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Angela777
Sorry for disturbing you. I'm sorry.
I saw talking about marry with Japanese woman on Travel section. I'm confusing now and I can't read and understand English very well. So I maybe misunderstanding.
But not someone planning about marry with Japanese woman. But I saw talking about Visa and marry. Is that what you told me before about marriage is like business?

I read some Japanese women married with Nigerian man. But when Nigerian husband got Visa, dump Japanese wife. Some of them lend big money for Nigerian husband. I read it before.
But what I don't like is their how to write is all Nigerian peoples are wicked. That is I really don't like it.
I know some peoples are married with foreigner because of Visa. But not Everybody.

Many peoples helped me on here. They are all kind to me. I'm really appreciate.
But what I saw it is very shock and very sad to me Have you heard before that married with foreigner because of Visa, but after changed to love? If marriage is for only Visa, how can that person living together, having sex, have kids without love? Because they think that is business? Not difficult to do that? I'm very confusing.

I'm sorry for my poor English and Sorry for say this.
Japanese women are human like Nigerian peoples. Not tool for stay in Japan.

I saw talking about marry Japanese women on here. If someone already in love with Japanese woman and planning marry with her, I can understand that. But what I saw it on here is like if someone wanna stay in Japan come to student Visa or working Visa, then get(marry) Japanese women. Sounds like not talking about love. I'm very sad.
I'm sorry for if I'm misunderstanding that.
But why someone wanna come to Japan for study or working, already talking about spouse Visa? When peoples will come and fall in love with Japanese woman, they will apply for that when time will come. Fake marriage is crime in Japan.
Please don't think about marry with Japanese woman for Visa. Please.
Marriage is supposed to be for love, not for Visa. If someone will do that(for just Visa), will put bad name for Nigerian peoples. That is very bad and sad.

I never mean to insulting. But if I made someone feel so bad, I'm very sorry and if I'm misunderstanding, I'm very sorry.

TheManOfTheYear:
Hopefully everything is gonna go well. For now we are waxing strong. Really in love with her.

Wonderful
Love is beautiful.

acekhalifa:
I've only read bits of boruto movie and Naruto the Last Light Novels. I'm planning on reading the new Sasuke Shinden and Shikamaru Shinden.

Wow You really like Naruto!!
Naruto master I like Shikamaru. I could watch Boruto today! Story was about Shikadai.

I learned a lot today. Thank you so much.

Very beautiful

TheManOfTheYear:
Okay then. I appreciate your advice.

Thanks

I appreciate you too!!
I had reply you before. Did you see?
I hope everything gonna be all right you and your girlfriend

acekhalifa:
Sha no Sho is 3rd Databook. the one I had was Rin no Sho. right now, I'm waiting for Boruto's Databook to be translated.
it's been long I watched Boruto Anime. I might start watching again if they continue with the manga story.
BTW, Do you read Naruto Light Novels?

I didn't know my Databook is 3rd Databook till I checked what is English title before wrote here
I had read manga and watched Anime. (But not every story.) I have never read Light Novel before. Have you read it before?

TheManOfTheYear:
Yeah I got a girl but only time will tell how far we can go.

But I love her but then again I don't want any problems. Besides I'm not getting married soon. Lol.

What happened with your hubby? Do you have another private platform we can chat better?

Yes!! Don't have problem is best. But I think sometimes problem and solve it will make more strong love(bond?). I hope You can make it little by little with her.
I have my Topic. Many peoples helping me again. I'm really appreciate all of peoples who gave me advice.

acekhalifa:
I'm yet to see a fully translated version online. the ones I see are partially translated and they aren't always accurate.
maybe you've thrown away the game

I checked my Databook. Title is Naruto Character Official Databook Sha no Sho. Old book. Naruto age is 16years old
I still have that game. I just don't see it and touch it long time
Boruto will on TV tomorrow. If I have time, I will watch it

TheManOfTheYear:
Wow. How have you been?
I hope yours marital issues were resolved. Nice seeing you again

I have been ok. Just little bit got bad.
How about you? You met a good girl. I hope everything will be fine and hope religion will not separat you and your girl

acekhalifa:
here in Nigeria, we don't have easy access to the hard copy (manga) version of the Databooks so we have to download them online and, they're written in Japanese making them hard to read. I only find some translated parts of the Databooks online.
do you still have the Naruto game?

Oh! They don't have English version?!

