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This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by MyProblem: 11:50pm On Mar 29, 2021
Hello house, I'm in a little problem and I have no idea how I should go about it, I'll appericiate any vital contributions I can get here, thanks.

I am a 24 year old guy living with my uncle who is like a father to me, he is an ordained Reverend tho he isn't practicing, he works with an international missionary organization where he leads the Nigerian chapter of the organization. After graduating, I joined him in the organization and have spent 6 years working with the organization, I am the leader of the Lagos chapter and my uncle totally trusts me, I have been faithfully carrying out my duties for the last 6 years without any problems. During the course of my job, I have had various advances from female colleagues who clearly wants something with me, but i have always managed to keep myself intact without falling for their games, the organization does not allow relationships with colleagues who serve in the same center, tho it is non profit and non-salary, which means we are not being paid, I remotely run my company where I earn about 350k on average monthly, so I am very fine serving in the organization as it does not clash with my role in my company.

So about 2 years ago, we had this Nigerian lady who was transfered from the Indian branch of the organization to Lagos to serve, and I picked her up that day, and we blended, we got talking and we soon became good friends, but on the way, I found out that I was feeling something for her, but I didn't let her know or show it, she was 5 years older than I am, but I'm her superior in the organization, she respects me and is a good lady, so one night, she confessed over the phone that she has feelings for me, I told her it was mutual but I have a girlfriend whom I love already.

During the covid lockdown, the lady somehow got my uncle's permission to stay in the house with me, my uncle is never around as he travels frequently, so I'm home alone most times, I knew this was going to be trouble, but there was nothing I could do, so I stayed behind, and one thing led to another, I found myself cheating on my girlfriend with this new lady, she was a virgin and was looking to settle down, I was not even thinking about setting down now, not to talk of with one 5 years older than I am, we had a lot of romance but never sex as I didn't want to deflower her if I knew I was not going to end up with her. I was not happy about my new cheating habit but this lady is pretty, tho not as pretty as my girlfriend, but she is well endowed every where, more than my girlfriend. This lady tried to persuade me to marry her but I refused and decided to end everything with her, and asked her not to mention anything to my uncle, else it will break the trust he has in me since I flouted the organizations rule.

After I ended it, she left the house for sometime and returned almost a year later after I cut contact with her, I knew that there was a possibility for trouble again, so I started preparing to go get my place and totally avoided anything that would leave us alone together, but one night, a mutual friend came over, and we had a great conversation together, after he left, the mood was still a happy one, and I continued to talk and joke with this lady, one thing led to another and I found myself ontop of her once again, I didn't penetrate her as it was too tight and painful for her, but my joystick was brushed on her veejay many times but I didn't cum, she told me she intentionally initiated it as a last time and it was never going to happen again, after that day, I began to avoid her again.

Few weeks later, she began falling ill randomly and said she missed her period, I was scared but hoped for the best but the illness kept coming, so I took her to 3 clinics and was dumbfounded when all the pregnancy tests came out positive, I explained to the doctor that I didn't cum and I didn't penetrate her but he said my precum can contain semen and it was enough to impregnate her if it finds it's way in, I didn't know what to do but I told her we could never keep the baby, so we found a pharmacy who finally agreed to help us take it out, it was 7 weeks old already, but we were successful after spending close to 80k to make sure she was fine, we both agreed that no one must know what happened, we prayed and asked God for forgiveness and that was when she revealed to me that she told my uncle about what we had before, I was mad at her cos I saw a change in the way my uncle looked at me, plus, he now gives me full privacy, he has not been inside my room for more than 4 months now which is unlike him as he comes in when he needs to tell me something, I decided to let it go and pretend that I didn't know he knew about my atrocious acts.

