h777: The pain of a cheating spouse is one of the deepest emotional wounds a person can experience because betrayal strikes at trust, identity, security, dignity, and love all at once. It is not just about another person being involved sexually or emotionally. It is the shattering of what was believed to be safe, sacred, exclusive, and truthful.
When someone discovers that their spouse has been unfaithful, the pain often comes in layers. First comes shock. The mind struggles to process how someone who promised loyalty could secretly live another reality. Then comes disbelief, replaying conversations, memories, excuses, and signs that were ignored. After that, grief settles in. Not only grief over the act itself, but grief over the marriage that was believed to exist.
A cheating spouse can make the betrayed partner question everything. Was the love real? Were the promises genuine? Was any moment authentic? That confusion creates emotional instability because betrayal attacks both the heart and the mind. Many people lose sleep, lose appetite, lose concentration, and lose peace because their inner world has been violently disrupted.
Infidelity also wounds self worth. Many begin comparing themselves to the other person involved. They ask painful questions within themselves. Am I not enough? What did I lack? What did I do wrong? But cheating is ultimately a revelation of brokenness, selfishness, deception, lust, emotional immaturity, or lack of discipline in the unfaithful person. A faithful marriage is sustained by integrity, not by the perfection of a spouse.
The pain becomes heavier when lies are involved. Most affairs require secrecy, manipulation, and double living. That means the betrayed spouse often realizes they were being smiled at while being deceived behind closed doors. That realization alone can traumatize a person deeply because trust is the foundation of covenant relationships.
Children are often affected too. Even when parents try to hide the crisis, emotional tension enters the home. Infidelity can damage family stability, communication, emotional safety, and the atmosphere children grow up in. One act of unfaithfulness can ripple across generations if healing is not pursued wisely.
The scripture shows that GOD ALMIGHTIEST takes covenant seriously. Marriage was never designed as a playground for selfish desires. It was designed as a union of faithfulness, sacrifice, love, and truth. Adultery destroys trust because it violates covenant. That is why the emotional consequences are so severe.
But even in such pain, people are not without hope. Some marriages genuinely heal through repentance, truth, accountability, counseling, rebuilding of trust, and spiritual transformation. Others end because the betrayal revealed patterns of abuse, manipulation, or persistent unfaithfulness. Healing does not always look the same for every person, but restoration of the soul is possible.
A wounded heart must not remain trapped in bitterness forever. Pain ignored becomes poison within. Healing requires honesty, support, wisdom, prayer, and time. Forgiveness does not always mean immediate reconciliation, but it means refusing to let another person's sin permanently imprison your soul in hatred and destruction.
JESUS understands betrayal. HE was betrayed by someone close to HIM, someone who walked with HIM, ate with HIM, and still chose deception. Because of that, those who suffer betrayal are not unseen by THE LORD. HE understands the tears people hide, the humiliation they feel, the rage they battle, and the emptiness they carry afterward.
No betrayal has the authority to destroy the value GOD ALMIGHTIEST placed on a person. A cheating spouse can break trust, but they cannot redefine the worth of the one they betrayed. Healing is possible, peace is possible, and life can still move forward with wisdom, strength, and restoration.
Good read.
But, being real and honest to ourselves, is monogamy natural to human species( especially the male species )or just a contrived, unrealistic expectation forced upon us by foreign religious culture ? Speaking for men, all men have a desire to have more than one female sex partner at all times, and that includes good men, bad men, religious men, etc. Whether he acts on it depends on so many factors. But the drive itself is innate and ever present. I have never met a man with no desire to sleep with as many women as the opportunity presents itself. When a female mate has this unnaturally unrealistic expectation of fidelity, is it not just a matter of time before this expectation is shattered ? One can mathematically deduce that every female in a relationship will at sometime in the future be disappointed. I'm not trying to be chaunistic, just realistic.
yinkus6750: Good investment. Hope it will be viable?
Horrible investment. It only drain the coffers of the State .
This tells us that Nigerian leaders are simply stuuuupid,for want of a better word. They are incapable of providing the most basic services. They cannot generate and transmit electricity. They cannot provide robust Healthcare, robust education. But they want to run an airline, merely for their egos.
Sorry my fellow Nigerians. It is never going to get better.
essentialone: You just described a whole demographic that nobody wants to talk about because it makes everyone uncomfortable.
