₦airaland Forum

Ebonygirl1:
This woman, e be like say you get comprehension problem
It is not that the lady doesn't want to be around his family. The issue is that she fvcking can't. Do you even know the meaning of social anxiety? If you don't pls stfu. The fear of social interactions is real. This is not about pride or selfishness

See them!

They can type with fire and brimstone behind keypads of phones but will claim in real life, they are anti social sociopaths...Yeye

SamuelAnyawu:
Amen oh Bro

Chai

I told my mum they have completely forgotten about them in Ikotun...

Paid a visit to my family house during Independence day and the whole area is a mess...Ijegun road, Abaranje road etc looks like a scene from pre civilisation era

kayzat:
I have a better compliment at home. Having social anxiety doesn't mean we are anti-social it is just that we love to do our things within our small cliq

Is that what the @op described?

destinyy23:
I used to be..

No wonder you easily had a soft spot for the @op's girl...

It's up to the op to choose to either be a therapist or face reality that he is not compatible with a sociopath.

Forumobserver12:
I have read your comments on this particular topicand I have come to conclusion that you are insensitive and MEAN..Jazzz.

Absolutely nothing insensitive about her posts...Her posts were directed at the @op & not the girl.

The @op needed hard truths which she dished out. It's left for the @op to choose to be a therapist or face reality that what he is dealing with is an extreme & they are not compatible.

destinyy23:
You can do all these, great! but don't castigate someone else's inability to cope with them. There are other things she might be capable of that you wouldn't dare. Don't come acting like she has to be you, she can't be you and God helping her, she'd overcome this challenge.

Seems like you're also a sociopath like the @op's girl...

ehix89:
still not good enough reason in my opinion, the OP might have exaggerated some points, constructive criticism is good enough but going full blown judgemental is going overboard.

There was no full blown judgement passed. Her posts were simply based on what the @op posted wether exaggerated or not.

She did make very valid submissions and made the @op see things with the lens of reality.

thundafire:
Soyinka go shut up and start to tell dey youths to pray for leaders

cucumbae:
If na American this guy for dey count him dollars in millions cos of copyright infringement.But in naija the Commander in chief of aso rock who swore to defend the constitution no dey ever obey the law if e no favour am.

Abegi! but, Blackface is now sounding like a broken record...He should move on.

Are there no courts in Nigeria? What stops him from taking 2Face to court? Aren't artists heading to court in Nigeria today?

ehix89:
How do you judge a woman you have not even met

From what the @op described.

Christafarian:
Finally we gat someone who is in touch with reality.

The OP narrated a disturbing case of a manifest sociopath and some omni-know-it-all Nairalanders went advisorial, instead of offering medical or psychological counsel to the poor guy.

Dear OP, I align myself with the above clear thought and adopt it as if same were mine; I kindly advise you to accept it hook line & sinker.

I was just laughing at the comments...Shows that many of these guys in here, are sociopaths like the @op's girl, who are internet warriors behind keyboards but in real life, are water leafs.

I am attracted to calm, reserved & maybe shy women, but not anti-social humans who are at the extreme...I can assure you, many of the men in here screaming that's their type of woman, when they get into such relationships, will get bored and tired when they see what they will be dealing with

Blinkers:
Then, leave her the fûck alone and go date a social butterfly who will attend every event and parties including the ones she is not invited to.

Easy no be war...What that man described there, is an extreme.

I can assure you, except you're also as extreme as she is, if you marry such person, e go tire you.

No one is saying a woman should be too extroverted, infact I like my woman reserved too, but not to the point of hiding from family & friends & people in general, which is what the @op described there.

kayzat:
Your wife attitude is exactly like mine. I hardly go out meeting people and my families inclusive. Some people are like that and you just have to accept that fact or let her go. Many people see us as proud or something else but we are what we are.


BTW, I am a man

Then you and that woman can be a fit...Lock yourselves away from civilisation, what you think?

saucecoder:
This thread just confirmed my suspicion that nairaland is a gathering of people who are mostly introverts, socially awkward, and can only fight and curse behind a keyboard.

See as everybody dey claim to be like the OP girl

Aswear!

Only behind the keyboards can they spit fire and brimstone, but in real life, they're like water leaf

The case of this lady, is quite extreme and I can't deal...

baby124:
Exactly. Something is not right here... she’s obviously able to be social to speak to a strange guy in public, collect his number and start a relationship. So, why is meeting his family a problem? I can’t place my hands on it, but something is not right. Not like they even met through a mutual friend or something. Or maybe her sibling toasted him for her. She met this guy in PUBLIC... something most so called severe introverts are incapable of. She either had a lucid moment or she’s setting a tone...

It could also be that she doesn’t want anyone reading her and seeing her for who she is. That is why family is so important when meeting a future spouse. They can generally see what we refuse to see and a manipulative person will avoid that.

Solid point...Very solid point!

BOOOMNAIJA:
There is nothing savage about his reply, we should stop hyping this opportunistic kid because in fact, he is actually talentless and has a poor/froggy voice as well....our hysterical love for mediocrity and nonsense as Nigerians is what has made this guy attain the popularity he's gotten today, and that is why he's claiming what he's not in actual fact.

In saner climes, a davido would never be reckoned with......Quote me anywhere.

I can imagine what you're going through...Your frustrations and all...You will be fine las las

CastedDude:
Why are Nigerians still missing the point. No one said money grows on trees abroad. They relocate because of better quality of life and security. Didn't u read of the person who withdrew 10m naira and relocated to Canada, did he tell u money is his problem.

U are calling people who spent over 5m naira to relocate "hungry folks". I wonder how full u are.

