₦airaland Forum

Kemetian:
This is the type of cultural influence nations go to war to have - pay billions of dollars to have.

CHINA and INDIA would be looking at this and thinking ''Damn! Wish we had this type of cultural permeation power in the USA." - and yet we have some absolute dunderheads here pushing for the ''break up of Nigeria'', to become little Togos and Sierra Leones - voiceless, inconsequential, zero influence, and easy to bully by foreign powers.

Nonsense.

If you want Nigeria to 'break up', move to another country and break up yourself there.

I love your comment, especially the last paragraph. They should go and kpai themselves somewhere else

Macphenson:
Peller that struggles to speak English because he expressed himself better in Yoruba, had an E in Yoruba. Very interesting.

And It's even more interesting that he got C4 in the English that he's struggling with. No be African Magic be that?

c3cc:
Call a true Edu resident or Kwara , they will tell you that all are lies.

How many residents have you called? What did they say? Until you have provided evidence of this here, you are just like the people you criticise; postulation without evidence. Even if you are a pope, once you are human, it's possible you are lying.

ridwintin89:
I have thought over and over again to determine what marriage benefited to men.

Marriage is the coming together of two people to become a partner together forever.

But the men shoulder all the responsibilities of nurturing the home ranging from house rent, feedings, school fees etc while the women kept their money for their own family or party.

Men shoulder this responsibility to the extent of losing their life on high risk job while the women would still move on after one or two years with another man.

What we called a partner responsibilities is later left for men to carried alone.

Women are deceitful and wicked who only cares about their well-being alone and survival.

This life is unfair to the men and it is high time men see women as been deceitful and wicked to them.

If you never have any problems you will think the women love the men,just have a problem the would unabled you provide for the family,you would face a lot of insults,abuse, sex starve, mormoing and pressure from the women that could force men to think of suicide or abandon their home.

Women are looking for already made men,while the men would build them up for success.

It is high time men also stop investing on an ungrateful, selfish fellow.

If you are an aspiring blogger or journalist or anything of that nature, you can't make headways because your submission is one-sided, lacks objectivity and not well-researched. It reeks of misogyny; its a Fallacy of illegitimate generalisation. Choose another route!

JobuTupaki:
Thanks for recommending a good Perfume or Body spray. Very nice of you.

I don't know what you are driving at but I don't have any stench or body odours, I just simply love good smells.

I should make? Oga abeg leave this space for those who have something meaningful to contribute. No be everything you must comment on top.

whoever is behind that comment you quoted will think himself or herself sensible but sense yaff left tey tey! Nonsensical humanbeans!

EDOSBROWN:
Diego Costa,....,.
Hmmmmmm
Don't get him offended

Is he Wilder than Gennaro Gatuso, Italian mafia guy? Gosh! I love football!

RollinTNDA:
One of the most handsome governor

I meet her daughter in 2018

Very pretty woman

Donald Duke is not one of the most handsome governors, he's actually the best one I've seen. The wife Onari is great looking too. This their daughter doesn't come close.

I wish the newly weds a beautiful marriage.

Streetinvestor2:
I know of the tax credit scheme given to mtn.It has nothing to do with the present Yoruba president on ground
So it is not his achievement for his people to be dashing out propaganda. That project has been on before he rigged 2023 election

Yo will end up in jail like your uncle, Kanu If you keep making unguarded utterances. Can you succinctly produce evidence that the 2023 election was rigged?

SeverusSnape:
Agbado munching urchins say Christian genocide is a hoax.

By 'Agbado' I want to believe you are referring to the Yoruba tribe, except I'm mistaking, I stand to be corrected.

Yorubas weren't the ones pushing the No Christians Genocide narrative; It's the Northern Nigerian States - Hausas and Fulanis.

iwaeda:
We are paying premium for darkness.

This was what I told the lady in charge of NEPA Bill coordination in our house and she felt I too talk. I no go talk my mind again? I know it's not her fault but I need to express my mind. She con talk say she no dey collect money again. I no send her. Tomorrow morning 7:00 am, we have a meeting, I know she will come for me, but I'm waiting for her. We're all corporate people wey dey form Ajẹbutter, but Agbero dey inside Alakọwe!

correctyourself:
This is fine and i wish everyone that is married a happy married life, God blessings. Always respect your husband likewise what I wish my family. Regards.

Thank you 🙏

correctyourself:
Well, your decision is still ok, I'm sure you're B/Friend is kind to you, with mother's relationship informed your conclusion. It's well.

He is the best man I know, even now. My mum just spoke to me now. We don't see as often as I'd love us to but it's fine. Love them both.

correctyourself:
After NYSC if there's no automatic job she would come back , but if there is job offer she would stay except if you have job for her.

NYSC is for one year and you know the type of girlfriend you has in terms of being able to stay without s.,.x. this will determine if she will date someone during this period of one year.


Try concentrate on your job, while you also follow up with her hopping for the best.

