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Lovethaa:
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything

You should only be worried over possible uterine damage from her frequent abortions.


First give her belle and watch her get delivered from the baby before you take her to the altar.

As for her frequent and sex at early life, it does not matter. They may even be advantages for both of you in later life when she will lead the sex drive for both of you. Unless you want to marry a virgin, that’s how her past sex life can bother you.

@Lovethaa

I can't be sure but I feel that she maybe putting you to the test

Just be calm and use 13 sense

TheUndercover:
LOL! With the comments I've read so far, women always keep proving themselves to be all birds of the same feathers. A man asked a woman here if she can advice her brother to marry such lady, no one answered. haha

Women wants someone who wouldn't judge them by their pasts, only SIMPs won't. Even a prostitute won't like to be judged by her past. Well, For those men supporting the lady and saying he's not a real man, LOL, I guess the definition of a real man to a woman or beta is to wife up hoes

Where the OP faltered is that he's already involved with the lady sexually, he's putting his career at risk for nothing. I guess he let his dick ruled over him. You should have found out about her past before being romantically involved with her if you were serious about committing to her. You can be wrongly accused by her. Hell hath no fury like a scorned woman.

Men, your children deserves the best woman they can get as much as possible, do not wife up hoes. Never settle for less because if things goes south, you have a lot more to lose. Women will never see fault in what their fellow women do and for those men supporting her because she opened up about her so called 'past', haha so because she opened up, he should live up with it and man up, mehn SIMPs will never cease to amaze me! SMH.

A lady that has done countless abortions not even one is definitely a big red flag, I'm sure her story contains fallacy. Well I guess hoes move together with hoes. She started with she was molested so the OP can pity her, LOL, always playing the victim card to easily manipulate SIMPs.

Lastly, @OP, you inquired about her past, and she told you, if you don't have the balls to stand it, leave!

Another angle.
And very intelligent.

What concerns you with abortions she did when you didn't know her. What you are supposed to be scared of is marrying a rich mans daughter because of her father's money. 90% of the time the money nor go show for your body I done see many around that end in years for the guys, so go and find money and leave the girl alone. Since you be saint.

Ur name na Lovetha and you claim say u be man. Guy, park well.

Yusufisraelj:
@Lovethaa

You are being unwise, foolish and childish.

I know a lady who was raped at age 8 till she was 24, have had multiple partners over 11.

She met a virgin guy who decided to date her, bkos life is not about people's past but what they decide to do with their future presently.

I'm not advocating careless living but my brother if a lady opens up to you and you are disgusted by her past, then walk. it shows you are not emotionally matured to handle certain levels of TRUTH. Mark my words any relationship built on lies will never last, Falsehood was never designed to stand the test of time, only TRUTH does

You took the words right out of my mouth.
This lady opened up to the wrongest person. Dude even had the audacity to say he was disgusted. Move along abeg. The fact that you don't have a similar past doesn't mean you're a better person. You ignore the part that it was a man like you that ruined her at such an early age. She will find the right person. As far as I'm concerned, she dodged a bullet.

Lovethaa:
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything

And why exactly did you bring the story to Nairaland?

My friend, get out

Lovethaa:
She is not even up to 4 months at our workplace and we already kissed and cuddle. although no crime in that but heating all that made me conclude she might never change..

And you that she kissed, are you any better? She's not up to 4 months in your office and you're already hoping to marry her. If this doesn't scream of "Golddigger" I don't know what else does.

You are a child






quote author=Lovethaa post=100705789]Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything[/quote]

Simple and short!!

Yusufisraelj:
@Lovethaa

You are being unwise, foolish and childish.

I know a lady who was raped at age 8 till she was 24, have had multiple partners over 11.

She met a virgin guy who decided to date her, bkos life is not about people's past but what they decide to do with their future presently.

I'm not advocating careless living but my brother if a lady opens up to you and you are disgusted by her past, then walk. it shows you are not emotionally matured to handle certain levels of TRUTH. Mark my words any relationship built on lies will never last, Falsehood was never designed to stand the test of time, only TRUTH does

Maybe she is smart, she has MSC at least, maybe she is testing you. Cos she may have stil honestly split the story for days. Telling u all these load at a time may be a test to see how manly or chicken you are.
Dont conclude yet, if it happens to be true, fine.
If its past for her, and she has truly changed. And you a neat future in her, i advise u to hang on with her a bit.
She is better that the ones who would tell you how they attended convent school and never saw a man's PP, the ones who are dirtier but would make you feel imperfect with their own perfect story.
Be strong minded, everybody has a dirty behind. You, who knows how many women you peeped at when you were small. Oya tell her your uncut story, lets see who runs first.
God bless

Lovethaa:
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything

Except you are a Christian who understands the mystery of Christ's forgiveness and God deals with your heart, you cannot forgive her or see her beyond her past. If not you would start to do the work of the devil as the accuser of the brethren.

