ha! people are telling you now o Love is blind... open your eyes bro when e set, will u remember el-rufai? do you know what he is going through? Dont make this lady hate you later in life for making her choose a life of suffering cos of your selfishness
Biko..... Pray to God on the alter, a better Oma will come
In the event where a driver goes to a location to pick up a passenger and he is robbed.... unknown to the client to be picked, the car was robbed and they had to book another one. Who is at fault?
madridguy: Before what we used to have is " Do you love him? " but present it is " Can he take care of you "
Although she loves this guy, the family don't like him because he isn't igbo and they are not sure he is financially capable. The issue, to her, is that she is approaching 30 and may not get another suitor.
The truth of the matter is not because the guy his not igbo its simply because of the guy current financial status.
May God help every struggling men and women.
Not sure of his financial status is security not being broke
thorpido: ...the family don't like him because he isn't igbo and they are not sure he is financially capable.
Very stupid and myopic reasons. Does he have a job,his own apartment and can he raise money to fund a wedding? He must deal in drugs before he can be seen to be financially capable.smh
sigh.... You know its not easy moving into a totally alien culture... leave love aside. You cant blame the parents, there are a lot of fears and uncertainties especially when you havent experienced this from any of your relatives
Apt! As per the emboldened, I wouldn't be so sure though. I know and have seen ladies who are willing to protect their relationship at all cost and wouldn't mind ditching their circle of friends. Perhaps her friends share the same sentiment as her immediate and extended family which was why she made the move. It necessarily might not be because the dude proposed it for his selfish interest.
It is even possible that she has never been loved or treated the way the dude is treating her at the moment which in turn fuels her conviction that he is THE ONE.
God epp us.
Ladies do all these to protect love... its unfortunate men don't. You might be very correct....... I hope he keeps treating her that way for life if they marry...
DarkJeddi: For all you have narrated,you have not specifically pointed at any character flaws of the said Suitor apart from him not being an Igbo or rich.
Your sister is a full grown adult and if you can't point out any other reason for not supporting her marriage apart from ethnic bias then it is unfortunate..
Like you said she's not getting any younger,she's found a man she loves and unnecessary interference from you based only on tribal bias is only going to worsen her relationship with you..
Thanks for the point... I dont even think age is now an issue for most women now. My fear is even if this sails through, it will favour the man than her. She may not be free with her own family whom should be supporting her at all times. a woman's family is very important to her even till death
My sister is threatening the peace of the family with her wanting to marry a guy she met about a year ago. We are a traditional Igbo family with very close nuclear and extended family. We value family so much that we are close to our cousins/siblings and we help each other. She met this Edo guy and things changed. Her friends went down to almost none, relationship with family became bad and most important life decisions or advice she takes from him instead of speaking to her parents/family. She told the family of her proposal to marry this guy, 6 months into their relationship.... its almost a year now and the family is not in support. Although she loves this guy, the family don't like him because he isn't igbo and they are not sure he is financially capable. The issue, to her, is that she is approaching 30 and may not get another suitor. She is ready to sacrifice all for him even her family and threatened that its only death that would not allow her marry him. This is becoming a big issue. The family is divided. The parents are saying No.... her sisters support her.
I also scaled through the first stage. I guess the first was equally a difficult one. This stage shouldnt be tough for those who have the passion and vision
Babajide Sanwo-Olu was sworn in as the Governor of Lagos State on Wednesday, May 29, 2019.
He expressed enormous enthusiasm in confronting the traffic challenge in the state.
On June 3, 2019, Sanwo-Olu donated 35 brand new high-capacity shuttle buses to the Lagos State Civil Service.
On October 2019, just like Ambode, Governor Sanwo-Olu acquired over 800 new buses.
In a series of tweet, the governor declared, "Beyond road construction, we have started expanding the bus rapid transit system and gradually reducing the danfo buses on the roads. I am excited to announce that we have purchased over 800 buses to add to the existing BRT fleet expanding to more routes. We are supportive of private investment in transportation that is non-exploitative".
BRT Vs. Non-BRT
The 800 buses bought by Governor Sanwo-Olu are intended for BRT operations. This is unlike the over 800 buses bought by Ambode. The cost of acquiring the buses is yet to become public knowledge.
The acquisition and donation of the buses to a private transport company by the Sanwo-Olu have come under criticism.
