ebuka10box:
been dating this girl for a while ,we have had our ups and downs but we settled. I plan to get married to her when I get back by God's grace . I noticed she wants to get married by all means,note:she is 27.
today ,I wanted to try her loyalty and submissiveness. I decided to give her number to a friend ,guess what ..... she denied me , I dont feel bad at all but tired of searching....
omo this girl use me play gg2.5 lolz...... imma take a break rn

From the look of things from this evidence,
She's looking for 2 or 3 things, which perhaps you've not given her.
1. Physical look (maybe she needs more handsome guy)
2. More Romantic nigga.

3. Perhaps, a man who is more audacious

I'm just saying, maybe you didn't put your house in order better or she's not ready to settle down with you, but she's finding it difficult to share it with you and now looking for better option.

My advice: don't give up on yourself or on searching for a bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh, because your right woman is right there next door. Trust God on this
Have a wonderful Sunday

--Don Philip

Evolutionlove:


Lol It's done already as far as Benz and Abroad comes In the picture. She Is not your personalized girlfriend, She Is a public property, Same thing as you.....

hahahha... This is wonderful so my babe issa public property

ebuka10box:
please I've not had sex with this lady in question

Why if I may ask?

falcon01:
I know she's wrong but I'm looking at things from her own perspective she is not sure hes real she just wanna get a man. ig she was 19 to 24 then I'd say she's an idiot who's just playing but at 27 come one she's trying to settle.

You're right.... But I know that every man wants a honest and a sincere woman for a wife...

I'd accept any woman that will be very truthful to me from our first meeting...

That way, it'd show that she's really serious about moving on to settle down.. Not trying to lie her way into settling down.

samsard:
Exactly!! She could have admitted being in a relationship but wanting to move on maybe to a more serious person or whatever. Honestly I wouldn't find fault with that. But she lied instead.
There's nothing wrong with wanting marriage or moving on but the lie disqualifies

You're right.....And any woman who isn't sincere or truthful about their life isn't worth settling down with....

franchasng:
hahahahaha.



My sister I have said it here countless times, ladies need to wise up.


You don't owe any guy 100% loyalty or fidelity until he pays your dowry.


Any guy looking for 100% fidelity in a girlfriend should go and pay her dowry and marry her. Girlfriend is not wife. Boyfriend is not husband.

But as soon as a guy pay your dowry and marry you and you try nonsense or go sampling other long prick....na Sango Otta go wire that babe weh try am

Lol

dingbang:
i thank God say una ladies dey talk this kyn yarns, so when guy go break una heart leave the relationship, una no go dey wail. Thank you.

And yet the people who rush to nairaland everyday to complain about their partners looking the other way are guys.
I'm not against being committed or being in a relationship. My fist relationship lasted a long time. I didn't cheat even though I'm a very friendly person. Any guy I date will feel insecure because I'm a social person. I don't visit people alot even females but when I walt on the road, everyone seem to know me and I smile at everyone. But the two relationships I've been in, I usually cary it on my forehead and announce it to whoever that comes my way. And tell them to keep off cos I won't double date. Those relationships ended for different reasons. I want you understand that there are some signs one will see in a relationship and decide to withdraw emotionally and before they get heart broken..if a girls sees such signs even after marriage promises, and if such a girl cares for her heart, it's better she withdraws to keep heart safe. As it stands now, some of us can't experience heart breaks anymore because we already know that all relationships must not lead to marriage. If it works out good, if it doesn't, still good.
I always say that while we hope and plan for the best, we should prepare for the worst and it won't be hard to survive.
Leave that heartbreak of a thing..it doesn't scare people anymore

MISSCONGENIALITY:
And yet the people who rush to nairaland everyday to complain about their partners looking the other way are guys.
I'm not against being committed or being in a relationship. My fist relationship lasted a long time. I didn't cheat even though I'm a very friendly person. Any guy I date will feel insecure because I'm a social person. I don't visit people alot even females but when I walt on the road, everyone seem to know me and I smile at everyone. But the two relationships I've been in, I usually cary it on my forehead and announce it to whoever that comes my way. And tell them to keep off cos I won't double date. Those relationships ended for different reasons. I want you understand that there are some signs one will see in a relationship and decide to withdraw emotionally and before they get heart broken..if a girls sees such signs even after marriage promises, and if such a girl cares for her heart, it's better she withdraws to keep heart safe. As it stands now, some of us can't experience heart breaks anymore because we already know that all relationships must not lead to marriage. If it works out good, if it doesn't, still good.
I always say that while we hope and plan for the best, we should prepare for the worst and it won't be hard to survive.
Leave that heartbreak of a thing..it doesn't scare people anymore

oh it does ..

Map1:
Exactly bro, when I never married I don't date a girl more than 2weeks if I never had sex with you I might extend it to 1month after that I don't called or care anymore even if you called me I don't pick because I saw it as a waste of time and resources and when it's time to settle down I picked what is good for me.