I dont know why this is still a subject of debate. If u want to stay in Nigeria and develop it..fine but dont discourage others who want to migrate.

As for me and my household, we are done with Nigeria

The effrontery of calling people who make the move, hungry...

You'll easily tell she is a deluded and bitter soul, who lives in a small world.

She moves from one thread to another thread and all she does is drop foolish, senile and senseless posts. When she gives examples of her family members and friends who have gone abroad or made the move, NOT ONE has ever made it or is doing well.

All her examples and maybe it's even the reality, are failures and people who ended up getting frustrated and you wonder what kind of circle she is in...Very pitiable circle

Mizwisdom:
Adam, you done join bad gang abi? [s]better don't follow these hungry folks who think there's money growing on Trees abroad[/s]

Don't be deluded...No sane person thinks they grow money on trees in obodo oyinbo. Infact, it's difficult for you to be hungry and still travel to obodo oyinbo.

So your theory of hungry people doesn't hold water. It costs a fortune to make the move for greener pastures and many who embark on such, do so for other factors aside your warped mentality of picking money on trees. Many want to live in a sane society, which Nigeria doesn't provide.

I have your time today...I dey wait your comments

Mizwisdom:
I will not post what you want to read because what you want to read is falsehood, if you want me to fabricate stories just to make you and your likes happy you must be an unreasonable person, my only advice to you is to stop reading my posts.

I am not saying you shouldn't post sad, sorry, pitiable and bitter stories to suit your negative posts, i just made an observation and hoped it doesn't translate into your real life.

Racoon:
Which right thinking woman will go to take a so called 3 months "well deserved rest" when she is not on maternity leave thereby leaving her husband @ the mercy of endless chonji and a ruthless cabal she have constantly critisized as caging her husband & his govt?

As usual, it will be lies to cover more lies.It's always difficult for liars to retrace their footsteps because they don't keep track of how much lies they have told.

The only proof we have so far, is she's back, she's still the wife of the president and the president is not married to anyone as alleged.

The onus is on you lots, to disprove the above facts with credible facts and not more wailing

Mizwisdom:
I know someone that ran to UK on skilled work visa(Tier 1), from there he went to Germany from there he enter Canada then back to Nigeria, I asked him why he came back and this was his response "Nigeria is not a bad place to live especially if you have money". Goodluck to you

All your stories and tales are always sad tales. You never share good tales, I hope it is not a reflection of your life.

mrpaedo:
I am married.
I cry everyday ever since.I mean I shed hot tears almost everyday and my heart bleeds.
Don't ask why can't I get out of the miserable relationship.It is easy come in,very difficult to get out.
Marriage is only for women.
Men,borrow sense don't be conned into a marriage.
Your life will never remain the same most especially when you marry a disrespectful woman.

Marriage and religion,the biggest scam on earth.

Posted by a nairalander

Them tie you for there ni?

Maxcollins042:
Just wondering if someone that already has a job can still learn programming.

Ofcourse yes

Nigerians bloom at a late stage

Many Nigerians only find their bearing when they're already of age and have to cut back on their age (on paper) to make up for lost years

Take footballers for instance, when do majority of Nigerian players start playing organized football, join academies and have opportunities? Many of them it's when they're in their late teens when their Western counterparts right from 8 years are already in academies and have a clear cut career pattern

Maxcollins042:
How many hours per day is needed to be devoted to programming learning?

No specific time...Just study at your own pace but be serious about it

Obiossy:
I want to start .. but I don't know where to start from

1. Visit learnpython dot org and start with the basics--- start with HTML, CSS & bootstrap then move to Python and Ruby. You can also checkout freecodecamp dot org.

2. Use Youtube tutorials for visuals; Search for "learn python/HTML/CSS full course for beginners" any of the languages you want to learn...You can also check out & subscribe to Freecodecamp youtube channel

3. Sign up on meetup dot com...And select your city of residence. You will join over 5,000 Nigerians who are learning how to code with different bootcamps and learning events organised throughout the year.

4. Immerse yourself in this daily for 8 months...Then apply for Andela's learner or volunteer programs next year April/May

5. If you don't get the opportunity to join Andela, there will be other doors that will open for you (One of the pros of been a programmer)

6. Give yourself this time next year, you will be a self taught programming guru (You need atleast 11 months of intense self learning to be ready to take on very tasking jobs)

7. You will be spoilt for choice of jobs, no matter how little for a start (freelance, remote, contract or salary)...That's a guarantee

AntiBrutus:
After swimming in dirty water containing all sorts, he will start looking for who to give him blow-job. Useless Island boy.

Werey

1x2x3:
Birds of a feather. It may take you ages to comprehend what I wrote once you lack wisdom.

In your small world and mind, you're full of wisdom

Come out of that small closed world, and re read what you typed, it's complete gibberish. Looks like tales those hungry motivational speakers would say.

You're only twisting words to confuse yourself

1x2x3:
You simply lack knowledge and wisdom.

There's a huge difference between achievement and fulfilment. A man with wisdom will prefer being fulfilled to achievements that leaves you unfulfilled. I would totally understand if you find it hard to comprehend.

Not making a brief for that guy you quoted, but you're confusing yourself with twisted words that make no sense

I told someone that it just wasn't possible...

I could bet anything on that. I said that because I just had to give Buhari the benefit of doubt

I mean, we can call Buhari incompetent, inept and anything, but him craze never reach to that level wey you go dey marry when country hard and citizens dey find joy

It just would be insane, callous and insensitive. I just hope those spreading such tales move on

Oni run bieach