Some analysts wondered why the Governor, who claims he met an empty treasury, embarked on such charity.
They also queried the sense in donating the buses to a private company when they could have been donated to the State government-operated Lagos Bus Services Limited (LBSL).
The donation of the buses came 2 weeks after Governor Sanwo-Olu sent a letter to the state Assembly to get approval for a fixed rate bond of N100 billion from the capital market and an internal loan of N150 billion.
Babajide Sanwo-Olu is the 15th Governor of Lagos State.
Mrcashman87: I am not new to Nairaland but I have to use this account for my story . I have met her in 2009 she was calm , doesn’t talk much but easily get angry and I also noticed that she wasn’t a good cook but was good in other things ( chores) , it didn’t stopped me from loving her, I didn’t tell any of my people even though I have sisters that are good cook but I decided to take her to catering school to learn how to cook which she went for lessons to practice.
We got married in 2013 , she got pregnant that same month and she became so lazy that I will go to work and come back to found the house very messy with everything’s all over the places , dirty dishes and not dinner yet, and I have to take over cleaning and cooking dinner for us. She claimed she could not longer clean the house , she is tired and need to rest so I have decided to get a house help for her , a small 14 years old, this girl was hard working , very obedient but to my wife she is evil , every single day I comes back from work , this girl is always in tears my wife will beat the hell out of her to the extent of giving her black eye , if I confront her she will start accusing me of sleeping with the girl which is not true, I can never stoop so low to sleep with an underage girl. I have nieces of similar ages what I wouldn’t want another person to do to my nieces and wouldn’t do to another person daughter.
One time I came back from work to found the girl in a pool of blood , that my wife hit her with a wooden chair and she had a deep cut on her head , I got angry with my wife even her reasons didn’t make sense to me , all because she asked the poor girl to warmed up the baby milk and she mistakenly left it for too long , the milk was too hot to give to the crying baby so she got angry at her and hit her . I have told my wife she shouldn’t act like that no matter what and here come again you are sleeping with her and that’s why u are siding with her , we had an heated argument that I have left the house to cool down , I came back after 5 hours and next morning I have send for my brother to take the girl back to her parents , I have given her money 30k to manage that was how the girl left the house.
When our first child was 6 months , we found out she was 2 months pregnant she cried that the baby is too small , she can’t keep the pregnancy , I have begged her to keep that everything will be alright . Our twins were born a girl and boy , having 3 children under 2 wasn’t easy for us and I have to go to work while she staying with the kids all alone and she was depressed , I have decided to bring in a house help 15 years old boy , the same thing repeated again , she was maltreated him the same thing she did with the girl , that boy didn’t even stays with us for 2 months , he run away . I came back to found her crying that the boy has slapped her and run away, I was angry for what he did even swear if I catch him , he will regret the day he was born but the other way I knew that boy did it for self defence .
After the boy left I said no more e help , she will have to manage alone because I couldn’t help her anymore , but my house become dirty that I wouldn’t even want to bring in visitors because of the state of the house , dirty plates can stay in the sink for 3 -4 days , laundry she has a washing machine but she couldn’t bother to do , cooking we eats take away every single night , imagine I comes back home 9pm due to my job and Lagos traffic , at that time I’m even exhausted but I have to started cleaning , one time I got pissed with her that she didn’t wash the eldest daughter school uniform and all her uniform 5 sets of uniform were dirty and she had no clean one to put on in the morning , I have to wash them at 10pm and for her she didn’t see anything wrong with that.
When the twins were 1 years she told me she is tired of staying at home that she wanted to go to work , I have told her to wait at least for them to be a year and 6 months to start school before she can pursue her career but she disagreed with me, so I gave her money for business , she opened a shop . We had an agreement that she should be closing down her shop at 7pm so she could be home with the kids and take care of the house , she was ok and I got a elderly woman as a help , she doesn’t lives with us , she comes at 6 am and closes at 8pm and I also brought 2 of my nieces 18 and 11 to the house. Every since she started working she has never get home on time , sometimes she stays until 10pm , if I talk she get angry and will start raining insults on me , we haven’t make love in a long time , she always complains of being tired , her stomach is paining her etc etc. I have decided to leave her alone and not bother her about sex anymore , and it doesn’t bother too. She acts as im a nobody to her. So it happened in July I came back home to found my niece 11 years old with a deep cut and blood on her eyebrows and my wife did it just because the girl broke a plate so she hit the girl with the broken plate , first all I had to rush her to the hospital and she had 11 stitches and went back home, all I wanted to sit with her and to talk sense with her but she wasn’t even interested all she could do was shouting at me , accusing me of sleeping with both my nieces and the elderly house help , was so angry that I have beaten her badly which I later regretted and apologise to her.