*“Involuntary single ladies”* — fine, educated, stable, ready… but still single. Not by choice. By market failure.
And you’re right: they’re everywhere. Hospitals, banks, law firms, tech companies, church choir, weddings. The complete package with an empty ring finger. And it’s not because “men are intimidated” or “their standards too high”. That’s lazy gist.
*Why it’s happening — the ugly truth about the dating market now*
1. *Too many options, zero filters* Dating apps + Instagram + LinkedIn = everyone is accessible. So men keep “shopping”. Why commit to 1 great woman when 10 “maybes” are in his DM? He promises today, disappears tomorrow because tomorrow brought a new option. Women do it too, but men drive the ghosting stats.
2. *Serious men marry early, unserious men stay in circulation* The guys ready for marriage at 28-32 lock down fast. Who’s left in the pool at 33+? Mostly: players, wounded men, perpetual “I’m not ready”, and broke men looking for a sponsor. So these solid women keep dating from a pool that’s already filtered for non-commitment.
3. *Timeline mismatch* She’s 29-35, educated, stable. She wants kids + marriage in 2-3 years. She dates intentionally. The guy she meets is 35, “still finding himself”, “not under pressure”, wants to “see where it goes”. He can waste 2 years because his biological clock isn’t ticking. Hers is.
4. *She adjusted expectations, but the bar is on the floor* These women already lowered standards: “Just be God-fearing, have work, and want family”. That’s bare minimum. Yet they still meet men who lie, cheat, can’t communicate, or want her to be mummy + girlfriend + ATM. So “adjusting” doesn’t help when the market is broken.
5. *Strong women get punished, not rewarded* A doctor/nurse who paid her own bills, has her car, no drama, gets called “too independent” or “masculine”. Meanwhile, the high-maintenance, jobless babe gets chased because she “needs saving”. Some men don’t want a partner. They want a project. So the stable woman gets ignored.
6. *Women don’t approach, men don’t propose* Culturally, she still can’t say “I like you, let’s date seriously”. She has to wait to be chosen. But the men choosing are unserious. So she’s stuck hoping the right one finds her in traffic.
*What happens to these women?*
You listed it: *Some settle* – Marry the barely-available guy because “better than nothing”. Resentment later. *Some give up* – “God when” turns to “God abeg”. Career, travel, cats, God. *Some still hopeful but tired* – They’re dating but numb. Every new guy feels like another interview that will end in “we’ll see”.
And the worst part? *It’s not their fault.* They did everything “right”. School, career, character, prayer. But the market rewards vibes, not value.
*What the market isn’t saying out loud*
1. *Men are scared of responsibility, not strong women* Marriage, kids, bills, in-laws — many men in Nigeria are running from that. So they date the stable woman, enjoy her peace, then run when she asks “what are we?” Because she represents adulthood.
2. *Attention is cheaper than commitment* It costs a man ₦0 to say “you’re wife material” in DM. Costs ₦5M+ to actually marry her. So he distributes free compliments to 20 women and commits to none.
3. *Many women are involuntary single, many men are involuntary unserious* He’s 38, still in situationships, telling people “good women don finish”. No, bro. You met 4 good women. You wasted 6 months each because you can’t choose.
*So what’s the way forward for these ladies?*
Because “just pray” isn’t a strategy.
1. *Stop dating in the general pool* – If every guy in your DM is 33+ and “not sure”, your pool is contaminated. Meet men through married friends, professional networks, places where commitment is pre-screened. Farmers market vs Night club.
2. *Time-box ruthlessly* – “I’m dating intentionally. In 3 months we should know if this is heading to marriage. If we don’t, I exit.” Say it early. Unserious men will flee. That’s the point.
3. *Stop adjusting, start requiring* – “God-fearing + has job” is not enough. Add: “Can plan a date, communicates daily, introduces me to friends in 2 months, talks about future without sweating”. If he can’t, next.
4. *Date younger if values align* – Many 28-32 year old men are more ready than 38 year olds. Age isn’t maturity. Stop capping yourself at “must be older”.
5. *Consider location arbitrage* – Harsh but true: Nigeria dating market is brutal. Some women find serious men when they relocate to other locations in Nigeria, or even to abroad. Different pond, different fish.
6. *Build life without waiting* – Buy the land, freeze eggs, travel, start business. So you choose marriage from abundance, not desperation. Men can smell desperation and they run.
