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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Zenithpeak(m): 8:30pm On Apr 11, 2021
Lovethaa:




My brother that would not be my portion.... wish you what you wish me

Amen @bolded

The other "wish" is over the bar!

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Nobody: 8:33pm On Apr 11, 2021
Guy, You're Doing Well...Not every lady will open up even if you Spin them from now till Tomorrow.
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Magnoliaa(f): 8:34pm On Apr 11, 2021
Acidosis:


How does 4 abortions make her honest?

How does it make her dishonest? Abi dictionaries have changed the word's meaning and I wasn't aware of it? undecided

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Yusufisraelj(m): 8:37pm On Apr 11, 2021
Magnoliaa:


You gett. No wahala now if you can't handle the truth about me or will judge me for whatever I do.

I'm not saying you can't make your judgments and decisions oh. But stay away and stop being 'attracted' me. You don't deserve to even be close to me or know any other thing about me, because, why? What do you like?

grin grin

This lady, you don start, with your complex messages.

Well shit happens, but when you've told someone about your past that you care about and they show disdain, the deed has been done, the thing is to move on.

I'd rather prefer to know the truth than to be lied to. I don't judge people for their past but their present decisions, but well not everyone can handle the truth.

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Magnoliaa(f): 8:39pm On Apr 11, 2021
Yusufisraelj:


grin grin

This lady, you don start, with your complex messages.

Well shit happens, but when you've told someone about your past that you care about and they show disdain, the deed has been done, the thing is to move on.

I'd rather prefer to know the truth than to be lied to. I don't judge people for their past but their present decisions, but well not everyone can handle the truth.

undecided undecided Complex messages? And you responded like you understood? Kay then.
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Acidosis(m): 8:44pm On Apr 11, 2021
Magnoliaa:


How does it make her dishonest? Abi dictionaries have changed the word's meaning and I wasn't aware of it? undecided

Not sure I have used the word "dishonest" here.
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Eastcaostboy: 8:45pm On Apr 11, 2021
gfon:
Swears man,really liked my best female friend to the point of considering marriage(didn't let her know though).Omo i weak wen i knew she had an abortion,can't marry her again,though we still fvck once in a while sha.
Shot up and stop being silly. What is wrong with you guys

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Magnoliaa(f): 8:46pm On Apr 11, 2021
Acidosis:


Not sure I have used the word "dishonest" here.


Ehen, abi? If she is not honest - what is she?

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Yusufisraelj(m): 8:48pm On Apr 11, 2021
Magnoliaa:


undecided undecided Complex messages? And you responded like you understood? Kay then.

We move cool
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Nobody: 8:54pm On Apr 11, 2021
You guys keep saying he isn't perfect. The issue is the state of her womb after several abortions. What if after marriage she can not bear him a child.
The truth is if you see a woman who loves to hold her strong is difficult to find a girl who does unconditionally.

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Acidosis(m): 8:55pm On Apr 11, 2021
Magnoliaa:


Ehen, abi? If she is not honest - what is she?

All I know from OP's submission is that she shared stuff about her past. No idea whether she was honest or dishonest about it.

But I get it, the mention of "4 abortion" gets y'all emotional so bad that you believe you've seen or heard the absolute truth. cheesy Also, the word "uncle" gets you all feeling like oh "an older person took advantage of her", therefore, she's "innocent"
embarassed

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by gfon(m): 8:57pm On Apr 11, 2021
Eastcaostboy:
Shot up and stop being silly. What is wrong with you guys
you could always air your views without insults.Have a nice century.

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Misterone: 9:02pm On Apr 11, 2021
Lovethaa:
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything
mr looking for virgin, go and marry virgin now. you are a disgrace to humanity.

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Lovethaa: 9:03pm On Apr 11, 2021
Misterone:
mr looking for virgin, go and marry virgin now. you are a disgrace to humanity.



Who are you again.?

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by tosaino95(m): 9:08pm On Apr 11, 2021
Lovethaa:



Lol. ... I'm no gold digging ... I'm from a wealthy family and apart from my own personal money I have inheritances ad a firstborn ... but I have decided not to marry from a broke family ........


yes I can't deal with such silly history... that is why u should be careful with every silly thing you do

you can't blame her she is only 8 years then, but as for me i can't trust her and i will rather put her on test before anything..

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Magnoliaa(f): 9:11pm On Apr 11, 2021
Acidosis:


All I know from OP's submission is that she shared stuff about her past. No idea whether she was honest or dishonest about it.

Okay. Believe what you want about it. Always be skeptical and don't take every anonymous story or comment on here at face-value and don't make judgments no more. Nobody knows anything behind their keyboards. Great. The lady could as well be giving the OP fabu and none of the things she said happened to her. cheesy

Phew. That'll even be so much better as there'll be no story here while y'all have revealed your biases. And I KNOW (take it or leave it) you're inclined towards believing the worst about said lady. Don't ask me how I am so sure about that.


What no one has said here is that not everyone who tells the truth are actually truthful about the truth they claim to share. Don't be fooled. Just believe whatever you have heard and make your decision based on the level of info you have.