To cut the story short, yesterday, this lady called me and started saying things I didn't understand, saying we need to confess our sins to my uncle, bla bla bla, I just couldn't believe my ears, like, I thought we were over this already? She was saying stuffs like she doesn't have peace, bla bla, I told her telling God was more than enough, but she was saying strange things, threatening to tell my uncle about it as her mind was not at peace, this is almost 3 weeks after she took the drugs and everything was flushed, I don't know what to do, I have gotten a house already and want to move by the end of the month all because of this, but how do I manage to face my uncle and family with this terrible act, I told her that she was really crazy to allow us compound our sin by taking the baby out and then still confessing to man, plus, how can I face all that embarrassment for a sex I never did or enjoy?

please any advice will be appreciated.

Lalasticlala please don't move this to the front page, my girlfriend is a nairalander please.


UPDATE

I have decided to come clean with my uncle, he may be disappointed but that's where it will end, I will also resign my role in the organization, I think it's the honorable thing to do right now.

I have made my mistake, I've learnt my lesson, now it's time to carry the cross.

Modified

So I tendered my resignation and he rejected it, asking me to go and pray about it. Even though he was disappointed, but he handled it very well and thanked me for showing that I honor him, the work and God.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by BaddieFreak(f): 11:56pm On Mar 29, 2021
Typing

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by chelseaboi(m): 11:58pm On Mar 29, 2021
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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by 4reala(m): 12:02am On Mar 30, 2021
You guffed. The devil tempted you and you fell yakata.
Well The deed has already been done. For you to have ur peace, Just go to ur uncle, tell him you have falled his hand, and he shld please forgive you, and relate everything to him before the lady does.
Don't worry, he won't kill you, he would only feel so dissapointed. And top most please ask God for forgiveness and amend your ways with him.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by 4reala(m): 12:04am On Mar 30, 2021
chelseaboi:
smiley
All in the name of ftc
Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by mainkendo: 12:05am On Mar 30, 2021
grin. It is what it is.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by SUPERPACK: 12:06am On Mar 30, 2021
All this epistle just for a 2 seconds hump grin. Ask yourself, was it worth the stress? Fornication is good, but the effect is even far better.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by Casalindal(f): 12:15am On Mar 30, 2021
Hello op, I read your story and I really know how you feel at the moment. The said lady might not mean you harm but she just don’t know how to handle the fact she has sin, there are people like that and most of them get closure when the finally get to share what they have done with a close or superior being. Don’t take it to heart or get mad at her, I will suggest you sit down and have a deep talk with her and during which you try to understand why she want to follow through with that route.

So many of us just have conversations without actually listening to another person. Tell her to also understand with you why you don’t feel safe having to let the whole world know what you have done. If you both are truly sorry for what you both had done and have seek the face of God then opening confession is not really an option here. But if she still see it fit to go ahead I feel you should allow her get on with what she want.

You might feel embarrassed and all not but it will just be for a period of time. I personally feel you should even be the one to take the first step and confess don’t allow her do it first that way you might still gain a little respect from those you looking up to.

After you get over this please cut her completely off, block her and do not even look back

Lastly tell your girlfriend first about the whole thing so she could stand by you during this time. Please don’t allow her hear it from someone else please. She will be the backbone you will lay on during this time.

Good night and may God have mercy and see you through

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by MyProblem: 12:18am On Mar 30, 2021
Casalindal:
Hello op, I read your story and I really know how you feel at the moment. The said lady might not mean

Thanks so much, I really appreciate.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by Casalindal(f): 12:19am On Mar 30, 2021
MyProblem:


Thanks so much, I really appreciate.


