I would advise that you overlook those bad habits of hers, overpamper and pet her a lot, then one day talk to her in a cool voice just before going to sleep
State the things you don't like and tell her to try and stop, that you love her and you want the marriage to work
Coinwarrior: when i met this young girl,she was homely and well reserved and she loved me then.I told all my pastors about 9 pastors to help me prayed on her with about six names to make the total names I gave to them be 7 girls.All the pastors prayed on it and they all singled out this girl that is the lord’s choice. Her parent also prayed too on their side by given my name with other 5 names to their pastors and they all prayed and their pastors singled me out that I am the lord’s choice for their daughter.And this is what further made us to get married and we got married in 2020 after we did introduction by 2019 august.All through the time we were dating i love the girl and the girl loved me too and the girl has been good and faithful to me.But i ran into a discovery about my wife then why we were on the road.when we wanted to start the relationship i asked her a question that is she in a relationship currently at that time and she said she was not into any and that the one she was b4 went into water.ok I accepted to her.But one day she was sick and I was away I then called her to know her health condition and one guy picked her call and I was shocked and asked her who was he? And he said he was his boyfriend and I said boyfriend but she never told me she was in any relationship when i met her but out of my genuine love to my wife I just told the guy to not attack her becos she was still ill.Then later when she was totally ok.I sat her down and asked her who was that guy and why couldn’t she tell me the truth then.she then begged me and said she had broken up with him at that time i met her and it was her own friend that advised her not to tell me about it.And when I did my background check I saw that she was not with that guy again because she caught him having sex with her junior.But the guy kept pestering her and begging.Then later on her sister and mother called me that they really want to see me then and it was from there I further confirmed that my wife just finished dating that guy then b4 she broke up with her after she discovered his sexcapade with other younger girls.what do i want to bring out from this narration is dawned on not being totally sincere with me. I caught her there.Another area i caught her lying was when i returned from traveling and saw a new phone in my wife hand then and when i asked her she told me her dad bought it for her but i knew soonest they truth would be revealed.in the course of our relationship then I got to discovered that the old guy that she had broken up with bought her the phone then and her aunty later advised her to return the phone back when it was obvious she would marry me when the spiritual findings of their pastors came out,i overheard her aunty telling her on phone.And when i confronted her she later lied that she didn’t tell me that her father got her the phone.she said the guy gave her the phone as part of his begging to come back.That is lie no 2 I forgave her cos of my love and warned her but the guy was pained that he was unable to sleep with her when they were courting then because my wife was telling him then to wait till their wedding night because i read their long time chat they had on Facebook why they were together then.So when we eventually married...going forward i saw my wife randomly chatting guys with whom they went to secondary school with and some guys that once toasted her and i told her to stop that when she is now married.Even her pastor called her and warned her to never anything to do with those old guys again when she is now married.But one day i just checked my wife contact and I saw a particular number she saved with *Gabriel my first mistake* I was curious what that could mean.And my wife telling me she never had sex with anyone in all her previous relationship but she said she is not a virgin because one incident that happened to her while she was growing up in the north where one old man raped her when they sent her to buy bread by her parent.I didn’t believe the narrative but the same thing she told our church pastor when they asked us during one private discussion point with them.But i stumbled on one book where I saw where she wrote *my first husband Gabriel and put two numbers but I tried to call those numbers but they were not active.Then I remembered one day we were driving out together and we saw one guy and I was talk about him and my wife said she knew him very well.it was there my wife made mention of his senior brother whose name was Bro Gabriel,she said they were in the church quoir and the brother use to called her *his children mother and she use to called the brother *her children father* she told me they took themselves as husband and wife already but one day when she visited the brother the brother told her my children mother let step this thing up by having intercourse but my wife said she just stylishly find a wise way to dogdge it by telling the brother that she is coming to do the act with him he should just wait for her to tell her sister waiting to receive sth outside then she would then come in to do the thing with him.she said she has to use that wiseness because she can’t abuse or struggle with him cos the guy can do anything with her.if that is true or not I can’t say but I am looking at the meaning of *my first mistake* that is very symbolic.with that symbol,I believed she slept with that guy hence the reason why she saved his name with *first mistake*.That is another redflag I observed.Then about one week ago my wife was telling me she would change her phone pin and pattern so that those people in her shop won’t be able to swipe her phone start using it to make calls.I said it would be good and do you know my wife changed the pattern of her and she didn’t come to me to show it to me and I was waiting for her to come tell me as being open as it should be being husband and wife.I watched for 8 days and I concluded she deliberately didn’t want to let me know .I was then wondering what she could be hiding from me when she would look my phone from morning till night.But just yesterday I then confronted her and told her I don’t know the kind of wife she is that she would be hiding things from me.Then she exploded and was telling me that she used a pattern I once know.I then said she should show me the pattern and I could see it was a different pattern and I told her baby you use to lie.why is she lieing? I then told her i have some history of her lieing and I started mentioning those lie she lied that she was not in any relationship when she was in one and she just broke up when I came.I then mentioned that I saw a number on her phone that she saved with *Gabriel my first mistake *immediately she heard that ...she kept quite all through* and the next thing was she went to her phone dialed one unsaved number which happened to be Gabriel number though the number is still inactive.I then confronted her when I saw her dialed the number while she is still married to me.That made her to start telling me she is tired of this marriage and she told me I should go and bring my lawyer to divorce and she threatened that she would walk to where nobody know.And she was crying and I felt for her and started begging her again not to sad because of the love I had for her.
