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Nice points raised.

50,000 years ago, bashing in the head of your enemy with a stone was an acceptable form of conflict resolution. Even in Abraham Lincoln's time it was still acceptable to challenge your enemy to a gun duel - to the death.

Today, we frown on rápe, murder, violence etc. Why? Because they are all vestiges of our basest animal heritage. We consider those most unacceptable today because we have evolved higher functioning.

Man has forged civilizations, evolved law & order, made outstanding advancements in the sciences and dominated the planet. A testament to the formidable power of our neo-cortex. It is this powerful guy that sets us apart from all the other home-boys on NatGeo Wild.


Kindly read this quote from the book Brain Respiration by Ilchi Lee (he puts it better than I can):

There is nothing worse than having people try and argue with facts that have been proven a million times. Dude... do you like girls with big butts? That is your instinct telling you a girl is fertile. Where you scared of the dark as a kid? That was your instinct telling you danger... These are responses that were programmed into our being during evolution... most are older than humanity itself. The male is less selective with his intimate partners because that is how he was best able to spread his genes, while the female can only produce 1 offspring a year and instinctively chooses the best mate. Every other mammal is designed like this. It’s not something everyone can just "turn off.”
Stuff like beheading and rape have nothing to do with human instinct... those are simply uncivilized traditions. Having instincts does not make us animals, I can’t believe you would bring up such an ill informed argument like this. This is something they can teach you in any anthropology class.

Contrary to your opinion above. Most women don't dress sexy to attract attention. Our society treats women as objects. They mostly dress sexy to feel worthy. To get feedback that they are 'enough'. We've objectified women so much so that a lot of them feel that they are 'nothing' if they are not glammed-up and looking fly.

Most women can hardly leave the house without make-up and arranging their hair. The societal pressure on them to always look beautiful and attractive is super massive!

Again you are being immature... Did you not read that I said that they do it for themselves as well as for attention? Guys like you who like to boo hoo over girls almost always lose sight of the fact that women are thinking human beings and can choose to do things for their own reasons not because of "societal pressure". For example; in the Victorian era, when revealing clothing was socially unacceptable women were still pushing the limits for their own reasons. Females are competing with each other just like we men are... this constant boo-hoo party about objectification bla bla bla is nauseating.

Speak for yourself man!

I’m speaking in General, Alpha males get sex as much as they want but the average man usually has to work for it.

it would surprise you to know that during intimate intercourse, the amount of pleasure a woman achieves at climax is thrice that of a man, and also despite the hight of tetosterone in a male, a woman also craves intimate pleasures, if you doubt, ask a woman on her heat period, yet, women are still able to put up resistance even when there is the craving for it. A little seductive act as winking at a man is enough to seduce a whole battalion of army, most men do not even have any guard to loose, they are just loose.

That is complete BS. The male and female orgasm is basically the same http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/body-sense/201004/male-and-female-orgasm-not-so-different

"Two studies done at the University of Minnesota Medical School and published in the early 1980's measured the intensity, frequency, and durations of pelvic muscle contractions (measured with a pressure sensitive anal probe) of males and females during masturbation. There was basically no difference in the pattern of these contractions between males and females"

masterpiecer: With all these factors, women are still able to resist sexual advances from men even at the essence of alluring gifts. Women have a stronger will power to resist sexual advances than men, let us therefore not shy away from that fact, but accord them the kudos and accept our hypocrisy instead of being too quick to judge them harsly, i call that being fair. It doesn't necessarily mean that realising this fact would be a way to encourage promiscuity, IMO, it would boost their self importance.

Now do not think that the ability of a woman to resist a male sexual advance is inherent, or 'natural' as you claim, have you even imagine how it would be like if a man stand the chance of getting pregnant after every sexual intercourse? , yeah, it is because men do not really have much to bother about after the act that is why they wouldn't want to mind, thereby putting their stick into every hole possible, not caring about the aftermath except for STDs(that is if most men would even worry about such).

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Dude have you ever left you house? Ask any woman and she will tell you that she is not attracted to the vast majority of guys that approach her... but is only attracted to the few men she likes. I dont know where you guys got the idea that girls are just fighting back the urge to have sex with every guy that talks to them.