You will be fine.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by Nobody: 12:37am On Mar 30, 2021
op you no cum,she no cum,belle cum..
abeg who cum? wink

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by samyj2477: 12:57am On Mar 30, 2021
SmellySperm:
op you no cum,she no cum,belle cum..
abeg who cum? wink
me I wonder o.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by segun18(m): 1:02am On Mar 30, 2021
SmellySperm:
op you no cum,she no cum,belle cum..

abeg who cum? wink



Lol.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by id4sho(m): 1:05am On Mar 30, 2021
bottom power

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by Jeux: 1:17am On Mar 30, 2021
You were never the owner of that baby, the woman just put am for your head.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by Nobody: 1:17am On Mar 30, 2021
Rewrite your story. The timeline with the ages didn't fit. Use a calculator again

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by punisha: 1:22am On Mar 30, 2021
we create our destruction and seek who to blame....funny life.

it has happened...time to
go back to ur plan that never had her in it and avoid her completely. stop complicating your life.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by Nobody: 1:31am On Mar 30, 2021
samyj2477:
me I wonder o.
maybe nasome other niqqa cum inside her,as belle cum,she cum lie say na op cum,but op said there was no Cumming..

then na who com cum?

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by WoundedLamb: 1:46am On Mar 30, 2021
Assuming this is true, you first need to acknowledge the fact that you're a victim of your own decisions. I can't even count how many times I read "one thing led to another" or its equivalent in your write-up. That's casually brushing aside your own decisions and active participation while carefully painting the picture of a lady who came unto you and now wants to ruin you. Meanwhile, in each of the occasions you did something with her, you knew it would happen and you went ahead. And if she hadn't gotten pregnant, you might have continued till now. I'm not blaming you for sleeping with her/cheating. I'm just saying you're not her victim. You cheated on your girlfriend by having sex multiple times with another lady whom you eventually got pregnant and went ahead to kill the baby. I know that sounds terrible but that's just what it is. We all have taken decisions in the past that we regret today, but the first step to reconciling with ourselves and coming up with a way forward is to own up to our mistakes.

The lady seems like someone struggling with her faith/conscience. Apparently, she grew up in a very religious environment, and with such big secrets, such persons tend to feel worthless, unreal or unlovable. But that aside, having abortion on one's conscience could be heavy. You were probably her weakness, her forbidden pleasure. And you both could have avoided this if you had tried a bit. But what has happened has happened, and she seems heavy hearted if not outrightly depressed. To feel better, she needs to bare herself to those she values, those whose presence makes her judge herself. To you, it's "bla bla bla" but that's a mental state you may not be able to contend with. She's not asking for money. She's not trying to get back at you for anything. Her issue is not with you, her issue is with herself. What you call "bla bla bla" may just be her only way to escape suicide. You can talk her out of it today, but there will surely be another episode except she quits and goes far away.

She has already told your uncle what you guys did before. Your uncle already has an impression of you. That might not be a good impression, but it means half of the worst has already happened. If your uncle's perception of you is what matters to you, coming forward before the lady does might just be your last card. Otherwise, whatever you say afterwards would be taken as the confession of someone who's got no choice (though I think that's already what it is but hey, your uncle wouldn't know you were pressured into confessing). Going to your uncle first might actually earn you his respect once again. I know it's easier said than done, but that's what I'd do myself. Bon courage !

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by Sankabson(m): 2:10am On Mar 30, 2021
It is well with your soul. But seem to me that, You have so much Fear and regards for your Uncle than the Lord Almighty.


You placed him so High above God. Well! With the you sounded in your write Up.

I’m not tryna judge and all but I can confidently put it to You that, You don enter big Yawa.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by thatsleepboy1: 2:15am On Mar 30, 2021
Bịa boy, you said you're 24 and you finished University 6yrs ago. Bikọ awu kwá m tata.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by smartty68(m): 2:24am On Mar 30, 2021
The feelings was mutual!
The chemistry was consensual!
The confession is a must for the individuals involved!
Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by bluefilm: 2:46am On Mar 30, 2021
MyProblem:
Hello house, I'm in a little problem and I have no idea how I should go about it, I'll appericiate any vital contributions I can get here, thanks.

