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sadly this is a common story.
Some even run away for twins esp if they've had other kids
Poor woman married to a fellow woman

Professionals tell us that a man must have enough life insurance to pay off the balance on their home mortgage and pay the tuition for the kids education in the unfortunate circumstance that he passes away.

I want to hear especially from the married folks.

The topic of  getting adequate life insurance coverage scares men like crazy.I've had this talk with all my close friends and came to a conclusion that  most of their husbands, Nigerians and Americans, blacks and whites hate that topic, mine inclusive.
I don't know what the fear is.
I'll like to know that the kids and I will be taken care of, should the unfortunate happen.
Just a precautionary measure, doesn't mean I lack faith or I'm expecting him to die.

A colleague told me she felt her husbands coverage will not be enough in the event of his death and she went out and purchased an additional $150,000 with herself as beneficiary and she pays the premiums.
How will you react if your spouse did this and you found out.


_{that spouse is not me for those who may be thinking so.
even though I would want him to get more}

OBVIOUS:
In response, I don't think that there is particular way to guage a healthy marriage before the marriage even starts.

I know people who did everything you describe yet did not marry each other or even worse, got and are now divorced. Marriage is about luck and willingness to be selfless, people change and often times realize that they can deal with many of the problems/issues as no marriage is perfect.

But as I stated previously, there is an apparent way to guage a succesfull marriage and that is after years of being together. When the couples have the opportunity to reflect on their expereinces.

If they didn't marry praise God.That's what courtship is supposed to do,to open ones's eyes and make him/her make an informed decision.
Regarding the later part,of course you don't expect a 2 paragraph post to define causes of divorce.
Take it or leave it,a good marriage starts from courtship.I happen to be speaking from experience,I have no idea what makes you think your barometer for measuring marriage is the right one.
Are you married?
The thread asks what a healthy marriage is like and you're telling us it takes donkey years to determine if a marriage is a good one or not.
So someone married for say 3 or 5 years is still in a limbo stage since the marriage has not reached the point of determining where it stands?
abeg

and what is that thing growing on his nose?

why do I keep thinking that one day that blockhead called sarah palin will wake up and realize she's neither running for a pencil skirt contest nor some pie  baking prom queen competition in chataanooga  where you can just show up as an airhead shout yeeeeeeeeeeee    hawwwwwww and parade on stage.
Can't her woman wrapper husband Todd wake up and tell her the hard truth
"honey,this job requires a smart man or woman and you ain't it"

ibkaye:
https://www.afropop.org/img/world_music/african_music/webreadypix/HH%20Gen%202007Tinny.jpg

this one needs neutrogena acne cream

the more reason why they shouldn't win.They've sunken lower than the spirogyra at ariara market

A healthy marriage starts at courtship.
You must know the person you're getting into a relationship with.
I don't mean knowing him in the biblical sense but being open to one another.
Talk
what are your plans
what are your expectations
what are your weaknesses?
Can you sincerely say you love this individual enough to spend the rest of your life with them?
Do you love him in his/her situation right now or for what you're expecting him/her to become?
Getting into marriage with projected financial expectations is disastrous
It's the cause of many a frustration.
we all know that financial stress is up there in reasons for divorce

marrying a woman hoping she'll become a nurse in the USA
Or marrying a man with an expectation that his business deals will soon produce millions.
Then you later find out she hates the smell of hospitals or he loses all he has in the business venture.
Are you ready to tough it out at those unpleasant times?

I actually do agree with you debo.
There are 3 pictures of people I know personally that she's posted here.
One of them is from my high school alumnus site and the other is from the girl's website.
It's an invasion really.
At the rate she's going I may soon see my picture from my employers website posted here.

I am dissappointed in myself too.
I'm always the one to caution people about disrespecting their elders.
Please help me beg olabs.
I truly am sorry.
I'm actually on my knees while typing this.

where is Olabs?
me and this my mouth.
olabowale, nwoke ukwu
agu nwoke
ogo ogaranya
n gwa gbaghalu m
gwa kwa ada nwanne m nwanyi na m di very sorry

ikamefa:

why are your eyes jumping out of their sockets

Maybe I should play you some Igbo songs to soften your heart and make you smile.

And I mean it from the depths of my heart.
It was not my intentions to disrespect you and your beloved.
I was just wondering aloud.
Mustay and mukina I ask you to delete my posts on that thread.

I see arnold and his gay lover holding hands in that picture
do I see people wearing long skirts,pants and even ashoebi to the beach

Okija_juju:
I'm missing my darling girlfriend.

The best thing thats ever happened to me.
I know I havent told you this in a long time, but I love you to bits.
There is nothing in this world that means as much as you do to me.
I'll see you as soon as is possible.
Have a lovely night love.
Mwah!

Igba!
go kiss your blown up doll jor

can't stand men with bad breathe and those that sweat profusely
can't stand pot bellies
only one of us has the right to be pregnant

which rock?
you can buy that from any mallam selling sweets and marlboro

no she pops in threads to talk ill of Igbos and posts newspaper articles of crimes in Igboland.
I knew she was a he she way back when I called arnold arnoldina.
If Tpia is another alter ego of theirs then that's the smartest of the bunch.
I need more proof from aloy.emeka

KarmaMod:
osisi, it took me a while to believe that she's Igbo. Maybe time was running out.

who knows.
could be the girl only had 3 viable  eggs remaining in her ovaries and said yes to the first man that said "nne kedu"
why would a young educated girl convert to another religion only to settle for a man who has his eyes set on other women
I still can't imagine it.
maybe her upbringing.did he build them a house and they sold their daughter?
The Bride price  and "list"in Owerri can buy 5 hummers and there'll still be enough change to start a "chemist" 
no girl with a decent upbringing and coming from a good home will carry her 2 legs and marry a polygamist

_{there's more to this story than love}

KarmaMod:


How come princess Ada wasnt enough that he started staring at madam half Igbo half Egyptian

poor Ada. upon all the converting

Upon all her lawyerly education and upbringing.
she must have a very low self esteem or she comes from a dysfunctional polygamous home herself if not why would any girl,an Igbo girl for that matter with a a very low statistics of plural marriages  in her environment when compared to other major tribes in Nigeria settle for this type of nonsense.
In this day and age?
She converts to Islam to please this man who obviously swept her off her feet and how does he reward her?
By marrying a third wife and reconciling with his first at the same time professing his love.
Makes me sick
what's even more disgusting are the adult women that settle for this sort of emotional abuse all in the name of marriage.
is she disabled or mentally handicapped?

KarmaMod:


How come princess Ada wasnt enough that he started staring at madam half Igbo half Egyptian

poor Ada. upon all the converting

That's the hypocrisy in this thing called Islam.
They'll walk up to a woman and say I love you,you're my one and only meanwhile they're eyeing Iyabode next door and undressing her with their eyes and as allah permits,she joins the harem of girls at his disposal legally under Islam.
Then 2 months later,here comes Hassana

muslims don't date,they don't bomb,they don't wear regular clothes,they don't listen to music,don't marry babies.
they don't threaten,don't protest violently,don't beat their wives (lightly)they are peaceloving and all the women are virgins waiting for their grooms,there are no sects.
what's the population?
Answer: a religion of 1.2 billion including all the ones mentioned.
I hear una