Good ladies are usually good friends with other good ladies
It's highly unlikely that you'll find them in a particular place
NeckingNgulping: Yeah, bro, all you have said are religious dogmatists' problems that i just can't wrap my head around. They're probably even more repulsive than atheists, at least to most of us.
A close-mindedness that amounts to an imprisonment so total that the prisoner doesn’t even know they're locked up.
About your last paragraph, i find it so hilarious. It's a truth they can't deny.
Ballzproblemm: you are just blowing grammar,make money travel out, you see many non religious people,that's your only solution ,but if na here ,then you are in for a long thing
NeckingNgulping: I'm an atheist, and I found that I'm incapable of dating women who are particularly religious. I could go out on a date with a religious woman, and that's usually solely by merit of me pretending the whole time as though I'm truly in for it.
Since long term relationship with these women would have necessitated that i make pretence a hobby, logic sets in and we inevitably part ways.
In a highly religious country like ours, it's quite hard to find a woman who's an atheist as me, let alone a decent one.
Yes oh, it's like finding a needle in the middle of the ocean, at the very bottom
IntelChief: My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.
But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).
As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.
Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.
What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.
Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.
She will eventually get married
But like close to her late 30s or early 40s
She's more concerned about her personal development for now
You should be more concerned about your personal development too
There's a way you can approach her about the marriage talk and she will feel supported and open up to you
But if you're too aggressive, she'll see you as an enemy to her personal development and dreams, thereby creating a gulf of communication and probably hatred
She isn't stupid
When you discussed future plans with her, did you ask her about marriage?
Because if you had the spirit in you, even if you don't interpret the tongues, you should be able to discern its source, and tell if its appropriate or not
Look for someone who is filled or a teacher to explain things to you
OnknownSoldier: If you are conversant with the modern-day gospel music industry, you would have noticed a sudden surge of unknown tongues in many gospel songs from gospel artists of mostly black descent. This sudden development in my opinion is worthy of serious interrogation as the Bible says that we should test all spirits so as know which is of God [1 John 4:1].
The gospel songs I knew while growing up emphasized godly living using language(s) that can be understood. The hymns for example are written in plain language(s) and one can attest to the fact that those songs are divinely inspired and spirit-filled. Meanwhile, the present crops of gospel music raving the moment are mostly incorporated with unknown tongues and spiritual chants that can not be understood by anyone and yet we have not found a single interpreter to interpret the tongues in these popular songs. I believe that in itself negates the fundamental injunction stated by Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 14:27.
I have been to megachurches in several regions of Nigeria where I have heard worship leaders repeating the same tongues in these popular gospel records verbatim and I get confused each time. Damn! Something is wrong somewhere. It's almost impossible to hear a gospel record these days without hearing an unknown tongue in it. Could that be the latest marketing strategy to sell gospel records?
Yes! I believe in tongues but I also believe that not all spirit-filled Christians must speak in tongues. Some operate in other gifts like prophecy, Discernment, word of knowledge, words of wisdom, walking of miracles e.t.c [1 Corinthians 12:4-11]. it is the spirit that distributes these gifts but I wonder while the present church places much emphasis on tongues. Well, maybe that's because tongues are the easiest to fake. Maybe I said.
Now to my honest questions:
1. If speaking in tongues only edifies the one who speaks it and not the body of Christ as it is in 1 Corinthians 14:4, why will any gospel musician incorporate an unknown tongue in his or her song lyrics for the body of Christ?
2. Where exactly is it written in the Bible that Christians should sing in tongues? Is there anywhere in the Bible the Apostles did? I know pentecostal christians will mention 1 Corinthians 14:15 but is that what Apostle Paul was really saying in that passage?
3. Why were the ancient gospel songs not incorporated with unknown tongues as we have now? Could it be that modern Christian worship has been hijacked by strange spirits?
Above are my reservations about the sudden proliferation of unknown tongues in modern gospel music. I will appreciate answers with biblical reference(s) to my questions in the comment section.
Thanks!
You speak from a place of ignorance and lack of the spirit indwelling
Mikekan30: Figure it out bro, everybody got a weakness!!!!! I can't tell you Manchester city's own but it's always there on the field of play... Teams play them with fear and not with courage.
Eliminate the fear, then you have Successfully killed 60% of your problems... Man City is explorable...
Man city's weakness is that every team plays them with fear
Smazlexander: The back to back monday holidays made me see that side of me i have not seen and got thinking about my social life. I have not been to a party in a while even if i'm invited,if i'm not forced i certainly won't show up, i have not made a new friend in a long while cause apart from work,betshop or viewing center, i don't go anywhere else, is it only me or anyone else in my shoe
Romance › Re: My Experience As An Atheist In The Dating World. by Peterrio: 3:58am On Oct 24, 2022