*What men need to hear too*
If you’re a serious guy reading this: These women are not scarce. They’re just tired of auditioning for clowns. If you meet one and you’re ready: 1. *Say it early* – “I’m looking for a wife, not a vibe.” 2. *Move with clarity* – No “let’s see how it goes” for 1 year. 3. *Match her effort* – She’s stable. Don’t come with chaos.
Because right now, the best women are going single while the worst men stay in rotation. That’s how a society collapses.
*Bottom line:* The dating market don change, yes. Less clarity, less commitment, more options. But options without character = poverty.
These women aren’t “unlucky”. They’re in a rigged game. Solution isn’t “try harder”. Solution is “change the game or change the players”.
This piece was written by a woman, I'm guessing. Many truths and many delusions. The usual delusions.
Here are some simple truths. In their youthful prime, women see themselves as the prize. They choose whom to give their prize. They give it for love, for free and for money and resources. When youth begin to fade, the tables turn. They now look for a man to pay a great price and permanently latch on to that which had been previously given freely or sold cheaply. Also,Social media have further destabilized the dynamics of dating ,courtship and social interactions, exposing the shallowness and fickleness of the greater numbers of the female gender. So men are on guard, albeit confused, about making lifetime commitments that statistically have a short span and rigged against him.
ufy4success: Thank you for telling her the truth that loving herself would mean her leaving that marriage because it seems she knows the hard truth but refusing to accept it. When peace dies, bitterness sets in...
Funny, I could hear my wife saying the same things the op posted. Without hearing my side of the story, most you would say exactly what you are saying.
Most modern women do not know how to emotional bond with their spouse, and barely make efforts to do so. Social media and crackpot feminists have encouraged modern women into the woeful delusion that everything revolves around their fluctuating and often contradicting feelings. Women very seldom reflect on what they are giving, and whether it enough. Rather, It's always about what they are not getting. This is the classic delusions that the so-called modern women suffer. The op did not say that her spouse was cruel, abusive nor treated her bad in any way. For all we know, the man, just like millions of other good men, is working very hard to provide for his home,doing everything within his physical and emotional strength, to maintain his home. And like the typical woman, she's gotten a great portion of what she dreamed of before marriage, but now, she feels she deserves more. Even though she told just half of the story, I can almost bet that she likely offers the man very little in affection and emotional support. Most of we men are in that situation where the woman brings nothing to the table, but thinks that we owe them the universe with happiness nicely tucked in, even though they cannot even define what happiness truly means.
If a woman is not happy with the hair, the nails, the eyelashes, the breasts and hips that God gave her, if God could not satisfy a woman, it is pure delusion to expect a mere mortal man to please a woman. That was a joke 😃.
The saddest part here is that we have these deluded online feminists like kobojunkie telling her that she might have to leave her marriage?
Leave her marriage and eventually become a side hen to another happily or unhappily married man ? Laughing out loud.
UnbiasTruth: You know, if we Ndi-Igbo are really serious about Biafra, we should all be in the East. Our businesses should all be in the East.
Our mansions should all be in the East. East should be our Lagos, Kano, Abuja, etc.
It doesn’t make sense that we say we want Biafra but we are in Lagos. Our businesses are in Lagos, Kano, Abuja and everywhere across Nigeria. Everything that we have is outside the Igboland but we keep talking about Biafra.
Let's make our points sensible before it could be audible and do-able.
Majority of us only visit the East once in a year. If you truly hate Nigeria, why are you in Nigeria and not in Biafra or your home town?
There can never be a greater protest than moving everything you have to Biafra or your current home town.
The world will start taking the agitation more seriously if this is done.
And I’m saying this as an Igbo person. What exactly do we want? Do we want Biafra or Nigeria? If you truly want Biafra why are you hiding in Nigeria and destroying Biafra land? You take pride in destroying lives and properties in the same place you claim to love?
As Igbos, we should start telling ourselves the hard truth. If you hate Nigeria so much, you should be in Biafra.
I know some of you will start calling me names but think about this post and try to answer the questions.
It’s madness and hypocritical that you are agitating for Biafra but you are not living or doing business in Biafra or with the people of Biafra.
Close your eyes and imagine what would happen if Nigeria wakes up tomorrow and the Igbos are moving all their businesses and properties to Igbo land.
That would be the most powerful message you will send to the world.
