Richy4:
If you were in love with the mom... and the step son is gonna be living with you, who will he see as a father figure?...If you treat him the way you will be treating your own son, is there really a need for that?.....in my opinion that's enough....

OP, the question I have to ask you is this, If you have a baby mama somewhere and you heard that a man who intend to marry your baby mama was planning adopting your child, would you be happy? even if you were not present in the child's life... If your answer is no,

Then tell her that you cannot do that to a fellow man like you irrespective of their differences which was in the past...That if someone should do that to you, that you will not like it...Just assure her that whatever a father will do for a son to be successful, that you will do that for the boy.. that your word is your bond....I understand she wants to secure the future of the boy but it doesn't work that way.. You don't need going into any legal procedures...

wisewordd:
It's just annoying how these ladies paint men bad. You'll never see a girl that cheated on her ex, it's always the guys. That lady is a lier.

drnoel:


If he has been with the woman for 4 years and doesn't know by now the kind of person she is, why would U be the one to tell him? Learn to mind your business.

Richy4:
If you were in love with the mom... and the step son is gonna be living with you, who will he see as a father figure?...If you treat him the way you will be treating your own son, is there really a need for that?.....in my opinion that's enough....

OP, the question I have to ask you is this, If you have a baby mama somewhere and you heard that a man who intend to marry your baby mama was planning adopting your child, would you be happy? even if you were not present in the child's life... If your answer is no,

Then tell her that you cannot do that to a fellow man like you irrespective of their differences which was in the past...That if someone should do that to you, that you will not like it...Just assure her that whatever a father will do for a son to be successful, that you will do that for the boy.. that your word is your bond....I understand she wants to secure the future of the boy but it doesn't work that way.. You don't need going into any legal procedures...

drnoel:


Ofcos women lie but so do men. Forget sentiments. The question was should he adopt the boy or not. I say if he is into her, he should adopt the boy ofcos after he has settled terms with the lady.

Ladyhippolyta88:

Do you actually think the boy is bearing the name of the irresponsible father when he didn't even marry the said lady in the first place.Nobody actually erased the father from the child's life the father did that by himself.I don't know why we give some people pass even when they are irresponsible the man is very aware he has a child somewhere but has abandoned the child for God knows who and will later come one day to come and reap the proceeds when the child is grown.God knows that if I were the child I will regard such a man as a mere sperm donor and not my father and will even reject his name this is not new as far as I am concerned.

It is a big decision nothing stops the OP from doing this but even if he doesn't he should try to be a father figure to the boy the child will grow up to appreciate and love him more than the sperm donor.

Akv666:
Good day guys,

So I've been dating a single Mom for almost 4years now and we're ready to tie the knot, but recently she came up with a suggestion of me adopting her son legally. Her baby daddy has actually been irresponsible right from start, nigga last saw his son when he was 4months old and he hasn't even bought ordinary diaper for the boy right from when he was delivered.

Now I'm being skeptical about taking him up legally, please i need advice from you guys, no insult please.

wisewordd:
I guess you're the lady . Stop defending her. That thought of her is evil and shouldn't be accepted. OP you better run away from all of it or do your findings. A lady can live with a man for 20 years without him knowing anything about her.

wisewordd:
He'll need the dad's permission as long as he's alive. Again, she's evil. She'll do same to OP.

drnoel:


If he has been with the woman for 4 years and doesn't know by now the kind of person she is, why would U be the one to tell him? Learn to mind your business.

melodyogonna:

Am a fool. Sperm don't make a father

wisewordd:
He'll need the dad's permission as long as he's alive. Again, she's evil. She'll do same to OP.

Akv666:
Good day guys,

So I've been dating a single Mom for almost 4years now and we're ready to tie the knot, but recently she came up with a suggestion of me adopting her son legally. Her baby daddy has actually been irresponsible right from start, nigga last saw his son when he was 4months old and he hasn't even bought ordinary diaper for the boy right from when he was delivered.

Now I'm being skeptical about taking him up legally, please i need advice from you guys, no insult please.

JONNYSPUTE:
....So you are also minding your business by telling him to adopt him without due consultation?
The op is hiding something. He doesn't want to tell us that he is In luv with a woman who doesn't even know the real father of her child.
What does it say about her?

Romanoff:


No guy here will support you.

If you love the child enough to adopt him legally, seek legal counsel.

Only a lawyer can help you.

Adopting the child legally makes you his father and even puts you above his birth father and in a custody battle with the mother, if she's found unfit, you still get to keep the child.