Yes! I still have Naruto game. But there is in closet long long time. I didn't even see it

My husband is Catholic Christian. But I'm not.
We had problem and still have. But not because of religion
Thank you for gave me advice at that time. I'm really appreciate you. I hope you will always have good relationship with her.

acekhalifa:
Momochi Zabuza, the first real villain and one of the best in Naruto. his character dynamic with Haku was pretty good.
at the bolded, I think you're talking about Naruto Databooks. I once had the fourth Naruto Databook on my phone but it wasn't fully translated to English.
I enjoyed Boruto movie too, especially the fights scenes but the anime version Is better
I will check out Naruto storm4 and naruto2boruto shinobi Stryker games when I have abundant free time

First time, Boruto is bossy in that movie
He has no respect for Naruto. But after, I realized Boruto missing Dad(Naruto)

Oh! Thank you. Databook!! You had on your phone? My Databook is like manga.
My Naruto game is very old

If you wanna study in Japan, Please check Ministry of Education, Culture, Sports, Science and Technology Japan Home page.
There have English.
About Visa, Please check Ministry of Justice Home page. There have also English.
I hope it can help for someone wanna visit Japan

nurey
If you wanna know about Education in Japan, there have information.
JSSO(Japan Student Services Organization) also can help.
About Agriculture, if you like,You can check Ministry of Agriculture,Forestry and Fisheries.Sorry for I couldn't explain well before.

acekhalifa:
Yes, when Naruto was still young and the series was still about ninjas. it's the best part of Naruto especially Zabuza arc, chuunin exam arc and sasuke's retrieval arc. you can still rewatch it if you want to know the characters again
as for Boruto, you should read the manga. it is better than the anime series.
sadly I've never played Naruto games

I know Zabuza
I have a Naruto dictionary(?). (Sorry, I don't know how to say English. Dictionary? or illustrated reference book of Naruto characters?) I think I like Naruto than Boruto. But I like that Boruto movie. I watched it 2 times on TV

Naruto game is old game. Choose character and fight. I played almost every characters
I played when I had time and I had fun at that time. But I didn't know how to play it well and I had not enough time for play game. So most of times I lose

Angela777:
Dear Peaceful, (and any other here), please, READ the comments under this video. There are so many people telling you the truth about how is it, some defend the Nigerian husband, some not, people from different countries, Nigerians too give their PERSONAL opinion about the marriage of foreign women to Nigerian men. More different opinions you read, more you understand how to fix your marriage or what to do and how Nigerians react. Inform yourself and make your own decisions. I wish you well.

Thank you so much. I'm appreciate you.
I will try to check when I have time. I thought I moved little bit. But I'm very confusing now.

Tellemall:
If he does not have money ever, then he is spending it somewhere. On who and on what?

I just know he pay for his life, my house and arrears. Sometimes he assist my bill.
I'm very confusing.
Anyway, Thank you so much. I'm appreciate you.

armyofone:
Catholic Reverend Father (Fada) some of them secretly have wife and fathered a child.
You said your husband is a catholic.
It comes down to selfish human nature!
Stay peaceful.

Thank you so much. I appreciate you!
Yes. He is a Catholic Christian.
I thought Fada(Thank you so much for taught me this!) can't marry. Some of them secretly have a wife and a child?! I'm very very surprised.
Anyway, Thank you so much. You give me advice since when I joined here.
I'm really really appreciate you.

acekhalifa:
konnichi wa nihonjin! Anime aren't restricted to a specific age. It's only a matter of choice.
so, what is your favorite arc/part in Naruto/boruto?

Wow Konnichiwa!!
Thank you so much.
I like when Naruto was still small boy. With Kakashi sensei, Ero sennin etc. I didn't watch well when Naruto is getting grow up. So I couldn't remember many character's name
I watched Boruto-Naruto the movie-. I like it. Only few times I watched Boruto. I'm still not watch very well.
I was playing Naruto game like Tekken long time ago. I really liked it

error4040:
This is like Kettle calling a Pot Black.
Reason is All of us here advising you believe Your husband is also Practicing same Method.


This is not the Case of Culture or Family, Your husband is just been Greedy and selfish.
there is a full plate of Sushi in Japan which he is unable to Finish instead his Greed and Longer throat is Eying Afang soup with swallow down in Nigeria.

You always Mention It is not his fault that you don't know if you're the cause of the problem, is their something you're not telling Us ?.

