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daylay7:
Hi everyone,

I met this lady long time ago before I got married to my wife and we were in love back then. She refused me when I actually proposed to her and I moved on afterward but each time we were together, our love was quite evident in the air which became noticeable to people around us.

Eventually, I got married and we distant ourselves for the sake of both of us and then, we reduced our phone talks but we were still friends.

And now, each time we were opportune to talk on phone, the feelings keep coming back. It is irresistible! The day we eventually met, we almost make out but we got ourselves under control miraculously and we distant again for a while. The truth is I can't stop talking to her at least we don't even do that often as before.
What is wrong with me? i need help! What do I do?

Cut her off now!!! There's a reason she's your ex! Keeping any kind of contact with an ex. is not appropriate, unless you want to ruin your marriage!

If you don't love your wife anymore and want to go back to your ex. then end the marriage first before jumping back to your ex! At least, give your wife that respect!

daylay7:
Hi everyone,

I met this lady long time ago before I got married to my wife and we were in love back then. She refused me when I actually proposed to her and I moved on afterward but each time we were together, our love was quite evident in the air which became noticeable to people around us.

Eventually, I got married and we distant ourselves for the sake of both of us and then, we reduced our phone talks but we were still friends.

And now, each time we were opportune to talk on phone, the feelings keep coming back. It is irresistible! The day we eventually met, we almost make out but we got ourselves under control miraculously and we distant again for a while. The truth is I can't stop talking to her at least we don't even do that often as before.
What is wrong with me? i need help! What do I do?

Your kind of person is supposed to be whipped 59 times ever day minus one to give you chance to think straight. What do you want to be adviced for? Are you brain dead?Go and take care of your wife. Next you will come back to tell us your ex broke your marriage. Are you insane ? Wake up and smell the coffee.

daylay7:
U too sabiii! na thief dey fit recognise thief

Wetin dey funny me bi say, based on guy man wey you bi, wey don come marry you still dey form Minister of Defence on top diz EX matter. E be like your Ex sabi press your mumu button anyhow. Anyway, we all know say lass lass, if our nigga no kpansh the lady, e go be say Chelsea carry FA cup diz season bi that. Buh as e bi so no bi matter of how, na just when e go happen bi di main thing..

No bi Nairaland again....

you need to accept the reality that you're married, and there is no way out even if the disturbing affection persist. Infidelity shouldn't be an option.
The bitter truth is that you aren't in love with her because if you were, you should have married her instead. You are only been obsessed with her....

Start by cutting all ties with her, make her know your decision to quit the false affection.
Be strict on her and on yourself,
There should be distance,
No communications and terminate anything that could trigger any memory of her.
Also, friendship shouldn't be an alternative.
Let her go... I know it won't be easy but if you're dogged and serious about saving your home the courage would definitely come.

Finally and most importantly, focus more on your wife; There was a reason why you decided to walk her down the aisles. Revive that affection again and it would override the lustful one for your Ex.
It all on you, do the rightful and save your home.

daylay7:
Brock lesner punch? guy! u wicked!

You don see am. That's the best I can offer.

daylay7:
Thanks @jaxxy
You are among the few with senses.

Ure welcome bro. It just seems all too ridiculous to me. Why disturbing u now and not then? And now u have to make a huge sacrifice of disrupting ur home for her conveniences or rather stupidity? I have no time for time wasters. That ship has sailed and is forgotten because she had no valid reasons then. Her parents didn’t block ur relationship and any serious reasons so what kind of stupidity is that. Let her go and do her power play for attention and relevance with sm1else.

U should also wonder why she’s not married even now? That Smtn very unusual, does she have a problem because Smtn is definitely not right. Thank God for the family he’s given u and move on from useless people.

She can’t bring business or valuable discussions or contacts ur way it’s stupid sex she still has to offer. What is spectacular about that?

daylay7:
Hi everyone,

I met this lady long time ago before I got married to my wife and we were in love back then. She refused me when I actually proposed to her and I moved on afterward but each time we were together, our love was quite evident in the air which became noticeable to people around us.

Eventually, I got married and we distant ourselves for the sake of both of us and then, we reduced our phone talks but we were still friends.

And now, each time we were opportune to talk on phone, the feelings keep coming back. It is irresistible! The day we eventually met, we almost make out but we got ourselves under control miraculously and we distant again for a while. The truth is I can't stop talking to her at least we don't even do that often as before.
What is wrong with me? i need help! What do I do?

SHE IS DEVIL , RESIST HER AND SHE WILL FLEE. ARE YOU SURE YOU LOVE YOUR WIFE?

impeccable001:
I think he tried to say it's fiction after Ginaz angry reaction. The curses she rain on him was too much to bear.

Lol except that She was so hot!

daylay7:
i be Uduak?

The x system is just something we can't control.
We see our X n fall in love again
Its just inevitable.
I experience it, too.
With my married X.
Nothing is actually holding us from having sex. Nothing. Marriage is just an advanced relationship with a ring n kids to show for it.
But, what's d way out?
We can't dodge them for life

daylay7:

You claimed that both of you dated and loved each other. You later proposed her and she rejected your marriage proposals. If what you speak is true, then I must tell you that she understood that marriage is more than affection.

She has moved on with her life, why then are you bothering yourself?

Despite you having a wife, why then are you not satisfied with your wife?

I love truth and I will tell you the truth men like you is making marriage of today a waste of time.