We have already established that women get approached for sex alot, but i dont think you guys realize that most of those men are undesirable to her. An average girl is not getting hit on by Denzel Washington every day, she is usually approached by men on her level and below. That is not some unbearable temptation. Females are more selective with who they are attracted to, this is a proven fact. Just because they are getting gifts does not make it any harder... Would you sleep with an over-weight 40yr old woman just because she bought you dinner and a movie?

@ men don't have any consequences from sex... except 18 years of child-support you dumbfuk?

If i wanted to right now i could go down stairs and bang the chubby girl that has liked me for months... but i wont because im not attracted to her. The same applies to girls 10X. Just because random men are throwing sex in their face doesn't mean its so hard for them to refuse it. She prolly wouldnt even get an orgasm with most of them... The girls that cant refuse sex have low self control. There are girls with a strong will power and those are the virgins and girls who only had sex in long term relationships.. The average chick on the street its not doing anything special. Stop this BS dude

Mon deiu, Qe'est la!

Well first off, whats the difference between finance and accounting, and what pays more?

and i was wondering what the job opportunities look like.

By 1978 Isreal was the most developed country in the Middle East. They were able to beat back almost the whole region in the 1967 Six Day War and were able to hold off the most powerful arab nation (Eygpt) in 1973.

Not to mention they had nukes, 24 hour electicity, and agricultural and finance system etc.

Do any of you guys know the official "powers" of Nigerian state governers? I think if a bunch of rich AA's could buy themselves into the government of a Nigerian state that would be as good as having an independant country.

To me it looks like they have free reign.

30 years is highly possible...even in the worst conditions. Take for example the Isreali reclaimation of Palestine. The land was 3rd world poor, but within several decades became the most livable country in the middle east.

Richfella: @ Pleep & DailyNews

There's nothing I could possibly say that will change where you guys are coming from. Peoples opinions are already set in stone before they even open their mouths to speak.

Nothing I can say here will change anyone's opinion. It either resonates with you or not. Thanks for contributing .

Not true at all bro.

Back in high-school i used to say the same thing as you, I even made a couple nairaland posts about it. And thats simply because I wanted more blow-jobs... subconciously i didn't like it that society discouraged loose girls because it made them less likely to mess around. It took life experience to change my mind and now i recognize the value of quality women.

As you have already seen with star*, I can take corrections and i will change my opininion if proven wrong. That is the best way the to be credible.

If you can prove anything me or dailynews wrote incorrect i will personally accept it...... i doubt you will though because that up there ^^^ is The Cold hard truth.

^ if u had enough guns you could

bigfrancis21: It sure does sound like a good plan but it is unlikely that many african americans will want to buy the idea for so many reasons. Some are:
1) Many AAs may not want to leave a country very developed, with a working system, for some undeveloped bare untilled land to live and start life all over again.
2) It is going to take several thousands of years to bring their acquired space in Africa to a developed level. Of course, you know it is no easy task. Think about the funds, the intellectual capability, etc.
3) The harsh weather conditions of Africa! Many AAs will not survive under the harsh sun conditions of Africa, and not definitely in the Congo area where the Sun shine is terrible. One thing you may not know is many lightskinned AAs in America have beautiful light skins in an admirable way while the Sun in Africa only serves to keep Africans blacker than ever. Most lightskinned Africans that migrate to temperate weather countries such as the US usually notice a great natural improvement in their skin tone. On the other hand, any AA who returns to Africa and stays for just a year will experience a significant darkening of his skin color. This isn't definitely what many want.
Nowadays, what we are experiencing here in Africa is a mass outflux of africans, in search of a better life, to the US/UK, and not the other way round.
These are my reasons for now. I'll add more when I think out extra.

This was the stupidest string of drivel i have read on nairaland for a long-time.

@topic Its a great idea and i wish someone would do it. In Africa the government doesn't have direct control of rural areas and these places tend to function by their own rules anyway. The only obstacle, and its a fatal one, is you that would need to be near a port for any decent amount of development to occur independant of the rest of the country. There are few ports in Africa as is, and no government would sell them to you for any price.

