugh, No surprised, Nothing.
So I wanna make him surprise and laugh

When I learned Ew? Ewu? Ewo? Goat? from him, I said Ew? Ewo? husband.
He was laughing! And I also laughing with him.
I wanna hear his laugh or surprise!

Oh! How far is pidgin?!
Wow!!
I'm happy! At least I can speak one pidgin English

Petyr1:
that statement that I bold is very funny
Why should a Japanese ask me to speak Japanese in the first place ? When I don't look like Asians

Anyway thanks for your time. I really love your country and probably i will travel there for holiday someday even if I'm not migrating. I must experience Japan

Oh! I maybe misunderstood?

I thought you think if Japanese company ask foreigners to speak, read and write Japanese, they feel like discrimination.
That's not good and very sad.
I just wanted to know.
But I maybe misunderstand.
I'm sorry.

You are welcome!
But no, I must say thank you to you.
Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!

I really hope you can have fun when you visit Japan!
And I love to know How is your travel in Japan

LadySarah:
Yes Mu and Ukwu. Kw like Que in queen

Nne means mother but Nnem Ukwu can be used for a female elder or your Female Boss or your husband can use it as a love name. .
Nna is father. Nnam is my father. Nnam Ukwu is a male elder, Your male Boss or as respect to your husband.

M is" my" in Igbo.
Di m=My husband.
Enyi m=my friend
Nne m=My mother
Nna m=My father
Nwa m=My child or my baby...
Imeela=thank you

And our greeting is "ndewo". at anytime. We pronounce the way they are spelt.

Thank you so much!!
I learned a lot from you.
Very very helpful.

Nnem Ukwu LadySarah!
I really really appreciate you!!
Imeela!

I will call to my husband today and I will try to say Nnam Ukwu to him.
And I will tell you if I could say it well or not!

Ndewo is no matter what time?
Anytime is day time and night time?
Anytime meet someone, I can say Ndewo?
Not How far?

LadySarah:
Oga MI is Yoruba not Igbo.

Igbos say"Nna m Ukwu" for man and" Nne m Ukwu" for woman.

Which one is your husbands?

Oh! Oga mi is Yoruba language?
I thought Oga is Igbo language and mi is Yoruba language!
I misunderstood

Thank you so much for teaching me!
I appreciate you!!

My husband is Igbo man.
Nna m Ukwu is my boss for man in Igbo language?
And Nne m Ukwu is my boss for woman?

How do I pronounce m and Ukwu?
Mu? and Uku?
I heard many times Nna when my husband talking with somebody on the phone.
So I think I know how to pronounce Nna.
Nne is first time!
Nna is man and Nne is woman?

Petyr1:
thanks for this

You are welcome!

Petyr1:
oops migrating to Japan is not a easy , including Korea or China. The requirements and discrimination is not funny at all.
You guys supposed to take English as part of your general languages to make things easier for foreigners
But i wonder why international student travel there to study since your major language is Japanese and I'm sure teaching will be in Japanese too

We learn English in school.
At least Japan getting change it than before.
My generation started learn English in junior high school.
But my kid generation started learn English in elementary school.
If go to station and use train, there have English announcement etc.

But our language is Japanese.
If don't need to use English at work etc, we don't need to speak, read and write English.
If Japanese ask you to speak, read and write Japanese in Japan, foreigners think about that is discrimination?

I found out some university can learn in English.
I post picture on travel section before!

Petyr1:
I'm not migrating this year because of the Corona virus.
i can't speak Japanese though and I don't think it easy to learn Japanese
I was actually thinking if I could get a factory work in Japan. Getting a factory work will be easy.
But do you know the basic salary of a factory worker?

I wanna share this with you

Petyr1:
I'm not migrating this year because of the Corona virus.
i can't speak Japanese though and I don't think it easy to learn Japanese
I was actually thinking if I could get a factory work in Japan. Getting a factory work will be easy.
But do you know the basic salary of a factory worker?

Yes, Japanese is really difficult.
I was born in here, grew up in here and still living in here, yet sometimes still really difficult.

Some factory work also ask you about Japanese.