But it's a decision you have to think hard and that's why I'm suggesting you get legal counsel.

drnoel:


Lol, sorry am not feminine. Am a guy but definitely more matured than you. You are a child, go look at my posts.

Sirmuel1:



Her family. Her Mom

Moneyboyz:
My question is what if you break up with the child's mother in future?

Note that You will still be the child's father even if she hasn't given you a child yet.

drnoel:


Still sentiments. Like I said, mind you business

Romanoff:

You sound so mature, most of the guys have not even finish dating their babes na to advice someone who wants to marry a single mom.
No guy here will support you.

If you love the child enough to adopt him legally, seek legal counsel.

Only a lawyer can help you.

Adopting the child legally makes you his father and even puts you above his birth father and in a custody battle with the mother, if she's found unfit, you still get to keep the child.

But it's a decision you have to think hard and that's why I'm suggesting you get legal counsel.

drnoel:


Once he adopts the boy, he doesn't need the man's permission.

Akv666:
Good day guys,

so I've been dating a single Mom for almost 4years now and we're ready to tie the knot, but recently she came up with a suggestion of me adopting her son legally. Her baby daddy has actually been irresponsible right from start, nigga last saw his son when he was 4months old and he hasn't even bought ordinary diaper for the boy right from when he was delivered. now I'm being skeptical about taking him up legally, please i need advice from you guys, no insult please

Nonexistent1:
So with all you have been reading here, you still want to marry a single mother and adopt her child? Your simpism will soon pay off by the time it ends in premium tears.

Bornsinner7:
I'm a little bit confused if na man abi woman you be.. the he,she,her, him got me confused

Why does she want it that way?? There must be a reason.. she tryin to make you own the kid so that her baby papa would have nothing to do with the kid anymore..

Nothing wrong in adopting the kid but shine your eyes well.. it took Melinda gates 27years plotting her graph..

Akv666:
Good day guys,

So I've been dating a single Mom for almost 4years now and we're ready to tie the knot, but recently she came up with a suggestion of me adopting her son legally. Her baby daddy has actually been irresponsible right from start, nigga last saw his son when he was 4months old and he hasn't even bought ordinary diaper for the boy right from when he was delivered.

Now I'm being skeptical about taking him up legally, please i need advice from you guys, no insult please.

Romanoff:


No guy here will support you.

If you love the child enough to adopt him legally, seek legal counsel.

Only a lawyer can help you.

Adopting the child legally makes you his father and even puts you above his birth father and in a custody battle with the mother, if she's found unfit, you still get to keep the child.

But it's a decision you have to think hard and that's why I'm suggesting you get legal counsel.

pocohantas:


Th irresponsible man remains her child's father. She can get (sole) custody, but erasing the man’s name is WICKEDNESS.

My concern is the child. That child isn’t a property that she will keep transferring to any new man she is with. Before OP came along, the child had a name and it was fine.

They already have sole custody of the child, thanks to the irresponsible sperm donor- It should end there.

shadeyinka:

Immediately after your wedding, call your lawyer and discuss adopting the boy and the future occurrence if the baby-daddy comes back!

jawalis:
What manner of fuckery is this. Are you with your senses at all? What happens to all single ladies out there? Don’t you know you are been manipulated. Why must you adopt her child. You didn’t ask the child leave neither did you complain. And so what’s it with the sudden adoption? Use your head bro.
Damn. This nigga here is about to make one of the biggest mistake of his life. I wonder what you folks think after reading posts on social media about people who regret their action and those who wept bitterly and you are still eager to engage yourself in such act that put some in tears. Anyways it is your cup and you shall bear it alone. Your intuition should tell you she’s only trying to push the responsibilities of that child to you. Knowing fully well that she’ll later or sooner give you your own kids and you might not have time for her son and so she’s pushing it to you directly now as a smart lady and you are there seeking advice. Listen good; any idea that comes to you and you have a doubt over it to the extent of seeking a public advice isn’t good enough for you. You either take it or leave it. Nowadays; our women/ ladies knew men are waking up from and their manipulative schemes are been rendered useless as days passes. She knows well that you might not want to cater for that child once you have your own children and that breeds need to push him on you before it’s late. And by the time you have your own children; you won’t have no option than to take him as your responsibility. Wake up bro and say no to it. Tell her you’ll take care of the boy to your capacity. You are been led by your heart right now and it’s better you awaken your brain and let your brain do the thinking. Love will definitely fade. The love that covers your brain now will become faded after few years.