Hey yall, i decided im going to major in accounting/finance i just want to talk to people who have chosen the same path.

How hard does it get, is it worth it? Lets post all out questions and comments here

^ exactly...women act like if every single unfair thing in the world is against them.

Araboy: I don't like the Lack of protective jealousy of their men but I do like the fact they are humble and happy

Araboy... i havent seen you in ages

Your spot on with your post ... but i wonder the motivations, if African men where more protective that would make life harder for you non?

There are more male virgins than female virgins if you didnt know.

but you will have to take their word for it...

Well its a little weird... i cant really put a describe how i feel about it.

But anyway, the guys mean no harm there is no need given them a hard time, u just got to trust in your sisters judgement. Although if it was a Mexican guy or something... i would be severely disspointed.

This is what happens when you marry a man with a 10 inch dik.

abeg give him the slary na

You go dey do it bros. Make da tin go happen well well ooo.

Haha i would do it for my girlfriend.

penance

DailyNews: if I had seen ur first comment, I wouldn't have posted mine. U did a good analysis.

Let me share a story.

A day to val day, at d office, everyone was so so high abt this val thing to my anger, yes, I hate following d crowd. So guys n lads were talkin abt it while I was busy tidyin thins as usual before they pounced on me- u self, hw d val go be? I told them I even have deals to handle aside our usual work on dat val evenin, one lady said- stop sayin all these jareh, its cos u dnt have a val. I got pissed n told her that u all knw I cud get that in a matter of hours only if I make up my mind.

Let me fastforward....I now told them that is it not sex sex most couple who aren't married wud end up doin on dat val day? Someone said of course guy u better enjoy life o, no time. And another lady said even without val, that girls no get wahala, that they can always get sex anyday anytime they wish, that its guys that she de pity.

Argument arose...before a lady now voiced out that all these arguing, that if they see wot their girlfrnds do without their knowledge wen it comes to sex, that they will end up hating women forever.

She revealed how ladies do hve guys they only call up just for sex. That sometimes wen a girl is in need of sex n the lover isn't at reach, that she can just scroll her phonebook n call up any of her sleep-mates, n that within minutes that she wud have it, that that's y girls sometimes act like they dnt like sex, that its becos they get sex readily anytime they desire it unlike guys who wud have to work, labor, beg....and d whole environment was so pacified that afternoon, guys were so angry, I kept lafin op, most girls do horrible things that u will never knw, only God knws n sees our hearts

Bro, your posts where brilliant + 1. guys like the OP have no idea the devilish agenda they are pushing with posts like this.

Haha, i was talking to this gay man on my floor and he was saying how much life sucks for straight men because we have to beg fight and strain for sex, while every other group just has it when-ever they want. Imagine... this gay man manages to find new partners every other week while most normal guys struggle to even get a girl to blow them every other month. But there are women everywhere.... and only a few homosexual men.

Women have even started to bang dudes and never call them back Yet its normal men who get the label of being the 'sex maniacs' i truly believe that 80-90% of the male libido is caused by desperation and lack of opportunity.

Its one of those things where the boys litterally gave all their power away

I thought the OP was good at first.. but i just read that she had "many boyfriends" lol, Girl ur just as bad as them.

Good job OP

You are right. I was far left on that one. Keep in mind i do all my posts from memory, and in this case i made a mistake.

Thanks for the correction

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_long_can_a_males_DNA_stay_inside_of_a_females_vagina_after_sexual_intercourse

ok here is all i found.... lol whether its credible or not i doubt ... it has little to do with my main point though.

lady i don't care if you belive me or not.

[quote author=star*]A woman holds DNA from sperm in her body for up to 5 years?? Then it binds with hers forever?? Really? Like seriously? you actually believe that? Then typed it as fact? Ooooh dear!!![/quote]ill find the link, it migh take awile.

But anyway yea,... it shocked me too.

