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Three gbosa for u my real NIGGA.

Good step, but I doubt if she'll act normal still. Don't evict her. And don't give her a spare key tell her to adjust herself to your timing if she wants to continue staying with you. I.e. she'll only have access to the room when you're around. If she can't work with that, her friends place is still upstairs

mmadu4:
she wants you to sleep with her so she can take full control . or become and liability and tie you down with pregnancy you better let her go . if you have money find small single room and porch rent for her so she can carry her wahaala go .

Shey náà hin born am wey he go come rent house for am.? more so he is a student. abeg park well

You too must ignore her for 10days before you remember her....butu were d one who paid for the room and u have your final say...if she doesn't care report home ND if she still repeat the same thing send her out

Op don't forget to update us

Richochett:
At least I'm more intelligent than you.

Who dash you?

daveyjay:
Bossy by vacating my bed and sleeping on the floor since January??!
Bossy by tolerating her insolent behaviour for one full week??!

C'mon

Don't mind him, he is confused. i doff my hat for you. I can't stomach such walahi. She was expecting more from you that's why she was putting up all those crazy stuff I guess.

daveyjay:
"There's life after school..."
hmm

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Anybody don consider why both families or parents go agree make a single girl go live with a single guy? Hope say those parents never dey arrange something (marriage) for back or abi na the case of make one dey checkmate the other? My thinking self!
Op you really try to even accommodate her. Me the thought of accommodating someone wey no be my blood person for how long- go freak me out. Why be say I go end up doing everything for the person whether na guy or girl ending up stressing myself. I no mind make I carry all my money give the person make he or her go find somewhere rent doing something wey at the end of the like in the case of op go cause see finish. I beg foreign guy no fit shout!

What you did man, was perfecto, wagbayi gan
What a very very jekuredi girl she is

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

From the conversation above anyone with your assertion should have thier brain checked.

Richochett:
At least I'm more intelligent than you.

Like wetin Wizkid talk.. Never give a man more than what he deserves.. Because people Bite the finger that feeds them..

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

The right response in my view. You were patient enough with her.

Na you I blame, how babe go dey with you without you checking the colour of her pant or whether she dey wear beads or not. Girls don’t like to be ignored when it comes to matter of prick. Reconcile with her, fok the hell out of her and send the biiiiiiiitch packing. I ate nonsense!


mynd44 please unban my moniker before I go our village o

divineappo:
sorry to ask u this oo

But, was there anytime, that you mistakenly wanted to, or mistakenly demanded for her Pussy

Please, Even if u did, it doesn't make you a bad person.

Am just sincerely asking the question in my dirty mind. No offense Sir

Answer pls

don't be stupid, if he has such intentions, would he have vacated the bedspace for her?

daveyjay:
What I'm concerned about is how both families will receive the news...

Her parents will believe whatever lie she sells

Initiate contact with the parents.

daveyjay:
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

I was about throwing E-Slaps at you, before l read the last part of your post but after reading it, l am now throwing you SALUTES!
You be Man, na your type we dey call Man, though going on the floor for her was over-nice, you should have insisted she put a foam on the floor and sleep

Now, dont ignore her call, take it and tell her to TEXT you (l want you to have a record of it on your phone) when she will be coming to pick up her wares, left in your room.
One hour before then, pack all her things outside neatly (in Bin Bags), lock your door and wait for her.
When she arrives, tell her she has overstayed her welcome.
Then wait and let her pack her things, dont bandy words with her. If she wants to get abusive, record a few of her insults on your phone and then take your leave.
She is the kind of people that make others not to show sympathy to those in need, Women generally have this sense of entitlement and it is even worse when they dont show appreciation for it!
Good riddance to bad rubbish. Let her go and sleep where she slept on those days she stayed out

daveyjay, make sure you write a sequel.

I'd love to know how the whole story ended.

I don't understand the idea of not sharing the bed with her.

It's not like you have any plans of disturbing her at night.