See fools attacking the op. How can someone have an abortion for four good times. What happens to telling her mom? That girl is a fucking loose hoe, a bitch at that. You couldn't tell your mom because she will beat you but you are not scared of doing abortion for four good times, something that could take your life.
So the op should be emotional and marry her abi? Useless bunch of fools just full this nairaland, very foolish set of people.

booscy:
The simple answer should have been Yes I'm perfect or No I'm not perfect

You just open your dirty mouth they talk rubbish. So if you are the op, you will continue with the relationship. Lemme tell you, if the girl is my sister, I won't advice anyone to marry her. Person wey no fit let her mom know about the advances the uncle is making towards her but is bold enough to do abortions for four complete times. She is a useless bitch and nothing but that.

@Magnolia is the girl in question!

Kebbiprince:
That's why I laugh when people insult older ladies, most ladies in their 30s are far purer than the so called Ladies in early 20s who have been damaged beyond repair

The ladies in their 30s were not in their early 20s someday?

PrimadonnaO:
Chai. Lessons to all the ladies out there o. Ndi wokeism! Ndi sex-on-the-first-date, Ndi sexually-liberated. They will use it against you!

Oga is not criticising himself for making out with the lady... instead he's criticising the lady. What a life!

As for the things she told you, I hope it doesn't make her feel worthless. I understand her kind of person. When she likes a person, she doesn't want secrets. She wants to bare it all and be seen for who she really is.

I applaud her and I hope she doesn't change because that's what it means to be authentic. If this gist had come out in marriage, the man would have felt defrauded.

OP, you have to handle this with tact and utmost sensibility. Since you said you don't want to marry her, no wahala... your intentions weren't even pure. You were considering her because she's from a wealthy background.

What I'll advise you do is that you sustain the tempo of your interactions for a while so that when you begin to disconnect, she won't trace it to the revelations she made.

And biko, don't sleep with her whether or not she initiates it.


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That being said, please my dears, try not to make too many mistakes in life so you don't have secrets that you'll be advised to take to the grave. Isn't that too burdensome?

Try not to do things that you can't boldly come out to admit you did.

One abortion may be a mistake, but two, three four. Haba nau! Why? These men you're having sex with and aborting babies for are walking away unscathed. Can't you see it? Don't cover it up with wokeness or whatever. You're doing yourself such an injustice.

A man who may have made other girls in the past to abort his babies will still come out tomorrow and dump another girl who tells him she's had an abortion.

So true!

My brother, just a piece of advice, never you marry out of pity.

Lovethaa:
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything

You are the one disgusting here.

Keep looking for the saint you will marry when yourself is a gold digger thief.

Tomorrow you expect other ladies reading this your trash to be bold enough to be honest with their past to their suitors, your type is the reaspn honesty is erroded from our society.

Stop judging the lady with her past just because she was honest with you out of love

MISSCONGENIALITY:
That's the koko. They will be running from girls who tell them their ugly pastt only to end up those whose past, present and future is uglier than ugliest.

A bitch will always take sides with a fellow bitch.

You wey dey talk. Can you let your brother marry such a girl or can you let your son marry such a girl. If not, then don't talk shit about the OP's decision.

By far the most mature and best comment on this thread!

NVSBL:
OP just tell her you can't handle her past, but thank her for opening up to you.

Saying ladies shouldn't open up is wrong. Imagine if she didn't and you ended up marrying her just to find out gradually or late into marriage when maybe abortion complications or trauma or some shit rises up?

Ladies, pls open up. It'll save you from mistakes. OPs reason for wanting to marry her self is a selfish one, tbh.

Just that child abuse act could have been the reason she's been promiscuous and overly sexual. No one talks about mental health in this country. Before you know it someone will mention deliverance or some quick fix bs. Who knows if you OP wouldn't have been planning to sleep with this same girl before marriage.

Since she's from a rich home, tell her you can't handle her past, but advice her to go for therapy to personally handle it. You're probably a mistake she's also making from deep trauma. No one is perfect or the holiest.

Lovethaa:
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything

If you couldn’t stand the music, why did you get in the dance floor?

Some things are better left in the last bro... truth is everyone has a story.. Even you!

And your past(or even present) might disgust some people as well..

Leave what is left in the past in the past... it’s a future you want to build not a past you want to correct.

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]Toor. I hope they'll resolved the issue oh. Must be hard.

And thank you for that proverb. I just learnt something new.[/color]

The matter strong oo. Lolzzz..@ the proverb. You're welcome.

