Belafonte:
forget the free. was it the op who deflowered her? let's start from there first

Funny

But seriously, are we saying that responsibility to a woman is dependent on who deflowered her? What's this, 1896? Did she "meet him at home" too? What's good for the goose, etc.

All I know is, nobody (especially women) should mention "free sex", as if she's doesn't enjoy the financial benefits that come with having a boyfriend/husband. That money spent over 6-years on outings and urgent 2k, can buy property in some parts. Don't say he had "free" sex... there was an opportunity cost of being with her.

Belafonte:


sorry ma

I didn't mean it in a derogatory manner. Since you asked what's special about Nigerian women that any man would want to wife them ,I simply directed you to the person who can give you the best answer ,your father.

Obaseki500:
I have never been this confused in my entire life...

I have a girlfriend that we have been dating for 6 years now... We are not married because I was not stable financially but now things seems to be much better and next year should be the year....I reside in Ibadan so she came in last year after her education to get a job, she's a nurse and we were staying together up till now.

Sex has never been an issue between us up until December last year. We sleep on the same bed and we live in the same house but we have not had sex since December 2020 till date. She's right beside me as I type this message. Each time I go close to her, she tells me I am not entitled to sex because I have not paid her bride price. I just could not understand the sudden change in her attitude towards sex when wedding is next year.

She also locks her phone and even WhatsApp. Now, I am beginning to have doubt about marrying her.

The entitlement mentality that reeks off of you is suffocating. She denies you sex, as per, it's your right now? She was born to spread leg for you whenever you want it irrespective of her feelings concerning the matter. Okay ooh

Ayemileto:


8 digits per annum is small sha.

Except it's dollars you're talking about.

Ehen? !!

Belafonte:
she doesn't need a fücking licence to do anything. she's a free moral agent. let her move out tomorrow morning. even if she can't afford accommodation, are her parents dead?

If that were true, OP won't be disturbing us with this yarn. Obviously what she's doing is working on him... enough to write this tale instead of sleeping.

Let's be fair to her: she's likely a nice lady, a good girlfriend for 6 good years. We don't know if OP has even proposed. I mean, a lady approaching 30 is going to start fearing for her future. OP can find another lady today, spend 6 years with her, before deciding to marry. A woman does not have the luxury of time, and who knows, her next boyfriend can also take his time (3-6 years) "getting his finances ready".

Not saying one should rush into marriage, but both sides should sit and talk this thing through, though her clock is running out.

Nigerians, sex and relationship matters....nawaaa!

Guy, what exactly is your problem? God just exposed a wolf in sheep clothing to you and you are still asking questions. She simply wants to entrap you to speed up the marriage. That is too sleezy and manipulative for my liking.

From experience, that girl will deny you sex at every flimsy excuse she has. She is of the manipulative type and if you love your sanity...RUN!!!

Bola146:
Six what She is a big fool!!!!!!! Seriously some ladies are just mad and draft Sex! Sex! Sex! She realized that she is just sex machine in your house, now you are doubting if you want to marry her It is well with your soul, pele

Abeg, the mumu that some girls mumu all in the name of relationship pains me greatly. When will they learn? When will they start treating relationships like time bombs, especially for those that wish to get married?

Can you imagine this one? Six years later and he's not sure he wants to marry her, but he's busying sexing her and probably running abortions through her yet in his mind, she hasn't attained wifely position. In fact, he's more concerned about her withholding her phone from him than the issue on ground.

Ladycewhy:
I didn't mean it in a derogatory manner. Since you asked what's special about Nigerian woman that any man would want to wife them ,I simply directed you to the person who can give you the best answer ,your father.

This lady I no go like quarrel with you, your mouth get raw acid


OP @Obaseki500

My take on this matter is that from your depositions you sound like Christian and yet you wan fvck. It is well with your soul.

However I don't appreciate that fact that she's hiding things from you, my woman use to have access to my phone likewise me, I don't have jack to hide, and I don't do side chick.

More so, your lady should get her own space to live, which one una day live under one roof. E no gel, for me that kind arrangement self no go work na she go beg me make I come work. But pls define things and seek the will of God, but not being free with you is red flag, investigate it.

A well composed, fabricated nd imagined big lie..aniwayz continue dir iz GOD

If i had a dollar for every smart thing you say. I’ll be poor.