I think salary is depend on contract type, work hour, place etc.
But most important is your visa.
If you wanna work in Japan, you need working visa.
International students also can work.
But only part time work and have requirement.

temitope23:
'Mi' means me or my in the Yoruba language.
Most of the languages we speak, we learn them either through interaction, family and school. Say for example you are born in a place like Lagos and your parents are Igbo there is a likelihood you will speak Igbo by learning from your parent, Yoruba from interaction with neighbours or classmates in school and then English language because you were taught in school. Pidgin is not formally learnt in school, but in some school, it could be the language most students use in communicating outside the class.

I understand why you mistake pidgin for pigeon, you know they have the same pronunciation but different spellings. Words that have the same pronunciation but different ways of spelling them are called homonym in the English language.

I am not angry, I will do the same if the situation is reversed. You are welcome.

Thank you so much for taking your time again!
I really really appreciate you!!
And I'm really sorry for disturbing you too much.

Mi is Yoruba language?
Oga mi is Igbo language and Yoruba language!
Wow!! I love this word!!
I can speak 2 language at same time!
I will say it for my husband.
I hope he don't know mi.
So I can teach him and I can make him surprise

Now I understand how Nigerian peoples learn many language.
Thank you so much!!
Really amazing!

Homonym?
I learned new English too!
Japanese also have it something like that.
Language is really interesting!

I learned many many English on this website.
When I learned word nagging, I told my husband and I said he is a nagging husband.
He was laughing and he told me there is no nagging husband.
I'm confusing.
I asked him about word nagging is only use for women?
He said no, I can use that word for both men and women.
But there is no nagging husband and he told me that nagging wife, not nagging husband.

I still can't get it well.
Very difficult and confusing.
What is meaning that?

SirMichael1:
I like the replies of this op. These are wise replies.

Peacefull, how's the relationship with your husband now?

I still don't understand English well.
So maybe all my replies is something wrong or strange.
But I never ever meant that.
I'm tried and still trying to do my best

My relationship with my husband is always good!
But sometimes I'm confusing, misunderstand him etc.
I even had think about divorce with him before.
I can't lie.
But I'm still with him and he is still with me.
I must appreciate him

Thank you so much for asking!
I appreciate you!!

temitope23:
Oga is not gender-based. It can be used for both male and female.

Oga mi my master or my boss.
Mi pronounced in a similar way as Me in English but the 'e' sound has a higher intonation than the 'e' sound in me.

Thank you so much!
I learned a lot from you again!!
You are always helping my learning language.
I really really appreciate you!

Oga is boss, Oga mi is my boss.
Mi meaning my?

I learned about pidgin English on here.
But many times I'm still write pigeon.
I don't know why I'm always misunderstand pidgin and pigeon

How Nigerian peoples learn many language?
House? School?
My husband taught me before that English can learn in school.
What about pidgin English?
Pidgin English also learn in school?

I'm sorry for disturbing you over and over again.
And asking you too many questions.
I'm really sorry.

Petyr1:
by the way, is employment rate low in Japan? I mean is it very easy to get a job there?
I'm planning of emigrating to Asia or North America

This virus is affecting many people's work now.
Many peoples lost work.

I don't know if get work is easy or not.
But from my experience about my husband, I think language is important.
If you can speak, write and read Japanese, I think you can get work easy than someone who can't speak, write and read Japanese.

But some company don't need it.
Like Rakuten.
This company even have work for foreigners in abroad.
Very big and famous company.

Petyr1:
you're welcome.
Don't worry, everything confusing will become clear on day

Yes!!
Even when I'm confusing, I can still keep my smile and laugh

Thank you so much!
I really really appreciate you!!

mabea:
I like the way you have kept this thread alive for almost 3 years.

Hope you're enjoying your marriage now.

Thank you so much!
Yes! I'm always enjoying my marriage.
I'm always trying to appreciate what I have.
But I'm not perfect.
So sometimes confusing, misunderstanding etc.

Thank you so much for asking me!
I really appreciate you!!

EgusiSoup:
Chai...should we tell her?