Until you are ready to do that, please, let us stop deceiving ourselves. I believe majority of the people clamouring for the emancipation of Biafra are just after their selfish interests and pocket. If not, they would start working on how to follow the process of Igbo sessession from Nigeria ideally.
God bless Ala-Igbo and remove evil people destroying our once sacred land and God bless Nigeria to become the country that we can all be proud of.
Ipob has clearly shown me and all Igbos that Biafra is not only alien to the genuine Igbo identity, but will never ever be feasible as a nation state,.and even if remotely possible, would be the most dangerous enterprise that would eventually lead to the destruction of the tribe.
Thanks to Ipob, Biafra, a once revered name,is now a symbol of sociopathy and terror upon the Igbo people.
SixSeven: Northern Nigeria stands today as a wounded giant, a region caught between the memory of what the Sardauna dreamed and the stark reality created by those who inherited his mantle but not his moral weight. The promise of a people rising through education, productive labour and communal dignity has been slowly suffocated by a ruling class more devoted to its own comfort than to the welfare of the millions in its charge. Power has been held tightly, yet its dividends seldom reach the ground. Poverty spreads like a harmattan fire, children drift out of school, and entire communities live at the mercy of bandits who move with the audacity of men who know the state has abandoned its duty. They call them unknown gunmen, like they are unknown soldiers.
In place of principled leadership, religion is deployed as a curtain behind which incompetence and greed hide. Criticism is dismissed as sacrilege, and the faithful are urged to be patient even as their world collapses around them. And when voices beyond our borders, including Trump’s recent warning, point to the gathering storm, the official response is silence, an indictment in itself.
This is not the North the Sardauna laboured for. It is a fragile creation of neglect, denial and the smallness of those who should have stood tall. The North should tell itself the truth and stop blaming others. This is Northern Nigeria one year before independence. Ask, what happened
Only truth, courage and accountable leadership can begin the work of restoration. Conscience is an open wound. Only truth can heal it.
Correction: The Sarduana labored for a Northern Nigeria that is exactly what it is today.
The Sarduana never believed in a truly united Nigeria where every part of the country had equal access. The Sarduana dreamed of a Nigeria of Northern Supremacy, not a united, equally yoked nation sharing the same dreams.
Subsequent leaders of Northern Nigeria have viewed a truly united and equal Nigeria with the same contempt and delusions of a God-given dominion over resources of the nation.
Of course, the Sarduana could not have had the foresight to have seen the dangerous seeds he was sowing.
And so, "The Chickens have come to roost". The North is characterized by people and leaders who are too afraid to play and compete fairly in any area of economic and political life.
The leaders, often bereft of modern innovative ideas, choose the easy way of using religion as a very convenient camouflage to continue to perpetuate their feudalistic worldview. Today, Sarduana's Northern Nigeria is the poorest and most dangerous place on Earth.
Kobojunkie: You are going to be fine. You have already taken the first step, and now you just need to keep taking more steps in the same direction, and you will be fine. 🥱🥱
Lol. How do you know that she's going to be fine ? How did you come to the conclusion that this step is a right step?
If she is suffering from clinical depression, then she obviously needs medical and counseling help. I don't see how encouraging her to end her marriage is going to make her life any better going forward. Even well adjusted women suffer mentally after a marriage breakup, talkless of someone who is already on tje edge.
Your kneejerk reaction is a classic. People like you , and there are legions of your type, destroy the lives of fellow women because you tend to project your own life or relationship traumas into the lives of other women by always encouraging them to blame men for every negative circumstance in their lives.
An honest response would have been to advise her to seek counseling and medical help to sort out her own personal demons first. Until she does that, I don't see anything getting better for her.
MT: Irrespective of what happens in Nigeria, the US has no legal right to say they want to launch military attack on another country uninvited
The US created the global rule-based system which Trump is currently destroying. There are diplomatic channels that countries use to communicate. No sane country comes to social media to plan war.
When US voted a convict as President, no one talked. When guns are killing them in their thousands, no country threatens to attack the US. US and any allies help are welcome but not through disrespect. Right approach has to be done.
Lol. That is not the point. Whether US is right or wrong is another topic. How does Soyinka get the courage to criticize Trump, but cannot find his voice to criticize or at the minimum, do an objective assessment of the current government and the economic hardships and security challenges facing Nigeria?
HgAkpobomeEr: Soyinka's response is spot on. No self-respecting nation should welcome the idea of foreign troops on its soil.