You are a good man.

daveyjay:
My neighbor called that she's stranded that I should return

Tell your neighbour she is no longer your guest.
if they want to accommodate her, they are free

Havertz10:
Ibadan polytechnic logic


She is a guest, there are no prerequisites for what and what's not she is supposed to do, is she supposed to serve him as payment for the accommodation, last last we know say you be cast.

This one na Harvard logic abi?

No be only guest. A guest that will probably stay for a whole year.

It's funny how people believe the are wiser than others even when they are obviously far from ...

Mexzy4sho:
Normally you have to let her back in but locking her out for two or three days will teach her the other side of you.... The respect go increase after this.


But if the head (said girl) too strong, baba make she find another place permanently.

Please, which law are you quoting or who says he has to let her back in or where did you get that from?
I just want to know incase l missed it.
All he owes her is to allow her pack her load, which he has gracefully brought out for her.
Which one be "Normally" in this matter or is that just a slang?

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

But you are sleeping with her that is why she is not respecting you, if the girl talk her side of the story you Guys will be shock.

daveyjay:
My neighbor called that she's stranded that I should return

Please order one big Odeku for my head!!!
Ungrateful mosquito who thinks to accommodate someone in this harsh economy is easy.Pls silence her for the same number of days she did hers.

LANDLORD72:
But you are sleeping with her that is why she is not respecting you, if the girl talk her side of the story you Guys will be shock.

He never slept with her,or cant you just read?
Ppl who share fluids cant quarrel like this pls.The girl just showed her character.

You're a nice guy with a good heart....let her leave your house so she can have all the time she wants n where her host will do everything for her. So if it's in her father's house, she wouldn't know what to do when there's no water, nonsense!!
She's grown wings & she's beginning to see guys on campus & off campus.

[quote author=CHoccolaTE post=101179323][/quote]This was my thought, At the point the Op talked about the benefactor stuff, He could have sat her down & politely correct her, Tell her his expectations and why he was offended by her questions, apologize for snubbing her ( which he did) at this point he would have gained her Respect and submission.
Last-last, what is worth doing is worth doing well. It's your service to humanity,do it well else you will end up destroying the relationship the both families has built.

She deh expect you bleep her since....I need update pls

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

Brilliant action.

daveyjay:
I should unlock and evict her??!

I don't actually want to be the one who tells her to leave.

She should make that choice herself

I am beginning to feel SORRY for you!
You are dillydallying and that is a weakness that can cause you your life.
You are better-of not acting at all, than acting half way.
YOu took an action which shows "who is the boss and owner of the room".
Now she knows she is living there at your mercy and in that circumstances, depending on her mindset, some women will feel challenged, others will feel hurt and almost all will become vindictive!
If you accept her back, you are putting your life in danger, better not to have acted at all than act half-way.
Okay, what if she apologises (and continues to sleep on the bed ) and then decide to poison your food or water or you think and angry and vindictive person cannot do that?

Blinding One Eye is the cause of untold Battles, if you must blind someone, please blind both eyes or rather just dont blind them.
It is like going back to have sex with a lady you jilted before marriage and married another woman, you are playing with your life.

Richochett:
You don't have any legal right to lock her out of her personal belongings (e.g clothes). If you're not comfortable with her attitude simply tell her to start looking for accommodation.

Moreover, from your narratives I can't see anywhere the girl has wronged you. You're are just acting bossy because its your house

Allow her to enter the house.

Yeye pikin

SmartPolician:
daveyjay, make sure you write a sequel.

I'd love to know how the whole story ended.

I don't understand the idea of not sharing the bed with her.

It's not like you have any plans of disturbing her at night.

You are a good man.

FLEE away from Temptation, like Joseph of the Bible did.
God forbid, what if he was fast asleep and woke up to find the girl giving him "Head", what is he gonna do then?
Like the Elders say, "Whatever you will not eat, dont bring it close to your nose for smelling".