Oh! Please tell me!
I appreciate any advice.
I appreciate everything!!
Every advice peoples gave me and giving me, really really helped me and helping me a lot!

temitope23:
There are some words people find offensive, although at times we use it to tease ourselves here. Someone who is not used to the way we tease ourselves here will find words like 'Ashawo' offensive although what it means is Prostitute which we both know it's offensive.
Pidgin is cool if you take time to learn it. I will say go for it since you are interested in learning it. The way to get a hang on any language is to find someone who understands it and have conversations with them using the language, before you know it you will speak with ease.

Thank you so much!
I learned a lot from you.
I really really appreciate you!!

Please I wanna know more about word Oga.
Can I say Oga to women too? or Oga is only for men?

Petyr1:
Just seeing this thread now.
Hope your marriage is doing well

Yes! I think my marriage is good.
But sometimes I'm confusing, misunderstanding etc just like when I joined this website.

Thank you so much for asking me!
I appreciate you!!

temitope23:
You know Oga which means Master or Boss.
Ese which means Thanks
And E k'aro which means good morning, that means you've really taken time to understand some of these words. It just a little time left and you would have mastered everything. By the way, your mastery of the English language has improved immensely.

Thank you!
Imela!
Ese!

Learning different culture and language is very interesting to me!
I'm having fun
But sometimes I made mistake and embarrassed myself.

I saw some words on this website many many times.
I wanted to know what is meaning that word.
Ashawu? Ashao? Something like that.
I asked my husband and he taught me.
But after some time, I forgot that meaning.

When I saw my husband's good friend, I didn't see him long time.
I wanted to tell him I learned many Igbo language than before.
Then I told him Oga, Igbo amaka etc.
And I said that word.
My husband warned me that word is not good and he taught me what is meaning that word again.
I was surprised and very embarrassed!
I said sorry to him.

But I'm very lucky.
Because that friend is always very kind and very gentle person.
He just laughed and told me it's ok.
Since then, I don't forget that meaning!

I believe that learning anything is never too late.
When I have interesting about something or I wanna know something, I will search it and learn it!

Anyway, Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!
I will continue to learning about Nigeria and Nigerian peoples!
And continue to learning English too!
Maybe next is small pidgin? pigeon? English!

NiklauseFred:
5. The world’s first completely covered underwater diving suit was invented as far back as 1715 and consisted of an airtight oak barrel. The suit was used mainly for salvage operations of shipwrecks.



John Lethbridge barrel
John Lethbridge was the inventor of the first underwater diving suit. Lethbridge came up with this idea while working as a salvager for the East India Company. His design consisted of an airtight, oak barrel. The barrel was six feet in length and the diver had to lay flat on his stomach once the barrel was put into the waters with the help of a rope. It had two airtight holes on the sides for the hands and a hole with glass in the front for the diver’s window. During trials, Lethbridge demonstrated that the suit enabled divers to stay 12 fathoms underwater for at least 30 minutes at one go.




Once the diver comes out of the water after 30 minutes, fresh air was pumped into the suit through a vent using bellows. The used air was let out through another vent at the same time.

The suit was used mostly to retrieve material from wrecks. During Lethbridge’s first salvage operation using his invention, he recovered 25 chests of silver and 65 cannons! (source)

Very interesting!
Thank you for sharing.
I appreciate you!

Michaelcas:
I just saw the word Oga, and I'm very happy she's learning fast

Oga Michaelcas
Thank you so much!
You also help me a lot too.
I really really appreciate you!

error4040:
I'm glad to hear you are staying in Safe.



As I said earlier his reasons might be that the money he earn from his salary is ment to do show off to his people down at Nigerian indicating he is doing well



If he keeps taking his salary to Nigerian then he has a family with kids, I might be wrong on that but I do feel that is why he always have issue coming back to Japan



I don't know how to say this but tell him to always save part of his earnings so things would go fine with you two future not just about saving to travel down to nigeria.



Can you try and save some money ? So you can tell him you also want to visit Nigeria to see his family, because from the above I feel he is hiding something away from you.