Lol. When did Nigeria become a self-respecting nation ? And by the way, have we not been told repeatedly by our own government officials that the dire security situation in the North are caused by foreign fighters from the Sahel ? This means that our so-called sovereignty has and is being breached daily by foreign jihadist and land grabbers.
If Northern Nigeria is being ethnically cleansed by foreign militias ( according to our government) , then 🤔 is it hypocritical to claim sovereignty at the suggestion of another set of foreign military intervention to save the endangered people?
aswani: I disagree with your second paragraph, a lot of the natives have felt that way since the 90's, they just never had it thrown in their faces so blatantly like Nigerians did.
Every single stuff we did to take advantage of their system, Indians have been doing it for ages, loud mouthed Nigerians were the ones that put it out there in a way that the natives could see.
Our own is too much.
I agree. Whatever loopholes or shortcuts that Nigerians discovered, Indians and others have been taking advantage of it for decades. But the little minded Nigerians and their compulsive need to show off sabotages everything for everyone.
Kobojunkie: The man also made a conscious life decision when he chose to be a husband to this woman. Isn't he equally accountable for making his wife feel loved and valued in marriage?
2. He represented the best of what was available to her or to him? So, what if he had the aura of a husband? How does any of that erase the fact that she now admits she was wrong in looking only at the aura, as she now sees that the aura was without substance?
3. Demand more? She is literally asking for the bare minimum in any relationship, and that is what she is saying she is not even getting. Why are you making it seem she is asking for too much?
4. Nonsense! Modern women don't wait around to whine about these things. They are gone the moment they realize that the sheet ain't sticking, and rightly so.
This is nonsense. Don't forget that her story here is just one side of the entire situation. The man is most likely mentally fatigued by the daily life pressures of working, paying bills and maintaining his family .
When a woman starts complaining about her husband, she's either trying to justify leaving or justify stepping out on her husband. If you have been with a woman before or married, you would know that it is in women's nature to want more and more. It is a psychological phenomenon called Monkey-branching.
It may sound chauvistic, but a man simply cannot keep a woman happy for any extended period of time, because they are hardwired to look for the greener grass.
breadtoaster: Please, those of you who are married — how do you cope?
I am married to someone I don’t think is my friend. We dated before marriage, but during that time, I had a very senior friend whom I always went to for advice, help with decisions, and assistance with things that required initiative or “manly” effort.
My husband, on the other hand, is very quiet. Living with him feels like living in a graveyard — no TV, no outings, nothing lively. It’s not that he isn’t intelligent (trust me, he is), but he’s too lazy to put his mind to work sometimes. By 9 p.m., he’s already asleep. He eats, goes to work, and that’s all. He has no drive for more. Whenever I talk about progress or goals, he says, “It’s a process; it’ll take years to come to fruition,” but he never thinks of ways to get things done efficiently or on time.
So in terms of ambition or drive for achievement, I’m suffering living with him. I feel alone. I’m scared that his lack of motivation and his slow, passive lifestyle will kill my own drive. I’m not even extremely driven myself, but I know I want to achieve greatness. That desire pushes me, but I’m afraid that living with him will make me too relaxed and unmotivated — and I don’t want that.
Before marriage, I had friends — both male and female — with whom I shared advice and ideas. I’ve always had male friends because they tend to be driven. From them, I learned about crypto, stocks, business ideas — they inspired me. But my husband doesn’t trust them or me around them. Since we got married, I can’t talk to most of these friends at home unless I’m at work. It’s affecting me mentally. I’m scared that my circle for growth and greatness is being trimmed down, and soon I might start behaving like him — with no ambition or hunger for achievement.
Women, how do you handle such relationship dynamics? How do I keep my drive while being married to such a man?
Every Friday night, he’s already asleep. One time, I dragged him to a lounge on a Friday night, and he was dozing off there. I ended up dancing alone while other couples danced together. If there’s something important we’re supposed to do, he won’t take initiative or push for it.
For example, I suggested we start going to church regularly to build our spiritual life. One Sunday, he woke up first and went to bathe. When he finished, he didn’t wake me up, and by the time I opened my eyes, it was already late. When I asked why he didn’t tell me, he said he called me but I didn’t answer. For me, I wouldn’t act that way — especially when it’s something that helps build our faith together.