I am a 24 year old guy living with my uncle who is like a father to me, he is an ordained Reverend tho he isn't practicing, he works with an international missionary organization where he leads the Nigerian chapter of the organization. After graduating, I joined him in the organization and have spent 6 years working with the organization, I am the leader of the Lagos chapter and my uncle totally trusts me, I have been faithfully carrying out my duties for the last 6 years without any problems. During the course of my job, I have had various advances from female colleagues who clearly wants something with me, but i have always managed to keep myself intact without falling for their games, the organization does not allow relationships with colleagues who serve in the same center, tho it is non profit and non-salary, which means we are not being paid, I remotely run my company where I earn about 350k on average monthly, so I am very fine serving in the organization as it does not clash with my role in my company.

So about 2 years ago, we had this Nigerian lady who was transfered from the Indian branch of the organization to Lagos to serve, and I picked her up that day, and we blended, we got talking and we soon became good friends, but on the way, I found out that I was feeling something for her, but I didn't let her know or show it, she was 5 years older than I am, but I'm her superior in the organization, she respects me and is a good lady, so one night, she confessed over the phone that she has feelings for me, I told her it was mutual but I have a girlfriend whom I love already.

During the covid lockdown, the lady somehow got my uncle's permission to stay in the house with me, my uncle is never around as he travels frequently, so I'm home alone most times, I knew this was going to be trouble, but there was nothing I could do, so I stayed behind, and one thing led to another, I found myself cheating on my girlfriend with this new lady, she was a virgin and was looking to settle down, I was not even thinking about setting down now, not to talk of with one 5 years older than I am, we had a lot of romance but never sex as I didn't want to deflower her if I knew I was not going to end up with her. I was not happy about my new cheating habit but this lady is pretty, tho not as pretty as my girlfriend, but she is well endowed every where, more than my girlfriend. This lady tried to persuade me to marry her but I refused and decided to end everything with her, and asked her not to mention anything to my uncle, else it will break the trust he has in me since I flouted the organizations rule.

After I ended it, she left the house for sometime and returned almost a year later after I cut contact with her, I knew that there was a possibility for trouble again, so I started preparing to go get my place and totally avoided anything that would leave us alone together, but one night, a mutual friend came over, and we had a great conversation together, after he left, the mood was still a happy one, and I continued to talk and joke with this lady, one thing led to another and I found myself ontop of her once again, I didn't penetrate her as it was too tight and painful for her, but my joystick was brushed on her veejay many times but I didn't cum, she told me she intentionally initiated it as a last time and it was never going to happen again, after that day, I began to avoid her again.

Few weeks later, she began falling ill randomly and said she missed her period, I was scared but hoped for the best but the illness kept coming, so I took her to 3 clinics and was dumbfounded when all the pregnancy tests came out positive, I explained to the doctor that I didn't cum and I didn't penetrate her but he said my precum can contain semen and it was enough to impregnate her if it finds it's way in, I didn't know what to do but I told her we could never keep the baby, so we found a pharmacy who finally agreed to help us take it out, it was 7 weeks old already, but we were successful after spending close to 80k to make sure she was fine, we both agreed that no one must know what happened, we prayed and asked God for forgiveness and that was when she revealed to me that she told my uncle about what we had before, I was mad at her cos I saw a change in the way my uncle looked at me, plus, he now gives me full privacy, he has not been inside my room for more than 4 months now which is unlike him as he comes in when he needs to tell me something, I decided to let it go and pretend that I didn't know he knew about my atrocious acts.

To cut the story short, yesterday, this lady called me and started saying things I didn't understand, saying we need to confess our sins to my uncle, bla bla bla, I just couldn't believe my ears, like, I thought we were over this already? She was saying stuffs like she doesn't have peace, bla bla, I told her telling God was more than enough, but she was saying strange things, threatening to tell my uncle about it as her mind was not at peace, this is almost 3 weeks after she took the drugs and everything was flushed, I don't know what to do, I have gotten a house already and want to move by the end of the month all because of this, but how do I manage to face my uncle and family with this terrible act, I told her that she was really crazy to allow us compound our sin by taking the baby out and then still confessing to man, plus, how can I face all that embarrassment for a sex I never did or enjoy?

please any advice will be appreciated.