Edit: ok it turns out most women end up with male DNA in their brain, but its mainly from pregancies not unprotected sex. You can google that if u want

All i see here is sluts whining... and sex starved dudes that wish women were easier. smh

She lives in the same dorm as me... 4 floors down i think

Richfella: Most of us guys are quick to judge women: "That Ngozi babe is loose, 3 boyfriends in 1 year!". "I still can't believe it, my girlfriend just told me she's slept with 8 guys. Geezuus! She is not wife-material!"

But have we ever stopped to look at the world through their own eyes? The Indians used to say, don't judge a man until you walk a mile in his moccasins (Lol, some funny dude added; so that you'll be a mile away, and have their shoes ).


The average looking girl, in her prime, gets offered sex a million times more than the richest, sexiest dudes ever would. Most good looking girls get chyked and offered sex massively, every single day. It could be very subtle, like when the guy offers to give you a lift in his car, compliments her on her new hair. Or blatant, like when he comes all out and makes his intentions known.

At just 5 chykers a day, that translates to frightening figures like 365 X 5 = 1,825! times in just ONE year. And then, there's the next year, and the next year and the next year...


Lord knows that if girls chyke me like that on a daily basis, that I will become useless, won't ever go to work again . And Rough Rider, Durex and Gold Circle will all give me a combined Platinum VIP Card .

And to add petrol to fire, these marrafokers come bearing gifts. Bribes. Tempting, hard-to-resist, mouth-watering bribes. Money, phones, clothes, travel, jewellery and comfort - in all it's devilishly disarming forms.



Sincerely, I am yet to meet any guy that can withstand the onslaught of temptation, the barrage of inducement that our girls have to deal with EVERY SINGLE DAY. Yet we feel we are on a moral high-ground and have the right to judge them.

Truth be told, If most of us stood to gain even the smallest of material benefits from having sex, we would all line the streets at night in body-hugging micro clothing!


Our society encourages women to dress sexy & feel sexy but at the same time strongly disapproves of them expressing it to the full. It's really unfair the societal pressure we mount on them to conform to our 'ideal' and repress their most natural desires. Our fellow human beings who possess the same powerful drives that we do.

Is it not the height of hypocrisy. You sleeping with any available living thing that moves. And then turning around to judge women for being picky, showing discipline and resisting temptation.

Maybe she once had a one-night stand, so what? Maybe she once slept with someone for money, so what? Maybe she had 10 boyfriends, e he??

If you look at it closely, we guys are actually the real sluts. The hypocritical sluts. The Sadducees and Pharisees .

Now, if you were a girl, from the bottom of your heart, do you think you could ever be half as good?

Richfella your post is based in fact, but you reached the wrong conclusions.

First off, male and female sexual phychology is different, this due to evolutionary biology. Women are by nature more selective in their sexual partners, while mens standards are much lower. In an uncontrolled enviornment this would lead to most of the females reproducing with a handfull of males (the alpha males) and thus passing on the best genes to posterity.

This is why humans subconciously consider it deviant when a woman is loose, all it shows is a lack of self control. Yes, it is true that women get more offers for sex than men but you make the mistake of assuming that the temptation is as great as it would be for a man in that same situation. Like i said, females are more selective and will only get turned on by a few of those males.

As for your point about clothing... society doesn't force women to dress provacativly, they do it for themselves or for attention from men. Girls who dress more skanky get more attention and thats why they do it. The backlash comes from modest girls who feel pressured.

All this being said, also keep in mind that most women have had much more sexual partners than you could know, much more than the average man. Many have sex whenever they want, and really have nothing to complain about. Guys have less societal pressure but also far less opportinity for sex, so it balances out. 'Slut shaming' is more or less a way to uplift and add value to the women who have chosen to be chaste, it doesn't make life any more difficult for the ones who aren't unless they subscribe to it themselves.

Chances are if your GF is a not a virgin shes had alot of sex, prolly more than you (unless ur an alpha male)

When a man has unprotected sex with a woman she will carry his DNA for over five years... it can even bind with her own DNA forever. And here we have men trying to marry that... what nonsense.

Oppressed minority, wtf?... I mean we have the right to not date sluts, that has nothing to do with opression its common sense. Date em if you want, but when u get aids its your own fault

No i found the solution to my question in real life... the girl was a certified nymphoe.