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Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 5:33pm On May 08, 2021 |
JONNYSPUTE:I know jor God will help all of them |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by pimper24: 5:42pm On May 08, 2021 |
Akv666:OK here you go. This is a candid advise for you are threading a familiar terrain (you know what i mean )and there is nothing absolutely wrong in your decision. First, Nairaland is the wrongest place to seek sundry advise as the level of ignorance there ranks quite high (pls google Quora and seek such advise there). Train that boy or girl as an act of charity and do not adopt legally cos it will not be granted if the father lives, however irresponsible he is. The child can answer your surname for the benefits that will acrue from you, better integration with your biological kids and to avert discriminations. Train that boy as an act of love you have for the mum and humanity in general. Finally, the position of the law is that if you train the child, hold him out as our own and do other things that show you acknowledge his paternity, he is your son under the law. So, no adoption is needed. If he reaches majority, he is at liberty to fend for the biological dad (they seldom do that, of course), but you are the father he knows my friend. BTW, how wise can we even be in our own eyes? this question goes to those demonizing single moms. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Nobody: 5:47pm On May 08, 2021 |
Shut up, and how did u come to conclusion that it was the father of the child abandoned his child. Or the mother fled with her lustful partner and prevent the man from seeing the child. No man throws his money to a woman that won’t allow the man close to the biological father. Let him fend for the boy when he grows he will strike a bow through his heart right from the back.... Richy4: |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Richy4(m): 5:52pm On May 08, 2021 |
drnoel: Yes I agree with you @ bold man. but when he is traveling outside the country, is he gonna travel alone without the mother? There are spaces for declaration in terms of visa purposes... when a form is filled, you will be asked how those accompanying you were related to you.. (A step father can be declared)... It is a not an automatic disqualification because you were not the biological parent... what it will only take will be 2- 3 weeks for the documentation and verification of IDs to be delayed just to make sure he was whom you said he was... But issues and complication of this kind of thing supersedes only traveling document and purposes.. eg << Who is the real first son of the family? <<< If the man is from Igbo land, there are certain traditional things they will like the biological son to do.. if that should happen, that boy will feel insulted... <<< what about the issue of a troubled son that does not what to see himself as the second son and demands to take his rightful position as the biological child.. this can be avoided now... <<< If he adopts the BOY now, and maybe.. Just maybe... issue of divorce comes up later in their life, do you think OP will find it easy? This whole thing is complicated... I wish OP can just be a father figure to the boy... do his best as a father and forget this legal thing.. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Richy4(m): 5:54pm On May 08, 2021 |
Fulaniherdmens:
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Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Loveknitting: 6:03pm On May 08, 2021 |
Ladyhippolyta88: Thanks for this. Most Nigerians, knows little or nothing about alot of important stuff, which is the cause for the horrible, judgmental and pathetic comments here. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by emmyN(m): 6:08pm On May 08, 2021 |
pocohantas: Wow wow wow, poco . Please help me with the number of the alfa that did your exorcism for you. I need it for my weyrey gehfren 1 Like |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by drnoel: 6:18pm On May 08, 2021 |
Richy4: Yes but pls note. A step father is different from a man married to the mother. Step father by name is not legally adopted. The legally adopted carries more weight in court. Ofcos no one wishes for divorce or such unpleasantness in a union. The other thing is that we should learn to allow people reach their own opinions about something without attempting to project our own impressions on them |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by pocohantas(f): 6:18pm On May 08, 2021 |
emmyN: What you need for your werey girlfriend is OBJECTIVITY. The ability to respect her opinion whether or not it agrees with yours. Thank you. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by drnoel: 6:19pm On May 08, 2021 |
wisewordd: Lol, he can adopt the boy without the mother claiming that. She only needs to prove that the father has abondoned his responsibilities. Nothing more. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Nobody: 6:20pm On May 08, 2021 |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Richthekid: 6:23pm On May 08, 2021 |
No |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by wisewordd: 6:36pm On May 08, 2021 |
Rubbiish:I don't blame all these single mothers that are pained on here but the MAN that's even thinking about doing it. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by emmyN(m): 6:37pm On May 08, 2021 |
pocohantas: Surely it can't be that easy. She has a demon. No, y'all have a demon . Don't mind me though, I'm just trying to get used to seeing more of your "objective" posts. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Richy4(m): 6:38pm On May 08, 2021 |