Lalasticlala please don't move this to the front page, my girlfriend is a nairalander please.

First of all, I don't advice murderers.

Secondly, stop begging Lalasticlala to take this worthless piece of shit garbage story to the front page using Reverse Psychology.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by Mrscarter(f): 3:17am On Mar 30, 2021
Casalindal:
Hello op, I read your story and I really know how you feel at the moment. The said lady might not mean you harm but she just don’t know how to handle the fact she has sin, there are people like that and most of them get closure when the finally get to share what they have done with a close or superior being. Don’t take it to heart or get mad at her, I will suggest you sit down and have a deep talk with her and during which you try to understand why she want to follow through with that route.

So many of us just have conversations without actually listening to another person. Tell her to also understand with you why you don’t feel safe having to let the whole world know what you have done. If you both are truly sorry for what you both had done and have seek the face of God then opening confession is not really an option here. But if she still see it fit to go ahead I feel you should allow her get on with what she want.

You might feel embarrassed and all not but it will just be for a period of time. I personally feel you should even be the one to take the first step and confess don’t allow her do it first that way you might still gain a little respect from those you looking up to.

After you get over this please cut her completely off, block her and do not even look back

Lastly tell your girlfriend first about the whole thing so she could stand by you during this time. Please don’t allow her hear it from someone else please. She will be the backbone you will lay on during this time.

Good night and may God have mercy and see you through

Wow u are very correct that many of us have conversations without really listening to the person. Gud advice hun smiley

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by Mrscarter(f): 3:19am On Mar 30, 2021
SmellySperm:

maybe nasome other niqqa cum inside her,as belle cum,she cum lie say na op cum,but op said there was no Cumming..

then na who com cum?

grin
Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by FalseProphet1(m): 3:48am On Mar 30, 2021
SmellySperm:

maybe nasome other niqqa cum inside her,as belle cum,she cum lie say na op cum,but op said there was no Cumming..

then na who com cum?
You have a very valid point.
Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by Csami(m): 4:10am On Mar 30, 2021
thatsleepboy1:
Bịa boy, you said you're 24 and you finished University 6yrs ago. Bikọ awu kwá m tata.

That part caught my attention too.
24 - 6 = 18
if secondary school takes 6 years, it means Op finished at age 12. Got admitted into uni immediately, finished at age 16/17. Wow!
Went ahead to work for his imaginary uncle while managing his imaginary 350k per month business. Got his imaginary colleague pregnant while cheating on his imaginary girlfriend.

Kid grow up! We're not all as gullible as you think, !diot.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by Judybash93(m): 4:11am On Mar 30, 2021
Another nigga has fallen because of pu**y

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by Michelle55: 4:31am On Mar 30, 2021
Is this the new pattern now? All these sensational stories always hitting fp without verification or is Nairaland devoid of content now?

Everyday, new stories are giving birth to following the same recognizable patterns and no mods has deemed it fit to verify the sources of this stories.

If you guys has employed content creators, kuku tell us now instead of feeding us with rooster and bull stories every day.

All the content creators has imaginary problems and they are also wealthy too.. If only its like that in real life.

Las las, the vibes go tune down soonest. This content creator can't zobo us for long, meanwhile enjoy the traffic while it lasts.

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Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by Nobody: 4:50am On Mar 30, 2021
Next time think with your brain and not your ...whatever
Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by Kobicove(m): 5:01am On Mar 30, 2021
MyProblem:


Thanks so much, I really appreciate.

Are you saying you started working there at the age of 18?
Re: This Lady Is Trying To Embarass Me In Front Of My Family by GloShare(m): 5:17am On Mar 30, 2021
Abobi, na furck you furck, you nuh kill person.

Let her tell your uncle. Apologize and ask for forgiveness, then tell him your plans to move because you no longer want her temptations.

Your uncle will understand.

Resign if you have to, but stop being a chicken.

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