Those guys want personal whores and the hope they give them is marriage..
I was telling a friend that it's only when a guy is not easy to mash that he will say he's not found a woman to Marry. When a guy is easy to marry, he can find a wife in a day and marry he and fee months time..but when he not ready, maybe lack of finances of steady source of income, he will start giving excuses..
Those people that are hear singing Nigerian girls are useless whores if you check well, either not matured enough to marry, or not financially prepared to.marry.

ebuka10box:
we always talk about that but gotta move... we r still gonna be friends

It's better you move
You will all be fine

ebuka10box:
been dating this girl for a while ,we have had our ups and downs but we settled. I plan to get married to her when I get back by God's grace . I noticed she wants to get married by all means,note:she is 27.
today ,I wanted to try her loyalty and submissiveness. I decided to give her number to a friend ,guess what ..... she denied me , I dont feel bad at all but tired of searching....
omo this girl use me play gg2.5 lolz...... imma take a break rn

U guys are the problem. How do u meet a gal and u barely know her on a platonic level and Ure already asking her out not for Smtn casual bt a serious relationship and some of u guy are even contemplating or imagining as far as marriage with this STRANGER? Yes if u don’t know Ure dating a Complete stranger and Testing a Complete STRANGER so what do u expect?? Lol

I don’t have problem if u start dating in 2 days or 3 weeks and uve been on for some months bt don’t tell me that’s a serious relationship pls

U are just setting urself of for grand deception unless and I mean unless in some very rare cases Ure just LUCKY to meet a decent and innocent gal who tells u as it is and without pretense bt what are the chances of that? Next 10% and decreasing.

So I ask u young men why are u in a hurry to get into a relationship and a serious one without following the right steps of know this person on different levels. U just carry u emotions like them, love them and them heart break obviously ends it and u are shocked.


U need to understand how to love and it doesn’t come easy or happen over night. Lust and love are 2 completely different things. Know how it works pls.

U have to know a person 1st b4 can love them. Dating is part of the process of knowing them. It is not a conclusion it when u shud apply the skill of how to know a person while forming a possible bond. U don’t yet know the person and they don’t know you. It’s a discovery as u apply the right things, skills and pay attention.

veekid:
She's single until anyone marries her

Abi o.... When she's filling her form, she is still ticking single but not married, nor divorce. So. I. Don't understand this op that has been single ever dince

So whoever carry the touch first is her man.

maryjames9:
Oga park well. Have you introduced her to your parents? Has she done same? Have you done proper ceremonial introduction? Have you married her? Probably NO with a capital letter.

I am tired of all these endless lamentations on Nairaland from kids all the time. You are yet to put a ring on her finger and you do not want someone else who is serious and ready to wed her? At 27 you want her to waste her time with your sorry and unserious ass in a relationship of boyfriend and girlfriend that will probably not lead to marriage?

I will advise your girlfriend to dump your sorry ass and get on with a serious and ready man.

Maryjames, if you can really sit down, take a deep breath and read between lines, through the conversation the girl had with the guy on WhatsApp, you should have observed that the girl is not really in love with the man who promised her marriage.

She is not interested in commitment rather she is trying to get the best catch in terms of money. Well that is what she wants, I will not blame her for that. Every decision/ actions we take have consequences, good or bad as the case may be.

We should be careful what we wish for because this type of woman can have extra marital affairs if things get tough in her marriage. I have seen a lot when it comes to these things.

Michelle55:
All of you are always planning to get married to the said girls, osheey! Event planner, I hail thee!

If the relationship done tire you, oga go rest no be do or die affair, if Peter can deny Jesus thrice who are you that she can't deny you? [/[b]b]Even dangote deny im yarnsh for pishure so lemme ask again, who you be?

Bros Park well! Relationship wey una dey take get access to free browsing naim you dey here dey wail because she wan try another network

If you are not married or engaged to her, you no get babe yet. Either you lock up for life with marriage or let her try her luck elsewhere.

Una wailing don tire me sotey I Don know una wailing pattern for here by heart, it's time to change tactics bros.

Am telling you ,Everytime I want to get married to her ,they keep tying person daughter down for God knows when,when she finds someone that is ready and serious they will Blame the lady .mtcheww very anyhow sombori

franchasng:
Tell them jareh.




Single or Married


Dating or relationship is just prick and pussy sampling phase in a youths life, guys should stop confusing it for marriage that requires total fidelity

LOL..I follow for people wey stay faithful in relationships..not for.my.partner but for myself. I use to tell.mt ex then that me.nor cheating is not because of him but for my own safety.. emotional health and psychological health. Cheating is stressful. Very stressful o

ceaser:


He has a shot at it if he is Fulani. If not, he will just be wasting his time if he buys the form.

He should wait some till after these nepotists leave in a few months time and hopefully if the country still remains as one to pick his form.

Lolzxx. I get one slot, he should come for it.

dingbang:
oh it does ..

Well, it doesn't scare me

Michelle55:

Na ya brain needs servicing bros

You dey relationship with person yet you share her number give another bro, if the guy succeed win her over na still you go cry enter Nairaland dey wail like a banshee.