We also planned to pray as a family. We did it for two days, and then he forgot — and honestly, I’m struggling to remember too. I don’t know if our marriage is under spiritual attack or if it’s just his personality, but my mental health is suffering. I’m not happy. I don’t genuinely smile anymore.
He doesn’t know how to pamper me or show warmth. If I complain about something, he just lashes out. He didn’t date much before marriage; he was one of those “spiritual brothers.” I was spiritual too, but I thought quiet men were more romantic or deep inside. I was wrong. I feel like he’s choking the life out of me.
At home, I can’t even make calls freely — he gets unknowingly aggressive if I’m on the phone and says things like, “Don’t you have things to do?” So I can’t talk to the people I’d love to.
After our marriage, he had issues going to my family, claiming I blackmailed him because of earlier arguments. He would get upset about small things, like me dancing to Afrobeat music. He’d say I shouldn’t, then later deny he said it. Or if we go out to eat, he’ll say we should leave early or that the place will soon close, even when I just want to relax and enjoy being outside.
I feel alone, yet married. I miss home. I’m not sure what to do.
It even took us one month after the wedding to consummate our marriage. We were both virgins, but his manhood wasn’t functioning well, and we had so many arguments that our emotional connection broke down. I felt it literally fall apart. Now I feel like I’m just living with someone.
He often says, “We’re not aligned,” or that he trusts me only 60%. If I go out, he sometimes gets angry or accuses me of lying about where I went. I can’t stay indoors all day like him — I’d just die inside.
I need help. I feel like I’m losing myself. When I visit home, my mother’s voice feels loud or too much, my friends when i talk to them, it feels like they are talking too much — not because they are talking too much, but because I’ve been living in such silence that I’ve lost touch with voice, morelike in a graveyard.
I am even crying as I type this, and he is sitting somewhere on the other side asking me if my head is swelling or what is making me cry.
I’m just… tired. feeling so strongly emotionally starved tooo.
Same old story with women. You made a conscious life decision at some point, and now, you have outgrown that decision or changed your taste, and of course, it's the man fault. What else is new ?
At the point you decided to pitch your life tent with him, I am very sure that he represented the best of what was available to you. He was the embodiment of all you wanted in a husband and family man. Now you are very settled in, you want and demand more. And if he's unable to yield, you play the unfortunate victim of the relationship. You're not alone. This is the tragedy of the modern women.
Apcnewrecruit: Umahi you owe no one any explanation. You're doing the work sent by the FG. So don't get distracted . If the road is finished make dem no drive on am
I guess you missed the class on Democracy and accountability in school. So sad that so many educated people ( I mean those who went THROUGH school) don't understand the most basic underpinnings of Democracy,..ACCOUNTABILITY.
A minister is ANSWERABLE to the public ,most especially accountable on public expenditures.
Has anyone, any politician in Nigeria ever shared math or computer coding textbooks, talkless of sharing cheap made in China tablets to school children? Of course not.
It is the Bible, the ultimate Slave instrument, that they always share for free. How ironic . How sad.
Odewaleadesoye: Gafcon Rejects Appointment of Sarah Mullally as First Female Archbishop of Canterbury, Calls for Reset of Anglican Communion
The appointment of Dame Sarah Mullally as the next Archbishop of Canterbury has stirred strong reactions across the global Anglican community, with Gafcon (Global Anglican Future Conference) issuing a firm statement of rejection.
In a letter addressed to Anglicans worldwide, Gafcon Chairman, The Most Reverend Dr. Laurent Mbanda, expressed sorrow over the announcement, warning that the decision by the Church of England “abandons global Anglicans” and risks deepening existing divisions within the Communion.
Gafcon emphasized that while some may celebrate Mullally’s historic rise as the first female Archbishop of Canterbury, the majority of Anglicans worldwide uphold the biblical principle of a male-only episcopacy. The letter also accused Mullally of compromising her consecration vows by supporting revisionist teachings on marriage and same-sex blessings.
Below is the full statement from Gafcon:
Religion, an ignorant mistake by early humans that gradually evolved, over time, into a fraud and a tool for social control, is predictably today, a joke, the greatest joke in the known universe.
Rebuker: A Nigerian man has taken to social media to vent his frustration, calling out African food sellers in America for what he described as “outrageous prices.” According to him, he was charged a staggering $140 for just two plates of Egusi soup and small portions of pounded yam.