No it is not common, If he truly see you as his wife
And then he needs to take you to see his family and Introduce you to them so you would be fully convinced that yes he is not married or have any kids that he hides from you.


I don't accuse people without evidence. She might be his cousin and she might also be his concubines, whatever the case you need to find out her true relationship with him.
Don't be scared to ask him or find out about the cousin because you are his wife and you the right to do so.


If he is truly in support of saving for the future then he needs to prove that to you that he would stand by you and not just say it without taking any action



When you mentioned "OGA" it really made me laugh, how did you come across that ?
Anyway it would always be my pleasure to assist anyone I come across my life and, when you feel like speaking to someone on any issue related to Nigerian you can ask. I can answer to my best knowledge and understanding.
Keep up with the English you are at least improving.

注意して安全を確保してください

Oga
How far? (Am I correct how to write?

Thank you so much for taking your time again!
Really helpful.
I really really appreciate you!!

I still don't know if he is saving his money or not.
But his salary is not too small if he can manage it well.
I didn't know how much is his salary before.
He don't tell me and I don't ask.
But when I write his tax paper, I can know.

Talking about his money is not easy for me.
I'm his wife in here.
I maybe have right to know about his money.
But his money is his money.
Not my money.
Only he has right to how to use it.

If he is using his money for help someone, I can't say anything.
Helping someone is very good thing.
But if his life is getting hard because of helping someone, I'm not happy.
His life and his future is first.

I really wanna go to Nigeria one day.
But I'm already gave up about see his family.
I stopped having hope to see his family anymore.
See his family and have his baby is no more hope to me.
Very very hurt.
But if I'm continue to have hope, that's more hurt to me.
So I stopped thinking about it and I'm ok now.

About his cousin, I don't have any evidence.
This is also I don't thinking about again.
Oh! But when I see him, I'm always asking him like what about his wife?(of course joke)
Amaka

Many peoples don't know what they have and don't wanna appreciate what they have until they lose it.
Some peoples still don't know or don't wanna know after they lose it.
I never ever wanna be like that.
My husband is a good person.
I must always appreciate him.

I know small small Igbo and Yoruba language!
Oga, Amaka, Ese, E kaaro etc.
But I don't know how to write many words.
I wanna try to know some Hausa word now!

NoToPile:
Sorry its not you personally please, its just your story.

Oh! Please don't say sorry.
I must say sorry to you.
I'm really sorry about making you feel bad.

I'm still laughing with him anytime we spend time together.
Our relationship is always good and very calm now.
But we are not perfect.
So sometimes misunderstand, sometimes difficult to understand each other etc.

I was really selfish wife before.
I had too much jealousy.
I maybe always gave him stress.
But he still with me.
I must appreciate him.

I'm really sorry for making you heart break.
I'm apologies you.

Michaelcas:
it's your choice, you should know if he would feel bad when he knows you access information from here and try to hinder you

Ok!
Thank you so much.
He maybe will not say anything.
But I will not tell him.

This website is like my text book!
I'm learning many many things from here including about my marriage.
Very helpful to me!

Thank you so much!
I really really appreciate you!!

Kazikazi:
Yes,beautiful indeeed

Yes! Really beautiful.
I love animals pictures and nature pictures
Very beautiful.

Thank you for sharing!
I appreciate you!!

NoToPile:
This thread breaks my heart every time I read an update over the years

Oh!!
I'm so sorry if I'm making you sad.
Maybe how I write is bad?

I'm happy to hear from you again!
I'm really sorry about I'm making you heart break.

error4040:
Good to hear you're staying safe and put.
The whole world in general is fed up with the Virus Trust me.



We all know most people that leave their home to a new place do feel home sick and they all would love to visit their home place or country.
But his case in which he always end up spending too much time down at Nigeria and not thinking about losing his job is something to be worried about.
To me I feel theirs something keeping him company in Nigeria that he is not telling you. Although I did mention he might have additional family (Wife&kids or lover) down at Nigeria but I'm not 100% sure on that.



I don't know how to say this but you said he earn Triple compared to your earning but he keeps asking for money even with your little earning.
This is bad, I don't know what to say on this because he is not being fair to you and have no respect to your feelings despite knowing you earn little and yet he still take money from you to foot his bills and get ticket money.