I don't know how to explain well. I don't meant defend him. But maybe how my explain is sound like defending him. I'm not a liar. I just telling what is my thinking and my past with him. I think I wrote about how I was a bad wife. I don't know if I'm a good wife or bad wife now.

He could choose rich woman. He could choose someone who have no kid. He could choose smart woman. He had a lot of choice to marry with someone. But he married with me. He already has permanent visa. He could dump me when he got it. Anytime He can dump me. He can live and work in Japan without me. But he still with me. He maybe not good husband. But I can't think he is a bad person.
Before When I told him what I don't like how he treat me.He said I don't know real bad husband. He told me I have no brain. That's why I don't know anything like Why he still with me.

I'm already not like before when I joined here. I think I'm little bit moved. If I made you feel bad because of I said culture. I'm very sorry. I never meant insult for Nigerian cultures. I'm sorry.

Angela777:
You are fine and you are a very polite lady. Nigerian wives are yelling and even beating their husbands, cheating lots too, many Nigerian men raise kids thinking they are his and when they do the DNA test, kids are not his. Nigerian women are not submissive unless it is in a very small village tribe style living. And if a Nigerian man brings his Nigerian wife to the developed country, she is much more aggressive and cheats on him financially kicking him out of his house and getting all his money. Nigerian women abroad are more bitches than foreign women just because for them it's all about how much money she can get. Nigerian culture is all about money and how to get more no matter what, no matter love and marriage.

Dear, don't blame yourself and don't let your husband to say it is your fault. You try to have the real good marriage based on genuine love and if he is not a fool, he will try to be with you forever. The women like you are not too many in the world. I hope he is smart enough and never loses you.

Why are you living apart now? If you wish, give me his name in Facebook and his real name by email and I can do the research for you.

My husband don't say my fault. But when I had quarrel with him, I was always feel like my fault. I didn't like that. So many times I asked him why he always talk like he is a perfect man and everything is my bad.
But now We don't have quarrel like before. I don't feel like that. Thank you for caring me. I'm appreciate you.

His work place is very far now. That's why We are separate living.

Angela777:
Under civil law, Nigeria does not recognize polygamous unions. However, 12 out of the 36 Nigerian states recognize polygamous marriages as being equivalent to monogamous marriages.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polygamy_in_Nigeria

Polygamy in Iboland (South-Eastern Nigeria) With special reference to polygamy practice among Christian Ibos
Edmund O. Egboh
Civilisations
https://www.jstor.org/stable/41229235

One Man, Many Wives. The Truth About Modern Day Polygamy in Nigeria - Family - Nairaland
https://www.nairaland.com/3505446/one-man-many-wives-truth

Thank you so much!!
I will check it. I'm really appreciate you.

ExplicitSuccess:
Have you made a mistake recently and you are looking for how best to apologize in a professional way? Look no more! I will tell you how to go about it.

There are no doubts that we are all humans and we are bound to make some mistakes once in a while but the question is; how do you apologize after you have made that mistake?
https://explicitsuccess.com/how-to-apologize-for-a-mistake-professionally/

I'm sorry. What do you mean?
When I made mistake and when I realized that is my mistake, I'm always apologize for that person from all of my heart. I should apologize for my husband about doubt him?
Anyway, Thank you so much. I appreciate you.

Feraz:
The bolded, apart from the reason you have given, I also think it has to do with their work nature. Many will rather work and even die from overwork (karoshi) to make ends meet for the family than decide to have more kids; also, not leaving out the fact that many work far away from home. This has led to the govt. encouraging some social activities (karaoke nights or so) in many workplaces to bring back that social culture and counter the aging population.

As for the first bolded, you are absolutely right, especially if you didn't start the anime when it began and have to watch about 300 episodes. That's the reason I am yet to watch Bleach or One Piece.

Can't believe I followed from page 1 till the end. See better wife and I am here looking for a Japanese waifu.

Peacefull, hope it's all been settled with him?

Not yet. I'm very confusing.
Thank you so much. I appreciate you.

