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pazzini:
Pls, I need advise on how to really handle this issue. My girlfriend wants us to be talking every day and I sometimes get bored by that. Even when I try to avoid her at least a day by telling her I don't have airtime, she would call me even if she doesn't have airtime she would borrow. Kindly advise!

Na love be that oooo

No use am play.....just go with the flow and open your mind.

Na she go dey bring topic....all you have to do is to listen respond and support the gist....

You don't know what you have till it's gone

ayourbamie:
The future is female gang drive men away too

Saaphiere people

Na Shiloh go end am last last

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Emiwill:
Im not judging! I’m actually surprised you’re able to tell the difference. My first 9 years were spent in Kansas City Missouri and I’ve spent 19 years in Texas so my accent is alittle of both. Most Texans can tell I’m from east Texas because we have a special drawl lol but I like mine!

And don’t even get me started on Louisiana.The only good thing about people from there is they know how to cook lol

I'm curious about this

What's the difference btw Cajun and Creole people?

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PrimadonnaO:
This is cracking me up!

Abeg, I'm tired of you. LOL.
The idea of friendship first just seems to be so annoying to you.

Okay o

But my people understand me perfectly

Get to know her, but a friendship is not necessary for a girl to know who she's attracted to

This isn't by first rodeo

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PrimadonnaO:
Oga, relationship is not gra gra. Some people will like you at the get-go, others will take a while.

But I'll always advise friendship first, and when you finally ask and she says no, please move on to someone else.

I no talk say relationship no be gra gra abeg

Of course she must get to know you

But I disagree when you say you must be friends first

A girl doesn't need another male friend before she knows he will be her lover

Two weeks max is enough

Edit the "friendship first" part to "getting to know her" first.

PrimadonnaO:
You're not taking into consideration that people and situations are different.

The people I dated, I liked them from the very first day of meeting, and knew that I could easily come to love them.

But we didn't start dating from the first day. If they had asked on the first day, I probably wouldn't have had enough certainty to say yes.

Also, there are people I've liked at sight, and on getting to know them didn't like them as much anymore. Imagine we had started dating on that fickle first attraction. We'd have broken up in a week.

Plus we all move at different paces. Some people develop affection slowly.

Okay, let's say it is true that a girl either likes you from day 1 or never gets to like you, what does anyone stand to lose in developing friendship first? For a month at least. What do you stand to lose in knowing a bit more about each other, your values, your similarities, your quirks. Are those positives or negatives?
Do you realise, too, that if you two are unable to sustain that friendship for at least a month, then you have no business getting into a relationship?

You yourself have admitted it

End of story. Friendship na cruise.

One to two weeks of she knowing you is enough.

baralatie:
ehn brother!

this friendly trendy to friend girl before we get to eating sausages and ice cream is taking too much of megaspace o!
that is why some people are experiencing slow processing speed o!

just bring your card slot into the the home and press enter.if there is something you will see please take your cash.
if not you will see user switch error!

ahn ahh!

Leave primadonna jare

Na woman na.....Wetin you expect am to talk?

Lemmy123:
It was back in the days when I was younger, if I asked a girl out and she rejects me, I'd begin to think something was wrong with me, and I'll be wallowing in self pity for a long time.. But now if you don't vibe with me, I move easily... Thumbs up bro

What guys don't know is that a girl always knows who she wants to be with even within a few days. No be rocket science.

One to two weeks max is enough for her to know if she wants you or not.

All that friendship talk na cruise. Person Wey dey play hard to get for you dey chase another guy.

I learnt in one group when one girl dey tell me say I boring (of which I wasn't) dey chase another guy Wey dey the same group.

Lemmy123:
For me... I tend to give up easily. I heard men love the chase, it gives them thrill and all but I see anything interesting in chasing a girl who doesn't pick your calls or tries to make you look stupid before the public, doesn't give you attention... I might as well not like you anymore if you have to make me go through all those... If you are not feeling me, you should have the decency to tell me in time and help me save my energy...