drnoel: You are right that a step father by name is not legally adopted... but it is not also an automatic disqualification when filling for a traveling document... @ bold, what every one is doing including u and I is assumed to be brainstorming....Sometime people bring in worst case scenario.. No one is projecting anything....If OP has it all put together he will not have created the thread right?... He wanted Opinion in a public space... so he will get the good, the bad and the ugly. at the end of the day, it's always him and him alone that will make the final decision... There are some view and some minor details that he won't think of.. but if someone could mention it, it might be helpful to him... That's the importance of brainstorming.. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Richy4(m): 6:42pm On May 08, 2021 |
Fulaniherdmens: I can't waste my time on an individual with comprehension issues... have a good day |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by pocohantas(f): 6:43pm On May 08, 2021 |
emmyN: Any posts from a female that makes men feel better is OBJECTIVE and LOGICAL. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Exodora: 6:47pm On May 08, 2021 |
Sammy07:This is bullshi# you really think that is all it takes to be a father . DNA yes but legally he will loose . Ones he adopts that child he automatically becomes his child . |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Nobody: 6:48pm On May 08, 2021 |
But you wasted ur sense to reply my post. Fool of a took. Maybe you are among the sugar mummy peddlers. Keep chasing people wife one day your cup will full. Richy4: |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by emmyN(m): 6:52pm On May 08, 2021 |
pocohantas: You got it. We are the power house of objectivity and logical deductions, so if we like it, heck it's logical ! |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Exodora: 6:52pm On May 08, 2021 |
Bornsinner7:The idiot has decided not to do anything so why do you think the woman wants him to adopt the child so that the child's father will have nothing to do with the child in future . Sometime I wonder the type of advice people render here . Someone that has decided not to take up his responsibility now you want another person to take it up for him only for him to back later to see it furnished . |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Exodora: 7:03pm On May 08, 2021 |
pimper24:Who said it won't not be granted . There is one that happened in my community , the idiot denied be responsible for the girl's pregnancy so some couples who have been childless too care of the girl and adopted the child. Having seen how cute and healthy the boy is cause the woman that adopts him is a nurse , the fool came back only to claim the child but then it was already late cause he got the couples arrested but they won in all the places he too them to. The child is 8 years now all eyes is on him now. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Exodora: 7:06pm On May 08, 2021 |
Fulaniherdmens:So how did you know all this or you want to tell us that you are the guy in question . |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by elbulk(m): 7:07pm On May 08, 2021 |
Akv666: Speak to her and ask that you give it some time. If later on you are convinced then do it but please treat the child with love and care |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Babinski: 7:10pm On May 08, 2021 |
SportsHD: Once the child is legally adopted, no other father can come to claim him. The child will start bearing his surname and before the eyes of the law, the child is his own. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Nobody: 7:12pm On May 08, 2021 |
Small pikin go read novel or play video game it will ease ur adolescent prime. Exodora: |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Exodora: 7:18pm On May 08, 2021 |
Fulaniherdmens:From your moniker am not surprise though . Is only minors that are quick to use the word small pikin like you did . |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by udomonday: 8:11pm On May 08, 2021 |
Akv666:as for me I will not adopt him as long as the father is alive. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Martins004(m): 8:22pm On May 08, 2021 |
Bro.... Please leave problem for who get am. U can marry d single mum bt adopting d boy is a No answer..... Leave problem for who get am. Thks...... |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by ivolt: 8:29pm On May 08, 2021 |
pocohantas:I see. But the sperm donor is actually immaterial and does not exist to the child up till now. What advantage does the name of the sperm donor confer on that child? If the real parents are going to go through the legal process only to be fighting for the rights of the absent sperm donor which he doesn't care about in the first place, then there have to be some special privilege attached to carrying his name. I suppose the argument in court will go like this. "My lord. We really love this child and have taken care of him since birth. But out of respect for the sperm donor we want you to make us his caretaker and not the full parent." They are better off maintaining the status quo and waiting for the day the sperm donor would show up to demand for his child. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Sonfethopia: 8:36pm On May 08, 2021 |
alexola20: Father Abraham, u got wisdom bro. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Sonfethopia: 8:37pm On May 08, 2021 |
Babinski: The law will tell the man he did not take permission from the read dad. The dads permission is very much needed. |
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