The fact that she told you she had done 4 abortions doesn't mean she's truthful. She may have done about 10. No be everybody dey tell absolute truth. Most of the truths we claim we share are actually half-truth.

But you want the OP to make decisions based on what he's heard? You're telling him to believe the level of info he has? As what? As the truth? As a lie? I don't understand. Would that not be erroneous or sentimental on his part to some extent?

We, too, na watin we "hear" for this thread we dey believe sha oh. Hmm-mmm. I just thought to add that.

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by tosaino95(m): 9:12pm On Apr 11, 2021
Acidosis:
What no one has said here is that not everyone who tells the truth are actually truthful about the truth they claim to share. Don't be fooled. Just believe whatever you have heard and make your decision based on the level of info you have.

The fact that she told you she had done 4 abortions doesn't mean she's truthful. She may have done about 10. No be everybody dey tell absolute truth. Most of the truths we claim we share are actually half-truth.

Too much sense dey with you cheesy

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 9:33pm On Apr 11, 2021
You wanted to know her past knowing to are childish to handle the truth..
And tomorrow now you will.meet a lady that has had 13abortions who will tell you she's never had sex and you will settle for her not knowing she his the truth from you.
You don't even know that we girls sometimes exaggerate our ugly past to push away men we don't like.
You never se something.
I remember one guy that was after me then I school. I felt he was bugging my life and need to keep him off. One day he asked me if I was still a virgin. I told him no. That I love sex so much I can't go a day without sleeping with a man. Nd so I can't possibly be a virgin.
Na so guy look me finish and started preaching to me. After that day, he never disturbed me for relationship again. What the guy didn't know was that I was still a virgin but I wasn't an innocent vrigin cos I've read alot of romance and knew alot about men and women. I was just too exposed to be called a virgin.
Few year back the gym had to ask me again I'd what I told him that evening was true.
That's I scared him. I told him the story was ment to scare him off and it worked out just fine.
However, we shouldn't use what people told us in confidentiality against them. Ita doesn't say good if us especially when we were theones who demanded to know.

As for me, I keep letting people the real me and if you are not okay with it,better for me.

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by heartbraker(m): 9:36pm On Apr 11, 2021
Romanoff:
This is why many women lie to y'all.

They don't want the judgement and rejection.
wat are u ladies even saying? Can u advice ur blood brother to marry a lady dat av done abortion more dan 4times at 24years of age? Gosh! Dis is africa mehn! As a Lady u need some dignities, i mean as plubic figure or career person and a riff raff will be somewhere boosting d countless sexecades he had with my wife plus abortion? If u have more dan 2body count as a lady u are a turn off for me and u immediatly equal a shit no matter whom u are, to hell with maturity on dis type of case.

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 9:39pm On Apr 11, 2021
BiggyB242:
You guys keep saying he isn't perfect. The issue is the state of her womb after several abortions. What if after marriage she can not bear him a child.
The truth is if you see a woman who loves to hold her strong is difficult to find a girl who does unconditionally.
Shabi all the women out there that didn't give birth after marriage had abortions.

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 9:46pm On Apr 11, 2021
Zenithpeak:
What you are doing now is even terrible than her ugly past.... You tricked her to to tell you her dirty secret and instantly you are using it against her.

That shows your motive.... You got close to her because of her rich background and her beautiful academic career. You are willing to benefit immensely from her good past but never want the bad side of her past.... Life isn't structured like that. "This life with its ups and downs".

You may end up with a lady who has had 4 children in their village before coming to Lagos and will still give you another man's son as your first child....
That's the koko. They will be running from girls who tell them their ugly pastt only to end up those whose past, present and future is uglier than ugliest.

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Nobody: 9:52pm On Apr 11, 2021
U Shouldn't Av Asked Her. Did U Think She Was A Virgin? If Na Virgin U dey Find, U Go Grow Moses.
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Eastcaostboy: 9:57pm On Apr 11, 2021
gfon:
you could always air your views without insults.Have a nice century.
You too

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Hushbingo: 9:58pm On Apr 11, 2021
Lovethaa:
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything
My ex gf did eight abortions for her ex.... She was just 24.


So abortion is a common thing in this modern times.... She initially told me one, until i found out from the ex that was disturbing her fone, she finally said the truth but that didn't change anything... Atleast your own is remorseful, mine always have someone to blame but herself.. always defending herself one way or the other...

I'm sure you will make the right decision later, whatever decision you make is right at the moment.



#Myopinion

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by franchasng: 10:04pm On Apr 11, 2021
Lovethaa:
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything
almost all ladies are bad sexually to be honest. Even the so called virgins, the kind bad bad things they do in place of penetrative sex will shock the devil lol


The best way to survive in women matters is to zero your mind and assume all ladies are the same in being bad sexually, then focus on other qualities in her you desire and just assume she is a fuckrito lol, and if at the end she is not, good for her



The only red flag I see are the abortions. Why can't ladies insist on condoms and after sex pills Condom remains the best dear ladies and gents reading.