Expressing his anger, he lamented that African food sellers deliberately inflate prices, especially when selling to fellow Nigerians. “Tell me why I have to pay $40 excluding tax and tips for a plate of Egusi and small pounded yam that can’t even fill me up? Other people sell theirs for less than $15, and you are charging $40,” he complained.
The man explained that during his visit to an African restaurant yesterday, he was billed $140 for two plates of Egusi and pounded yam. When he demanded a breakdown, he was told the actual price per plate was $40, with additional charges for tax and tips.
Shocked, he questioned the sellers: “$40 for a plate of food, not gold?”
Vowing to take action, he declared that he would start exposing Nigerian food vendors who charge above $20 per plate. He added that even the $20 price tag should only apply if the restaurant has a fancy setting and a prime location.
Still venting his frustration, he asked: “Are you people the only ones who need money? Don’t others need money too?”
He further explained that many Africans in America are not eating local dishes simply because they lack options, but because they genuinely want to support their own people and help African-owned businesses thrive.
He is lying. Otherwise, he would have included the receipt or menu list. My guess is that he ordered egusi and pounded yam, and then most likely added dry fish or stockfish, or fresh fish or something expensive, and probably a beer or some other drink.
When the final bill arrived, he was shocked, because he had already finished his meal. Then he turned to complain. The menu list with prices were surely presented to him before his order.
Growing up, I've heared so many stories about Mami-water(mermaid) and some seem convincing though but I still have my doubts. For those wandering what a Mami-water(mermaid) is, they are sea creatures, with tail instead of legs and a human body. Some believe these creatures possess some supernatural power to make someone rich, some believe they could give someone fame, some believe they are spirits that only come out at night time while some believe they are peaceful and the most beautiful sea creatures(the list is endless).. Infact some persons actually call beautiful girls Mami-water(mermaid) some even admire beautiful girls saying, you're more beautiful than a mami-water(mermaid).. My question now is, do this creature's actually exist? Or is it just another myth? What story have you heared about them? The first four pictures below are acclaimed pictures of real life mermaids.. Image source: Google..
Funny how the supposed mermaids seem to be wearing bras. I wonder who their fashion designer and dress maker is .
My Bingo!! Moment with regarding God and Religion was when I figured out that God was as good, as loving, as wrathful and greedy as that mind that preaches it.
Thereupon, it became clear as crystal that God is a creation of the human mind. God ,like a liquid, takes the shape of the container holding it. The created God takes the shape and hue of the mind that created it.
There is a saying that God created man in his own image, but man quickly returned the compliment, and created God in his own image, and then worships the creator ( his own psyche).
What a wonderful God we have. Created heaven and Earth. He loves you. But he needs money. More money. More money. Always needing more money. He cannot love you freely without money. And more money.
He created the boundless universe. The one thing he forgot to create, which humans did create, money, is what he craves the most.
Humans, it seems, having Created money, now have God, the creator of the universe, addicted to and constantly needing money. And more money. And even more money.
Daejumong: Pastor Adeboye soliciting for funds from his church members is not wrong. The mischief makers on social media failed to inform the public that the money is to help improve peoples’ welfare at the camp and make their stay more comfortable!
He stated that there has been a massive increase in the number of attendees which has stretched all their facilities. He also said giving them 2 free meals daily doesn’t come cheap.
My thoughts - I salute the courage of Pst Adeboye for coming out to ask for help from the rich in the church to support the masses. That is very honourable of him despite knowing he may be misunderstood by people and even mocked by unbelievers on social media. He thought more of the people than himself.
- I am happy Pst Adeboye is not just concerned about the spiritual uplifting of the people but also their physical well being. Some critics have talked about the poor accommodation system with some videos circulating online showing people sleeping in a crowded hall with mattresses on the floor! I am happy he is planning to use the money raised to improve the quality of accommodation in the camp.
- Finally, I would encourage comfortable and rich members to key into this and generously support the church. This is the way the apostles and the early church took care of one another!
Acts 4:32-35 32 All the believers were one in heart and mind. No one claimed that any of their possessions was their own, but they shared everything they had. 34 that there were no needy persons among them. For from time to time those who owned land or houses sold them, brought the money from the sales 35 and put it at the apostles’ feet, and it was distributed to anyone who had need
Daejumong 10/8/25
Liar Liar.
Adeboye and Redeem Church, in their entire 50 or more years of existence, have never ever done anything meaningful to improve the lives of their ordinary members unless they are Redeem pastors ( who are in reality , Church franchise operators). Don't take my word for it. Just ask anyone who attends a Redeem Church.
