Rocktation:


Well, what if she doesn't? She was going to cook. Have the decency to admit that that is no easy chore in itself. Cooking is a social construct and not hardwired to women's gene, so y'all better stop thinking it's a non issue. Unless clearly defined from the get-go, every help you render shouldn't involve a quid pro quo, anyways.

And you're disappointed in me? Awwww

Richochett:

You don't have any legal right to lock her out of her personal belongings (e.g clothes). If you're not comfortable with her attitude simply tell her to start looking for accommodation.

Moreover, from your narratives I can't see anywhere the girl has wronged you. You're are just acting bossy because its your house

Allow her to enter the house.

mmadu4:
she wants you to sleep with her so she can take full control . or become and liability and tie you down with pregnancy you better let her go . if you have money find small single room and porch rent for her so she can carry her wahaala go .

Kylekent59:
I can't believe that some people are supporting the way you locked her out. She is stranded and needs a place to sleep.

I wonder why you are acting supreme because you own the room. Please let her in.



Let me tell you, this life turns around. You never can tell if she would be the one to help you in the future.

99% of people supporting the op are religious be it Christians and Muslims.

Since you are the boss of the house, change her, let her know your rules.


I can not support the multitudes here. With the mindset of people here, I can say that this country is filled with bad people.

300+ supporting the op....

hmmm.

Baiser:
op, be careful she fit say you try sleep with her, she no gree, naa why you chase her..
davejay

Sunflawa:
Please how can I create a thread on nairaland.. I need help on that

Originalsly:


Bro... you have to allow her access to her stuff. She can make a Police matter and you know how that will go down. I suggest you send message let her know when you will be back....for an hour or two. It will be for her to show up for her stuff... or maybe ask you to take them upstairs. Actions speak louder than words.... she already knows she is not welcomed. What you don't do is allow her to come back..... chew on this...hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

pocohantas:


If you are staying with people, the least you can do is be useful.

Isn’t this the same reason some women prefer their family visiting, over their husband’s own? So why can’t the little girl fetch the damn water! She no dey fetch water for her papa house? She should fetch it without being told if she was properly raised. It is a daily routine like any other.

There are little things that wins the heart of your host. When next you are coming, they will look forward to having you.

Kylekent59:


There is nothing nonsensical there.

It is just like you own a land in Lagos, and you were kicked out of Lagos because you are not a native of Lagos.

Some of you don't even know how to respond maturely.

In the eyes of the court, if anything happens to the girl, that would be used against the Op.

I know the person that made that comment is a lawyer.

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

Kingcalls:
Thats the entitlement mentality women have...imagine say u decide to de hammer am , she will do worse... thats the difference between guys and girls...if na man u accommodate freely...he will sleep on the floor and still act like house boy to u...he will b going on errands free for u and will b fetching the water without u knowing that the is water problem...men are more appreciative than woman and never forget the help u gave them when they were in need ... women act like entitled spoilt kids

Richochett:

You don't have any legal right to lock her out of her personal belongings (e.g clothes). If you're not comfortable with her attitude simply tell her to start looking for accommodation.

Moreover, from your narratives I can't see anywhere the girl has wronged you. You're are just acting bossy because its your house

Allow her to enter the house.

ShawnT:
Yes your action was too harsh haba,she has seen you as a benefactor and probably placed you as a brother to her.You should have talked to her politely and make her realize her mistakes.It's God's favor your looking for in the first place, that's y u accommodated her.pls pick her calls and sit her down, make her realize her mistakes and help her soul for God's sake.God bless you

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

pocohantas:
OP I hope you are calm now?

Allow her enter and sleep for the night o. Tomorrow she can leave. Yea, she has to leave at this point because it would most likely not end well again.

daveyjay:
I thank everyone for their invaluable input. To those saying there's more to the story, you're wrong. I spelled it out the way it all happened. When the matter got to our parents, if there was anything hidden, she would have let it out.

She's not my slave in anywAy and I never expected her to fetch me water, WE DON'T FETCH WATER. We pump when the reservoir is empty. It just happened that the caretaker was unavailable to pump the water thAt very moment.

I equally stated that I hadn't had my bathe but later went to see a football game which is an indication that we later had water. The water was pumped even before evening.
She has stayed for about 3 months, she knows how this thing works.

daveyjay:
Lastly the matter has been resolved in the best possible way after the lock out.

She apologised, I did apologise too but I let her know the earlier we part ways, the better for us(me especially)

wumi2017:




Haaaaa,,ogami sir ...we are all bird brain biti bawo?

Hahahaha.......
U no say u no be female nah madamu u be nah.......

Bigdik70inch2:


Hahahaha.......
U no say u no be female nah madamu u be nah.......

wumi2017:




Hunmmm.. I no go talk again o

Good of u.........
Don't ever be like that foolish girl the op talked bout Ooo