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Rocktation:
But she clearly told you that she couldn't cook due to unavailability of water. You are the host and very likely the one with the muscles. I don't see how fetching water for your guest to prep your meal is a big deal. Unless, you want her to pay for the roof over her head, by doing all the house chores, I'm certainly not understanding what really prompted this fight.
There's probably more that you are not telling.

They have landed...awon feminist.

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

correct.

Kylekent59:
There is nothing nonsensical there.

It is just like you own a land in Lagos, and you were kicked out of Lagos because you are not a native of Lagos.

Some of you don't even know how to respond maturely.

In the eyes of the court, if anything happens to the girl, that would be used against the Op.

I know the person that made that comment is a lawyer.

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The place she spent a night over without telling him. why didn't she go back there??

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

I owe you a bottle of beer

QorQ:
You are 100% right, you're wrong by 50%


If anything bad happened to her like she gets raped, attacked or injured, it is on you bro. Whatever she did at that point wouldn't count

I like the treatment however, you should have returned that very night. With the scare alone just passing the message across without going all the way to keep her locked for days

Her parents won't forgive you and you didn't consider your family ties in your deeds and actions


Why she is misbehaving two wrongs do not make a right. And when one party is acting childish, the other should be careful and discerning.


You have the upper hand today doesn't mean tomorrow she won't be up.

One way or the other, you don't know what your parents have with hers to its fullness


It's her parents responsibility to train her, not you. You ought to have communicated any issues with her with your parent to speak with hers to do the talking with her.


There are protocols in life. You violated it, even though you may have been aware of this


Go and draw her back and seek ways to mend your rifts

You need to shush! It is his property and space. He does whatever he wants with it.

op, be careful she fit say you try sleep with her, she no gree, naa why you chase her..
davejay

Pls send her packing ASAP...don't let her make the choice she could put u in trouble by telling a lie against u....girls like this could be dangerous to get back at you.

daveyjay:
My neighbor called that she's stranded that I should return

make she dey go her friend house shebi na dem she dey gree follow talk

2elliot:
You need to shush! It is his property and space. He does whatever he wants with it.

And if anything harmful happens to her, you believe police would listen abi?

pocohantas:
Thanks for restoring my peace. I was just reading waiting to see the end. I thought you would ask us what you should do, it would have taken some self-control not to use bad words, lol.

Thanks once again. The whole Nigeria is proud of you!!!

Pocohantas you have changed o. I thought you would support the girl like your fellow feminist are doing on this thread

Kylekent59:
I can't believe that some people are supporting the way you locked her out. She is stranded and needs a place to sleep.

I wonder why you are acting supreme because you own the room. Please let her in.



Let me tell you, this life turns around. You never can tell if she would be the one to help you in the future.

99% of people supporting the op are religious be it Christians and Muslims.

Since you are the boss of the house, change her, let her know your rules.


I can not support the multitudes here. With the mindset of people here, I can say that this country is filled with bad people.

300+ supporting the op....

hmmm.

Can you stop the Bleep up? Did you not read where the op said she didn't come back to sleep at home? Who does that? What right does she have to give op attitude in his own property, to a point of sleeping out without informing him? And you expect him to allow her come into his space because she iß a what? A pad wearing wannabe?

Joromi1:
Is her name Sapphiere? I won't be surprise.

Hahahaha

You shouldn't have accommodated her since she had no admission yet. What is she doing on campus? She should go back to her parents. You should have suggested a female friend or church member to house her. It's better that way. You have no business as a man housing a lady in your apartment.

I thank everyone for their invaluable input. To those saying there's more to the story, you're wrong. I spelled it out the way it all happened. When the matter got to our parents, if there was anything hidden, she would have let it out.

She's not my slave in anywAy and I never expected her to fetch me water, WE DON'T FETCH WATER. We pump when the reservoir is empty. It just happened that the caretaker was unavailable to pump the water thAt very moment.

I equally stated that I hadn't had my bathe but later went to see a football game which is an indication that we later had water. The water was pumped even before evening.
She has stayed for about 3 months, she knows how this thing works.

theforemost:
its like you've enjoyed the lady's under and since she didn't promise you marriage, now she found another guy and you jealous.hiding under pretext you helped her

So you think everybody like you?

QorQ:
And if anything harmful happens to her, you believe police would listen abi?