I don't enjoy sex with condom is all lies, bring out money and buy quality original condom and it will feel almost like natural flesh. Stop endangering your lives, STDs and STIs are real. If pregnancy doesn't scare you, STDs should.


Hepatitis B is more dangerous than HIV and its transmitted mostly via sex oh.



My brother, unless God speaks to you loud and clear, just move on. she traveling abroad or being from a rich family doesn't matter much because most times it's useless to their husband at the end, just pray for God's favor in what u do, u will travel beyond boundaries without the help of any woman, so marry for real qualities than all those frivolities that most times don't even help their husband one bit at the end. Marrying into rich family as a guy most times don't help, it only increases your bill from your in-laws cos whenever they have a function they expect private jet from you lol.

My wife's dad is well to do, a former political office holder but I tell u, it has not added a dime to my life lol, in fact it's useless and thank God I didn't marry her for that cos I for de regret by now lol.



I don't support abortion at all, but if na just fvck she been de fvck, it's normal with ladies, even the virgin ones are fvcking without penetration, so don't be surprised

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Nobody: 10:12pm On Apr 11, 2021
And you? Are you saint Obi?

Leave her, another man will marry her. Also be kind enough to tell her not to divulge her past in her next relationship.

Na lie fit una.

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Cinema4d: 10:15pm On Apr 11, 2021
first of, I don know why a lady at 24 already had already had abortions. To be honest, I'm not being judgemental here, I think the rate at which girls of this our generation are being exposed to sex is very alarming! Imagine at age 8 a girl is already exposed to sex.
what's happening?!!!

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by franchasng: 10:16pm On Apr 11, 2021
AsherAmari:
And you? Are you saint Obi?

Leave her, another man will marry her. Also be kind enough to tell her not to divulge her past in her next relationship.

Na lie fit una.
even if she didn't tell him, he would find out someday, maybe during childbirth, you cannot hide past abortions forever from your husband sha, it must burst. You can ask any medical professional.



But to be honest, some secrets are best kept to oneself till death. Imagine a girl I am planning to marry telling me she once killed somebody and she expects me to stay, unless I am Shekau myself then we can drink to it grin cheesy

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Magnoliaa(f): 10:16pm On Apr 11, 2021
PrimadonnaO:



Chai. Lessons to all the ladies out there o. Ndi wokeism! Ndi sex-on-the-first-date, Ndi sexually-liberated. They will use it against you!

Is this really necessary, though? He's just one man, babe. See almost all the men on this thread (surprisingly) have spoken against the OP. There are tens of thousands of men that'll vibe with that babe. People will find their tribe. You said she's her authentic self. Nobody knows, but that's the point. To be authentic. Women are sexual creatures. Women like sex. How you choose to express that solely rests with you. That people will criticize you shouldn't stop you from doing what you want - if you have the mind.

I agree that we should all be sensible, though, in the latter part of your comment. Don't do things because a man 'induced' you and 'cajoled' you and whatever. That is not wokeness. Wokeness is another entirely valid thing that people misunderstand.

If women divest from marriages and men, a lot of these issues wouldn't be at all...

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by pocohantas(f): 10:18pm On Apr 11, 2021
Kebbiprince:

That's why I laugh when people insult older ladies, most ladies in their 30s are far purer than the so called Ladies in early 20s who have been damaged beyond repair

Like the ladies in their 30s were never in their 20s. They jumped from 0 to 37. Who wan damage go damage.

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by 2elliot: 10:19pm On Apr 11, 2021
Yusufisraelj:
@Lovethaa

You are being unwise, foolish and childish.

I know a lady who was raped at age 8 till she was 24, have had multiple partners over 11.

She met a virgin guy who decided to date her, bkos life is not about people's past but what they decide to do with their future presently.

I'm not advocating careless living but my brother if a lady opens up to you and you are disgusted by her past, then walk. it shows you are not emotionally matured to handle certain levels of TRUTH. Mark my words any relationship built on lies will never last, Falsehood was never designed to stand the test of time, only TRUTH does
Don't be disrespectful! She is a hoe! So, call her by her name. She doesn't need your mr niceness, maturity and pedestaling. It took her several sloppy and gaggling, and tlop tlop from several dicks to gain that title. She will be disgusted you are not disgusted and will not give a flying Bleep at your sorry ass before jumping on the next dick.

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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by franchasng: 10:21pm On Apr 11, 2021
Cinema4d:
first of, I don know why a lady at 24 already had already had abortions. To be honest, I'm not being judgemental here, I think the rate at which girls of this our generation are being exposed to sex is very alarming! Imagine at age 8 a girl is already exposed to sex.
what's happening?!!!
Bros, try make small money eh, have balling friends, hang out and then you will be shocked at the things u will discover about women lol.


All over the world women are bad sexually oh lol. But very good at pretence and keeping secret, that's why most innocent guys see them as saints lol


Are you aware some girls go on vacation abroad while living in their parents house in the name being in school, I mean 18yrs old girls accompanying men abroad lol, person don see things lol.


Girls de enjoy oh, from teenage hood, more than most guys. Guys only start enjoying life once they start making millions and maybe travel abroad then u will start chopping life more than chicks lol

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