Xenry:
If you aren't screwing her, then another guy is doing it. Her phone is her cheating dairy, that's why she kept it away from you.
You ain't financially strong and you want to marry? Well, for me and my guys, we ain't entering into any damn relationship until we start to dey make 8-digits per annum.

don't worry my brother, the 8-digit per annum we keep come as you said and ur marriage we be the best at that time with ur kids, but by paraventure the 8 digit per annum stop coming to you, what will be ur next plan? you will kill all the kids and ur wife and go back to ur single hood and start waiting for 8- digit per annum b4 you move ahead again? don't worry you will see what other See's on the highway before you know that a man dose not decides his future! then you will now go back to ur drawing board to correct ur comment here. I have spoken well for the reasonable ones to comprehend.

If she's denying you sex now it means she wants you keep herself till after wedding and I don't see anything wrong with that.
as for the locking of phone and the other stuff she does, I kuku no understand that one o

AlphaLover:
No one cares because we all know this is a made up post

Una go dey write fake fake stories come post am here . Na so the other guy dey claim say his imaginary ex asked him to come manage her imaginary business .

What I don't get is why make up all these stories ?

Is it boredom? Or you feel so lonely you crave the attention of others ?

Una get time o

Bro thank you. That is why I don't waste my time on post like this. Its like when a primary 3 kid chatting or talking.

nextstep:


If that were true, OP won't be disturbing us with this yarn. Obviously what she's doing is working on him... enough to write this tale instead of sleeping.

Let's be fair to her: she's likely a nice lady, a good girlfriend for 6 good years. We don't know if OP has even proposed. I mean, a lady approaching 30 is going to start fearing for her future. OP can find another lady today, spend 6 years with her, before deciding to marry. A woman does not have the luxury of time, and who knows, her next boyfriend can also take his time (3-6 years) "getting his finances ready".

Not saying one should rush into marriage, but both sides should sit and talk this thing through, though her clock is running out.

op is here because he's a good guy that wants to the right thing but can't because of financial constraints. his woman is behaving strangely and he finds it both weird and unsettling and he's considering continuing the relationship because her behaviour is out of form. his head is telling him to move on, buy his heart(the good guy that he is) is considering the six years he has spent with the babe and he's wondering if he's overreacting, hence this thread.

I do not care if she's approaching 969. if she does not know his financial standing or knows but is not understanding enough to be patient till a good enough time, she will make a bad wife and will blackmail this man till his last days on earth. if she has not, after six years, known how to effectively communicate with the man she wants to browbeat into paying her bride price, she does not deserve to get married to him

if a woman tries this with me, she's gone. let her carry her punna to another man. she's mad

Yusufisraelj:



This lady I no go like quarrel with you, your mouth get raw acid


OP @Obaseki500

My take on this matter is that from your depositions you sound like Christian and yet you wan fvck. It is well with your soul.

However I don't appreciate that fact that she's hiding things from you, my woman use to have access to my phone likewise me, I don't have jack to hide, and I don't do side chick.

More so, your lady should get her own space to live, which one una day live under one roof. E no gel, for me that kind arrangement self no go work na she go beg me make I come work. But pls define things and seek the will of God, but not being free with you is red flag, investigate it.

Bros ,me ke,I nor like quarrel o. It's like someone asking for directions and I stop and give them directions. Quarrel dey for that one?.

cant people simply run away from trouble. Just look at it carefully. what you can not control, you can not control after marriage.

See vibes

Ayemileto:


8 digits per annum is small sha.

Except it's dollars you're talking about.

SEX is not a sin.... that’s what’s the Bible said and the Bible was written according to Jewish and Greek culture. We are Africans!! Stop viewing yourself through the lens of your slave masters. Go and read about Africans provision on ore marital sex. WAKEUP! Your pastors engage in it Cos they know thy truth.

Righteousness2:
It is unfortunate that we live in a Generation where men and women live Joyfully in Fornication and Immorality and do not care about GOD'S Principles on marriage.

It is Unfortunate that we live in times where doing Right is seen as evil while doing evil is seen as right.

So because your Sin partner suddenly realizes that she has been messing up and decides to turn a new leaf, you are offended and want to leave?
GOD Have Mercy on you! You need Deliverance

Belafonte:
op is here because he's a good guy that wants to the right thing but can't because of financial constraints. his woman is behaving strangely and he finds it both weird and unsettling and he's considering continuing the relationship because her behaviour is out of form. his head is telling him to move on, buy his heart(the good guy that he is) is considering the six years he has spent with the babe and he's wondering if he's overreacting, hence this thread.

I do not care if she's approaching 969. if she does not know his financial standing or knows but is not understanding enough to be patient till a good enough time, she will make a bad wife and will blackmail this man till his last days on earth. if she has not, after six years, known how to effectively communicate with the man she wants to browbeat into paying her bride price, she does not deserve to get married to him

if a woman tries this with me, she's gone. let her carry her punna to another man. she's mad

You've made good points, my brother. Let me go and sleep.