Thiers something about certain individuals (Nigerians) who left Nigeria for other Countries when Going back to their home town they would want to show off that they are doing fine even if they are not.
That should be one of the reasons you won't see him save a dime.
Since you guys don't stay together you need to create a special savings for your self for Future reference.
Mind you this should be a savings that won't be touched no matter how much heat and pressure he put into you for a loan.


You have the right to ask him about his financial affairs because you are his wife.
But since he won't open up to you then You have to keep a special savings aside, because from the above it means his main concern on how you would survive when you no longer work is not bothering him, All he care is to ask you for money which he would send to his concubines in Nigeria.


I think from the above its high time you accept that he is a polygamist.
Theirs an additional family in Nigeria with a woman calling him my husband and if possible kids calling him daddy.



Theirs nothing to be angry on just because you asked him about his salary or give him advice on how he should save more and not accept to send money out when he is not financially stable.
A good wife should always Help give advice to her husband.
Thiers no country in the world in which you advice your husband on financial affairs and it become a Taboo. Definitely not in Nigeria.

And lastly it's my pleasure to assist you with your issues & keep up with the English, you are getting better gradually.

Do have a nice day ahead, hope to hear from you soon

Yes! I'm stay in safe.
Thank you so much!
But very close to my area, some peoples got that virus.

I understand if he miss Nigeria so much.
If that is me, I'm sure I will miss my family, friends and my country.
So going to Nigeria is not problem for me.
But what I can't understand is borrow money for buy air ticket.

Last time was emergency.
He had to go back. But I already told him about save money for kind of happened before.
If he saved some money, he doesn't need to has stress himself about how to get money for go back to Nigeria.

And that time, he was really frustrated about he couldn't come back to Japan.
He even worried about his work.
Stay long time is not his plan that time.
I tried to make him calm down.
But after 1month, I started wondering.
I couldn't understand well about his situation.

Please, I'm sorry about I can't explain well.
He is not always asking me money.
And sometimes I can't help him.
When he need assist money from me, not big big money. Small money.
And anytime when he need help, he has worry etc, I really want him to talk with me.
So everytime I'm glad when he tell me his problem.

We are not always have problem about money.
In fact, I don't like talk about money, money, money!

If he has a kid in Nigeria, I really want him to tell me.
We must support and protect his kid's life.
We must make sure his kid have peaceful life.
Enough food, good health, education etc.
I'm already told him about that.
But he always denied it.
So I have to trust his word.

Most of his friends in here, every year going to Nigeria.
He even told me about some his friends stay in Nigeria 3months or more.
And someone go to Nigeria once of 6months.
He said if he has enough money and don't need worry about work, he wanna do.
They are always go back to Nigeria without their wife and kids.

Is that common for Nigerian men?
And most of them lost work and change work over and over again.
I'm really difficult to understand and I'm always got confusing.
Is that common?

And yes!
Not bad when he go back to Nigeria and show his peoples he is fine in Japan life.
Especially showing his parents.
Not good for making them worry about him.
But something is surprised me.
Like he bought very expensive soap before.
We never had buy it in our home.
But he bought it for go to Nigeria.
Because he said after he leave, he also leave that soap for them.
He said he knows they will be happy.
He never had use it in here.
I really couldn't understand that time.
But I learned it. So now I can understand.

One lady he say his cousin.
Many many times he sent her gift when we lived together.
I was doubt about them.
But he always said that she always help him that's why he always send her gift.
I still don't know if she is his cousin or not.
I just have to trust him.
I don't mind any more.

I maybe shouldn't tell him what I wrote it yesterday.
Because after some time, I tried to talk about our future including about money on the phone.
He heard me and didn't get angry that time.
I asked him what he think about that.
He said very good.
Maybe he don't want me to talked about sending money for someone.
That's why I made him angry.

Anyway, Thank you so much Oga
I really really appreciate you!!
In fact, I still wanna ask you many many things.
But I have to prepare for go to work!

I'm really sorry about disturbing you too much.