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TheManOfTheYear:
You don't have to be sorry, I know English ain't your first language.

Alright that's a good idea

TheManOfTheYear:
Oh he called you? That's good. So what was the conversation like?? Did u ask questions?

error4040:
I been think say na only me see that lie!!!! hehehehe mehn The Husband is a Legendary LIAR!!!! and a Cheat!.
Sister Inlaw and brother stay and sleep in one Room! thats a Porn scene i guess

NoToPile:
I am not angry or irritated at you not at all.

There are a lot of statements you make that makes it obvious to a Nigerian that he's lying and just using you that's what is making me feel bad.

Happy new year ma'am.

Lexmane:
seriously, some pple are damn wicked...
just wasting other pples time...it ain't right!!!!!!!m freaking angry!sorry lady..

Lexmane:
if dem deport some dudes,we go say na from dem village,unknown to us say dem dey cause kasala over there!

Arijude:
I wish you the same. Ok

NoToPile:
I really feel so bad for this lady, reading more on this thread pains me.

TheManOfTheYear:
Could be he just married you for the Japanese permanent stay.
That might also explain why he avoided having kids with you. And why he left you to go back to Naija and won't even introduce you to his family. Thats the scam I'm talking about.

But don't jump into conclusions remember these are just speculations. But find out the truth and also prepare for the worst

Funkybabee:
God has already favour you my sister,ur child is not a kid anymore...and also keep praying God can touch his heart..i pray your marriage his back this new year,try to save cash and plan for ur travel...



Happy new year

nkwuocha:
His real names are names he uses on his documents, especially those documents that came from Nigeria.His international passport too should have his real names.

Catholic church do not support polygamy, so is civil court too.Your husband is,committing a sin and a crime as well.

We don't know who he married first, maybe you or the Nigeria wife,so i can't say for sure who amongst you is the legit wife.

You need to make up your mind for any eventualities. Don't waste more tears and years on someone that is totally not worth it,please.

TheManOfTheYear:
Yes it's common especially in big cities like Lagos or Abuja due to the high poverty rate and high cost of rents. So many families resort to living in cramped conditions.

You don't have to feel strange. Although your man could feel bringing you to Nigeria will mean spending a lot to suit your 'expensive' preferences. Maybe. But if you really wanna save your marriage you can save up and let him know you're coming over so you can figure things out. If he is married to another woman then that's a crime. Bigamy.

Because he didn't let them know he's already married to you.

Best of luck

TheManOfTheYear:
I just hope the poor lady has not been scammed lol.

nkwuocha:
Dear peacefull, I'm sorry you have to go through this from a fellow tribes man.I'm Igbo, and naturally igbos take care of their wives.

Of a truth, your husband is married to another woman probably with kids here in Nigeria.

Since he is a Catholic, one of the marriages is void,the catholic CHURCH DO NOT support polygamy.

I don't know if you were the first he married, if you aren't, the your own marriage is void.

Do you know his real names?If you do you can start by posting it here, I'm sure other smart Nigerians may help to give you full background concerning him.

I know you love him,but come on,I think you have been fooled long enough.My suggestions are for you to divorce him and try to remarry.


There are several Igbo men married to foreign wives and as I speak ,many are here in Nigeria with their wives to celebrate the season of Christmas,with their beautiful kids.

Its obvious you married a bad person and a wicked one.At least giving you the privilege of having his child is not too much for being his legal wife.

Sorry madam.
Be wise.

Time2Smile:
So, you want to know the truth. How do you think you can know the truth.?
You mentioned that you want to see the truth in your own eyes. He will not bring you to Nigeria and I don't think it is good for you to come to Nigeria for now.

Time2Smile:
Please, what do you really want?
Most of the things your husband is doing has nothing to do with Nigerian culture.
So understanding Nigerian culture will not make him change.

Collins4u1:
Let's help you do underground work on him.. email his full name and pictures to pinlienwang@gmail.com

Arijude:
you must be a filipino

error4040:


Manoftheyear na your post carry me come here o, shey you de see our men ?
the man just de busy de paint bad name for us down there.

@peacefull i hate to say this but that your husband is an ingret i mean no sane man will treat his wife the way he's treating you!
and please calling your self stupid is Wrong.
you are those kind of women that Ungreatful men take advantage of just because you dont act violent or react, which even if you react he knows you will still come back and beg him
the issue of he never for once introduce you to his people or family is a sign that he is a FRAUD!
Real nigerian men dont behave lile that, meaning who wont take care of his wife when she is sick ? i think its time you move on with your Life.
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kindly leave him with the Law of Karma it will hunt him back!!!