Man up? SMH is already a Man why tell him otherwise.You opinion is just too useless.is yours anyway

dawnomike:
Man up! Sit her down and talk this over with her to know where the problem lies... Learn to communicate effectively with your partner before you guys get married. We do not have time to be giving advise online on matters that should be discussed and settled by 2 adults.

nextstep:


Funny

But seriously, are we saying that responsibility to a woman is dependent on who deflowered her? What's this, 1896? Did she "meet him at home" too? What's good for the goose, etc.

All I know is, nobody (especially women) should mention "free sex", as if she's doesn't enjoy the financial benefits that come with having a boyfriend/husband. That money spent over 6-years on outings and urgent 2k, can buy property in some parts. Don't say he had "free" sex... there was an opportunity cost of being with her.

püssy that others had for free is what I will be blackmailed into paying for? . if access to the püssy suddenly becomes dependent on dowry/bride price, I will make it a point of duty NOT to pay for it. the next guy that wants to enter is free to pay before entry

and no, this isn't about being in 1986. this is about blackmail. pay a terrorist once and you lay them forever

1- you have been with her for 6 years and you are still the one initiating sex ? Wow she must be sexy .

If you have ever cohabited with a lady you would know that after 3 months you would hardy want to just bang her . If she’s faithful she would always be the one asking for it , if she’s not , then I guess she would be locking her phone and getting it elsewhere .


2 - she just wants you to wife her in my opinion. Don’t fall for that stupid trick . If she’s the real one you want to spend your life with forsaken all others and putting her first and your life at hold , then go for her . If not , lock up and enjoy your life till you are ready to start having children

johnnychuks:
don't worry my brother, the 8-digit per annum we keep come as you said and ur marriage we be the best at that time with ur kids, but by paraventure the 8 digit per annum stop coming to you, what will be ur next plan? you will kill all the kids and ur wife and go back to ur single hood and start waiting for 8- digit per annum b4 you move ahead again? don't worry you will see what other See's on the highway before you know that a man dose not decides his future! then you will now go back to ur drawing board to correct ur comment here. I have spoken well for the reasonable ones to comprehend.

When the money comes, we will invest it in Assets, not Liabilities (like some women). When you do this, the money will never run out and you would always be happy.

Ladycewhy:
Bros ,me ke,I nor like quarrel o. It's like someone asking for directions and I stop and give them directions. Quarrel dey for that one?.

The way you clear my guy doubts no be here, the guy self reason am, come apologize

I dobale

Yusufisraelj:


The way you clear my guy doubts no be here, the guy self reason am, come apologize

I dobale

Na one of those "penis people" ,I know his type. If you follow his comments ,you will understand. E get why.

Jodha:
She's right....

Yhu don't have any right to her body....yhure not married...

When you can type "YOU" erroneously as "YHU" what will it take you to type the correct spelling? Are they not 3 letter words?
It's annoying you even spelt YOU'RE as YHURE....
O ya weere gan o

Xenry:
When the money comes, we will invest it in Assets, not Liabilities (like some women). When you do this, the money will never run out and you would always be happy.

yes, you are right bro, but it's God that decide.

Say what?? Did I hear you say 6 years of dating?

My brother she is done. In fact, she is thinking about inviting you for her wedding already.

If she was your wife, I would have known what to say, but bro, how could she deny you something that is never yours.

To avoid such, marry her next week.

How gutsy are you, to say, 'she deny me sex'. Please stop it already. You are not her husband!

You are a mumu man somebody dey shine her congo you come nairaland come dey speak big grammar chase her away

johnnychuks:
yes, you are right bro, but it's God that decide.

Exactly! It's all in God's hands. I saw one video today that made me realize that our plans for the future won't stop or prevent what God has written about us to come true.
God is still in control!

Obaseki500:
I have never been this confused in my entire life...

I have a girlfriend that we have been dating for 6 years now... We are not married because I was not stable financially but now things seems to be much better and next year should be the year....I reside in Ibadan so she came in last year after her education to get a job, she's a nurse and we were staying together up till now.

Sex has never been an issue between us up until December last year. We sleep on the same bed and we live in the same house but we have not had sex since December 2020 till date. She's right beside me as I type this message. Each time I go close to her, she tells me I am not entitled to sex because I have not paid her bride price. I just could not understand the sudden change in her attitude towards sex when wedding is next year.

She also locks her phone and even WhatsApp. Now, I am beginning to have doubt about marrying her.

Tell her to move out of your house and relocate to her father's house until you are able to perfect the wedding plans and officially have her as your legitimate wife.... Lobatan!

What is the needless confusion and headache all about. To hell with her and her useless phone.