The police can go Bleep themselves up. If the girl is underage, then the parents are to blame, and if she is of legal age, then she is a fucking adult! You missed were she passed the night outside without telling him? That is what adults do and must take responsibility.

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.



The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

What insolence!!!! you know I heard a very wise man say today that most physical reactions from men is a response to the physiological or emotional tortures women subject them to. Well done bro i like that you didn’t ask her to leave and pls do not do that. And over familiarity is a cancer take back your bed and place her in her place if she gets to uncomfortable she will pack. And try not to talk to her they hate that too. But don’t forget that by agreeing to take her in you will be held accountable for whatever happens to her. Yes she is a lady las las n 9ja ain’t too safe to continually leaving her outside but may she no just sleep for bed again.

daveyjay:
I thank everyone for their invaluable input. To those saying there's more to the story, you're wrong. I spelled it out the way it all happened. When the matter got to our parents, if there was anything hidden, she would have let it out.

She's not my slave in anywAy and I never expected her to fetch me water, WE DON'T FETCH WATER. We pump when the reservoir is empty. It just happened that the caretaker was unavailable to pump the water thAt very moment.

I equally stated that I hadn't had my bathe but later went to see a football game which is an indication that we later had water. The water was pumped even before evening.
She has stayed for about 3 months, she knows how this thing works.

Bro just send her packing to avoid story that touches the heart

But is it not wrong for a male to accommodate a lady in the same room?

What if you guys bond and start sexing each other?

Why can't her parent provide house for her or she stay in the girls hostel till she gets accommodation.

Sunflawa:
Please how can I create a thread on nairaland.. I need help on that

on the home page, click the section your would be topic fits; on the top right below the Billboard, you will see "create Topic." For instance, topic on hospital will go to health. Click the health section on the home page, and when you get there, check the up of the section to find *create Topic* goodluck

Lastly the matter has been resolved in the best possible way after the lock out.

She apologised, I did apologise too but I let her know the earlier we part ways, the better for us(me especially)

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

You be correct guy.

daveyjay:
I thank everyone for their invaluable input. To those saying there's more to the story, you're wrong. I spelled it out the way it all happened. When the matter got to our parents, if there was anything hidden, she would have let it out.

She's not my slave in anywAy and I never expected her to fetch me water, WE DON'T FETCH WATER. We pump when the reservoir is empty. It just happened that the caretaker was unavailable to pump the water thAt very moment.

I equally stated that I hadn't had my bathe but later went to see a football game which is an indication that we later had water. The water was pumped even before evening.
She has stayed for about 3 months, she knows how this thing works.

Don't mind these mfs putting blame on you. These simps just want to see all real niggas become pussies as them. Disgusting! It is a battle, we are at war with them bluepilled hoes.
You did well, bro. I have been there. I was a pussy nigga then and let the smallie ride me.

MrBONE2:
Bwana should update us as rain is about to fall this Night

No rain in Ibadan. I wish it would rain in Ibadan, it is hot right now and I need rain.

You shouldn't have allowed her to stay with you in the first place. You should have introduced her to a female friend or religious group where someone female students could take her in. If she had not admission she got no business around the campus yet.

Mexzy4sho:
Bro, I off cap for you. Best response to someone like that....

Na man him be.

But the question is"he chop the girl?"

Richochett:
At least I'm more intelligent than you.

Yeah, in your fantasy world.

InvertedHammer:
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She wants to be your girlfriend but you are not giving her the attention. I can translate ladies into English.

/

Hahahahahaha

Shellsploit:
Where's Lalasticlala sef
Never resist the urge to shalaye

Hmmmm

daveyjay:
Lastly the matter has been resolved in the best possible way after the lock out.

She apologised, I did apologise too but I let her know the earlier we part ways, the better for us(me especially)

Pls the earlier you guys part ways the better for you Op, from experience ladies with attitude problem hardly change. From your narration, I think she has attitude problem. Pls let her go before she lie against you that rape or molest her. Pls let her go

Boss13:
What I don't understand here is why her parents are comfortable with her staying with you, a man who is not related to her. Didn't they analyze the outcome(s) of the situation.

My thoughts too. Unrelated man and woman living together in a room...not cool.

lilyheaven:
Hmmm , I’m just wondering how parents will want their girl child to live with a male friend, since January, this is ending of April.
Can’t she stay with her new found girl friends, or are they expecting you to marry her?

Lol