I didn't know many Nigerian peoples like Anime
My husband don't like it

sparkle7:
Hell no! That is not our culture. Our culture forbids having 2 wives. And especially if the wives dont know that they are married to the same man.
If you want to know if he has a wife then do any of the following. >> Tell him you want to check his contacts and messages. If he has nothing to hide, he should give it to you willingly. But if he got some bad things he is hiding, he will refuse. Then maybe delete those chat or messages before giving it to you. Now if he agrees, Hurray! You are ready to know the truth. Messages is more revealing than contacts. Just make it romantic, sit with him and scroll through his messages together. Ask him questions like who is this guy? Point to a chat he had and say ' who is that lady? ' then watch his reaction. He might start stammering or take a long silence before answering. That means he is trying to cook up a lie to tell you.
>> Next go through his Gallery. Say you wanna see his handsome pictures. Then go through every picture. If you see any lady picture ask him funny and witty ' Who is that beautiful lady? ' >> Use some Psychology tricks on him. Its all over the internet. Or maybe reverse-psychology but i doubt that would work. >> Next thing you can try is pretending you know that truth about his nigerian wife by saying after a cool evening.
You: I know you married Amaka. Now tell me, how many kids did you guys have? >> He will of course deny that. >> Just say with a smile: ' I already know the truth ' stand immediately and leave, go do some chores pretending you never just had a conversation. Dont raise up the issue again for the mean time. Make sure you do this with Seriousness and a little touch of cheerfulness. >> Now what you are doing is trying to build up Suspense. In His mind if guilty, he will ask himself ' What truth does she know? Have she found out? Did my friend spill the beans to her? Who told her? ' >> He might go to you in the kitchen and ask ' What do you know? ' or ' What truth are you talking about? ' or ' What exactly are you talking about? ' If he ask you this, just know that he is feeling guilty but want to hear how you knew he had a wife. >> If he is not guilty. He might try to reveal that he never had a wife by saying ' I swear I didnt marry in Nigeria ' or ' You are the only woman am married to ' thats it. You have your answers. Note: amaka is a general and widely used igbo Female name. He will be shocked that you know this. And if he is guilty, he will be more shocked that you already know a lot about his background. And that can destabilize him.
>> Next thing you do is make friends with his Nigerian friends. Now when i Mean make Friends, I mean very tight/close friends. Females preferably if any. Nigerian females are quite good talkatives and cant keep a secret. Chances are that they say the truth unknowingly when conversing with you. If its a male be sure he is cormfortable chatting with you. Then when you have built enough rapport with him, ask him the question. >> Ask him like you know already, something like ' Sure <INSERT HIS NAME> married a fine lady in Nigeria. Is she so beautiful? ' Now this is much better than asking questions that don't gets mono answers like ' did David marry in Nigeria?' His response would be Yes or No. Which is not that helpful and of course they would always deny to protect their friend. Be careful dont ever Nag him

Thank you so much. I'm really appreciate you.

I'm sorry for if I'm misunderstanding your culture. If I made you feel bad, I'm really sorry.
I had ask him about if he is married in Nigeria many times. Not angry. Not mad. Not shouting.
I'm keeping calm down and smile when I told him. I'm always talk like I know it. Because many peoples taught me many things. I'm always keeping it in my mind. I'm really appreciate. I explained him how much strange our marriage and his doing is he has wife in Nigeria. But he always said No and that is my mindset. His wife is only me. Then I also asked him why he likes to make me suffering. He said No. He never meant to suffer me and he can't.

Why I said culture is if his family want him to marry with Nigerian woman and have kids with her, I can understand that. I don't want. But if his parents or uncle and aunt, anybody who is elder person can't accept me, I can understand.
I really want him to tell me the truth if he is married in Nigeria. I wanna trust him. But little bit difficult to me now.

I have no strength for nag him now.
We are separate living now. We shouldn't have quarrel. Everyone supposed to have relax time in the house. Supposed to be peaceful and comfortable place.
We can't have enough time for stay together now. So We have to have good time. Talking and laughing together and make comfortable. We are trying it. So I can't nag him now. I'm done that when I was young

sparkle7:
When he comes back to Japan. Ask him why he didnt take you to his Parents for marriage blessings. For any marriage to count in Igbo culture, your parents and his parents must meet. Then blessings are given for the marriage by both parents. If this is not done, it is possible that his parents never knew that he married over there in Japan. He might even tell them that you are just a friend. Ask him if he told his Parents, brothers, sisters and kinsmen that he already married in Japan. I might be wrong so don't take my words to heart. Just saying you should make him tell you the whole truth. He is very tricky. A marriage where couples are not truthful to themselves may not stand.
A time will come when he will fly back home and will never come back. Pardon me to say that. Unless he really loves you that much that his conscience will judge him. Karma might also come for him if he dares to. But I swear, you Japanese love too much. So drunk with love. Well am not Married so I dont really know what love means. Are you on Facebook you can add me up.