In my case, I got a job offer at the House of Assembly, I got another one to Head a Training Institute. I didn't stay o. Two reasons why I couldn't stay - My mum and my bf. Those two, I don't joke with them.

lovediehatelive:
If I say my friend asked me to ask for advice, I know you all would come for me telling me to come out clean that you've heard this before, because, it's me not some imaginary friend.



Okay okay, let me confess: I accept. It's me. Not my friend.



So it has gotten to my turn. The girl I intend to settle down with is about to go for NYSC.



She was so overjoyed when she told me. I'm happy for her, but you know na...



Several stories of how them dey chop people serious girlfriend for NYSC.



We've heard about the 3 weeks camp, how some are caught doing weeweechu and sent home.



Even if she doesn't do that the 3 weeks as a decent girl I know her to be, the remaining service months are there and even though she is decent I can't trust her to that extent.


Had it been we are married now I can influence it, work redeployment and camp exemption for her to be with me while receiving the monthly alawee.


But things are still open since I haven't done a single thing on her head.


Normally with the news I've been hearing about durtty stuff going on during NYSC I am conditioning my mind to expect the worst and remove my expectations. Yes, she's decent, but she's human and can fall for it.



I can vouch for her a bit but not completely because some girls might still be doing it behind you no matter how decent they appear or how serious the relationship is.



And I know fully well how painful it can be when you use your whole mind in a relationship and she breaks your heart, how painful it can be. So actually it would pain me if anything happens, but I have conditioned my mind not to allow the pain to get deep into me. I've lowered my expectations in the relationship, but my mind still dey.

(Hoping for the best but expecting the worst)


Is there anyone that has been in similar situations?


How did it go?
How did it end?



What do you advise I do?


Move on?

Keep in touch?

I picked something from your post - Hope for the best; Expect the worst. This is all you need to do.

I was already in a serious relationship when I went to serve in another state 4-hour-drive away from home. My bf wasn't panicky like you cause I had to serve. It's compulsory.

Yes, there were 'toasters' from my fellow corp members, to the state house of assembly members, to my bosses, the first and second one cause I changed bosses; he was hell bent on dating me, even the NYSC Men and the Military officers. I was resolute.

Here's the trigger. A few days to me traveling for the service, I saw a publication about NYSC Camps and the many ungodly things that happen there. It was so strange to me, I never knew those things happen. (I was low-key ọmọ Mummy) It was disgusting. This helped my resolve to keep to myself. I packed my very bulky novels. They'd be my companion; no friends - male or female. And that was what I did.

You know what? I traveled like it was going out of fashion. I was in Lag most of the time to be with my baby. On Fridays, I'd park my bag to work, and join the bus from there to Lag. I may not return for 3 weeks, spend another week and disappear again. All together, the days I spent in that state out of the supposed 365 no reach 60 days. It was so bad my Batch A members don't even know me cause they hardly see me. They all thought I was Batch B cause towards the passing out, I slowed down a bit.

Your girl may not be into you that much or may not be able to make the sacrifice. Then the roads were much safer at the time. To travel that often is somehow these days. You can visit her if your work is not sensitive and you can afford it. My bf then used to sort me, but it was worth it cause we're man and wife now.

It's 50/50 No matter what any of you does. She may come back or take flight. Good luck to you.

And some people, insane ones at that, are pushing that bandits should be pardoned and reintegrated into the society. As how na!

TheVictorOye:
Just came in one day from work late at night and moved into the dining room. I dropped what I brought in and went back to my dad's car to pick the rest of the stuffs, this time, with a flashlight from my power bank. I was affrighted by what I saw calmly sitted where I stood some seconds ago. A scorpion! It was definitely there when I first came in . Glad I didn't step too close

After we killed it, the reflexes my body was giving that day was something else. I was holding a container of sugar on my hand and drops of sugar spilled to my legs and I felt something and immediately jumped in horror and spilled sugar on the floor.
Also on the dinning table that night, I felt something moved and quickly moved, hitting my leg in the process out of fear

We need to be careful out there

Do you know as old as I am, (almost a grandma O) I have never a scorpion before. I only see them in books.

gafsal:
25kg of Garri that I used to buy for #20k before now #7k today at kila market,ibadan -abeokuta expressway,odeda local govt.

I remember I have bought that Yellow paint ₦4,000 in the past. I bought it last week for ₦1,200. That was in the neighborhood, not even the market.

uchennamani:
Has it reached the price Jonathan left it? Person knack you plank for head when you were little?

Was Jonathan a saint? Do you remember the name he was mostly called here in Nairaland? CLUELESS! I bet you were still a school child then who cared little what politicking was talking. During the time of PDP and especially Jonathan, corruption was flowing freely like the ocean. From Patricia Etteh to Stella Oduah, to Dimeji Bankole, to Allison Diezani the grand matron. Remember the Dasukigate scandal, the Malabu oil project, the Nimasa Corruption case featuring Akpobolokemi. His kids attend my school. When the case was rife, the kids disappear without trace. All of them thieves plus Good luck forming saint now. Nonsense!