That was the first time I have lay my hand on her something I vow not to do to the woman I love but she pushed me so bad and I have been remorseful but she refuse to forgive me . It’s now 4 months we don’t talk , we don’t sleep in the same room , she just do her own and come home anytime she pleases. I just don’t know what to do anymore , I love my wife and children but her attitudes isn’t right. We have 3 beautiful children 5and twins are 4. Sometime i want to divorce her but when I think about my children I just don’t feel like going ahead with divorce but I’m also a human and can’t stop living like this .
Please my brothers and sisters help me with your advices
What was she like before you got married? Be honest!
what is the worth of a woman : in ibo tradition, an unmarried woman has no right in her fathers property. not even a say.
even when married and she never give birth to a male child she will not be allowed to inherit her husband property.
the female gender is seen as an object of satisfaction and if she doesn't meet up she is thrown out with contempt.
at their marriage the female gender is seen as a commodity that need to be sold her value tally with the things that the family had spent on her. if she had a degree education her bride price is of higher value. than those without education.
in the Ibo culture when a man cheat it is easily overlooked. but the case of a woman will invoke the curse of god and eternal damnation.
I see this things first hand during my service in the eastern part of the country.
I am of the feeling that the Ibo tribe need reorientation on civil ways of taking care of the child and not to see her as just an object because it is affecting the self-steem of an average ibo lady.
This is a BIG FAT LIE!! This is only for the small enclosed settlement you were in.... Please dont generalise
when i was little we had the block rosary crusade grp in ibadan held in my house.... many kids attended and we had many programs plus cultural dance...... Mother mary help me to be devoted to you.
dabrin: After 30 years in doldrums, the new Warri-Itakpe Standard Gauge rail has been completed and would begin commercial operation on Monday, Nov. 19.
Mr Niyi Alli, Director, Operations of the Nigerian Railway Corporation (NRC) told the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Lagos that the present administration of President Muhammadu Buhari has endeavoured to complete the project.
He confirmed that the train service has been put on test-run, carrying passengers free of charge.
“The Warri-Itakpe, as we all know, the project has been ongoing for a while.
“This administration has endeavoured to complete it and we’ve commenced trial runs since then.
“We intend to commence trial commercial operation without charging people between Warri and Itakpe.
“In the middle of November, we have a target of 19th of November and we are working very seriously to achieve that date.
“It’s going to open up new parts of the country to the railway system, especially areas that have never had train services before in Nigeria.
“So I’m very excited about that and the people around there, are very excited; we are getting a lot of cooperation from the local indigenes from that network area.
“It’s something I’m personally proud of; people are going to see railway again, they’ve seen our service on the Abuja-Kaduna.
“We are going to run a very reliable service, very punctual service and a very safe service,’’ Alli said.
NAN reports that the 327 kilometres-Warri-Itakpe rail line runs from Warri in Delta, through Edo and Ajaokuta and terminate at Itakpe in Kogi in Kogi.
It was conceived more than 30 years ago to connect Nigeria’s Iron Ore Mining and Steel Production belt (Iron Ore Mining Company in Itakpe, Ajaokuta Steel Company, and Delta Steel Company in Aladja, Warri).
If you never date afin you've not tasted life Their piontus ehn dey always balance well. Because people dey avoid them the chassis dey stand gaan. And them dey too caring.
Plus your pikin color go stand well. Miss you jasmine
frenzyduchess: People will always talk, you slim that say you are a bag of bones, you have flesh ,they call you fat,you have muscles they call you transgender.
i taya ooo...
even the ones with bad mouth and bad rotten heads are farrr away from perfect
Was any reference number issued after the application? I didnt get any reference number..... Please guys how do i get my reference number.... I saw my colleagues reference number and i am worried i didnt apply well
Politics / Re: Public Finance Bill: 10 Things You Should Know About It by philfrey08: 12:11pm On Jan 14, 2020 