Thank you so much. I'm appreciate you.
He is in Japan now. I think his family know he married with me. He wanted me to talk with his Mom before. But I couldn't. That is my big mistake.
Japan is same about man's parents and woman's parents must meet.
I still don't know his parents face
This is very sad. I can do something for his parents is just buy small small gift when he go to Nigeria. I have not enough money. So I can't do everytime. But when I can do, I just try it.

Too much love? I think if don't have love, can't be together when bad times come. If have love, small small things can laughing together. Even when having bad times, still can share small good things and can put smile on face for each other.
I'm sorry. I'm not using Facebook. In fact, I'm scary internet. But I'm using only this Website.

Feraz:
Dou Itashimashite! Anime channel? Are you by chance an Asian?

Oh, the bolded, no one is ever old watching animes. . .

Firestar-chan, another kunoichi.

Wow!!! Arigato gozai masu
I'm from Japan.

Thank you so much! I thought I maybe too old to watching Anime. I'm appreciate you.
Kunoichiiiii

sparkle7:
Okay. Arigato gozai masu my Sensei.

Wow!!!
Do itashi mashite!!!
You are welcome

Angela777:
NEVER believe words what your Nigerian man is saying, he will say what is it convenient to him at this moment and the truth will be hidden from you, maybe for many years and the woman in love will be used and abused. The real man will be honest with his woman and supportive, judge him by his actions, not words yet be prepared, the Nigerian man may have other women, kids and even being married in Nigeria.

To OP, if he is honest, he will let you see his phone and social media chats.

Thank you so much. I appreciate you.

I'm so sorry for your experience
Your ex husband is heartless man
But when someone in love that person so much, very difficult to leave. Because still wanna trust. Everybody can make mistake. Not always bad. Shared good times and bad times together. Everythings are good memories. Because after some time, talking and laughing together about when had really so bad times in the past. Bad times can be good old days. One year by one year getting old together. Not easy to forget about loved one.
I really hope you are not so much in hurt now.
I really hope you are getting fine now.

Sometimes love is really so hurt. Love can make someone very strong. Also can make so weak. But I believe love is always beautiful.
For family, for friends, for partner etc...
Always beautiful. But sometimes really so hurt.

Maybe my problem is now I can't think he is bad person or bad husband and if he is married in Nigeria because of culture or his family, I can't think his fault. I think maybe that is my problem. Very confusing
How can I find out if he is already married or not. Only check his phone? Can I get some paper from Nigeria?

sparkle7:
To your first question, the economy of Nigeria and japan are quite different. I dont know the Naira to Japanese currency exchange rate. Its simple. If i make 100 yen ( i have forgotten the name of japanese currency. Pardon me. ) after working in japan, if i come back to Nigeria and exchange that 100yen to local currency. If the exchange rate is high say 1 yen is equals to 100 naira. Then am gonna be having 10,000 naira in Nigeria which is just a small amount in Japan. So if he earns say 10,000 yen that will make him a millionaire in Nigeria. Thats 10,000 yen * 100 naira. Making it 1milion naira in Nigeria for just 10,000 in Japan.
The bold text in your comment are answers to your questions.

Thank you so much. I appreciate you.
I asked him about bride price.
He doesn't pay means maybe our marriage is not count in Nigeria. But he said No. Because I'm not Nigerian and we did paper work in Nigerian embassy. So we are also married in Nigeria that what he said.

I also don't know about Japanese Yen to Nigeria Naira. He said twice or three times.

sparkle7:
Dont worry your English is perfect. If you can learn to speak a nearly perfect English like this on your own then you must be very intelligent. Many people stay in English countries for years and still cant speak a good english.
So that aside.
How do you say hello in Japanese? How do you say 'Thank you' ? How do you guys greet. Sensei means ' Master ' right? Heard that in Street fighter film. How do you introduce yourself? Example. Hello there, my name is John. Nice to meet you.

Thank you so much!

Hello is Kon nichi wa.
About phone call, English says same Hello. But Japanese says Moshi Moshi. Same Hello, but different in Japan.

Thank you is Arigato or Arigato gozai masu or Arigato gozai mashita. Arigato gozai masu is more polite than Arigato. Arigato gozai mashita is something like for past.

Sensei means teacher. But we also call for Doctor or Lawyer Sensei.

Nice to meet you is Hajime mashite.
Kon nichiwa, Watashi no namae wa John desu.