The Redeem Church is a business franchise, and more descriptively, an organized financial crime syndicate.
Jakumo: Those lemmings and slaves grow to love their chains. They bask in their ignorant acceptance that the jet-setting fast talkers who fleece them while living high on the hog will miraculously alleviate the plight of the impoverished congregation that wallows in abject poverty while waiting for Jeeesus to give them free lunch as a charitable replacement for their donated salaries grabbed by the cult leader.
themanderon: Truth is the church has people that are donating that much if they are not doing so he would not be asking for such and if the money is meant for the expansion of the church and for doing the Lord's work who are we to question him? Spreading the gospel is not free of charge but we mustn't make Christianity all about acquisition of material wealth. We must make people understand that if your name is not in the book of life then giving your billions will not take you to heaven. This should be the message of Christianity not mindless acquisition of wealth while there are poor people everywhere.
I find this not only hilarious, but on a more serious note, a great insight into how an enslaved African mind works.
When the Europeans brought Christianity to Africa, it seemed, on the surface, to be free of charge. But beneath that surface, Africans paid a huge price for accepting that Opium, in terms of the natural resources we allowed the Europeans to exploit. The more darker side is that having the minds of millions of Africans permanently enslaved to the toxic waste from the bronze age Middle East then, the fallout from that trade is still affecting the African mind today.
Isn't it interesting that the Europeans sold us , or should I say granted us, the gospel of Jesus, supposed son of God, for free. But the same Europeans protect their intellectual properties in science and technology, and makes everyone pay for access to their knowledge?
For example, if an African youth writes to a European or American church and asks for a free Bible, that youth would probably recieve 100 bibles in return. But if that same youth requests for a free book in beginners Physics or Chemistry ,that child is guaranteed to get No response.
The funny twist is that the modern African promoters of European Middle Eastern religious myths, such as Adeboye, insist on charging money to their fellow Africans for selling the same toxic garbage that the benignly cunning Europeans gave us for free .
[quote author=lagostrendboy post=136404958][/quote]When one understands the very dark psychology that underpins faith, religiosity and the power that religious figures wield, then you would not longer be shocked when criminal charlatans like Adeboye do these things.
DeepSight: Are you saying anything one doesnt know?
Wait a minute. Is it that you are not aware of the international dimensions of terrorism in the entire Sahel and how the proliferation of small arms started there?
Or you are saying merely knowing it amounts to "blaming others?"
We know that are pockets of terrorists elements in Pakistan, for example. But when a band of terrorists crossed over to India several years to commit acts of terrorism, the Indian state responded appropriately to send potential copycats a loud and clear message.
If terrorism is flourishing freely in certain parts of Nigeria for quite a while now, then the Nigerian state has failed.., failed as in a Failed State.
DeepSight: Understood but what Western powers did in Libya had a cascade / knock on effect in producing much of the terrorism in the Sahel and Northern Nigeria.
We are still blaming others. Nigeria is ,we are repeatedly told, a 65yr republic, and today, a democratic republic that the most populous and economically powerful in all of Africa.
The primary purpose and responsibility of government, above all else, is the PROTECTION of its citizens.
When the senseless slaughter of 38, 50, 100 ,300 citizens on a daily basis no longer makes headlines, no longer engender emergency press conferences from government security agencies, then it should be obvious that what we call government are themselves nothing but an assemblage of bandits, albeit, a slightly different type of bandits.
Although we have to agree that neo imperialism is both real and insidious. See the activity of France in the Sahel and many Western interests in DRC.
Imperialism and Neo-Imperialism is not a new thing in phenomenon in human political culture. In fact, self interest is ingrained in the human psyche. Self interests ( taking advantage for one's gain ) of nations has been the driver of human civilization, and one might even say, progress.
Does Nigeria have a Self interest? What is Nigeria's Self interest?
Nigerians kill, rape, loot and plunder Nigeria and Nigerians than had any colonialist power ever did. That is fact.
ayusco85: This is what is happening, the globalist and capitalist of the west are sponsoring these killing of local farmers in remote villages so they can run and leave their fertile farms, then big industrialised agricultural companies will take over these lands left and start planting their evil GMO seeds. Only God can help us.
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There is something about conspiracy theory nuts with room temperature IQs that compels them to reveal themselves at every opportunity.
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