At the moment tho, I have a girl I intend to ask out. I met her here on Nairaland, she's nice, well spoken, attractive and all, and as soon as she begins to stress me (if she ever would) I will have to let go...

Like someone said, if you see someone you like, you won't let them go easily, if she really likes me, she won't put me through all those...

By the way, I hope she doesn't see this comment tho

Your head dey work well.

If girl no gree for you within one to 2 weeks of meeting her, walk away.

This relationship thing is not difficult if you're smart.

PrimadonnaO:
If she can be sincere, ask her to tell you why she doesn't like you.

Emphasis on if she will be SINCERE.

Sometimes the reason we're unable to like people are because of assumptions, which when corrected may make a world of difference.

For instance, a girl who likes a man with a good fashion sense may be turned off , if because of one or two meetings she's concluded that the man has a poor taste in dressing. However what she might not know is that maybe his house was recently burgled and all his clothes got carted away... he's yet to restock. Or on the two occasions they met, he didn't come from his house.

Or because from one or two things she misconstrued in conversations, she thinks he's super boring, or intolerant, or stingy, etc

Do you get my drift?

And then there's this thing about spec. When most ladies have a fixed spec, they automatically switch off when they meet a guy who isn't that exact spec. So it doesn't let them open up to discovering other sides of the guy that they may eventually come to appreciate or even prefer if only they'll be open-minded and let things flow.

And then, most women like to be wooed. See most often, it's the man who first likes the girl and approaches her right? If they've never had any real personal interaction in the past, it means you're just a regular John to her, until you begin to show her that you want her. If she's cooperative, she lets you do your thing and woo her. It would help too if you knew her love language, and that's it, she may come to like you, too.

Summarily, have you asked her why she doesn't like you?
How often do you stay in touch?
Beyond calling and texting, have you guys spent a reasonable amount of time in each other's company?
Do you know her love language?
How long have you guys known each other?

All this one na cruise.

A girl will know if she wants to be with you within a week.

Very simple.

Lack of reciprocation and response

Poor conversation and pride

Good advice for guys:

Don't force or beg any girl for relationship

Or change who you are because of a relationship

Someone wants you just the way you are

Person Wey no like you no fit like you

Person Wey go like you go like you

If i like you I ask you once you no gree bye bye

If I really love you I ask you twice you no gree bye bye

I can't kill myself abeg

PrimadonnaO:
See, first develop friendship with a girl. Give her a reasonable amount of time to get to know you.

Depending on the quality of communications you have, a month or 3 months max should suffice. If she's begun to like you, then trust me she's patiently waiting for you to ask her out.

Then you clearly ask her out.

If she tells you no, and the reason is not because she has a boyfriend already or she just got out of a relationship and needs some time to let wafer flow under the bridge before starting a new relationship, then please quit chasing, because she saw the question coming and has prepared for it.

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You can decide to hang around and strengthen the friendship so you ask again another time, but the chances of her stance changing is quite low, and you may simply end up investing more resources on a wild goose chase.

P.S This only applies to quality babes, not the ones who;

play hard-to-get for a living,

or the ones who think they should give any guy that asks them out a try.

or the ones who say yes because their birthday is close or they want to bill you for a new phone.

From experience, girls always know who they want to be with from the moment they see the guy and start to interact with him within the first week of meeting him.

You're aware that For you to even be able to strike a friendship with a female she still has to like you. You know that right?

So how do you then apply your logic to the ones who won't even give you a chance to be their friends?

Once a girl doesn't send you from the get go, or within one week of meeting and knowing her, forget her. She doesn't have eyes for you.

I know how many females don ask me for relationship.... people I have never related with as much as to deem it a friendship.

I've had girls tell me I'm boring

And I've had girls who think I'm the funniest and most handsome guy on the planet.