What business do we have with ya relationship brouhaha if no be say you wan trend like others

Calm down make God use you, no dey seek for public validation cos nigga nobody gives a fvck.

No mind him na small pikin dey worry him how can he test the girl using his friend what if the friend come fall in love with her kor? Na the thing den dey talk say one day monkey go go market e no go return

Michelle55:
All of you are always planning to get married to the said girls, osheey! Event planner, I hail thee!

If the relationship done tire you, oga go rest no be do or die affair, if Peter can deny Jesus thrice who are you that she can't deny you? [/[b]b]Even dangote deny im yarnsh for pishure so lemme ask again, who you be?

Bros Park well! Relationship wey una dey take get access to free browsing naim you dey here dey wail because she wan try another network

If you are not married or engaged to her, you no get babe yet. Either you lock up for life with marriage or let her try her luck elsewhere.

Una wailing don tire me sotey I Don know una wailing pattern for here by heart, it's time to change tactics bros.

Loyalty no dey your dictionary, obviously.

missimelda01:
I personally think that the idea of messaging your partner with a different number to test them is trash! If you’re having doubts, simply communicate.

So you get an opportunity to lie abi? Rest abeg

MISSCONGENIALITY:
LOL..I follow for people wey stay faithful in relationships..not for.my.partner but for myself. I use to tell.mt ex then that me.nor cheating is not because of him but for my own safety.. emotional health and psychological health. Cheating is stressful. Very stressful o

You no Sabi do am na...you need more coaching

Draslo:

So you get an opportunity to lie abi? Rest abeg

You date liars?? Must be nice to date someone who’s like you.

yanabasee1:



You're right.... But I know that every man wants a honest and a sincere woman for a wife...

I'd accept any woman that will be very truthful to me from our first meeting...

That way, it'd show that she's really serious about moving on to settle down.. Not trying to lie her way into settling down.

But That depends if you actually showed her you have future plans with her and she did this then She's Not ready yet!

missimelda01:

You date liars?? Must be nice to date someone who’s like you.

Everyone lies. Women more than men.

ebuka10box:
been dating this girl for a while ,we have had our ups and downs but we settled. I plan to get married to her when I get back by God's grace . I noticed she wants to get married by all means,note:she is 27.
today ,I wanted to try her loyalty and submissiveness. I decided to give her number to a friend ,guess what ..... she denied me , I dont feel bad at all but tired of searching....
omo this girl use me play gg2.5 lolz...... imma take a break rn

are you intentionally trying to reveal her identity by exposing the profile picture coz those who know her could identify her by zooming in.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Those guys want personal whores and the hope they give them is marriage..
I was telling a friend that it's only when a guy is not easy to mash that he will say he's not found a woman to Marry. When a guy is easy to marry, he can find a wife in a day and marry he and fee months time..but when he not ready, maybe lack of finances of steady source of income, he will start giving excuses..
Those people that are hear singing Nigerian girls are useless whores if you check well, either not matured enough to marry, or not financially prepared to.marry.

And you know what? girls are more experience than all this young man out there although when it comes to issue of relationship no one is perfect,if a lady is not married to you she has any right to choose a man who is suitable for her don't think because she is dating you she own you � percent loyal no it doesn't work that way.

ceaser:
Another one! In less than 12 hrs. Na wa o.

We never even settle the matter from this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/6509570/fooled-girlfriend-4-years-thinking

And another real life account is popping up. The same format, the same temptation and the same disappointment.



In that earlier thread, she was 22 years. The reason given for unfaithfulness was that she is young and therefore should be allowed to explore and look for the man that is best since the current boyfriend has not even promised her marriage nor engaged to her yet.

Now in this thread, the subject is 27 years, already ripe for the nuptial knot and promised marriage by the boyfriend when he comes to the country.

But the reason for justification of unfaithfulness in this case is that "she is 27 and she'll be finding any means to roll up with guy who's ready to ask her hand in marriage".

So I think the male folks needs to be educated: when is the right age for the girl to be faithful in a relationship?

The truth is that like most men, most women of nowadays don't value commitment in relationships. They hate it. They like sneaking around even when they are married. I have seen this a lot.

Men always miss this point a lot. Many men think that it's hard for women to cheat but it's false. Women cheat a lot but they are very smart when it comes to cheating. They are very hard to catch. Your wife might be cheating on you for years without you detecting it. Obviously, the signs are always there but you will be ignoring them thinking that they are normal.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Well, it doesn't scare me

thats what you should have typed..

missimelda01:
I personally think that the idea of messaging your partner with a different number to test them is trash! If you’re having doubts, simply communicate.

how many women tell the truth when in such situation, the idea isn't just to talk but to know the truth.

FirmTR:


In other words, he's just an option.

Everyone is single until married

Shattuck:
how many women tell the truth when in such situation, the idea isn't just to talk but to know the truth.

Did I say just talk? I said communicate.