Same stella started the airport your buhari is Commissioning today ...it was her idea

Same madueke started the crude exchange program your buhari was against but later started doing

See a corrupt compotent person would be far better than an incorrupt incompetent person

Economic problem is not our problem countries developed with it ... nepotism is the worst form of corruption and na their your buhari get A1

Is it such a bad idea to be incorruptible and competent?

Sonofgod1990:
Why all dis long episodes? Arsenal unable to win a major trophy for about 30 years has made most of their fans to be behaving unusual. I for tell you something but make I just pity you because you be arsenal fans. Una Don see many shege

How exactly are trophies rated? Which parameters determine a major or minor trophy? I bet you can't even win the heart of a girl. You win 1st position for your class? You don ever win contract to save your life? Abeg gettat!

Sccarrr:
Akanji go think na AI generate the score 3-1 , I hope one petty reporter ask am wetin he think now after the game 😹

You dey mind that one?

#COYG

Marvieduke:
A man took his wife to the hospital while she was in labour.

What made him break down in tears was seeing male doctors attending to her.

He said he felt very uncomfortable and jealous, and started crying while watching them examine her and call out measurements like “1cm, 2cm” as they checked her progress with their fingers.

This is one big reason I don't like to have issues that will take me to the hospital. I hate it when then say "Lie down for examination." I hate it when the examination extends to touching. A few times, a few of them unprofessional ones have tried to date me. I don't blame them, na me bring myself to them. They've imagined things in their minds. Naughty!

Hezzyluv:
Just imagine when the child grows up and there's misunderstanding or argument between him and his pairs, and one opens mouth then says,
"was your mentally der*nged dad not in prison when your mother gave birth to you?"


That one na SmackDown oo

Na so!

Just like I told my former landlady say make she no too do shakara where I dey, afterall her Papa die for prison and she no sabi where government bury am talkless of say she wan put sand on his coffin. Nonsense woman!

betbaron:
That's a Yoruba attaire not Igbo's

It's like you are sick at heart abi? Yoruba dey wear red cap? Abi Yoruba dey bear Chukwu? You no well!

ekhai:
AND YOU GUYS DIDN'T MAKE MAXIMUM USE OF THE ADVANTAGE.

Abi. Don't mind us jare.

ekhai:
AT THE END THIS WEEKEND, CHELSEA WILL BE BEHIND MAN. UTD. THAT'S MY HAPPINESS NOW.
GGMU.
ARSENAL FANS, THANKS FOR BELIEVING IN US.

... And thank you too for helping us to hold City down. Ajọṣepọ wa o ni bajẹ

Leave this man alone even if it's gibberish. To not try at all is what is criminal.

God! Is this man still a senator of the Federal Republic? He seems to be a pervert with all the sexual scandals around him. If he did rape a 13 year-old, he should be sent to jail for life!

Good one, governor. I support this 100%

The truth is Africans are entitled. The adults especially.

Though it happened decades ago, but I still remember it like it was yesterday. I attended a neighbour's event and my uncle was in attendance, and somehow we found ourselves on the same table. As educated as he was, (he's a lawyer) he chose nowhere else to embarrass me than right there in the party, in every one's hearing.

First, he wondered why I would attend that party. Then he ranted on about how I'll soon get pregnant by a random guy, how I'm a dunderhead and will sell pepper or soon become a tailor instead of going to school. He went on and on. Honestly, I wouldn't have minded him if I was anything close to everything he was saying. I have always been an introvert. I was a church girl through and through, I don't follow boys, I don't trouble my mum as an upcoming young lady, I was an 'A' student, I wrote my WAEC and JAMB once and I got admitted to the university on merit, I never wrote GCE or any of those other stuff so I wondered where he got his premise from. This is somebody who doesn't know Jack about me. He's never requested for my report card for a day. He didn't contribute to my upkeep at anytime.

His problem is, I was at that age when you are transiting from being a child to a young lady, that age when you start noticing a girl is transforming into a ravishing beauty...if I dey enter eye, the most he could have done, offer advice on how not to lose it with guys and all, but No, he chose to dehumanise me instead.

I didn't know how to fight back so I just left the party. Not until this thread now, I realised I hadn't forgiven him. I shut him out completely. I made sure we didn't see for more than two decades until last year at my grandma's burial. Even then, because of my aunt, his wife, who is a great aunt, I owed him just one word, "Good Afternoon" and I avoided him all through. He's lucky he has my aunt and his kids who are great also, that Grandma's burial would've been a payback day. I for show him shege promax cause I'm no longer the tiny, timid girl he bullied severally.

I can't fathom why African adults don't know how to mind their business. Always meddlesome in things that do not concern them. Arrrrgh!