You can google for the meaning of words i use which you dont understand.

Have a Nice Day

Martmec:
Its u.s non immigrant visa. USA

Martmec:
peaceful(f). Its a u.s non immigrant visa pls

TheManOfTheYear:
Indeed it's just an excuse. Even though the crime rate here is high, we still have lots of whites and Asians living in Nigeria but they usually stay in the high-end neighborhoods where security and basic amenities are guaranteed

TheManOfTheYear:
Actually nothing will automatically happen if you don't use a private car, but since you're a white (Asian) person,you would attract attention in the midst of blacks. Including unwanted attention. Which could lead to you being robbed or even assaulted.

So it's safer using a hired car.

Funkybabee:
That's their culture they will want him to marry their own tribe and they won't even care about u since u haven't born a child for him.... My advice for u is to forget about him sister, begin to leave a new life though u can sit him down and talk to him about those issue that u didn't understand his behavior anymore that if he can't do his responsibility again maybe he should quit and u divorce so that u can have some benefits from gorvernment as a single mom..wait and see his reaction,if u didn't see any change or take u to his parents try and divorce him


My own opinion thou....
Happy new year

Fabuloski:
Well, He Is Right To Some Extent Since He Is Igbo. But Very Rare In The City Areas. To Be Honest With You, I Really Don't Know Why You Want To Save A Sinked Ship. Divorce And Move On. Unless Of Course, If You Think You Being Divorcee Might Affect You In The Future Due To Your Culture, If There Is Any Like That.

TheManOfTheYear:
Don't worry, Nigeria is safe!
Just make sure you move around with a hired car and a hired driver. Don't even try to walk alone or use public transport.

Apart from that,you'd be safe

TheManOfTheYear:
You have to have a one-on-one conversation with him.

Ask him if he's tired of the marriage or he has some secret wife or something.
You two cannot continue like this. It ain't proper. Call him or talk with him via Skype and ask him why his strange behavior.

But before you do all that,search your heart and see whether you've wronged him badly b4 or whether it was your behavior that made him leave. If so then you have to change your character in order to save your marriage.


Best of luck

Fabuloski:
I Don't Understand, How Old Are Both Of You? ( Your Ages)

Martmec:
Pls, I need help. I applied for visa, paid the fee and was about to book an appointment, there was no network, so a friend helped out in her location cuz she already has her own visa and cuz she already has an idea of how to do it. When filling the name, she mistakenly entered her own name instead of mine. Wen I received the email for the date of the interview, I discovered that it was her name that was there, I called and asked her hw manage, then she screamed and said she didn't know o. Ok o, we tried to change it all to no avail. I went for the interview but was told at the gate by those checkers that the name doesn't correspond that I have to change it. I tried tire I even emailed the embassy on several occasions, at the end I was told that it cant be transferred from one applicant to another. Hmmmn! I filled another form, paid another fee; but when I was about to book an appointment I was told that my details is in theit database. Pls, hw can the former one be cancelled so that I can proceed with this new one. Tanx.

Funkybabee:
Is not acceptable for we christians to marry two woman even here in Nigeria but the thing is they won't count your marriage because those people are liars,his parents may not even know about it,talkless of his pastor...will he tell them on hand that he is married before they join his new wife ni and self he may have married before he came to ur country....you guys should be vigilant whenever you want to marry another country man especially Nigerian...






cc lalasticala seun Mynd44 can
U might help her push it to fp for more advice pls

Seun:
Bad idea. We can’t guarantee her safety if she does this.

armyofone:
Lady peacefull,
You didn't make any mistake by not talking to his family because you don't understand English or the language to communicate with them was the reason. So not your fault - don't feel bad.
You've been together for a very long time.
He used you to to make his stay in Japan permanent.
So it is up to you to stay or leave (he would like that after all you left on your own).
Highly possible he has a wife and kids in Nigeria (maybe before he met you)
He may be taking advantage of your communication problems. 15 years together and never made efforts to take you home - your guy is playing a fast one and smart alec on you...it's so clear sister.
So if you ever become tired and decide to leave him, make sure you do it in court and formally.
Sorry for your experience! Stay strong for it is well.

Funkybabee:
Sorry for that sister,the truth is that he is already married because u don't bear a child for him.Nigerian parents will not accept That, maybe because of benefits he will derive that is why he went to that lenght to marry you..maybe you should kit up and dress normally and pray,may God give you ur own ribs because I can't say any hope to you unless you both come to Nigeria and meets his parents

NoToPile:
Madam he most likely has a family in Nigeria. I am really sorry about the way you are being treated though.