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Sweetlemon:
I owe you a plate of freshly prepared ekpang nkukwo.
Sad thing is that all these fish-brained girls here don't know it. They are here forming good girl. LMAO!

so you are encouraging girls to be leeches...

I thought u say u are gainfully employed with side businesses etc bla bla

yep....

shizzleStar:
lol...you right...

i noticed too, she isnt like the annoyingly aggressive type

The drilling was major..lol

But shes not into the wars which happen here so i answered her

shizzleStar:
pickabeau1 why is Enlightenedsoul drilling you like this?

she will be like...'na me send you open thread?'

beef

getafe:
na you sabi

kweenshome:
committed relationship my left foot! Better work hard to get ur own and stop "treking around". Success is not sexually transmitted!

OUCH

You are wicked ooooo

Post of The Day!

interesting thread


carry on


the proponents of local are the same people who will insult naija at the first opportunity they get
They claim non-association with naijans especially in the diaspora - its a thing of pride

lol

to me local is about accent which i feel we should claim back
we should be proud of our accents

getafe:
Lord when will my own be na? Beautiful couple; fine guy and decent lookin lady

fine guy.....



decent lady? hmmmmmmm


somethings cooking

AnodaIT:
Maybe the sex was not too good

wicked



OP

The above is a possibility and maybe he wants to give you a soft landing
It may also be he just wanted physical intimacy which if he has gotten maynot be up to his expectation
It may also be you lack some wifely qualities he wants

Has he ever given you any negative feedback before

kimco

abeg whats the full name of this monster you recommend

Joavid:
Even you?

whats your asking price

Yes... it is key

EnlightenedSoul:
Fair enough. Although I would note the importance of communication.

EnlightenedSoul:
Yes, but I'm asking you. Do you believe as husband, you have to discuss every little decision with your wife? Curious.

I think it depends on impact, but that's just me.

I agree with this
I said earlier...90 percent of decisions in my opinion need no discussion as values are expected to be compatible if courting is done right

EnlightenedSoul:
Do you believe every decision has to be made jointly?

i thought we thrashed this already

My earlier post

pickabeau1:
you are the one reading nuances into what is not there
Like the poster above parismarc said...
Decisions are made jointly with the hubby but where a knotty one comes up and a decision HAS to be made, she defers to the man
a well structured courtship should ensure commonality & compatibility over 90 percent of issues
We are talking of a small bunch here
But note a woman may have the best solution to that issue, the man should trust his partner to make the best decision

so whats the moral of the story

EnlightenedSoul:
I noticed it, but I also noticed the nuances in those statements. And btw, I don't believe all decisions need be made jointly.

ok..

EnlightenedSoul:
Because you said:

Although I agree with the importance of compatibility/commonality, the bolded is him going solo every time a disagreement occurs. There is neither compromise, nor is there any give or take. What's the point of having an opinion? Your opinion matters only so long as you agree?

I guess you missed this

We are talking of a small bunch here
But note a woman may have the best solution to that issue, the man should trust his partner to make the best decision

...she may be the best person to make the call then

coogar:
what kinda question is this?
who else should head the home? the kids? the pet animals? of course, the man is the head of his home irrespective of his class, status, IQ or whatever. if the wife doesn't feel so then she shouldn't have married him in the first place.

lol...

EnlightenedSoul:
From what I gathered, there is neither compromise nor give and take in your model. It's all take? Correct me if I'm wrong...

why did u think that..i never said so

See my post below

pickabeau1:
you are the one reading nuances into what is not there
Like the poster above parismarc said...
Decisions are made jointly with the hubby but where a knotty one comes up and a decision HAS to be made, she defers to the man
a well structured courtship should ensure commonality & compatibility over 90 percent of issues
We are talking of a small bunch here
But note a woman may have the best solution to that issue, the man should trust his partner to make the best decision

edoyad:
So Brazil is here, the Nigerian Grand Prix(Inter Lagos)

FYI

Marussia has folded up

Up next Caterham

EnlightenedSoul:
The situation determines it. If we both feel strongly about something, we'd obviously need to come to a compromise. However, one should also learn when to give way to the other. You should try to make each other happy whenever possible, give and take. The last thing you need is a power struggle.

So the views are not so vastly different after all?

Yes... can u work on this.. it will be good business

Orikinla:
No. I am not a distributor.
We need it in Nigeria, because of the dangers of kidnappers and terrorists on the prowl.

good.. so who determines when there should be a compromise

EnlightenedSoul:
No, but I believe in compromise whenever they can't be. Sex alone breaks a stalemate? Nah.

EnlightenedSoul:
In what way? To 'head' or not to 'head'?

yes
Do you believe all decisions can be made jointly

...

how will you like it to work in your own family..

EnlightenedSoul:
I don't propose anything. Different strokes for different folks.

EnlightenedSoul:
I do too. It's the same delegation I spoke of, only that partnership still consist of one earner. Hence, he still calls the major shots and is still the overall 'boss' (for lack of a better word).

So what is your view on this?
What do u propose

EnlightenedSoul:
I guess coming from that type of family makes you wonder what this whole headship pie is actually about. It seems it's more apparent in households where the father is the sole breadwinner, and therefore understandably fully in charge of making every little decision for the family (and therefore always being the natural 'tiebreaker').

This is true but not all the time
I know of families where the man is the sole earner but the woman makes most of the decisions
Within the agreed framework


What are your views

respect

barackohandso:
Wow. I hadn't realized that. Respect to Raul truly

EnlightenedSoul:
Nah, it's precisely because one spouse is better at it than the other (or more appreciates handling it) that the task becomes their full responsibly. They can't possibly both be equally good at all the same things.

For instance, finance. One spouse does all the tallying of incomes and salaries, budgets the family, and makes all/most of the financial calls and etc with each spouse dealing in their area of expertise and informing the other of the larger decisions.

ok.. this also works in some families...

In others... some tasks can be handled well by any of the parties

Weird woman

She sleeps with men to get back at her hubby..

fast forward to 10:50.....funny.. she wants equality in promiscuity




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z6VPzMyDeZI

EnlightenedSoul:
How do you feel about each spouse having a set of delegated responsibilities?

please clarify

In my opinion, responsibilities are mostly always delegated as it is expected that one can function capably as the other

EnlightenedSoul:
If they agree, there's no issue to begin with so we've been discussing the disagreements anyhow.

I got your view.

cool