Guys, No dey allow dat friendship thing deceive you

See, person Wey go like you go like you

Person Wey no go like you no go like you if you like, be her friend for 30 years

Person Wey go like you go like you if you like know her for a week

bigpicture001:
I stopped chasing my immediate ex to come back. When I saw sh wouldn't pick or reply my calls or even reply my chats..... Pleas lasted a period of a month and half

I just forgot about her!

Good for you.

ImaIma1:
I don't know what you are on about. But, you will be fine.

Before nko? I will be very fine na!

Emiwill:
I no dey joke. (Lol, my attempt at pidgin)

I’m Black American, 28, currently in school for my masters, and if that doesn’t kill me, then I will pursue my Ph.D in Psychology next.

I have dated a lot of African men in the U.S. and I have lots of Nigerian friends here in America (yorubas and igbos).

While I have a lot more to learn, I think I know quite a bit about Nigerian culture: your food (egusi soup, jollof rice and so on), how you treat your women, how you dress, your music (Davido, Wizkid, 2Face, Psquare, MI, Teni), etc.

Criteria:
-Must be 5’8ft or taller
-Must be beautifully very dark (e,g, Yaya Toure)
-I like very hardworking, educated and intelligent men. Should have a Bachelors degree from Nigeria and Must be willing to pursue a US STEM graduate degree (Masters and/or PhD), but don’t expect me to pay for it. Most schools offer scholarships and assistantships to students and you must be willing to work hard to earn one.
- Should NOT have a Nigerian wife or kids
- Should be 28-33 years old

Hobbies:
I like to cook but I hate to do the dishes. My favorite African food to cook and eat is Egusi soup and pounded yam (I’m not the best, but I try).

While I do like African men, I’m not an African woman. I’m as American as they come.

I know there will be lots of trolls and frankly I don’t care.

Scam scammer scammest

ImaIma1:
It would have been better if she just kept most of thr details to herself and only sieve what she tells you.

Many people can't handle the truth. Sometimes it is better to be economical with the truth.

Yes some people can't handle the truth and they should be proud of if

See them......devil senior sister at work

Master manipulator that's what you are

Lordbinsmar:
I find it very disappointing that a lot of people on this forum see nothing wrong with having 4 different abortions at tender age of 24.

Instead they are shifting the blame on OP for having a doubtful mind about an ex olosho.

should He be the one to suffer for another man's misfortune

My brother.....zero brains I'm sorry to say

People will justify and say na poverty

What about those Wey poor Wey blow Normal way?

Most of them born from around 1995 downwards have no hope I'm sorry to say

Dem don dey open leg at barely 20 when dem never enter university

At the crucial age when dem suppose dey strategize how to arrange your future dem don dey open leg

It is finished

This.

Only if she can make up for it in other areas

Lordbinsmar:
God bless you abundantly.

Preach the gospel to them.

I don't understand why a lot of Nigerians celebrate mediocrity. I now understand why mosdii do say a lot of Nigerian girls are useless.

Most of them see nothing wrong with having 4 different abortions at the tender age of 24

These ones have no hope

People Wey don dey open leg from teenage years

Na God Kuku put urge for intimacy for man body

If not wetin person dey find up and down with them

pseudaria:
Nigga Bleep that bullshit. A lady will knowingly turn a how just because she is young and when she is old and ready to settle down she starts forming'dont judge me based on my past, guys who judge me are emotionally immature ' bullshit. Me that is a guy who is loaded and can have any girl I choose to, but decided to keep myself I should not judge you who liked to explore and Bleep all kinds of dick. Get the Bleep outta here

That's woman for you

Masters of manipulation

They will say I don't have time to waste when it comes to dating a normal guy hustling to make himself better

But we Wey dey run around everyday to make our lives better na we be mumu abi? Na we get time to waste

Now I know why the devil was able to tempt eve easily

They're birds of the same feather

Both of them are manipulators

The devil would never have been successful if na Adam he approach