Op abeg no mind all dis people wey dey say she's honest by telling you her past. What if there is more to it? Now let me ask if a restaurant owner confess to using diabolical means to attract consumers.bet you my night food even if TB Joshua has delivered her you won't go back there to eat.

Ceenacks:
Maybe she is smart, she has MSC at least, maybe she is testing you. Cos she may have stil honestly split the story for days. Telling u all these load at a time may be a test to see how manly or chicken you are.
Dont conclude yet, if it happens to be true, fine.
If its past for her, and she has truly changed. And you a neat future in her, i advise u to hang on with her a bit.
She is better that the ones who would tell you how they attended convent school and never saw a man's PP, the ones who are dirtier but would make you feel imperfect with their own perfect story.
Be strong minded, everybody has a dirty behind. You, who knows how many women you peeped at when you were small. Oya tell her your uncut story, lets see who runs first.
God bless

Thanks ..

Lovethaa:
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything

What is the guarantee that the next lady you would fall in love with wont be a wolf in sheep's apparel? I am not asking you to date her regardless of how you feel about her. Just take out time to heal. Keep being her friend, perhaps you just might discover other traits that would augment her good sides.

Acidosis:
What no one has said here is that not everyone who tells the truth are actually truthful about the truth they claim to share. Don't be fooled. Just believe whatever you have heard and make your decision based on the level of info you have.

The fact that she told you she had done 4 abortions doesn't mean she's truthful. She may have done about 10. No be everybody dey tell absolute truth. Most of the truths we claim we share are actually half-truth.

Haha

Yusufisraelj:
@Lovethaa

You are being unwise, foolish and childish.

I know a lady who was raped at age 8 till she was 24, have had multiple partners over 11.

She met a virgin guy who decided to date her, bkos life is not about people's past but what they decide to do with their future presently.

I'm not advocating careless living but my brother if a lady opens up to you and you are disgusted by her past, then walk. it shows you are not emotionally matured to handle certain levels of TRUTH. Mark my words any relationship built on lies will never last, Falsehood was never designed to stand the test of time, only TRUTH does

And my prof has said it all. Apt!

There a proverb from one of Nigeria tribes.
*****If ear nor hear,mind nor dey spoil.****
The girl mess up.Nor ever tell anybody your past sexual history.E nor dey help but damage.
Love nor reach there!

Lovethaa:
Just because your friend managed to marry a simp of a guy doesn't mean I'll do the same


Have you thought about the spiritual effects of having multiple sex partners , or the physical effects like her not being able to give birth ..

I'm still young and handsome...so don't expect me to settle for an over used vehicle when I can get a brand new one.... @Yusufisraelj I thought u were wise but this your comment made me realize you're fake and the type that would say bullshit just to get public approval











Real talk my guy ..

I pity you. You think it takes hours to do abortion? Lol. just pill everything come down. She's just the honest type, if girls really open up on how many abortion they've done, you go faint o. Don't worry, you'll probably meet the real Nigerian girl you deserve that will tell you they've only had swx twice in their entire life
Meanwhile, 12 abortion don pass under them.

PrimadonnaO:
Chai. Lessons to all the ladies out there o. Ndi wokeism! Ndi sex-on-the-first-date, Ndi sexually-liberated. They will use it against you!

Oga is not criticising himself for making out with the lady... instead he's criticising the lady. What a life!

As for the things she told you, I hope it doesn't make her feel worthless. I understand her kind of person. When she likes a person, she doesn't want secrets. She wants to bare it all and be seen for who she really is.

I applaud her and I hope she doesn't change because that's what it means to be authentic. If this gist had come out in marriage, the man would have felt defrauded.

OP, you have to handle this with tact and utmost sensibility. Since you said you don't want to marry her, no wahala... your intentions weren't even pure. You were considering her because she's from a wealthy background.

What I'll advise you do is that you sustain the tempo of your interactions for a while so that when you begin to disconnect, she won't trace it to the revelations she made.

And biko, don't sleep with her whether or not she initiates it.


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That being said, please my dears, try not to make too many mistakes in life so you don't have secrets that you'll be advised to take to the grave. Isn't that too burdensome?

Try not to do things that you can't boldly come out to admit you did.

One abortion may be a mistake, but two, three four. Haba nau! Why? These men you're having sex with and aborting babies for are walking away unscathed. Can't you see it? Don't cover it up with wokeness or whatever. You're doing yourself such an injustice.

A man who may have made other girls in the past to abort his babies will still come out tomorrow and dump another girl who tells him she's had an abortion.

I don't know what is happening this days o, you girls said you like bad boys good guys are weak they can't Bleep, what is happening abeg why the ranting