Marriage of today is pure joke

Stop talking to her,stop seeing her and totally disconnect. You can't be friends especially if one of you is still single. I also have someone like that. Such feeling don't die easily

dalass:


But to be serious. Grass always look greener on the other side. Water and tend your own garden, it will bloom and flourish than what's currently not yours..

All the best

No be for nairaland o. Even if u water and tend your own garden, some people will still ask you if na only you waka come.
Na so life be. Thanks for the advice

DedeNkem:
Cut her off now!!! There's a reason she's your ex! Keeping any kind of contact with an ex. is not appropriate, unless you want to ruin your marriage!

If you don't love your wife anymore and want to go back to your ex. then end the marriage first before jumping back to your ex! At least, give your wife that respect!

Hmmmmm. Point taken!

A whole 59 times? When you are not boko haram. .
I get your point anyway. Thanks

kinethic:
Your kind of person is supposed to be whipped 59 times ever day minus one to give you chance to think straight. What do you want to be adviced for? Are you brain dead?Go and take care of your wife. Next you will come back to tell us your ex broke your marriage. Are you insane ? Wake up and smell the coffee.

daylay7:
No be for nairaland o. Even if u water and tend your own garden, some people will still ask you if na only you waka come.
Na so life be. Thanks for the advice

You're welcome!

NamelessOGBENI:
Wetin dey funny me bi say, based on guy man wey you bi, wey don come marry you still dey form Minister of Defence on top diz EX matter. E be like your Ex sabi press your mumu button anyhow. Anyway, we all know say lass lass, if our nigga no kpansh the lady, e go be say Chelsea carry FA cup diz season bi that. Buh as e bi so no bi matter of how, na just when e go happen bi di main thing..

No bi Nairaland again....

You be sure guy I beg. I dey follow you straight

Wow. You are among the few sensible ones here who were very objectives and doesn't talk based on their emotions and stupid Nigerian ideology. Thanks for these straight forward and detailed advice.

Dehkumzy29:
you need to accept the reality that you're married, and there is no way out even if the disturbing affection persist. Infidelity shouldn't be an option.
The bitter truth is that you aren't in love with her because if you were, you should have married her instead. You are only been obsessed with her....

Start by cutting all ties with her, make her know your decision to quit the false affection.
Be strict on her and on yourself,
There should be distance,
No communications and terminate anything that could trigger any memory of her.
Also, friendship shouldn't be an alternative.
Let her go... I know it won't be easy but if you're dogged and serious about saving your home the courage would definitely come.

Finally and most importantly, focus more on your wife; There was a reason why you decided to walk her down the aisles. Revive that affection again and it would override the lustful one for your Ex.
It all on you, do the rightful and save your home.

daylay7:
You be sure guy I beg. I dey follow you straight

I dey return the favor sharpally...

I don dey follow u o

dalass:


You're welcome!

Theboss100:
You don see am. That's the best I can offer.

Haba! U no even like me at all

hmmmmm
You are right

jaxxy:
Ure welcome bro. It just seems all too ridiculous to me. Why disturbing u now and not then? And now u have to make a huge sacrifice of disrupting ur home for her conveniences or rather stupidity? I have no time for time wasters. That ship has sailed and is forgotten because she had no valid reasons then. Her parents didn’t block ur relationship and any serious reasons so what kind of stupidity is that. Let her go and do her power play for attention and relevance with sm1else.

U should also wonder why she’s not married even now? That Smtn very unusual, does she have a problem because Smtn is definitely not right. Thank God for the family he’s given u and move on from useless people.

She can’t bring business or valuable discussions or contacts ur way it’s stupid sex she still has to offer. What is spectacular about that?

What about me that I couldnot let go? Am I not worse? Of course, I do love my wife.

FRANKOSKI:
SHE IS DEVIL , RESIST HER AND SHE WILL FLEE. ARE YOU SURE YOU LOVE YOUR WIFE?

mrdharkchild:
The x system is just something we can't control.
We see our X n fall in love again
Its just inevitable.
I experience it, too.
With my married X.
Nothing is actually holding us from having sex. Nothing. Marriage is just an advanced relationship with a ring n kids to show for it.
But, what's d way out?
We can't dodge them for life

hmmmmm.

Lostchild:
You claimed that both of you dated and loved each other. You later proposed her and she rejected your marriage proposals. If what you speak is true, then I must tell you that she understood that marriage is more than affection.

She has moved on with her life, why then are you bothering yourself?

Despite you having a wife, why then are you not satisfied with your wife?

I love truth and I will tell you the truth men like you is making marriage of today a waste of time.

Marriage of today is pure joke

You might be right. Marriage is over rated.

Amhappy:
Stop talking to her,stop seeing her and totally disconnect. You can't be friends especially if one of you is still single. I also have someone like that. Such feeling don't die easily

Thanks for the sincerity.

NamelessOGBENI:
I dey return the favor sharpally...

elmagnifico411:
Wait. People wey go help u dey come. As for me, I don't think I can. You no go fit take my advice.

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Indeed, NL is a country

daylay7:
i did that once but I unblock her again

No be u again

daylay7:
I have tried many times but I can't help it.

Oya divorce your wife na

I think that's what you want to hear

skedy1:
No be u again

skedy1:
Oya divorce your wife na

I think that's what you want to hear

ok

Jeromejnr:
He said its fiction.

But its true, some men are just

Are just very I rest my case